Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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LadyAbsynthe wrote: »
I want one! I always wish I'd brought a knife or a razor blade (sometimes I happen to have them in a bag or my phone or whatever.)shannonbun wrote: »LadyAbsynthe wrote: »Every time I walk by the road I keep getting catcalled and it makes me feel really uncomfortable and unsafe, especially at night
it's worse because we don't have a car, so I don't really have a choice. I just want to buy my groceries and books without being harassed. I keep thinking that if I were really skinny again it wouldn't happen.
It will still happen. I hate cat calls. They make me confrontational.
I have a safety cat keychain. It's not much, but it makes me feel a little bit safer. Fits over two fingers with points at the top--better than keys between fingers, if nothing else, and far less dangerous than mace.
Food confession: granola is my weakness, which is stupid. It has so many calories. I should know just to not have it in the house, but if I'm upset about eating I'm usually okay with it so I end up with enough calories... ugh.
Also, tomorrow is my weigh-in day and I'm afraid I'll have gained a lot.
Are there any women's self-defense classes in your area? I hope to God you'll never need them, but learning self-defense techniques and some general safety tips has really increased my confidence in my ability to defend myself. I tend to walk around with the grimmest, fiercest look on my face, and I definitely get called "b!tch" sometimes, but I'll take that over catcalling.0 -
smashley_mashley wrote: »smashley_mashley wrote: »Confession: I bought the White Chocolate Dreams peanut butter online. Had to see what all the fuss is about
What'd you think?!
It arrived today. The first taste I thought was okay. The second taste I thought, "hmmm, it is kind of grainy" and it reminded me a bit of cookie butter. Then I tasted again and didn't really taste the white chocolate. And I tasted it again and though it was pretty good with a touch of sweetness. As I was putting it away, I realized that I probably ate about a quarter of a cup. so in conclusion... I really like it!!!!! And I definitely went over my calories
Does the dark chocolate dreams taste like peanut butter and chocolate or more like nutella?
(edited for spelling)
I got into mine when I got home from work yesterday and ate 2 servings = 360 calories! I then went for a 5 mile walk to even things out.0 -
melimomTARDIS wrote: »Anxiety disorder confession-
I haven't had a Pap smear since before my three year old was born. Actually since before I got pregnant...like a few years before.
I cannot relax enough to get it done, and I have made several appointments. Sometimes I even get as far as to change into the gown.
As soon as the nurse/doctor comes in My brain goes "RAPE! DANGER! FIRE!!!!" And I am unable to get my feet in the stirrups.
When not on anxiety medication, I have similar experiences doing mundane things, like buying yogurt. (How long have I been in the yogurt section? Too long? Should I just leave? I bet they all think I am some sort of yogurt fetishist. Well now I can't leave without the yogurt....I've come too far!)
That can not be easy, but I am sure you know how important a regular pap smear is. Ps. Screw the people at the super market. I stood in the canned beans section for 20 minutes reading labels on black beans once. They can think I am a bean fetishist all they want... maybe I like to get messy.0 -
FluffySandwich wrote: »I'm pretty scared of pap smears myself. I got my first one last year at age 20, and was just so embarrassed and terrified. The worst thing was that he held off on "scraping my uterus" or whatever because I was not yet 21, and told me to come back when I was 21.... a couple months later. Argh, just get that all over with at once
Despite my mom's constant reassurance that it's no big deal, it's just so awkward and uncomfortable for me.
My husband and I were both virgins when we met. I have recently found out that this negates the need for pap tests, as I cannot be carrying the HPV virus. It would have been nice if I had learned this before I had 5 or 6 of them, but as long as we are still together, I never have to have another one again!
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kellienw335 wrote: »shawnaes91 wrote: »Mothers day is coming up. I never ask for anything. I've always felt bad at the idea of it because growing up my mother would make me and her other two kids and actual list on paper of all the things she wanted.
My husband mentioned a week or so ago he wanted to get me something. I just asked him if it would be ok if he would get me a set of kettle bells. I feel really guilty for actually asking for something.
Don't feel guilty! That's an awesome Mother's Day present!
