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  • mccbabe1
    mccbabe1 Posts: 737 Member
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    It's good to have a calorie goal for the day, but when you take that and break it down into 5-6 meals a day with each meal having a calorie goal you'll feel like you're eating all day and it's easier than just making a daily goal

    YEP ^^^ that.. i eat every 3-4hrs... or im lighheaded and way too hungry.... eat less all day
  • kareb13
    kareb13 Posts: 3 Member
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    I think that is a great plan, realistic too! Good Luck! I'm rooting for you =)
  • VogtAndrea
    VogtAndrea Posts: 236
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    If losing weight, getting healthy, and having a much fuller and better life are your goals, you CAN DO IT.
    The 4 lbs that show on MFP on my profile aren't the full story for me. The 40 lbs I lost even before I got here are a bigger chunk of the story.A year ago I couldn't walk a block without being winded. My heart would race, I'd want to throw up. I knew that I had to do something and needed a CT colonoscopy. The surgeon got me started with a bariatric specialist.
    From that time it was specialists, a dietician, reading material set out for me, alot of talking with people who were professionals and who would help. My own doctor was a skeptic till I showed him a significant weight loss and now he's a part of my cheering team.
    The family that I have here where I live are supportive. But that's not what motivates me. My motivation comes from within me this time around. There are reasons that I want to lose weight and be healthy that include my family but for me, it's time.
    I am going to keep trying because I want to be healthy.
  • Mmmporkrinds
    Mmmporkrinds Posts: 192
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    Never too late to start again! All the best
  • bartcal
    bartcal Posts: 40 Member
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    Remember, it's a lifestyle change. As mentioned before, make the changes incrementally. Rather than focus on the cut calories initially, work on the change of foods - just the change from processed to non-processed foods will help you out. Once you're used to grabbing for the "whole" foods, work on getting the calorie count down to where you want it to be. On the exercise front, don't kill yourself right off the bat - that will just lead to injuries and make it harder to improve. Start off small and add a few minutes each week until you've hit the type and amount of exercise you were aiming for. Your creating the habits and that takes a while to get there. We've all fallen, some more than others and we're right here with you working toward a healthy life.

    Good luck, and hang in there.
  • Gulgamesh
    Gulgamesh Posts: 4
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    The great thing about this site is that you start to train yourself how to eat better. This is not a fad diet that once you lose weight you go back to bad old habits, using MFP helps you develop good eating habits. I have been at it about 3 months, lost 27 of about 80 pounds that I want to lose (I may go for a few more to see if I can squeeze into my old racing leathers), I feel good, I eat well, I don't feel hungry, starved or that I am missing out on something good. There is plenty of tasty food that is not high calorie, or you eat that really good thing, but less of it and fill in the gap with something else. I plan ahead and when the family goes out to dinner, I can *kitten* what I do or do not want to eat and still enjoy myself. Once you get into the swing of things, it actually is not that hard to do and still live a "normal" life.

    My wife was worried I could not stop drinking beer. I have never drunk a lot, 1 or 2 at a time once or twice a week tops, but I savor and enjoy really good beers (e.g. heavy and high calorie content micro brews). I still do ... not as often which makes me enjoy them that much more when I do pull one out. I use them as rewards and I plan my meals and exercise so that I can have a beer and not feel guilty.

    Things that have really worked for me is to eat smaller portions slowly. You will get full, and stop. I am at the point now that I can't eat as much as I used to if I even wanted too. Just too full much sooner.

    And the smartphone app gets my family making fun of me as I tally up what is on a menu when we go out ... but none of them can deny that what I am doing is working. I just pay them back by taking one bite of their dessert since I don't get them anymore.

