Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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melissafeagins wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »Mel - any update on your dad? I have been MIA for a number of days and was hoping for better news by now!
He is feeling better but may need the O2 for the rest of his life. COPD has finally caught up with him.
BUT he did feel up to going to the activity room for Bingo yesterday and he did walk down to one of the nursing home lounges and sit in a chair for a while. It isn't as good as where he was, but it is better.
I hope he can get some good quality of life, that is the main aim! Hugs.1 -
I'm still fairly mad and antsy. Combination of feeling like I'm paddling as fast as I can but never really getting anywhere. I suspect something will give soon. I'm not about to give up the kids or my day job as rubbish though it is, at least it pays. I think my handmade biz is on its final warning (I make kids'nursery decor). I'm spending so much time on it, not making any money and not really enjoying it any more. I may as well focus on making and selling the odd miniature. That doesn't really make any money either, but at least I enjoy it!
Just really hoped I'd find a solution to working around the kids. I can't increase working hours outside of the home as any more hours than I currently do would cost me my whole salary in extra childcare. I'm trapped like that for at least a year. Really annoys me that society and economics mean both parents need to work, but childcare is so prohibitively expensive I literally can't afford to. The only parents with two small kids who can are either earning big bucks, or have very helpful grandparents nearby. Neither are true for me, so I thought I'd help myself by setting up a home business, but it's not working.
That is super crappy.
A friend of mine, years ago, had to live with relatives until her children were school aged because even though her and her husband made decent money, daycare costs were so high, they could not afford both daycare and rent! Asinine!0 -
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melissafeagins wrote: »My dad has spiked a fever and is now on O2, but has pulled out his IV. As soon as I can get Tyler's dinner cooked and one of adult boys to stay with him I am going to the nursing home. Big Chris (his favorite nurse) thinks it's pneumonia but they're waiting for labs to come back. I said that Monday when they didn't show anything yet, so....
Prayers going up for your dad.0 -
Whew...just read 3368 pages of this thread...well not just now, but over the last 3 months.
Confession: you all inspired me to lose 36 pounds since 5/29. Lost that weight ten times over in my "dieting" career. Apparently, I always skipped the chapter on maintenance in the "diet" books I read, and erroneously thought I could eat ALL THE FOOD. Nope...will always need to monitor what I'm stuffing in my mouth.
You guys are great...make that SUPER GREAT. I will confess that now that I'm at the end, I'll have to find a new hobby.9 -
allstarteacher4kathy wrote: »Whew...just read 3368 pages of this thread...well not just now, but over the last 3 months.
Confession: you all inspired me to lose 36 pounds since 5/29. Lost that weight ten times over in my "dieting" career. Apparently, I always skipped the chapter on maintenance in the "diet" books I read, and erroneously thought I could eat ALL THE FOOD. Nope...will always need to monitor what I'm stuffing in my mouth.
You guys are great...make that SUPER GREAT. I will confess that now that I'm at the end, I'll have to find a new hobby.
That’s quite a feat! Well done!!!2 -
allstarteacher4kathy wrote: »Whew...just read 3368 pages of this thread...well not just now, but over the last 3 months.
Confession: you all inspired me to lose 36 pounds since 5/29. Lost that weight ten times over in my "dieting" career. Apparently, I always skipped the chapter on maintenance in the "diet" books I read, and erroneously thought I could eat ALL THE FOOD. Nope...will always need to monitor what I'm stuffing in my mouth.
You guys are great...make that SUPER GREAT. I will confess that now that I'm at the end, I'll have to find a new hobby.
Nah, just start adding pages and keep reading. You're super great for catching up.4 -
Confession: I've been fibbing on my food diary for months. I close it out at goal numbers, and then always end up a couple hundred calories over goal. Which is still under maintenance, at least. I report the fake numbers to my trainer, too.
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Confession:
I just made dinner reservations for Saturday night an lied and said it was my birthday hoping for a free cake.
TBH, my birthday is later this month and I will be out of town every weekend until after.
Is this bad?4 -
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quiksylver296 wrote: »
Yeah did you get the cake? Was it good?1 -
I will let y'all know Monday about the free cake2
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VENT
My ex husband is a real special POS. We have been divorced since 2011 and he has never paid a dime towards our kids medical or dental expenses. I talked to him earlier this year bc our youngest has had significant medicals this year, and he agreed to pay a portion. Not half, but a portion. Something is better than nothing, right?
On Labor day, my youngest hands me an envelope containing $300 and said it was from dad. I was so shocked that he actually followed thru.
Today, I thanked him and his wife.... guess what. They didn't send it. My 17 yr old daughter gave it to me to cover for her dad.
I am sitting here at my desk crying bc 1- my daughter was trying so hard to be independent, 2 - she felt like she had to cover for him, and 3 - he is such a POS! I am sick to my stomach thinking about this!!! I am so proud of her and so furious at him all at the same time.6 -
VENT
My ex husband is a real special POS. We have been divorced since 2011 and he has never paid a dime towards our kids medical or dental expenses. I talked to him earlier this year bc our youngest has had significant medicals this year, and he agreed to pay a portion. Not half, but a portion. Something is better than nothing, right?