Confession: Last Mother's Day my husband and son bought me a bike from my son (an awesome fixed gear bike), but I had anxiety about having a seizure on it (I have epilepsy) so I made them take it back. I feel guilty about it to this day.0 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »
Oh my freakin'.... Someone make her stop.
I think she needs serious help...not the kind she's going to find here. Part of me feels bad for her, and the other part is like STFU!0 -
melimomTARDIS wrote: »Anxiety disorder confession-
I haven't had a Pap smear since before my three year old was born. Actually since before I got pregnant...like a few years before.
I cannot relax enough to get it done, and I have made several appointments. Sometimes I even get as far as to change into the gown.
As soon as the nurse/doctor comes in My brain goes "RAPE! DANGER! FIRE!!!!" And I am unable to get my feet in the stirrups.
When not on anxiety medication, I have similar experiences doing mundane things, like buying yogurt. (How long have I been in the yogurt section? Too long? Should I just leave? I bet they all think I am some sort of yogurt fetishist. Well now I can't leave without the yogurt....I've come too far!)
That can not be easy, but I am sure you know how important a regular pap smear is. Ps. Screw the people at the super market. I stood in the canned beans section for 20 minutes reading labels on black beans once. They can think I am a bean fetishist all they want... maybe I like to get messy.
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melimomTARDIS wrote: »Added, my primary care doc has prescribed me Xanax for my next attempt, and suggested I come in a little drunk as well. (With someone to drive me obviously)
Yes. You read that right. Drunk.
I had a similar issue until I was in my mid-30s (irresponsibly just put off the appointment for many years at one point, only to get a horrible result the next visit that turned out to be not as bad as they thought--they were certain I had cancer, and of course I was convinced this was my fault for lots of reasons, including the delay--but involved a follow up with lots of med students watching). I've somehow gotten over it and a lot of my anxiety issues in my 40s, which is fabulous and actually makes being older totally worth it.
Anyway, the reason I'm posting this is that at one point I also got the "maybe if you had a couple drinks first" suggestion.0 -
ladybuggnorris wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »I'm pretty scared of pap smears myself. I got my first one last year at age 20, and was just so embarrassed and terrified. The worst thing was that he held off on "scraping my uterus" or whatever because I was not yet 21, and told me to come back when I was 21.... a couple months later. Argh, just get that all over with at once
Despite my mom's constant reassurance that it's no big deal, it's just so awkward and uncomfortable for me.
My husband and I were both virgins when we met. I have recently found out that this negates the need for pap tests, as I cannot be carrying the HPV virus. It would have been nice if I had learned this before I had 5 or 6 of them, but as long as we are still together, I never have to have another one again!
This is not altogether accurate. True, you can't have HPV, but HPV isn't a woman’s only worry.
http://www.womenshealth.gov/publications/our-publications/fact-sheet/pap-test.html#
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I have an uncommon first name, and it makes me SO MAD when people I've known for 10+ years misspell it. Especially on social media. You are looking right at it! Just spell it the right way! It's only five letters long!
I have a lot of secret rage.0 -
My family is fairly religiously conservative, anything sex related was extremely taboo. Also, my mom is from another country and had an even more conservative upbringing. Fast forward, my first trip to a gyno was when I was 24 and 9 weeks pregnant. And my husband was in the room for my first ever pap smear. Yikes.0
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I have an uncommon first name, and it makes me SO MAD when people I've known for 10+ years misspell it. Especially on social media. You are looking right at it! Just spell it the right way! It's only five letters long!
I have a lot of secret rage.
YES! Me too! I think mine is spelled the "normal" way for an uncommon name...also only 5 letters long. Get it right!0 -
shawnaes91 wrote: »Mothers day is coming up. I never ask for anything. I've always felt bad at the idea of it because growing up my mother would make me and her other two kids and actual list on paper of all the things she wanted.
My husband mentioned a week or so ago he wanted to get me something. I just asked him if it would be ok if he would get me a set of kettle bells. I feel really guilty for actually asking for something.