    You can do it, you will start to feel a ton better in a couple of months and that will motivate you even more. Realize that you will hit loss plateaus where you do not lose or even gain a little no matter what you do ... keep at it and you will break through it and start the loss again. Feel free to friend me and ask questions, I am no expert, but I am learning a lot awfully fast.
  • 73ventura
    73ventura Posts: 4
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    Good for you for being on here for a start. Remember, you didnt suddenly put on the weight overnight, so dont expect to take it all off in one go. Just change one thing at a time. And dont beat yourself up about things, its small steps that complete the journey. Good luck!
  • RuthSweetTooth
    RuthSweetTooth Posts: 461 Member
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    This is super. I too don't believe in denying myself. I'm glad you found a way to enjoy a treat. I love my food, not only is it good for me, it can be sort of gourmet sometimes!!!
    i wouldnt wanto 'cut out/not have ' ANYTHING!! because anything you cut out you will want more.. and think about more and crave more.... grrrrrrrrrrrrr... im on week 2 of "MFP" and ive simply (not so simply) but done my calorie goal that is set up for me.. ive made some adjustments (like egg whites vs eggs) think b4 I just eat whatever when hungry.. and add food to the 'diary' as i go not just at nt or something.. I measure and have litearlly what i already ate before but much less!! portions is a huge part of it... i have 50-80pnds to loose.. and im not going to say I cant have 'anything".. for example too yesterday was a festival thingy at the harbor near me (and im like hmmmmm kettle corn"!!! oh wait too high. i prob cant... and got sad :sad: ... then i went on the MFP tracker.. and nope.. ONE cup (smal bag is 7cups) is 70 calories a cup!!! so i got me a small bag.. and had a scoop equaled a cup and threw it in my purse! (yep) and guesss what? i had my kettle corn.. but disicplined myself to the ONE cup 70 cal. and can have it as a treat once a day till gone.. and honestly once i got the kettle corn and had the one cup i threw it in my car and we went down to the beach.. and later when i got home that nt i forgot it in my car! lol (the bag.. didnt even remember to bring it in the house) but .. had i not even gone.. or gone but felt all down/sad cuz couldnt get kettle corn..i woulda craved it for the next 3mo...(sorry so long) but this is real life.. full of choices... and you can do this.. but just dont go so extreme is my thoughts...:bigsmile:
  • ZeroWoIf
    ZeroWoIf Posts: 588 Member
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    Failed so many times... no clue why I am trying again, except I can't stand the thought of completely giving up.

    So... gonna avoid sugar, eat whole foods, keep it around 2k calories and try to not eat the processed foods, drink water and exercise 3 times a week That is it for now.. I believe that it is at least a start.

    And awaaayyyyy we go :)

    I think that you need to think of whatever you are doing as a lifestyle change. You need supportive people around you as much as possible as negativity is counter productive. I can't tell you what you need to eat, or what you can eat but you may want to consider getting whole food pasta for example, sweet potatoes, nuts, almonds, flax seed oil that contains omega 3, 6, 9. You can also buy eggs that contain omega 3, 6, 9 as well. Buying a bag of chicken breast, lean beef, lean pork, leg quarters are fine but I tend to trim most of the fat personally. Buying greens is important as Fiber is essential and it is a need in your diet. Drinking lots of water is important as well as it helps you stay fuller, and it is a must as our bodies love staying hydrated.

    You need to go to a doctor and get your blood work to see how you are doing in that department if you haven't. A physical is also something you may want to consider as well.

    The last thing is basically exercise. You don't need to train like a pro athlete to lose weight. Or do crazy amounts of cardiovascular activity. You just need to dedicate a good 20 minutes 3-4 times a week of exercise.

    These are just simple guidelines but the biggest asset you can use is your mentality. There are times where many people have the type of mindset that encourages giving up. Take your health into a day by day basis and consider it a lifestyle instead of a short term, or long term goal. Don't expect your body to change overnight as great things are not built overnight. Realistic expectations are a big part of meeting your goals.
  • RuthSweetTooth
    RuthSweetTooth Posts: 461 Member
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    This is one of the most beautiful, caring threads I have ever seen on this site. I hope Woodmangler feels the love and support and knows he's in the right place!!!!!
  • roguestates
    roguestates Posts: 223
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    I like to think of this process as eating for the rest of my life.

    I'm not going to quit this way of eating or moving in 6 or 12 months. I'm not going to eat things that are bad for me too often, but I'm also going to be realistic about setting aside calories for drinks or meals with friends. Having a social life and balance is good for your mental health, which is super important for sticking to any program.

    I'm also learning about new foods and interesting ways to prepare them. What a great opportunity for expanding your horizons! There is so much flavor out there!

    I'm loving feeling stronger and and more energized. I strength train not only because it will help me lose fat, but primarily because it makes me feel capable and powerful. It's body recompositioning and I can almost feel the muscle growth taking place of the fat. I like being able to walk long distances and climb long flights of stairs without getting winded.

    Don't be too restrictive, and don't be too hard on yourself. Think of this process as eating and conditioning your body for the rest of your life. Is there anything you can't imagine living without? Then don't. Just eat small portions of it.

    EDIT: and please don't engage in any of the destructive behaviors I've seen on MFP. Don't punish yourself if you ever feel like you're having a "bad" day. There's always the NEXT MEAL and the NEXT DAY. It will all balance out in the end, as long as you stick to your goals.
  • RunAlyndaRun
    RunAlyndaRun Posts: 162 Member
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    ... you have to want it bad enough to log everything and be honest with yourself.

    I'm finding that the most difficult, yet liberating part is BEING HONEST WITH MYSELF! If I eat something I shouldn't then I still log it. Being accountable to oneself is such a huge thing in life. Your post has obviously struck a chord with many people. Add us as friends who can encourage one another through our journeys:-)
  • Gutengal
    Gutengal Posts: 3
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    A few key things that help me: 1) I agree with everyone that said start slow. Deciding that you want to make real changes takes time for you to get your head wrapped around and then it takes time for your body to get use to. Set your self daily and weekly, small goals, to reach and then slowly increase them. 2) Be proud of all of your efforts. It's so easy to knock yourself down but so you really deserve more, and you know that, that's why you're trying again. 3) Work at finding something you enjoy in whatever workout routine you choose; whether it's the nature around you, the music your listening to, or even the sensations your body is feeling, etc. Keep your head up and smile at those around you. The way you choose to experience each session will bring more motivation to continue doing it. Good luck to you!
  • mishimouse101
    mishimouse101 Posts: 47 Member
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    Every day is a chance to try and do it all better than the day before.

    There is a good video online that explains how to manage your energy input vs. output. Go to

    https://herbdocblog.com/#

    then scroll down to The Simple Science Of Weight Management: Calories CONSUMED Vs. Calories BURNED

    Exercising three days a week is a smart way to start to ease into it, but for people who are otherwise sedentary and have a hard time with reduced calories, you may find that you need to work up to a hour a day of exercise to get results and nearly the same to keep your heart healthy and maintain the results.

    Best wishes with your journey. Following the suggestions on food management here will get you results!
  • knwitall
    knwitall Posts: 420 Member
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    Well you have come to the right place! Lots of support and encouragement to be found here!
  • findingme07
    findingme07 Posts: 156 Member
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    Don't let your mind quit on you.....you CAN do this!
  • senyosmom
    senyosmom Posts: 613 Member
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    stick with it!!! You CAN do this!
  • m16shane
    m16shane Posts: 393 Member
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    As many have said you already made the first step. If I could give any advice to you is stop wanting it to happen over night. Its about a life change not a diet. You obviously have the determination, you just need the program that suites you. From my experience you have found it here. I hope for the best on journey to a healthier life!
  • TheFitHooker
    TheFitHooker Posts: 3,358 Member
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    It's a mind game at first. When things start to feel impossible and your mind is telling you "Just eat what you want, you can't do this anymore." Tell it to shut up and take a back seat. This is a commitment it's not an interest. You can do it, look at the success stories on this site when you feel like you just can't go anymore, that is one thing that has really pushed me. I find people now who have reached my next goal and I go back to their success threads to remind myself I have come so far, I can reach the ultimate goal I just have to keep pushing myself. I find it gets harder the closer we get. I'm no longer depressed on how I look, so that strive of hitting the ultimate is there but I'm a lot happier with myself so I'm not stressing the weight loss like I was. I still have to tell my mind to shut up. I think this week has been my best week in a few months, honestly. No matter how far you go, it never gets easy, you just get better.
  • FinallyFindingLisa
    FinallyFindingLisa Posts: 222 Member
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    Start off a bit easier ...

    Today: Take 3 pictures (front, profile, rear), measure thighs, hips, waist, chest & biceps)

    Week 1: Cut the sugar/sweeteners, go for a 30 min walk every second day, 10 glasses of water a day, 1 beer a week (a man's gotta live!)

    Week 2: Cut all the "white/processed" foods - detox

    Week 3: Go for a 30 min walk every day

    Week 4: Add exercise for 30 mins, 3x per week

    Make 1 little change every single week, take pics/measurements at the end of every month, compare first set with last set.

    This is the best advice!! I'd add only thing, make your goals achievable, the worst thing is setting and failing to meet a goal because it was too ambitious.

    "A year from now, you'll wish you'd started today"

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