The crazy things people say when you are losing weight...

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  • run17
    run17 Posts: 27
    I agree- people should just keep their trap shut sometimes! A compliment is nice but asking for numbers is rude! I usually stay within in a 10 lb. range of my weight but sometime it creeps up a little higher. When it does- i take it off. Once a man at the gym said- you look like you lost 50 lbs. How rude! I only lost about 15. When people lose a lot of weight- I always say- you look great- keep it up! I never ask for numbers on the scale or measurements. it is rude. Everyone's body is different. I think if you are making an effort to maintain a healthy lifestyle. That is all that is important.
  • run17
    run17 Posts: 27
    LOL- That is hysterical and so rude!
  • Cliszew
    Cliszew Posts: 5
    I tell people that its my dream to finish college but I can't afford food and I have to work so hard that I don't have time for a job. Cha-Ching!

    I just joined MFP but went from 212 to 168 lbs. since August 2011.
  • Erica_theRedhead
    Erica_theRedhead Posts: 724 Member
    I get the "you're getting too skinny" comment now. Um...still in the overweight BMI thanks.

    Also I hate when people comment on what I eat. Sometimes its "that's all you're gonna eat?? you eat like bird" Followed by "you can't eat that cake, you're on a diet" the next day. Make up your mind people. It's all about eating filling/healthy foods in abundance and having a something like cake in moderation. Not rocket science.
  • alliewowie
    alliewowie Posts: 31
    A male co-worker looked at me and said "Not that I was looking, but your *kitten* is getting smaller" :P
  • Jalare
    Jalare Posts: 103
    Late last year I had knee surgery and gained back about 20lbs. I was not watching what I ate most of the time and couldn't exercise for a while, except for therapy. No excuses here. It is what it is. The gain of course was noticable. Recently someone approached me and said, "You're losing again. What are you doing? Oh the same thing" all in the same breath. As if they were disappointed. The funny thing is my brother, who heard this person ask, was more offended by the comment than I was. In fact, it kinda went over my head. He was heated. I have asked this person many times to join me when I go walking but no go. As many on here have said, they are waiting to hear about the magic pill or potion. They don't want to hear how hard you work for this.

    The other thing; people are always calling me skinny or slim. STOP THAT!! I'm am nowhere near skinny. I know this, you know this. I'm smaller than before, not skinny. I'm proud of what I've done, but it sometimes makes me very uncomfortable.
  • karolineoberhaus
    karolineoberhaus Posts: 10 Member
    I am in the middle of losing a lot of weight that I have carried all my life. It's noticeable. Most people say something along the lines of, "Wow, you look great!" which is a wonderful boost for me. Plus it has the added benefit of allowing me to either say "thank you" and move on, or to open up a discussion about it if I so choose.

    It's amazing to me what some people have said to me though! Many people will come up to me in the hall at work, and instead of saying "hi" will say, "So how much weight have you lost?" I am not comfortable giving my number out to everyone, because I still have a long way to go, and frankly, it's still embarrassing to me that I had so much to lose in the first place. I had one person who could not let it go (and this was someone I can NOT stand under the best of circumstances!). When he asked how much I had lost, I just replied "a lot." He kept on asking "so how much is a lot?" Seriously! Why does it matter!?

    When I first started losing weight, people would ask me if I was losing weight. I learned to answer, "Yes, I am certainly trying to!" because if I just said "yes" it was following with something like "have you been sick?"

    Many people want to know what I am doing. I have started making stuff up, because no one believes that I could just change my eating habits and exercise routine and have any success. I told someone once that I had been hypnotized. Haha!

    My favorite is the woman who said "I didn't know you had weight loss surgery!" Yeah...I didn't. How uncomfortable.

    What is the craziest thing that someone has said to you while you were losing weight?

    I am a goofball so I use humor.

    How much did you lose? "One MILLION pounds" :laugh: with my pinky by my mouth like in Austin Powers.