It's hard not to carry over things from our childhood, but you get rid of that guilt right now! You are a mom and deserve mother's day YOUR way without the bad memories attached of things that you could not control. A set of kettle bells will be awesome! Good for you!0 -
My family is fairly religiously conservative, anything sex related was extremely taboo. Also, my mom is from another country and had an even more conservative upbringing. Fast forward, my first trip to a gyno was when I was 24 and 9 weeks pregnant. And my husband was in the room for my first ever pap smear. Yikes.
My husband actually helps a bit. He knows how to make me laugh. "You think you've got it bad? I'm next, and I have to get those stirrups backwards!"
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ladybuggnorris wrote: »I have an uncommon first name, and it makes me SO MAD when people I've known for 10+ years misspell it. Especially on social media. You are looking right at it! Just spell it the right way! It's only five letters long!
I have a lot of secret rage.
YES! Me too! I think mine is spelled the "normal" way for an uncommon name...also only 5 letters long. Get it right!
Oh my, your avatar is theeee cutest!0 -
@melimomTARDIS, that mac & cheese pizza sounds amazing! I hear you on feeling embarrassed though, even though I think you shouldn't. My husband and I were at Red Lobster for a late lunch (like 3:30 p.m.) and hadn't had breakfast. The waitress kept checking on us and making comments like "oh still powering through?" & "wow! I don't think I've ever seen anyone finish that" & "It's SO good, but I can only eat like a quarter of it".
I was semi-embarrassed but thanks to my PMS, I was mostly muttering obscenities under my breath when she left. Something along the lines of "Say one more thing and I'll shove this entire plate down your throat"... Hubby just thought it was funny. We also got dessert
@shawnaes91, your hubby specifically asked you! No reason to feel guilty, enjoy your present!
Confession: This morning I ran into the store to buy some snacks to stash at the office for when I can't get away. I found some new flavor pop-tarts...which did NOT fit my criteria for healthy snacks to keep for emergency purposes but apparently I couldn't help myself.
I'm torn between leaving them here and taking them home to share with my husband...who admittedly doesn't even like pop tarts soooooo
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I have an uncommon first name, and it makes me SO MAD when people I've known for 10+ years misspell it. Especially on social media. You are looking right at it! Just spell it the right way! It's only five letters long!
I have a lot of secret rage.
I love this. I have a reasonably common first name (Stephanie) with what I consider one best spelling (mine) and an acceptable alternative (Stefanie), if you forced me to admit that against my will. I can also live with the various "y" at the end spellings, although I don't really like them. However, the second vowel unquestionably and with no exceptions MUST be an "a." For some reason lately I get more misspellings with an "e" there, which is just bizarre, and I have decided to blame the author of that irritating Twilight series (Stephenie Meyer) for perpetuating this offensive and unpleasant error. I rant about this any time the Twilight books and movies are mentioned, such that my friends do it just so they can roll their eyes and mock me.
I am not a crank. Really.
And I wouldn't say this to someone who actually spelled their name that way--my crazy here is mainly focused on spellings of my own name and the author of those books. ;-)0 -
For those of you terrified of having a pap done, the recommendations have changed (at least in the US) and generally you only need have the pap done every 3-5 years (depending on age and past results). That said, they still recommend an annual pelvic exam, which is what most women are actually terrified of, not the brushing of the cervix, which takes all of 15 seconds.
And @ladybuggnorris - The pap is actually for screening abnormal cells that can lead to cancer. HPV is an entirely separate test, though often it can cause the abnormal cells through inflammation and raise a cause for alarm.
And just in case you're all wondering why I'd know all this nonsense, I actually run the cytology lab at this location for my company, so I am well versed in how and why pap smears, HPV, and a slew of STIs are tested for. Healthcare isn't glamourous.
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My family is fairly religiously conservative, anything sex related was extremely taboo. Also, my mom is from another country and had an even more conservative upbringing. Fast forward, my first trip to a gyno was when I was 24 and 9 weeks pregnant. And my husband was in the room for my first ever pap smear. Yikes.