On Labor day, my youngest hands me an envelope containing $300 and said it was from dad. I was so shocked that he actually followed thru.
Today, I thanked him and his wife.... guess what. They didn't send it. My 17 yr old daughter gave it to me to cover for her dad.
I am sitting here at my desk crying bc 1- my daughter was trying so hard to be independent, 2 - she felt like she had to cover for him, and 3 - he is such a POS! I am sick to my stomach thinking about this!!! I am so proud of her and so furious at him all at the same time.
That sucks. A lot. Except for your daughter - how sweet!
I am forever thankful that I did not have kids with my ex.2 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »Confession: I've been fibbing on my food diary for months. I close it out at goal numbers, and then always end up a couple hundred calories over goal. Which is still under maintenance, at least. I report the fake numbers to my trainer, too.
So you're lying to mfp, but not the trainer. I guess we know which one scares you more. 😁
When is the national weightlifting meet?
I haven't been tracking at all so you have me beat.1 -
Confession:
I just made dinner reservations for Saturday night an lied and said it was my birthday hoping for a free cake.
TBH, my birthday is later this month and I will be out of town every weekend until after.
Is this bad?
Not if it's your birthday dinner. You're screwed if they check ID though.1 -
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VENT
My ex husband is a real special POS. We have been divorced since 2011 and he has never paid a dime towards our kids medical or dental expenses. I talked to him earlier this year bc our youngest has had significant medicals this year, and he agreed to pay a portion. Not half, but a portion. Something is better than nothing, right?
On Labor day, my youngest hands me an envelope containing $300 and said it was from dad. I was so shocked that he actually followed thru.
Today, I thanked him and his wife.... guess what. They didn't send it. My 17 yr old daughter gave it to me to cover for her dad.
I am sitting here at my desk crying bc 1- my daughter was trying so hard to be independent, 2 - she felt like she had to cover for him, and 3 - he is such a POS! I am sick to my stomach thinking about this!!! I am so proud of her and so furious at him all at the same time.
First, I 💕 your kid. You've done something right.
Second, I would have to give the back her money.
Finally, please God, the POS will feel guilty now that you have accidentally ratted her out and do the right thing.1 -
allstarteacher4kathy wrote: »Whew...just read 3368 pages of this thread...well not just now, but over the last 3 months.
Confession: you all inspired me to lose 36 pounds since 5/29. Lost that weight ten times over in my "dieting" career. Apparently, I always skipped the chapter on maintenance in the "diet" books I read, and erroneously thought I could eat ALL THE FOOD. Nope...will always need to monitor what I'm stuffing in my mouth.
You guys are great...make that SUPER GREAT. I will confess that now that I'm at the end, I'll have to find a new hobby.
This is all super great!! That is some dedication! If you can comment to reading all this, you can do anything lol1 -
VENT
My ex husband is a real special POS. We have been divorced since 2011 and he has never paid a dime towards our kids medical or dental expenses. I talked to him earlier this year bc our youngest has had significant medicals this year, and he agreed to pay a portion. Not half, but a portion. Something is better than nothing, right?
On Labor day, my youngest hands me an envelope containing $300 and said it was from dad. I was so shocked that he actually followed thru.
Today, I thanked him and his wife.... guess what. They didn't send it. My 17 yr old daughter gave it to me to cover for her dad.
I am sitting here at my desk crying bc 1- my daughter was trying so hard to be independent, 2 - she felt like she had to cover for him, and 3 - he is such a POS! I am sick to my stomach thinking about this!!! I am so proud of her and so furious at him all at the same time.
I have no words for this! I am so sorry!0 -
melissafeagins wrote: »VENT
My ex husband is a real special POS. We have been divorced since 2011 and he has never paid a dime towards our kids medical or dental expenses. I talked to him earlier this year bc our youngest has had significant medicals this year, and he agreed to pay a portion. Not half, but a portion. Something is better than nothing, right?
On Labor day, my youngest hands me an envelope containing $300 and said it was from dad. I was so shocked that he actually followed thru.
Today, I thanked him and his wife.... guess what. They didn't send it. My 17 yr old daughter gave it to me to cover for her dad.
I am sitting here at my desk crying bc 1- my daughter was trying so hard to be independent, 2 - she felt like she had to cover for him, and 3 - he is such a POS! I am sick to my stomach thinking about this!!! I am so proud of her and so furious at him all at the same time.
First, I 💕 your kid. You've done something right.
Second, I would have to give the back her money.
Finally, please God, the POS will feel guilty now that you have accidentally ratted her out and do the right thing.
I would too.0 -
melissafeagins wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »Confession: I've been fibbing on my food diary for months. I close it out at goal numbers, and then always end up a couple hundred calories over goal. Which is still under maintenance, at least. I report the fake numbers to my trainer, too.
So you're lying to mfp, but not the trainer. I guess we know which one scares you more. 😁
When is the national weightlifting meet?
I haven't been tracking at all so you have me beat.
I am lying to my trainer.