    I have come to the conclusion, people do not think before they speak. Fortunately, I realize I do the same thing so let it slide:happy:

    I am SO SO SO gonna use this one!
  • emmymae22
    emmymae22 Posts: 206
    Dude..okay.. this woman who I know through mutual friends works at Target and I saw her a couple weeks ago.. it had been about a year since I saw her last, and 75 pounds were missing from me.. this was the conversation:

    Her: "Wow, when did you have your baby? You look great!"
    Me: " Huh? I haven't been pregnant in almost 5 years."
    Her: "..oh..last time I saw you, I thought you were preg--um--you look great!"

    lovely. haha
  • I love this one..." You are really pretty...never noticed it before". Of course you didnt notice my beauty because my weight was all you saw!! :noway:
  • sicchi
    sicchi Posts: 189 Member
    I like "dont lose too much!"
    If I EVER have that problem I will take pleasure in putting it back on :) That would be a dream come true, lol!
  • Sarah_Wins
    Sarah_Wins Posts: 936 Member
    I don't get many insults, but I find it interesting how many people will give me DIET ADVICE! Like I don't know what I'm doing, hello?!?! For instance, this guy that's on a slightly lower carb diet (whereas mine is extremely low) pointed out that I could eat beef jerky for a snack like he does. I had to read him the ingredients to point out that there were at least 3 kinds of sugar in that product. He was like "Oh".

    Seriously, folks, this didn't happen by accident.... I know what I'm doing.
  • karolineoberhaus
    karolineoberhaus Posts: 10 Member
    Today, someone asked me what I was doing to lose weight. I told her I was going to the gym every day and watching what I eat. She said "seriously? That's it?"

    Yep. That's it, lady. Just that tiny little thing of eating literally half of what I used to and spending 3-4 hours every day in the gym. That "it.". Sheesh.
  • Stefxtastic
    Stefxtastic Posts: 17 Member
    Today, someone asked me what I was doing to lose weight. I told her I was going to the gym every day and watching what I eat. She said "seriously? That's it?"

    Yep. That's it, lady. Just that tiny little thing of eating literally half of what I used to and spending 3-4 hours every day in the gym. That "it.". Sheesh.
    Ha! She either doesn't know what it is like to shed sweat blood and tears at the gym, or she thinks that magical diet pills are the only way you can loose weight..
  • I just take it with a grain of salt. Most people are not being malicious, rather trying to be positive...sometimes it just doesn't come out right lol
  • I did plan to have surgery, and I'm on a pre-op diet that's going so well that I may not qualify by the time my surgery date rolls around. I'm usually a super open person who doesn't mind answering questions honestly, as long as the person asking doesn't make me feel like a freak show.

    I'll tell you the ones that get to me, though:

    (Not a question, but a comment) "I don't see why you think you need to lose so much. You're not fat." Bless your heart...I DO own a mirror. I'm just fat, not blind or stupid.

    "How much weight do you want to lose?" and when I tell them "oh...are you sure? That's going to be way too much. I think you should aim for (insert arbitrary number here)." Yeah, I don't remember your occupying a seat in the surgeon's office when we set my weight goals. Trust me, I've done my research. I know what a healthy weight is for me.

    "Oh, that surgery will never work. My hamster's cousin's uncle's best friend's neighbor had that, and now she weighs 8 million pounds and needs a crane to use the bathroom. Have you tried (insert fad diet of the moment here)?" Why yes...yes I have. A few times. And guess what? It didn't work for me.

    "Aren't you afraid you're going to die?" Well yes, as a matter of fact I am. That's why I'm doing something about my weight. I'd rather die knowing I made an attempt than die even more quickly from a preventable illness. P.S. We all die from SOMETHING...I just prefer that my weight not be that something.

    And my favorite:

    "Isn't it haaaaaaard (they always draw it out like that) switching your diet all up like that?" Yup, you bet it is. It's even harder lugging my extra-wide butt around, and watching my loved ones enjoy things I know I can't do. I promise you, I'm not likely to expire from the effort of eating better. Maybe you should try it, too.

    Oh wait...one more...

    "Don't you miss chocolate cake/ice cream/double cheeseburgers with extra lard and mayo?" Well, not until you said THAT! (except the double cheeseburger...I hate cheeseburgers and always have) But I'd rather experience a full, active life than repeat the feel of biting into a chocolate cake. I KNOW what that's like...I want new experiences!


