When is it ok to delete friends?

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  • laineybz
    laineybz Posts: 704 Member
    Deleted my first yesterday. Turned rude when i wouldn't give my facebook details....
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  • GiveMeCoffee
    GiveMeCoffee Posts: 3,556 Member
    I delete if they start ruining pizza or any other delicious food by substituting cauliflower.... it's your list delete when you want and for why you want
  • deksgrl
    deksgrl Posts: 7,237 Member
    I delete if they start ruining pizza or any other delicious food by substituting cauliflower.... it's your list delete when you want and for why you want

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  • dbmata
    dbmata Posts: 12,950 Member
    bmalone62 wrote: »
    Everyone seems to have different opinions about deleting them when they aren't active but just curious, do you delete them for other reasons as well? Do you delete them when you feel they are rude? How about the ones that log in and are doing great but never support you with even a simple “like" on your progress?

    Delete them for whatever reason you want. Whatever reason. It. Don't. Matter.
  • SlimMe37
    SlimMe37 Posts: 133 Member
    When they don't talk to me, when I try talking to them. Never like any of my posts. Be a friend, or bye!

    This ^^^ Also people spouting nonsense all day long, and another girl had an ED and was happy she could see her bones and people liking that post. I just didnt feel comfortable supporting someone with an ED in weightloss.
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  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    edited November 2014
    yoovie wrote: »
    Lounmoun wrote: »


    Reasons for me to delete friends:

    They never post on the boards even though they have been members a long time.

    some people lack digital social skills or have been so badly burned by the forums here that they never venture in again. Or it just frustrates them, or it takes up time they would rather spend working out or on personal projects.

    I know that you are TOTALLY allowed to delete people for any reason you want in the entire world. You could delete everyone named Mary if you want.

    Bu ti just wanted to say that some of the people on my friends list are from older generations and their wisdom and experience and struggles and victories are all over my friend feed each morning, and almost none of them 'have any time for the forum flimflam' and I don't blame them. too much flimflam lol

    I get that some people don't do forums. I don't delete people for not liking to use forums.
    For me, being a member for a substantial amount of time and having no posts at all on the forum in combination with the other things I listed (like collecting hundreds of friends and seeming to be more into selling products or their fitness cult rather than just another person trying to lose weight or be healthy) is a sign that they are not here for the same reason I am. They may be great, inspiring people to someone else but I don't want that kind of inspiration.

    Now I check people out a bit before accepting a friend request so I shouldn't have those friends to delete anymore anyway.
  • TossaBeanBag
    TossaBeanBag Posts: 458 Member
    Why not concentrate on being a friend?
  • dramaqueen45
    dramaqueen45 Posts: 1,009 Member
    When you delete people, do they get a notice that you did that? Or is it like on facebook and you can just hide their posts? I would delete people who are trying to sell their products or run their own personal business on fitness. I also would delete people who are crude or offensive, get into political debates, are judgmental about your diary, seem creepy somehow or don't respond for a long period of time.
  • tmauck4472
    tmauck4472 Posts: 1,785 Member
    I delete them if they are not active for a couple of weeks. Then there are a few that I'll never delete. Unless they warn me they are going out of town.
  • malibu927
    malibu927 Posts: 17,562 Member
    If they've been gone for over a month (unless I know them personally) or if their diary is seriously unhealthy (i.e. under 1000 net/all fast food)
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    edited November 2014
    When you delete people, do they get a notice that you did that? Or is it like on facebook and you can just hide their posts? I would delete people who are trying to sell their products or run their own personal business on fitness. I also would delete people who are crude or offensive, get into political debates, are judgmental about your diary, seem creepy somehow or don't respond for a long period of time.

    You can hide people from your feed. I think from the news feed you click the x next to their post. I could be wrong about that-- it's been a long time since I've utilized that feature. They won't get a notification if you delete them. The only way they'll know is if they notice you're gone, which honestly, most salespeople probably won't.
  • Alluminati
    Alluminati Posts: 6,208 Member
    You can have friends on here?
  • dbmata
    dbmata Posts: 12,950 Member
    MrM27 wrote: »
    dbmata wrote: »
    bmalone62 wrote: »
    Everyone seems to have different opinions about deleting them when they aren't active but just curious, do you delete them for other reasons as well? Do you delete them when you feel they are rude? How about the ones that log in and are doing great but never support you with even a simple “like" on your progress?

    Delete them for whatever reason you want. Whatever reason. It. Don't. Matter.
    Should I delete you?

    If you want. You're more than welcome to take your bad pizza and go home. ;)
  • Sharon_C
    Sharon_C Posts: 2,132 Member
    I delete people if they're inactive BUT I always go to their home page first. If they only log in about once a month or less than that then I delete them. It frustrates me when someone posts in the forums that they need active friends who are supportive and then they drop off the face of the Earth after a few weeks. I'll support you but you have to work at it too.