When I was 21 (and in professional school and still on my parents' insurance) I started having sex with my boyfriend (had been a virgin until then), and decided I should probably get a pap and also wanted to get on the pill. I asked my mother about a doctor's appointment, which I had not had in a while, and she instantly mentioned making an appointment with my pediatrician. I said "uh, at this age, shouldn't I see a woman's doctor? like they say you should have a pap after age 18 and I never have." She responded, "oh, I never did until I was married. I don't see the need unless you were having sex or something." Uh, awkward.
I went with "oh, no, But these days they really want you to start having them at 18" and she decided probably better not to pry, I guess.
Yes, that's basically how open my mother and I were (and are) about these things.0 -
CountessKitteh wrote: »For those of you terrified of having a pap done, the recommendations have changed (at least in the US) and generally you only need have the pap done every 3-5 years (depending on age and past results). That said, they still recommend an annual pelvic exam, which is what most women are actually terrified of, not the brushing of the cervix, which takes all of 15 seconds.
And @ladybuggnorris - The pap is actually for screening abnormal cells that can lead to cancer. HPV is an entirely separate test, though often it can cause the abnormal cells through inflammation and raise a cause for alarm.
And just in case you're all wondering why I'd know all this nonsense, I actually run the cytology lab at this location for my company, so I am well versed in how and why pap smears, HPV, and a slew of STIs are tested for. Healthcare isn't glamourous.
I was elated when my doctor said I was good for 3 years! It was like Christmas.
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CountessKitteh wrote: »For those of you terrified of having a pap done, the recommendations have changed (at least in the US) and generally you only need have the pap done every 3-5 years (depending on age and past results). That said, they still recommend an annual pelvic exam, which is what most women are actually terrified of, not the brushing of the cervix, which takes all of 15 seconds.
And @ladybuggnorris - The pap is actually for screening abnormal cells that can lead to cancer. HPV is an entirely separate test, though often it can cause the abnormal cells through inflammation and raise a cause for alarm.
And just in case you're all wondering why I'd know all this nonsense, I actually run the cytology lab at this location for my company, so I am well versed in how and why pap smears, HPV, and a slew of STIs are tested for. Healthcare isn't glamourous.
Paps are important! Don't be like me guys. I do keep trying to get a Pap done, and I will succeed one day. Anxiety disorder is feeling very scared, and doing it anyway.
My brain is a dick.0 -
melimomTARDIS wrote: »CountessKitteh wrote: »For those of you terrified of having a pap done, the recommendations have changed (at least in the US) and generally you only need have the pap done every 3-5 years (depending on age and past results). That said, they still recommend an annual pelvic exam, which is what most women are actually terrified of, not the brushing of the cervix, which takes all of 15 seconds.
And @ladybuggnorris - The pap is actually for screening abnormal cells that can lead to cancer. HPV is an entirely separate test, though often it can cause the abnormal cells through inflammation and raise a cause for alarm.
And just in case you're all wondering why I'd know all this nonsense, I actually run the cytology lab at this location for my company, so I am well versed in how and why pap smears, HPV, and a slew of STIs are tested for. Healthcare isn't glamourous.
Paps are important! Don't be like me guys. I do keep trying to get a Pap done, and I will succeed one day. Anxiety disorder is feeling very scared, and doing it anyway.
My brain is a dick.
Confession: I definitely just spit tea on my desk.0 -
Re: the pap smears conversation. Hate them, but have gotten reasonably "comfortable"? with them. I had to have a sample taken from the cervix one year after an abnormal screening result. Worst pain I had experienced up until that point. After that, the regular paps didn't seem so bad.
I didn't know that they are only needed 3-5 years now though. I should make mention of that with my new doctor. Especially given that it's a dude. Which I am SO not comfortable with yet. Ah. A new set of anxieties. Yay.0 -
melimomTARDIS wrote: »CountessKitteh wrote: »For those of you terrified of having a pap done, the recommendations have changed (at least in the US) and generally you only need have the pap done every 3-5 years (depending on age and past results). That said, they still recommend an annual pelvic exam, which is what most women are actually terrified of, not the brushing of the cervix, which takes all of 15 seconds.