    Hey girl!
    I just had Lap-Band Surgery on July 12th!
    I am soooo with you on all of those!
    I hate the "you're not THAT big"
    "You don't have THAT much to lose!!"
    I quickly reply with "I am MORBIDLY obese, so yeah I AM that big"
    That usually shuts them right up!
    I'm VERY open with my decision and my weight loss goals. I even have a blog lol
    You can check it out if you want it's
    www.thedandybandy.blogspot.com
    There is such a wonderful community of bloggers out there that I have drawn sooo much inspiration from!
    weight loss surgery is far from an "easy way out" it's not a magic pill and you have to work JUST as hard to lose the weight as anyone else. It's just a tool and any tool can be used incorrectly.
  • Heidi64
    Heidi64 Posts: 211 Member
    You know, threads like this bother me. There are some really good stories about stupid things people say, but most are what all of us hear day in and day out. I, myself, am kind of tired of hearing many of them now that I am on the receiving end, but I used to say almost all of the things stated here myself because I was trying to be kind. When I would say "You really didn't look like you needed to lose that much weight, but congratulations on your hard work" To me, this was better than saying..."Yeah, you were grossly overweight and it was about time you lost some of it." Really, most people are just trying to be nice. If they didn't say anything at all, implying that they didn't notice your hard work, then you would be upset about that too. How about we give people a break. Share our stories if they want to hear them, find a witty, classy way to answer sincere, yet annoying compliments, or move on when people are idiotic and ignorant. We've earned the right to hold our heads high, if others can't deal with it, it's their problem.
  • inagaddadavegan
    inagaddadavegan Posts: 46 Member
    when people say Whoa you look so effin s e x y now i say HMPFf...i was always S e x y.

    Oh I hate it when someone who isn't currently dating you as a chubbier version, takes an over-interest in how your fitness goals are coming together (after you've already lost quite a lot). Ask me out now, *kitten* -- before I hate you for only liking me at my ideal weight.
  • Kari089
    Kari089 Posts: 109 Member
    what bothers me is when people that used to 'fat shame' me at every opportunity are now telling me how good I look and showing my picture around to people I don't care about at all. My childhood was marked by humiliation for my weight by these people and now I began getting texts asking me what my 'recipe is' and what I am doing so they could do it too. I got so angry. When I needed support they were there to shame me and break me down. I kept my weight loss a secret as long as I could and now that it's noticeable they can't believe it was only watching what I ate and working out. So in their face!
  • Oblivia17
    Oblivia17 Posts: 11 Member
    I ran into an ex-boyfriend over the weekend. He made a remark about how great I was looking. I was feeling a bit down about my plateau... so I said "thanks, but I still have a long way to go." I went on to tell him how I still felt so big and that I must have been huge before I started. I even used the word "heinous" in my description of what I thought I must of looked like.

    He agreed, saying "yeah... it was pretty bad. Kind of gross".

    This is the same person who I ran into 6 months ago... before I started this process. Even then he said I looked "great".

    Wow.

    A. I think people need to rehearse in their heads what is about to come out of their mouths.
    B. Does this mean I'll see this person in 6 months and he'll tell me how gross I was back in July?
    C. I am reminded once more of why he is an "ex"!
  • Rachiepie6
    Rachiepie6 Posts: 423 Member
    I hated it when I started trying to lose weight that people would tell me that I don't need to lose weight, I was not morbidly obese, but I was not healthy and I wanted to be.

    Then as I begin losing weight quite well for my size, people started to tell me to stop etc..

    I realised that I used to tell people they don't need to lose weight even though they could stand to lose a bit of extra pudge for sure because I was trying to make them feel okay.
    Now when somebody complains about their weight I offer to help them lose weight rather than say that they don't need to.
    If they reject my help and do not try to cut down on junk food and still complain, I will ignore them.
  • Angylgrrl
    Angylgrrl Posts: 159 Member
    Bump. Want to be able to come back and read all of these!
  • "How much weight do you plan on loosing?" my answer.... as much as possible
  • the craziest thing anyone has ever said to me was are you on drugs......just because I lost a little weight and I didn't even think my weight loss was noticeable. people also tell me I am too small or that I don't need to lose weight I'm not trying to be stick thin but I just want to be in a healthy weight range.
  • I get the "you're getting too skinny" comment now. Um...still in the overweight BMI thanks.

