When is it ok to delete friends?

Francl27

People who don't comment on anything, are not logging, or are starving themselves.

_AddictedtoAerosmith_

Why not just make an independent decision? Just sayin', delete them for the reason you decide, not what MFP suggests.

libbydoodle11

Whenever you like... It is really up to you.

conita667

excessive dramaaaaaaaa!!!!!!! it really annoys me. I'm on ... cals and I don't drop any weight, I'm tired of exercise, of not eating, of everything. Well, I'm tired of YOU.

yoovie

the very instant you feel like it.

DragonShoe_GCole

libbydoodle11 wrote: »

Whenever you like... It is really up to you.

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refuseresist

Best to do it before they do it to you i find

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AliciaStinger

Alatariel75 wrote: »

I tend not to delete people who stop logging in, I know I've disappeared for a while and been happy when I came back and still had friends. No skin off my nose to keep them on there.

I delete for rudeness, eating disorder behaviour, excessive drama or fundamental incompatability (whether it be diet or otherwise related).

This pretty much describes me. I don't delete people for not logging in because I'm always happy to have the kind of understanding friends who are there when I come back.

I delete people who are rude or gross. I accepted a friend request from a guy who commented on a friend's post. He seemed funny and dedicated to his health, so I thought he'd be a good friend. Within a couple of weeks, he had asked me how old a guy I'd date (I was 22 at the time, and he was 65 or 66). After that, he changed his profile picture to a close-up of himself in a tight pair of underwear. I don't have a problem with him doing what he wants on his profile, but I wasn't interested in his personal questions or the outline of his sausage and eggs.

I don't like excessive drama; everyone has trouble at sometime or another, and I always try to support or cheer people up when they "vent" in a status - but starting fights, antagonizing, being mean to my friends, talking crap, and raising my blood pressure are unwelcome traits in a friend. Thankfully I haven't had any friends like that on MFP.

The other thing I won't do anymore is keep people who consistently eat below 1,100 calories. (In an attempt to control her illness, mom eats the same 1,197 calories most days of the week, so I understand that some people might have different situations.) I once friended someone who I knew had an eating disorder, hoping I'd be able to help her or convince her to get help. She's a wonderful person, and thankfully, she did end up getting help, but watching her net NEGATIVE calories on a regular basis (after exercise) terrified me, so I wouldn't friend request someone if I knew the person was starving him/herself.

I have a really great group of funny and dedicated friends. With the exception of that one guy who loved showing off what he's got, I haven't ever deleted (or wanted to delete) anyone on MFP.

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ColeCake292012

I delete people who starve themselves (NOT a VLCD recommended by a diet), people who can't give advice without belittling me or others...mostly I delete people I just don't like because they annoy me.

KylaDenay

yoovie wrote: »

the very instant you feel like it.

this

rml_16

I only delete people who behave badly.

Winterlover123

Friend collectors, inactive people, people who don't 'like' or comment on things but expect you to. I'm here to support and be supported, not to be just another friend

TFaustino67

dakotababy wrote: »

I have deleted friends for a wide variety of reasons.
1 - the "i know everything about weight loss and you need to listen to me" person (yeah he knows who he is)...especially when they dont stop harassing you to follow their plan.
2 - disordered eating individuals
3 - people who I have made a direct effort to send a like or comment every once in a while, and I get NOTHING in return
4 - people who post too damn much about stuff that has nothing to do with weight loss. (Yeah, once in a while is okay...but if my MFP starts looking like FB - Your out!)
5 - People who do not log on for 30 consecutive days
6 - If I just notice we have nothing in common...and I feel like sweeping through my friends list, I may just have to cut you.

I have gone and at one point deleted EVERYONE off of my friends list. I found it was nice to just start fresh. I find it nice to not have to feel obligated to care about others, just to come and read the forums and do what I got to do.

Its about me, not making friends.

I like. I'd ask to be friends..but you'd cut me later. But I like.

lmr0528

I delete people when they've gone a month without logging in. Unless I know that you're dealing with some things, then I keep you.

MyChocolateDiet

KylaDenay wrote: »

yoovie wrote: »

the very instant you feel like it.

this

yep. I recently had the strong urge to delete a bunch of people but tried to keep them and struggled more than I needed to. ended up deleting a bunch anyways. save yourself the problems and delete when you get the urge to purge. i feel better now, I may have 99 problems but I know who ain't one.

ajalcazar84

Cranquistador wrote: »

Every 3rd Wednesday if is it raining.

At 4 o'clock when the bell rings.

jofjltncb6

I delete for excessive crazy and uninteresting drama...

...and occasionally randomly when I don't like the total number of friends.

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deluxmary2000

I keep trying to be offensive enough to get people to delete me, but it hasn't worked yet.

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Canwehugnow

I delete when you've been inactive for 4 weeks, or more.

deluxmary2000

TastesLikeBurning wrote: »

deluxmary2000 wrote: »

I keep trying to be offensive enough to get people to delete me, but it hasn't worked yet.

Just wait. It'll happen. For instance, just do what I do apparently. Flagged for my comment.

Flagged.

lorib642

I've been deleted. It doesn't give a message. I just noticed the person wasn't on my time line anymore. I delete beach body coaches because I think they are going to try to sell me something. I don't think you need a reason.

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MostlyWater

I delete absent friends and anorexics and bulemics who glorify their condition.

Lounmoun

bmalone62 wrote: »

Everyone seems to have different opinions about deleting them when they aren't active but just curious, do you delete them for other reasons as well? Do you delete them when you feel they are rude? How about the ones that log in and are doing great but never support you with even a simple “like" on your progress?

Reasons for me to delete friends:
They have hundreds of friends & seem to be here mainly to discretely sell products or get people to join their fitness cult. They never post on the boards even though they have been members a long time.

They are right away asking for more personal information than I am willing to give out to strangers on the internet. Maybe innocent friendliness but maybe not. Also have hundreds of friends and don't post on the boards except to collect friends.

They are approaching weight loss with what I feel are unhealthy goals and habits. I need people on my friend list whose goals and habits I can support and be inspired by.

If someone was constantly rude or negative then I would delete them from my friend list.

deksgrl

Whenever you want to. You don't have to justify yourself to anybody, do you?

yoovie

Lounmoun wrote: »

Reasons for me to delete friends:

They never post on the boards even though they have been members a long time.

some people lack digital social skills or have been so badly burned by the forums here that they never venture in again. Or it just frustrates them, or it takes up time they would rather spend working out or on personal projects.

I know that you are TOTALLY allowed to delete people for any reason you want in the entire world. You could delete everyone named Mary if you want.

Bu ti just wanted to say that some of the people on my friends list are from older generations and their wisdom and experience and struggles and victories are all over my friend feed each morning, and almost none of them 'have any time for the forum flimflam' and I don't blame them. too much flimflam lol