And @ladybuggnorris - The pap is actually for screening abnormal cells that can lead to cancer. HPV is an entirely separate test, though often it can cause the abnormal cells through inflammation and raise a cause for alarm.
And just in case you're all wondering why I'd know all this nonsense, I actually run the cytology lab at this location for my company, so I am well versed in how and why pap smears, HPV, and a slew of STIs are tested for. Healthcare isn't glamourous.
Paps are important! Don't be like me guys. I do keep trying to get a Pap done, and I will succeed one day. Anxiety disorder is feeling very scared, and doing it anyway.
My brain is a dick.
Awesome.
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WillLift4Tats wrote: »Re: the pap smears conversation. Hate them, but have gotten reasonably "comfortable"? with them. I had to have a sample taken from the cervix one year after an abnormal screening result. Worst pain I had experienced up until that point. After that, the regular paps didn't seem so bad.
I didn't know that they are only needed 3-5 years now though. I should make mention of that with my new doctor. Especially given that it's a dude. Which I am SO not comfortable with yet. Ah. A new set of anxieties. Yay.
They changed the frequency recommendations I think. I was so excited because I hate Paps. I haven't had one in 3 years and have no future plans of doing so. I hate when male OB's talk through the procedure. I know what you are doing, I don't want you talking while you are prodding me with your head between my legs.0 -
fitfatty88 wrote: »xMrBunglex wrote: »I confess that I tried p90x, but listening to Tony Horton's voice & banter made me want to punch him in the face.
The Spartacus DVDs are sooooo much better.
So hearing him poorly quote Forrest Gump and the one girl saying GERMAN POTATO SOUP didn't cut it for ya?
I would mute him during yoga. Plus any video with Dreya annoyed me to no end.
Confession: my sister and I will randomly say stupid Tony phrases to each other at the gym to get the other person to laugh.
I don't like listening to ANY of the videos I've tried so far. I usually watch and listen once just in case there are form tips, then put it on mute and play rock music every other time watching for the cues.
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marissafit06 wrote: »WillLift4Tats wrote: »Re: the pap smears conversation. Hate them, but have gotten reasonably "comfortable"? with them. I had to have a sample taken from the cervix one year after an abnormal screening result. Worst pain I had experienced up until that point. After that, the regular paps didn't seem so bad.
I didn't know that they are only needed 3-5 years now though. I should make mention of that with my new doctor. Especially given that it's a dude. Which I am SO not comfortable with yet. Ah. A new set of anxieties. Yay.
They changed the frequency recommendations I think. I was so excited because I hate Paps. I haven't had one in 3 years and have no future plans of doing so. I hate when male OB's talk through the procedure. I know what you are doing, I don't want you talking while you are prodding me with your head between my legs.
Right?? I don't even like females talking, trying to make conversation. Prod prod "So how was your summer?" .... Yea I can't tell you about my summer when you're all up in my bizness, sorry. But maybe that's just me. Perhaps they have lots of chatty Cathy's coming in to the office.
IDK. Is the gyno the new hair stylist??0 -
My gyno was some old man. The fact that he was a man made me more uncomfortable, but I'm glad he was at least an older one.
*Rubbing my boobs* "So... you ever do an at-home breast exam?''
''I- er.... what? No.''
''It's easy.'' *still rubbing my boobs* ''You just have to feel them like this, whenever you have time, to check for lumps.''
''Oh. Yes I've done that before.''
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ladybuggnorris wrote: »I have an uncommon first name, and it makes me SO MAD when people I've known for 10+ years misspell it. Especially on social media. You are looking right at it! Just spell it the right way! It's only five letters long!
I have a lot of secret rage.
YES! Me too! I think mine is spelled the "normal" way for an uncommon name...also only 5 letters long. Get it right!
there's 2 popular ways to spell my first name, mine is the easier of the two, everyone always tries to spell it the harder way...0 -
Also, I automatically hate -aiden/aden/ayden names. So if your kid is named Brayden, Ayden, Aiden, Braiden, Zayden, Zaiden, Jaiden, jaden, Jayden, Raiden, Rayden, Kaiden, Kayden, Kaden etc. . . .. . . i hate him/her already.0
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