    Also I hate when people comment on what I eat. Sometimes its "that's all you're gonna eat?? you eat like bird" Followed by "you can't eat that cake, you're on a diet" the next day. Make up your mind people. It's all about eating filling/healthy foods in abundance and having a something like cake in moderation. Not rocket science.

    this is so true
  • candiliza
    candiliza Posts: 77
    The most frequent (and also the most frustrating) thing that people ask is, "What kind of diet are you on?" Well, umm, I'm not on a diet. I just started making better choices and getting some exercise. Apparently, that just doesn't compute for most people. Most will continue with, "Well, are you eating low carbs or low fat or what?" I eat what I was eating. I just eat less of it. And, I do sorta watch my sugar intake. Most folks don't want to hear that you're just eating less and exercising. They're looking for a magic bullet that doesn't involve much sacrifice.

    The craziest thing said to me was, after I had lost 25 lbs, three people came up to me on the same day and said, "Did you get a haircut?"


    I really cannot stand the word "diet." I'm not on a diet just because I have decided to eat less and eat healthier foods. Argh! LOL
  • LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo
    LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo Posts: 3,634 Member
    "Oh look how thin you are, what magic pill did you took?" - Uh sorry but this is all a product of hardwork, dedication & consistency
    "Youre turning into skin and bones" - LMAO!
    "Stop exercising. You don't need to lose anymore weight" - I'm not trying to lose weight, idiot!
    "You're so thin now so stop it & start eating normally" - I use to eat all those gigiantic servings of fatty pork chops, bacons, pasta, McDonalds which you told me before that are bad but now you're telling me they're normal eh? LOL
  • nursenelson
    nursenelson Posts: 295
    I did plan to have surgery, and I'm on a pre-op diet that's going so well that I may not qualify by the time my surgery date rolls around. I'm usually a super open person who doesn't mind answering questions honestly, as long as the person asking doesn't make me feel like a freak show.

    I'll tell you the ones that get to me, though:

    (Not a question, but a comment) "I don't see why you think you need to lose so much. You're not fat." Bless your heart...I DO own a mirror. I'm just fat, not blind or stupid.

    "How much weight do you want to lose?" and when I tell them "oh...are you sure? That's going to be way too much. I think you should aim for (insert arbitrary number here)." Yeah, I don't remember your occupying a seat in the surgeon's office when we set my weight goals. Trust me, I've done my research. I know what a healthy weight is for me.

    "Oh, that surgery will never work. My hamster's cousin's uncle's best friend's neighbor had that, and now she weighs 8 million pounds and needs a crane to use the bathroom. Have you tried (insert fad diet of the moment here)?" Why yes...yes I have. A few times. And guess what? It didn't work for me.

    "Aren't you afraid you're going to die?" Well yes, as a matter of fact I am. That's why I'm doing something about my weight. I'd rather die knowing I made an attempt than die even more quickly from a preventable illness. P.S. We all die from SOMETHING...I just prefer that my weight not be that something.

    And my favorite:

    "Isn't it haaaaaaard (they always draw it out like that) switching your diet all up like that?" Yup, you bet it is. It's even harder lugging my extra-wide butt around, and watching my loved ones enjoy things I know I can't do. I promise you, I'm not likely to expire from the effort of eating better. Maybe you should try it, too.

    Oh wait...one more...

    "Don't you miss chocolate cake/ice cream/double cheeseburgers with extra lard and mayo?" Well, not until you said THAT! (except the double cheeseburger...I hate cheeseburgers and always have) But I'd rather experience a full, active life than repeat the feel of biting into a chocolate cake. I KNOW what that's like...I want new experiences!

    You are hilarious!
    I love you!
    You totally made me laugh.
    :laugh:
    Good luck on the rest of your wt loss journey
  • amelia2033
    amelia2033 Posts: 20
    congrats great loss
  • MY MOM SAID THAT SHE WAS GOING TO TAKE ME TO THE DOCTER'S OFFICE LOL MY FAMILY IS USED TO EATING HEAVY MEALS
  • GemmaRowlands
    GemmaRowlands Posts: 360 Member
    People ask how much I've lost, then say well done, followed by "don't lose any more will you". People would say this when I was still clinically obese, which was very annoying, as I felt as I was letting people down by carrying on- even though I was nowhere near healthy. I guess I looked much slimmer in comparison to my old self though, just not slim enough!