My Grandfather called me fat

:-/ :-(
Use it as motivation to work harder!

It sucks that he said something like that, and I get why it would hurt you . Try to make the best of the situation and let it motivate you to prove him wrong! You've already done really great so far, just keep going!

Just tell Grandpa to **** right off! Then threaten to put his *kitten* in a nursing home! Don't let ANYONE get you down! You got this!

Relatives seem to be more blunt than others, I suppose it's the fact you're related some find the need to let their manner-girdle loosen.

I remember when I was a kid my grandmother gave me clothes every Christmas. When I got in my teens and really started to get big, she bought me the ugliest things and the one time I made a face she said, "well if you were a normal size I could shop in the teenager section, not the old lady section!" But, my grandmother's purebred Italian from Sicily (if anyone wants an example think of Sophia from "The Golden Girls", only nastier) and she hated buying for me anyway because no one knew what I really liked.

In the end you have to remember you didn't pick your family. Their personalities and opinions can't be helped. You know better than they do. Take it with a grain of salt and if nothing else, politely tell them to shut up it's none of their business to begin with.

I had a grandmother who was like this (she has since passed). She would always make off-comments about weight to any of the female members of the family. She had a rough childhood, having been adopted in a time where people could and did adopt children to act more as free labour on the farm (this was the Prairies, in Canada), and not to be nurtured as a child should be. Her adoptive "mother" was especially harsh, from what I have heard, and that's likely where her mollycoddling of the males in her life, coupled with her iciness towards other females, came from.

THAT said, it's still not an excuse for rudeness. We just ignored Grandma's off comments, in the past, but nowadays if someone said that to me, whether they were 8 or 88, they would be answered in kind. If they are going to be blunt about something that anyone, (even ALL men) should know is a touchy subject, then you should respond with an equally blunt, "That was really rude, and you should keep such comments to yourself. I am taking positive steps for my health, thank you." Age isn't an excuse to act like an A**hole, until and unless dementia is a factor (it affects a person's "filter")... in fact, at that age they've been around the block to know better, unlike a child making a similar comment, and a child WOULD be reprimanded, so why not an adult?

So I fell out on the lawn on the way to my therapists appointment. I felt weak and I have been feeling terrible for over a week. I was taken to the hospital. They did not find anything out of range so it was believed that I just have severe dehydration. I got home and my grandfather greeted me at the door. He gave me a hug and then said "' you have been getting a little fat." My mother instantly came to my defense and told him that I was actually losing weight.

It did not bother me before but it kind of does now. I hate when I am working so hard and he just says it like that!:explode:

I would rather people be honest with me rather than try and lie. You are losing weight and eventually won't be fat anymore.
Drink your water!

Ah yes the blunt grandparent. I feel for you years ago my grandfather kindly total me that I was getting too big and pointed to a larger lady and said you don't want to turn out like her do you. Then he told me to go for a run. It hurt but that's my grandfather. Recently at his birthday party he said where did you go there's only half of you left and gave me a big hug.

Are you losing weight to please others (grandfather included)? Right... didn't think so. You have to do this for you. Chin up.

Grandpa's. They don't know. Just let it go and love him for who he is. Your gonna miss him when he's gone. Trust me.

Truth. Having a jerk for a gramps is better than no gramps at all. I wish I got to know even one of my grandparents before they died. But most of them were gone before I was born.

The last time a relative made a comment about my weight, I replied "I'd like to see YOU run a 10-mile race. If you can do that, THEN you can judge me."

I'm sure you've accomplished a thing or two that your nasty grandparent hasn't.

Negativity lives everywhere.
The more you listen to it the stronger a hold it has on your life and goals. There is nothing good that comes from looking at dark side. Deflect it out of your mind and filter out the people who are feeding it to you. Good comes from light.

-Heather Frey

this is one of my favorite quotes regarding negativity

tell him he's getting old and to shut his pie hole

+1000

yeah the general rule of thumb is kids and old people tell it how it is.

i mean you think you're overweight don't you? i'm assuming so because your avatar says "fabulous fat", so why be surprised when others see you the same.

"Chubby" was my dad's nickname for me growing up. He wasn't trying to be mean. I am sure your grandfather wasn't either. You can't let other people's perception of you define how you look at yourself. Took me 15 years of being overweight to get that. Hopefully the concept comes a bit easier for you

It's hard to ignore what a loved one says. Remember this there are 8 billion people in the world don't let 1 ruin your day. : ) Good luck on your journey. :flowerforyou: