"Stop losing weight!" Uggggh.

LoreleiEvil

For reference, I'm 5'5 & 158 lbs!! I wear a size 8! Far from "overdoing" it!! I know a big part is that they've always known me as morbidly obese, they've never seen me like this. My sister is freaking 5'6 & 135 lbs so I don't get it?!

I don't know your family, but to me, it sounds like they like having you be the 'heavy' one so they can feel better about themselves. If you end up thinner than them, then it hurts their ego. I have friends like this - they like the 'fat' me because I make them feel skinny

Bingo. It's code for "you better not wear a smaller size than me" in my family. Of course, no matter how much I weigh my father will call me FatAss so they don't get a vote in how I run my life.

AmyZ46

My ex sister-in-law told me mom that I needed to quit eating around her because it hurt her feelings when she was eating cheesburgers and fries and I was ordering salads.

No wthat's some funny stuff right there ! Poor thing she was so jealous that she felt bad that you were changing your life ! Some people are so selfish .

guessrs

Same here it makes it harder to lose weight since I don't have the extra energy to explain why weighing less has been great for me. My family likes me fat. I've always been the fat one who eats everything all the time. When they see me bony it just isn't right to them ha ha. I've had to put my foot down and get mad a few times in a good way.

dunnodunno

I had someone tell me around 177-190 pounds to not take it too far, because once you go too far you can't come back. I literally wanted to say WTF?

MysteriousMerlin

I disagree with everyone telling you that they are jealous, they're your family and they are worried about you. However you need to m ake sure that they understand that this isn't going to go to far. Show them the fact that you are getting yourself to healthy body weight for your height and age, because you really can't argue with facts without sounding silly. Explain to them that you LIKE what you see when you look in the mirror and maybe even go as far as to show them what somenoe who is unhealthy ACTUALLY looks like? They are just seeing you as how you have always been and they are worried. You're never going to get your parents to stop worrying, it's who they are and what they do, but you need to educate them and explain to them that whether they like it or not you are doing this and you are doing it in a healthy way, that you arent' taking it too far

This right here. They're your mom and sis, not some co-workers or school chums.

If they're that concerned, go to a doctor and have them go with you. Perhaps hearing it from a doc will alleviate their concerns.

forthemoney

Here's one more perspective that may or may not apply to you. To my mom, food was a way of showing she loved you -- so if her kids were overweight, that showed everyone she loved them. If your mom is like her (even if you don't live with her and she's not the one feeding you anymore), when you start losing weight that could be the same to her as saying "I reject your love." I know what you're doing has nothing whatsoever to do with how much you love your mother or she loves you -- but if this is how she thinks, maybe this is part of where she's coming from.