Unexpected results of weight loss

LeslieB042812

Just wanted to chime in......as others have said, it's expensive! I find I keep ordering clothes and my husband accused me of being a shop-a-holic last night when a box arrived. But, I honestly needed clothes that fit and I've found that the ones I had from when I was this size before are either too worn out (from when I kept stuffing myself into them when they didn't fit) or seem to have somehow disappeared. Oh well.....shopping it is. ;-)

swiftyoung

KarlaH9801 wrote: »

This. Most of the changes with weight loss are positive, but I feel pretty down in many ways about other people's changing attitudes and how much more positive attention I will get as a smaller woman than I am used to getting now. I used to be pretty small (after being a fat kid, who then developed an ED, and lost a ton of weight) then packed on nearly 100 pounds in the following years. I am in the process of taking that 100 pounds back off again, this time in a healthy and careful way, but the thought of how other peoples behavior will inevitably change as I change is quite a mental hurdle. I've actually asked close friends of mine to refrain from making comments, because I don't want those relationships to change. I DO want and need to be healthier, hence the weight loss. So, how do others deal with changes in their relationships with friends, family, and prospective partners after weight loss? I am interested in hearing practical suggestions.

Certain family members have been super supportive, and some have had some not-so-nice things to say. For them, I just ignore it. It is hard for me to deal with strangers being more friendly towards me and talking to me. I have been heavy for 13 years, so I am used to being invisible. That has been the hardest thing for me.
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Thanks for sharing this post. I too have been heavy most of my life. I think subconsciously I feel protected when I am fat. Being an introvert, it was easier to disappear into the background. I have lost weight in the past and the most challenging part of the journey was the unwanted and unsolicited comments. I have always sought to be recognized for my intellect not my appearance.

EmmaFitzwilliam

ishkur wrote: »

chairs aren't comfy anymore. my butt hurts because i lost a loooot of cushion!!!!

Seats are also an inch lower! I already have trouble at certain restaurants because I have such a short torso - at Outback, the table top is pretty much aligned with my bust (or armpit!). It's like always being at the kid's table.

But the number of times I have gone to sit down and then fallen that last inch is not to be believed. (I've dropped 5 inches off my hips.)

treesha450

My arms go straight down along the side of me. When I cross my legs they're so light I feel like I'm flinging them around. I have to hug and squeeze a big pillow at night because of the bone against bone as mentioned above. I can walk up hill for a long time. I love cute colorful belts.

aliciasilfies

EmmaFitzwilliam wrote: »

ishkur wrote: »

chairs aren't comfy anymore. my butt hurts because i lost a loooot of cushion!!!!

Seats are also an inch lower! I already have trouble at certain restaurants because I have such a short torso - at Outback, the table top is pretty much aligned with my bust (or armpit!). It's like always being at the kid's table.

But the number of times I have gone to sit down and then fallen that last inch is not to be believed. (I've dropped 5 inches off my hips.)

I've noticed this recently! My desk chair is actually higher too! I guess since there is now less to weigh it down.

aylajane

EmmaFitzwilliam wrote: »

ishkur wrote: »

chairs aren't comfy anymore. my butt hurts because i lost a loooot of cushion!!!!

Seats are also an inch lower! I already have trouble at certain restaurants because I have such a short torso - at Outback, the table top is pretty much aligned with my bust (or armpit!). It's like always being at the kid's table.

But the number of times I have gone to sit down and then fallen that last inch is not to be believed. (I've dropped 5 inches off my hips.)

My mom has a lot of butt "cushion". I was totally befuddled for a long time at how I have to move the seat higher to drive in the same car than she does, despite me being 2 inches taller than her. Finally realized it when sitting next to her on a bench one day - sitting, she is taller than me!

So I guess as I lost weight, I also got a little shorter when sitting down! And yeah, like the kids table

crazygooselady

One beer...and I am not legal to drive. At least I don't feel like I should drive at all!

BodyByBex

crazygooselady wrote: »

One beer...and I am not legal to drive. At least I don't feel like I should drive at all!

1.5 'servings' of wine and I'm a goner. My rule of thumb now is 'If I take a sip of this (indicating alcoholic beverage) I am NOT driving anywhere.'

I've had to sleep on a couple couches or get rides from friends and I find NO shame in it.

ladylisagogo

Ha! I thought I had shrunk my brand new top after it's first wash as it looked so tiny, but when I tried it on it still fits!!! It wasn't the top that had shrunk it was me

ladylisagogo

crazygooselady wrote: »

One beer...and I am not legal to drive. At least I don't feel like I should drive at all!

That's me too, cheap night out though

smantha32

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ScrAgnX

aylajane wrote: »

EmmaFitzwilliam wrote: »

ishkur wrote: »

chairs aren't comfy anymore. my butt hurts because i lost a loooot of cushion!!!!