October 19! Six weeks!2 -
melissafeagins wrote: »VENT
My ex husband is a real special POS. We have been divorced since 2011 and he has never paid a dime towards our kids medical or dental expenses. I talked to him earlier this year bc our youngest has had significant medicals this year, and he agreed to pay a portion. Not half, but a portion. Something is better than nothing, right?
On Labor day, my youngest hands me an envelope containing $300 and said it was from dad. I was so shocked that he actually followed thru.
Today, I thanked him and his wife.... guess what. They didn't send it. My 17 yr old daughter gave it to me to cover for her dad.
I am sitting here at my desk crying bc 1- my daughter was trying so hard to be independent, 2 - she felt like she had to cover for him, and 3 - he is such a POS! I am sick to my stomach thinking about this!!! I am so proud of her and so furious at him all at the same time.
First, I 💕 your kid. You've done something right.
Second, I would have to give the back her money.
Finally, please God, the POS will feel guilty now that you have accidentally ratted her out and do the right thing.
I am giving the money back to her. She is currently at his house, but coming home tonight. I had a long conversation with her last night and stressed that her medical bills are currently NOT her responsibility - they are ours. Her time will come soon enough, but until then - I will take care of them. She is such an independent little $#!+… It makes me proud.6 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »Confession: I've been fibbing on my food diary for months. I close it out at goal numbers, and then always end up a couple hundred calories over goal. Which is still under maintenance, at least. I report the fake numbers to my trainer, too.
I am loving your honesty. You are now even more of an inspiration because of your willingness to be honest and open.2 -
allstarteacher4kathy wrote: »Whew...just read 3368 pages of this thread...well not just now, but over the last 3 months.
Confession: you all inspired me to lose 36 pounds since 5/29. Lost that weight ten times over in my "dieting" career. Apparently, I always skipped the chapter on maintenance in the "diet" books I read, and erroneously thought I could eat ALL THE FOOD. Nope...will always need to monitor what I'm stuffing in my mouth.
You guys are great...make that SUPER GREAT. I will confess that now that I'm at the end, I'll have to find a new hobby.
Welcome to the Confessions Club! Full reading of the thread is not a requirement, but it does get you extra credit.3 -
VENT
My ex husband is a real special POS. We have been divorced since 2011 and he has never paid a dime towards our kids medical or dental expenses. I talked to him earlier this year bc our youngest has had significant medicals this year, and he agreed to pay a portion. Not half, but a portion. Something is better than nothing, right?
On Labor day, my youngest hands me an envelope containing $300 and said it was from dad. I was so shocked that he actually followed thru.
Today, I thanked him and his wife.... guess what. They didn't send it. My 17 yr old daughter gave it to me to cover for her dad.
I am sitting here at my desk crying bc 1- my daughter was trying so hard to be independent, 2 - she felt like she had to cover for him, and 3 - he is such a POS! I am sick to my stomach thinking about this!!! I am so proud of her and so furious at him all at the same time.
That is terrible from your ex, but in good news, your daughter is AMAZING and I'm sure that's in no small part down to you.2 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »melissafeagins wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »Confession: I've been fibbing on my food diary for months. I close it out at goal numbers, and then always end up a couple hundred calories over goal. Which is still under maintenance, at least. I report the fake numbers to my trainer, too.
So you're lying to mfp, but not the trainer. I guess we know which one scares you more. 😁
When is the national weightlifting meet?
I haven't been tracking at all so you have me beat.
I am lying to my trainer.
October 19! Six weeks!
Time to stop lying and get serious, Sister!!
Also, obviously I wasn't capable of reading for comprehension. Sorry.4 -
Geez, what a week. I meant to go to work tomorrow while no one is there, but I don't think I am going to go.
Way back in March my supervisor I loved as friend and boss moved to another department and I interviewed for her job, which they gave to another person on my team. I consider that person a friend but she has been in over her head as my boss since day one. I rarely think my department director makes mistakes, but she did this time. Maybe she shouldn't have picked me, but she shouldn't have picked J either.
I have been hesitant to complain about her and even took a write-up for something she told me to do because it was verbal instruction and I could not price she said it and I didn't want it to be seen as sour grapes that I didn't get the job. (And really, I did know that I should have asked someone with a clue.)
There have been other incidents where she hasn't done the right thing or has just failed to do anything at all and I haven't said anything because I didn't get that job. But Monday she actually yelled at me and now I have a conundrum. Denni says I should quit if it isn't resolved to my satisfaction. My department director has asked me to work through this with J so the director knows if I can resolve conflict.
Somewhere in the back of my mind, I have put October 11 as DDay for deciding whether to find a new job. And I have no idea what I think a satisfactory resolution is.
I do know the operations manager needs another supervisor and I think my director wants to give it me, but she didn't actually say so.
TL;DR pray for me, I need wisdom4 -
@melissafeagins Works issues suck so bad. It’s like a feud in your second family. I like that you have a “do or die” date in mind.
Prayers for you! I know you are an asset to the organization.1 -
Vent update:
I had a long talk with my daughter last night. The ex gave her a check for $300 😊. I stressed to her again that her medicals were OUR responsibility- not hers yet. I think she is reluctantly understanding.
I’m so proud of her!!5
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