    I also delete people if their posts irritate me. LOL. I know that sounds rude, but I've started doing this on all my social media sites and it's really made my life so much better. If I find that your posts are all negative and they make me feel negative after I read them, then I delete you. I don't need that in my life. Negativity every once in a while is okay--we all have bad days. But if you're a real Negative Nelly, ain't nobody got time for that.
  • AnthonyThrashD
    AnthonyThrashD Posts: 306 Member
    The successful don't need you, and failures will drag you down. So, I just go by profile pics, if they're hot I keep them forever, if they switch to church clothes, DELETE!
  • dbmata
    dbmata Posts: 12,950 Member
    The successful don't need you, and failures will drag you down. So, I just go by profile pics, if they're hot I keep them forever, if they switch to church clothes, DELETE!
    HAH!

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  • dbmata
    dbmata Posts: 12,950 Member
    jbach2 wrote: »
    Why not concentrate on being a friend?

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  • cakebatter07
    cakebatter07 Posts: 814 Member
    Whenever you want.
  • mxmkenney
    mxmkenney Posts: 486 Member
    I only delete friends who are inactive for several months, or who use MFP to post everything and anything. That's what FB is for. Occasional stories random stuff is fine, but daily, hourly updates are annoying. Post your weight loss goals, successes, trials and questions, but leave politics, agendas and drama out please.
  • fatcity66
    fatcity66 Posts: 1,544 Member
    edited November 2014
    I have deleted people who post bogus fitness "tips" or who are trying to sell a program. Also, one chick who was posting all this sexual crap about her "swinger" relationship and crap. So not related to MFP. Otherwise, I don't care. Do what you gotta do, it's your prerogative.
  • AllieLosingIt
    AllieLosingIt Posts: 150 Member
    I delete if I find that I'm rolling my eyes at their posts or if they're pushing something (a product, religion, whatever). If I wanted to be annoyed, I'd be on Facebook.
  • fatcity66
    fatcity66 Posts: 1,544 Member
    Sharon_C wrote: »
    I delete people if they're inactive BUT I always go to their home page first. If they only log in about once a month or less than that then I delete them. It frustrates me when someone posts in the forums that they need active friends who are supportive and then they drop off the face of the Earth after a few weeks. I'll support you but you have to work at it too.

    I also delete people if their posts irritate me. LOL. I know that sounds rude, but I've started doing this on all my social media sites and it's really made my life so much better. If I find that your posts are all negative and they make me feel negative after I read them, then I delete you. I don't need that in my life. Negativity every once in a while is okay--we all have bad days. But if you're a real Negative Nelly, ain't nobody got time for that.

    I did this on Facebook recently. I cleaned out about 100 "friends." It's so refreshing.
  • PurrlyGirl
    PurrlyGirl Posts: 59 Member
    I delete people (and even had to make a note in my profile) that are very obviously using the site to facilitate their eating disorder. I sympathize, I spent a long time in a terrible cycle of over-restricting, binging, sometimes purging, then giving up, rinse and repeat. Shame eating. Starving just to feel hunger pains. You name it. But I'm here to do better than that. I'm here to make sure I'm eating enough, and not too much. I don't need someone that's going to tempt me into bad habits, and really, what am I supposed to do? Congratulate them on their 200 calorie day? Or the 5000 calorie day that follows? Noooo thanks. Not my circus, not my monkeys.
  • bmalone62 wrote: »
    Everyone seems to have different opinions about deleting them when they aren't active but just curious, do you delete them for other reasons as well? Do you delete them when you feel they are rude? How about the ones that log in and are doing great but never support you with even a simple “like" on your progress?
    If they are not acting like a true friend, goodbye with them. If you have a bad day and need to whine and cry on here I understand but if your whining and crying everyday, goodbye. Also when people want me to motivate them when they don't seem to be trying to motivate themselves. I try to be supportive but life gets in the way and I am sure I miss some of the post people put up. I would not be offended if someone wanted to delete me off their list. I have found most people on here to be understanding and awesome friends.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    The successful don't need you, and failures will drag you down. So, I just go by profile pics, if they're hot I keep them forever, if they switch to church clothes, DELETE!
    I remember when I friended a bunch of men at once, I forget why, some thread I was in probably. So I accept all these nicely dressed dudes and within a week's time they are all nekkid headless torsos.




    It was awesome.
  • eldamiano
    eldamiano Posts: 2,667 Member
    Is this really a serious question?
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  • DerekG79
    DerekG79 Posts: 116 Member
    I tend to add people I think I have things in common with. When it comes time to delete I usually delete them after 30 days of no logging (unless i have a good friendship with that person.). I also strongly consider deleting those that don't interact.
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