Seats are also an inch lower! I already have trouble at certain restaurants because I have such a short torso - at Outback, the table top is pretty much aligned with my bust (or armpit!). It's like always being at the kid's table.

But the number of times I have gone to sit down and then fallen that last inch is not to be believed. (I've dropped 5 inches off my hips.)

My mom has a lot of butt "cushion". I was totally befuddled for a long time at how I have to move the seat higher to drive in the same car than she does, despite me being 2 inches taller than her. Finally realized it when sitting next to her on a bench one day - sitting, she is taller than me!

So I guess as I lost weight, I also got a little shorter when sitting down! And yeah, like the kids table

I've had to move my car seat forward because the fat in my lower back & butt isn't pushing my hips forward; much easier to change radio stations with my shoulders closer to the steering wheel. Also, without the added "lift" the arm rest is an appropriate height, so I don't use a spacer under my elbow anymore.

IncredibleShrinkingSandy

I expected my shoe size to go down. I was a size 7 in high school and made it up to an 8 with my weight gain. What is unexpected is that I am seemingly a 6 1/2 now! I am still about 20 pounds heavier than I was in school and yet my shoe size is smaller now, 15 years later? What?! Very confusing because I got so used to a size 7 that when I go to buy shoes I just gravitate to that size and don't bother trying them on before I buy. Now it looks like I'm going to have to actually try on shoes? Not that I'm complaining, shoes are always cuter the smaller they are.

bkate24

I actually got like . . . over an inch taller from last year's physical to this one, according to my doctor's office . . .

I'm 27 so I doubt I actually grew, although it could be. I think it was because now I have muscles supporting my back/shoulders and am actually standing straight and upright, rather than hunched and slouching. I always used to notice how badly I hunched over and now my posture is so much better - I notice that in the mirror. (I've been losing weight [slowly] and working out for about 2 months now.)

KiwiAlexP

I just finished week 4 day 3 of C25k and instead of looking at next week's session with horror - read it and said "I can do that". Then got home and did some measurements and discovered I've lost an overall 17cm in the last few months

theresanguyener13

I had really bad allergies that stopped once I started clean eating!!!
My mind is still not used to my size! When I see pictures, I'm shocked to see how much smaller I am compared to my mental image!
Also, I love flexing! It's a major problem!! Haha

charmmeth

bkate24 wrote: »

I actually got like . . . over an inch taller from last year's physical to this one, according to my doctor's office . . .

This happend to me too (though just under an inch) and I am over 50 - I was totally astonished! I agree, I think it must be posture, and not being weighed down by those extra kgs/lbs.

bri170lb

conqueringsquidlette wrote: »

When you've got the skinny person who's holding their breath to squeeze around people and objects, it's a safe bet they picked up that habit from being bigger at some point.

I actually did this several times recently and didn't even realize I did it until just now when I read this post.

carliekitty

girlwithcurls2 wrote: »

Beanogirl wrote: »

My bottom hurts when I sit on a hard seat. I can live with it though!

Me too! For a while, I thought something was wrong with me, but then I realized that it's my tailbone! Imagine that!

I discovered my tailbone while showering....I thought I had a huge lump!!!! Who knew it was between your cheeks!

KrisiAnnH

Ponkeen wrote: »

May33338 wrote: »

Mine was feeling my tailbone against any hard surface I sat on and feeling ever so cold wherever I was.

Another thing was how the guy who'd never looked at me when I was overweight, started paying attention to me. It made me sad instead of happy because I am the same girl he's been studying with for the past six months.

This. Most of the changes with weight loss are positive, but I feel pretty down in many ways about other people's changing attitudes and how much more positive attention I will get as a smaller woman than I am used to getting now. I used to be pretty small (after being a fat kid, who then developed an ED, and lost a ton of weight) then packed on nearly 100 pounds in the following years. I am in the process of taking that 100 pounds back off again, this time in a healthy and careful way, but the thought of how other peoples behavior will inevitably change as I change is quite a mental hurdle. I've actually asked close friends of mine to refrain from making comments, because I don't want those relationships to change. I DO want and need to be healthier, hence the weight loss. So, how do others deal with changes in their relationships with friends, family, and prospective partners after weight loss? I am interested in hearing practical suggestions.

I read something interesting (I cant remember where), where someone described a similar situation to May33338's "the guy who'd never looked at me when I was overweight, started paying attention to me" and they talked about how people were just generally nicer to them now that they were smaller/had lost weight.

They then went on to realise that maybe it wasn't the weight loss itself that had made them more desirable/people act nicer towards them, maybe it was that they were happier/nicer to be around as an individual? So when they had been overweight and miserable, people had obviously picked up on that, and the weight loss had caused them to be more confident and positive, and therefore other people reacted more positively to them? I know that may not be the case for everyone, but I think that's a nice way to look at it