Would you ever date a co worker.........?

Tanie98
Tanie98 Posts: 675 Member
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I have had few co workers ask me out and I always turn them down because I am not comfotable dating someone I work with.I just don't want to mix business with pleasure.Is anyone the same way?
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  • wilsoncl6
    wilsoncl6 Posts: 1,280 Member
    I totally agree with you. It is always bad news to date a coworker, too much baggage (and drama) that goes along with it. You made the right decision.
  • awesomedjmcvey
    awesomedjmcvey Posts: 50 Member
    Never mix work and pleasure! if something goes wrong both become HELL
  • RUNNING_AMOK_1958
    RUNNING_AMOK_1958 Posts: 268 Member
    Not only did I date one I married him and he's the love of my life.
  • hbrittingham
    hbrittingham Posts: 2,518 Member
    I have dated a few in the past. I married the last coworker I dated and we're still married 22+ years later.
  • gvhunterollie
    gvhunterollie Posts: 74 Member
    Dated several, married one. 23+ years!
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    I've done it before, and it was a mistake.
  • CupcakeCrusoe
    CupcakeCrusoe Posts: 1,426 Member
    Same department- no. Different department/area- good to go.
  • sklarbodds
    sklarbodds Posts: 608 Member
    I have. The biggest key is the maturity level of both parties. If they're not mature enough, you run the risk of your business being company business.

    I would also be perfectly clear what the privacy expectations are...aka who if anyone can know about it. I personally kept mine pretty quiet for quite a while, but eventually it got out.

    I would also recommend defining clearly that at work, you're just coworkers. If you're a couple in front of everyone, it becomes everyone's business.

    Good luck :smile:
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    I've dated a lot of co-workers. Fertile hunting ground. I dated two co-workers that I married. Then divorced.
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  • lawandfitness
    lawandfitness Posts: 1,257 Member
    I wouldn't do it, regardless of the maturity level, working in different departments, etc. I just think that working together, living together etc. is a lot of time to spend with your S/O. I think it is healthy to have time apart.
  • ksy1969
    ksy1969 Posts: 700 Member
    Why limit yourself. How do you know the one you are meant to spend the rest of your life with isn't also a co-worker?

    I not only dated but I married her and 20 years later am still working with her. We have changed jobs a couple times but because we have similar work fields we both would change at the same time.
  • skippygirlsmom
    skippygirlsmom Posts: 4,433 Member
    I've been with my co-worker SO for over 6 years.
  • 13bbird13
    13bbird13 Posts: 425 Member
    That's how I met the only man I ever loved, way back in 1985... it didn't last, but it was tons of fun because in-office dating was verboten so we had to sneak around... when I was late for work because I'd stayed over at his place I couldn't tell the truth about why I wasn't on time... he was handsome and exciting and funny and I wouldn't trade the memories of that year for anything! I ended up moving out of state after we split up so we were no longer co-workers; I can see how that could have been a serious problem.

    RHB, wherever you are, I still love you..........
  • lawandfitness
    lawandfitness Posts: 1,257 Member
    13bbird13 wrote: »
    That's how I met the only man I ever loved, way back in 1985... it didn't last, but it was tons of fun because in-office dating was verboten so we had to sneak around... when I was late for work because I'd stayed over at his place I couldn't tell the truth about why I wasn't on time... he was handsome and exciting and funny and I wouldn't trade the memories of that year for anything! I ended up moving out of state after we split up so we were no longer co-workers; I can see how that could have been a serious problem.

    RHB, wherever you are, I still love you..........

    I loved this!!!
  • Kisuke30
    Kisuke30 Posts: 668 Member
    Probably not. Seeing as how I work 24 hour shifts, we'd never get a break from each other. I would think that would be unhealthy for a relationship.
  • _Waffle_
    _Waffle_ Posts: 13,049 Member
    Tanie98 wrote: »



    I have had few co workers ask me out and I always turn them down because I am not comfotable dating someone I work with.I just don't want to mix business with pleasure.Is anyone the same way?

    Obviously they're not hot enough or you wouldn't even be asking this question.
  • Monkey_Business
    Monkey_Business Posts: 1,800 Member
    I have a strict hands off attitude, besides I do not think my wife would see the humor in it, she is sensitive that way (shrug).
  • staceybradleywells
    staceybradleywells Posts: 331 Member
    I wouldn't but to each their own.
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    Date? no. Bang? yes.
  • SarahJohnson1234
    SarahJohnson1234 Posts: 23 Member
    I dated my manager, now we are happily married and recently welcomed a baby boy.
    We are from similar backgrounds so it flowed very easily. We now run a business together and I'm very close to his family.
    He always said to me that I looked too maternal to work in corporate and I said I was made to work in corporate to please my family, so he read me like a book.
    People's intentions are different. We never dated, we got engaged and married straight away and its been a Few years now.
    I don't believe in the whole dating arena because that's flaky and there's no solidity, so check their intention first and I urge you. To look at their family as well as that's says a lot about a person.
  • Owlie45
    Owlie45 Posts: 806 Member
    Nope. I have two jobs. One has a no dating policy, guys greatly out number the women. Cute hard working men.
    My other job, no policy but there's only two men with a large age gap that I have no interest what so ever in.
  • ssmkgp
    ssmkgp Posts: 1,425
    If got chance........YES :p
  • ilfaith
    ilfaith Posts: 16,769 Member
    I have. On several occasions. But nobody I worked with directly. At my first job I dated not one, but two, art directors of other magazines published by my company. At my next job I dated a freelance designer brought on to work on one of the magazines I worked for. I guess I had a thing for graphic designers...artists with a steady paycheck...perfect. We dated for over a year, after we both left the company, until he moved cross-country to go back to school (we are still friends, and married to other people). At my next job, a colleague had a huge crush on me...we became close friends although I wasn't interested in him the same way he liked me. He actually ended up sharing an apartment with my best friend from college when both were looking for a roommate. But when I met the man who later became my husband, it drove a wedge between us.

    I have no problem with coworkers dating, provided one is not a direct report to the other.
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    newmeadow wrote: »
    I know it's a gamble but people usually meet their lovers through school, work or mutual friends. Even now, in the cyber age.

    If the opportunity arose, I wouldn't turn down a social invitation from a person at work with a romantic interest.

    But I don't become sexually involved without a marital commitment so I protect myself that way. It's a good insurance policy for a woman to take out for herself. Too bad more don't.

    When a woman decides to protect herself that way, she can go out on dates without feeling pressured or anxious. She knows she's controlling the situation and she can just relax and enjoy herself. Chat, laugh, enjoy the stroll, the Starbucks, the meal or the movie. Maybe cuddle and smooch a little before saying goodnight if it seems like the thing to do and both are feeling lovey dovey. It's all good :blush:

    Oh lawd. :neutral_face:

  • Chieflrg
    Chieflrg Posts: 9,097 Member
    newmeadow wrote: »
    But I don't become sexually involved without a marital commitment so I protect myself that way. It's a good insurance policy for a woman to take out for herself. Too bad more don't.

    When a woman decides to protect herself that way, she can go out on dates without feeling pressured or anxious.
    Or you could just use a jimmy...

  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    If I had a crush on the guy, sure. It's hard enough to meet people nowadays. Otherwise, definitely not.
  • FabulousFantasticFifty
    FabulousFantasticFifty Posts: 195,832 Member
    No! If it ended badly one of us would have to quit our job!
  • mockchoc
    mockchoc Posts: 6,573 Member
    I'm married to my boss.
  • johnnylakis
    johnnylakis Posts: 812 Member
    CupcakeCrusoe wrote: »
    Same department- no. Different department/area- good to go.
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