Filling up my boyfriend! help

honestly, just make more food and let him eat several servings. if you make a bunch of stuff that you'd want to eat too you're just going to be battling yourself ALL THE TIME!!! OR, tell him to consume the majority of this calories during the day, when you're not around him!

have him eat a HUGE breakfast. like a dozen eggs huge. i think if you start adding foods to meals, you're going to feel like you're being deprived when you don't get to eat it too..........

YES! exactly....adding carbs like potatoes will just make me crabby that I can't eat it...and then I will therefore, eat it. Things that my boyfriend will willingly make himself include frozen pizza rolls, egg rolls, pizzas, tostidos, etc.....and he'll use the microwave, yuck (except for the pizzas). Those frozen items can get really expensive and doesn't last long.

Maybe you coull make something like oven roasted potatoes and just have 1/4 cup portion for yourself so you don't feel deprived but he's getting his needed calories.

(Also, if you like making you both dinner, there's nothing wrong with that - ignore the haters who are giving you crap about cooking for him. It's a very nice gesture, and if it works for your relationship, that's great.)

COULD NOT AGREE WITH THIS MORE! Ignor the meanies.

I'm sorry but that thread title gave me some totally innappropriate for work thoughts.

Ahem.

Can't he just have a larger portion?

*ohmigod, I'm sorry, I've got the giggles now*

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I've been trying to come up with the "innappropriate" thought that was derived from my title...and I can't !! LoL...but I want to! The only thing I can think of, would relate more to if I was guy talking about my girlfriend. Hmm..hope I'm not crossing any lines with that statement.

You're on the right track, but you seem so sweet I don't really want to corrupt you.

i've got the same deal with my husband...he prefers to eat rice with his meals, so i make him that and i give him a much larger portion size..it seems to be doing the trick nicely

My boyfriend is doing P90X and trying to GAIN mass by eating lots of calories, some coming from his 2 high calorie protein shakes a day. My problem, is that I'm NOT trying to gain mass and instead need to consume close to 1200 calories...unlike his ideal 5,000 so that I can lose weight. I like to make nice diners for us, but what I need to eat, does fill him up and satisfy him. Plus, he takes left overs to work and reheated veggies just aren't too good. I would like to make lean meat (chicken and fish) with a veggie every night.

What are some ideas of things to ADD to the meal that doesn't add more work for me, is filling for him, isn't tempting for me, and is convenient for him to take to work?

Thanks!

My husband and I have the same problem. He normally just eats twice as much as I do, but if the main dish is higher calorie and I need to eat less I'll make a big salad. He and our kids will have a little, I'll have a lot. Then they'll have as much as they need of the main dish and I won't be hungry for a lot of it.

Are there foods he loves, but you are so-so on or hate? I would make a dish that I did not want or care for in addition to the regular dinner fare. That way he can have more for his intake needs and you wouldn't feel bad/be tempted about skipping it. Is there a sauce/condiment you dislike? If that was in a dish/on it I wouldn't be tempted to eat it. (My hubby loves Sirancha, I can't stand the taste.) Even if it's a food that I would absolutely love, once that sauce is on it it's ruined for me and I want no part of it.

Also, can you top his food with higher calorie items? For example some cheeses are higher in calories. You can have a low calorie cheese on your eggs/pizza/sandwich while he has the higher calorie one on his. Your bread could be a lower calorie version while he has a denser one. That way you are eating the "same" but different.

If you eat yogurt, perhaps add some mix-ins. While you can both mix in granola and fresh fruit, perhaps his a larger amount of the granola in his (typically higher in calories). You can increase his portion sizes on higher calorie items to help him. If you feel as though you are feeling deprived when you see his amount of food, you could increase your lower calorie portion. For example with salad I can double my greens and hardly even add to the calories, but it is huge and filling. Visually it looks as though I am having just as much or more than hubby because his caloric intake is more.

If he needs to up his calories with a snack and you don't want to be tempted, etc. is it possible for him to eat it where you do not see him doing so? If your space is small, etc. is it possible for him to eat it when you are outside watering the plants/going on a walk/folding the laundry/getting a shower/etc. That way if you aren't in the immediate area you won't see it and be tempted.

Calories don't care what time of day it is. If you can't resist bed time snacking with him, save some calories for a bedtime snack. That way you can enjoy something that you like while he has his higher calorie snack. For example you could both have some almonds, he would just have twice the amount of your serving. Personally I can nibble on my handful of almonds while hubby downs his and still be nibbling after he's done. So even though my serving might be smaller, I can make it last longer and feel as though I am eating just as much or more than him.

Maybe he can make his own freaking dinner. Sheesh!

Just add a glob of cheese on the plate? IDK. Had him a protein drink along with dinner. Give him a triple portion. Sorry not helpful because I think if he wants something different than what you are making, then he needs to get up off the couch and make it.

I love this. I for one, do not have a subserviant bone in my body:drinker:

Not that the OP is subserviant, she seems to enjoy cooking (as do I) but neverstray, I love your attitude. And old profile pic.

Bigger portions is the easiest thing I can think of... Instead of making dinner/meals for 2, make them for 3-4 people, and he gets all the extra? Also I saw someone listed milk - yup, that's a good one. There's a thread/discussion around somewhere called AGOMAD, which stands for 'A Gallon Of Milk A Day.' And yes, more snacks - just baked chicken with some steamed broccoli, etc. And of course, he can add a few protein shakes during the day. If you're trying to get in 5000 calories a day, you really can't do it without major snacking.

(Also, if you like making you both dinner, there's nothing wrong with that - ignore the haters who are giving you crap about cooking for him. It's a very nice gesture, and if it works for your relationship, that's great.)

Good luck.

I love this response! My DH doesn't eat much during the day, he's just too busy! So dinner is his biggest meal and he's hungry! What I've done in order to make us both happy is to make some small changes to our favorite recipes (leaner meats, less pasta, more veg) and then I make sure my portions stay within my calorie limits. He can eat however much he wants.

And I get what you're saying about the side dishes..I'm not a fan of potatoes so I can easily give him the bulk of those but when it comes to like cheddar rice or noodles of any kind, I could eat tons and it makes me a little sad when I can't. But I keep myself in check anyway because I know it's worth it not to gorge myself and I know he can use the calories more than me.

Also have to say, I HATE when people say "if he doesn't like it, let him cook his own"! First of all, it's not helpful advice. Second, some of us actually enjoy taking care of our significant others! It doesn't make us doormats or whatever the militant feminist view is. You live your life the way you want and we'll do the same...

P.S. hehe, got off on a tangent and forgot my other ideas! I like the idea of adding cheese, when appropriate to his meals. Also, have him snack on hard boiled eggs, nuts, seeds and peanut butter - all calorie dense but nutritious foods. I've heard some iffy things (not sure if true, just putting it out there) about eating too much of those protein powders so maybe do some research if he's going to continue with those.