what's the difference between compliment & being weird

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  • Allie_71
    Allie_71 Posts: 1,063 Member
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    "Great job! You look fantastic!" is good.

    "I want to unbutton your shirt with my teeth!" is too much.

    If you'd feel comfortable saying it in front of your wife, or having someone else say it to your wife, daughter, mother... it's fine.

    heh. Like this :smile:
  • Arexxx
    Arexxx Posts: 486 Member
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    Saying anything positive is alright. As long as its not overly sexual.

    "You're beautiful, great work!" Is fine

    "You're beautiful! Send me a personal pic? ;)" NOT OKAY.
    ^ Actually happened to me via inbox.
  • nothing1994
    nothing1994 Posts: 1,936 Member
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    Saying anything positive is alright. As long as its not overly sexual.

    "You're beautiful, great work!" Is fine

    "You're beautiful! Send me a personal pic? ;)" NOT OKAY.
    ^ Actually happened to me via inbox.


    Ive had wayyy worse :sick:
  • ShrinkingShawna
    ShrinkingShawna Posts: 186 Member
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    I'd say if you wouldn't say it to your daughter, don't say it to a stranger. Especially if they are young enough to be your daughter. Saying "I need to go take a cold shower now" after a compliment (which you did previously) is a No No.
  • hdsqrl
    hdsqrl Posts: 420 Member
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    Whatever you decide to say, say it on her wall, not in her inbox. Keeping it out where others can chime in and agree that she's looking great keeps everything above-board and is less likely to creep her out. :smile:
  • XXXMinnieXXX
    XXXMinnieXXX Posts: 3,459 Member
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    Saying anything positive is alright. As long as its not overly sexual.

    "You're beautiful, great work!" Is fine

    "You're beautiful! Send me a personal pic? ;)" NOT OKAY.
    ^ Actually happened to me via inbox.


    Ive had wayyy worse :sick:

    Me too lol. Your obviously a nice guy and I'm sure it won't be taken the wrong way... if it is then it's them with the problem. Who doesn't like their hard work recognized? :-)
  • Bobby_Clerici
    Bobby_Clerici Posts: 1,828 Member
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    Here is the difference.
    When you offer the compliment. are you sporting a chubby?
    If yes, then you might want to check yourself.

    That's it :drinker:
  • gemmalouise85
    gemmalouise85 Posts: 157 Member
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    I treat everyone on here the same - I have a couple real life friends on here too and with them I can say things different but all others men or women I compliment the same - I have on my profile im engaged and have kids and to be honest when a guy gives me a compliment on here makes my confidence build up and think wow someone else thinks im doing great look great other than my fiance (who I think would love me in a paper bag so sometimes his complients dont phaze me) LOL poor guy.

    with my real friends on here - I say oh wow your bum/boobs are shrinking and point out percifics - my friends have things they dont like so when i notic a difference i compliment it,
    however for people I dont know and dont know what they take affence to - I just simply say 'your doing fantastic'
  • GnochhiGnomes
    GnochhiGnomes Posts: 348 Member
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  • GnochhiGnomes
    GnochhiGnomes Posts: 348 Member
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    I'd say if you wouldn't say it to your daughter, don't say it to a stranger. Especially if they are young enough to be your daughter. Saying "I need to go take a cold shower now" after a compliment (which you did previously) is a No No.

    Am I just the only one who would just laugh that off?
  • gemmalouise85
    gemmalouise85 Posts: 157 Member
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    I'd say if you wouldn't say it to your daughter, don't say it to a stranger. Especially if they are young enough to be your daughter. Saying "I need to go take a cold shower now" after a compliment (which you did previously) is a No No.

    Am I just the only one who would just laugh that off?

    I really do think depends on sence of humour and the way you understand eachothrt.
    to me any compliment is flattery
    If someone said I need to take cold shower
    Id think to myself 'YEA BABY i still got it LOL
    but simply reply LOL thanks and act cool hahaha
  • bonsaiblossom
    bonsaiblossom Posts: 133 Member
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    I ignore/de-friend
  • ShrinkingShawna
    ShrinkingShawna Posts: 186 Member
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    I'd say if you wouldn't say it to your daughter, don't say it to a stranger. Especially if they are young enough to be your daughter. Saying "I need to go take a cold shower now" after a compliment (which you did previously) is a No No.

    Am I just the only one who would just laugh that off?

    No, you're not the only one that would laugh that off. Plenty would even take it as a compliment, but there are plenty that wouldn't. He asked how to make a compliment and not be creepy, and that comment is creepy to me. I'm sure I'm not the only one that would feel that way.
  • AbzRocks
    AbzRocks Posts: 45
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    I'd say if you wouldn't say it to your daughter, don't say it to a stranger. Especially if they are young enough to be your daughter. Saying "I need to go take a cold shower now" after a compliment (which you did previously) is a No No.

    Am I just the only one who would just laugh that off?

    I really do think depends on sence of humour and the way you understand eachothrt.
    to me any compliment is flattery
    If someone said I need to take cold shower
    Id think to myself 'YEA BABY i still got it LOL
    but simply reply LOL thanks and act cool hahaha
    Lmao Soooooo funny!
  • AbzRocks
    AbzRocks Posts: 45
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    I'd say if you wouldn't say it to your daughter, don't say it to a stranger. Especially if they are young enough to be your daughter. Saying "I need to go take a cold shower now" after a compliment (which you did previously) is a No No.

    Am I just the only one who would just laugh that off?

    No, you're not the only one that would laugh that off. Plenty would even take it as a compliment, but there are plenty that wouldn't. He asked how to make a compliment and not be creepy, and that comment is creepy to me. I'm sure I'm not the only one that would feel that way.

    I don't understand how anyone could take that as a serious remark????
  • 33neenaj
    33neenaj Posts: 306
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    Here is the difference.
    When you offer the compliment. are you sporting a chubby?
    If yes, then you might want to check yourself.

    That's it :drinker:

    Lmao
  • Bobby_Clerici
    Bobby_Clerici Posts: 1,828 Member
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    Here is the difference.
    When you offer the compliment. are you sporting a chubby?
    If yes, then you might want to check yourself.

    That's it :drinker:

    Lmao
    Saying "Nice legs" is a compliment. Licking someone's hand and saying "Taste like summer" is weird.
  • legs_n_bacon
    legs_n_bacon Posts: 478 Member
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    The difference between compliment and creepy is how good looking the person is.
  • thebaconbeast
    thebaconbeast Posts: 560 Member
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    Bad looking person: " dang you're hot" that is creepy.

    Good looking person: " dang you're hot" that is a compliment.

    That should clear that up.
  • legs_n_bacon
    legs_n_bacon Posts: 478 Member
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    Bad looking person: " dang you're hot" that is creepy.

    Good looking person: " dang you're hot" that is a compliment.

    That should clear that up.

    You copied my answer! Brat.

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