What nobody tells you about losing weight

Momepro

lemonsurprise wrote: »

Wanted to make this thread for motivationial purposes more than anything but they don't all have to be super positive! More of what came as a surprise. I'll start..

- how much confidence it will actually bring, especially when strangers start treating you like royalty all of a sudden!

- Sitting (particularly in baths) and laying (particularly in beds) will become ever increasingly uncomfortable.

- how vain you will become! I can't walk past a mirror without checking how I look nowadays!

Your turn!

Why would sitting and laying in baths become uncomfortable? I am alrrady uncomfortable doing that because getting up and down is hard and I don't fit right. I'd think.being able to just lounge in one with a bit if room would feel great.

Madwife2009

grmrsan wrote: »

Why would sitting and laying in baths become uncomfortable? I am already uncomfortable doing that because getting up and down is hard and I don't fit right. I'd think.being able to just lounge in one with a bit if room would feel great.

Believe me, it does. I hate having baths now as they are so uncomfortable, to a point of being painful. I think it's the "bones-against-hard-surfaces" syndrome. I used to love lounging in a bath. Now I get in, wash and get out. It probably takes me longer to run the bath than the time I spend in it. I lounge no more (which I suppose is good as it means more time for other things). I far prefer showering at the gym these days.

Sitting is uncomfortable for the same reasons but also because of bra straps being pushed in to muscle and a (now) thin layer of fat as opposed to the massive layer of fat I used to have. Lying in bed is a nightmare - my mattress is quite firm and even with an extra duvet between the bed and I, it's still uncomfortable.

When I moan about it, my children (who are normal weight) tell me that I'll get used to it . . .

sunflowerhippi

How much people would judge and make comments about you thinking you have always been smaller not knowing your story.

SueSueDio

cheers2205 wrote: »

SueSueDio wrote: »

A question for any of you ladies who've suffered the "deflated boob" issue that I have (they haven't so much "shrunk" as taken on the appearance of a balloon with half the air let out of it...) - what style of bra have you found is best to help hold up the sagging funbags that used to be your breasts?

Yay, I get to continue talking about my Victoria Secret adventure!

They basically brought in every model that fit my requirements & I ended up choosing one that I wouldn't have picked out for myself in a million years: Perfect Coverage, Body by Victoria. No padding, super comfy, great deal when on sale. Looked biiiig (in the cup) when they brought it in but when I tried it on it was a perfect fit. The older I get, the more I scrap everything else for comfort.

https://www.victoriassecret.com/sale/bras-semi-annual-sale/perfect-coverage-bra-body-by-victoria?ProductID=336259&CatalogueType=OLS

Thanks for the recommendation! I have never in my life been inside a Victoria's Secret - when I was bigger I always figured they'd never have anything that would fit me, and more recently I presumed they'd be way too expensive for my current (pretty much non-existent) budget. I may give them a look.

tomteboda wrote: »

@SueSueDio I am a HUGE fan of Panache bras (the Tango II in particular), and Berlei (for sports bras). They make my poor, sad breasts look awesome and super-sexy, and they're comfortable. I shop at herroom.com

I used to LOVE Panache when I was in the UK! And the Tango II happened to be my favourite! I loved the style and it always fit me well. I'm not sure how one would fit now that my shape has changed so much, but it's worth a try if I can find a store that carries them. Thanks for the reminder!

pennygm72

That I would be called skinny, that people would tell me that I'm fading away on a daily basis, that people would express concern that I shouldn' t lose anymore weight ( I'm still 2lbs off healthy bmi) but most of all how bloody brilliant I feel being slimmer and healthier

youdoyou2016

Something I never expected:

Because I feel better, know I look OK, and am confident in my body -- I am thrilled and grateful for those alone -- I find myself doing and trying things I just never even thought about doing before.

I wrote in another thread how earlier this week I took my first acting class. Last time I was in a play, I was 8 yrs old and 3rd Tree from the Left. I mean, c'mon, acting class?! I'm 47 ... and LOVING it.

I just never imagined how much fun I'd be having. I surprise myself with my level of fitness; I'm still getting used to being little; I still find it weird to have attention paid to me ... But, FUN -- it's just a different kind of life now.

sarahthes

That you never really get over switching to an ice cream bowl this small...

Mzklutch

brookielaw wrote: »

Bungie01 wrote: »

brookielaw wrote: »

Hot tip: Ladies- as you lose weight, get measured and re-fitted for bras. Wearing ones that are too big is not only unflattering but can cause medical issues. Today's doctor appointment resulted in antibiotics...and a trip to Victoria's Secret.

Wait what? Antibiotics?? Can you explain? I only ask because all my bras are definitely way too big now, but I don't even wear one unless I'm going to the gym or work (my boobs basically disappeared entirely with weight loss lol)

Is this only an issue for larger chested women?

The men may want to skip this one---TMI ahead:
I don't know if it is only an issue for larger chested women but I had noticed some pain in one of my nipples, and it lasted for at least a week. They both also looked unusual (swollen) but I just chalked it up to bodily changes (I have lost more than 1/2 of my body weight), potential TOM coming, etc. My kid is pushing 2 and I haven't breast fed/pumped in a good year plus and the supply has long dried up. In checking for a lump, mass, etc. a disgusting colored goo came out. I went to the GYN and he diagnosed it as cellulitis (although TBH there are other potential common infections for a woman my age that it could also be, but the treatment would be the same. Since my MD comes from Dr. Google or WebMD I am going to trust him on this). I asked how that could happen (I do practice good hygeine) and he told me that it was caused by the girls rubbing against my bras, which were obviously too big. My situation may be unusual/extreme but the too big bras in question were only 2 sizes off in the band and I believe one cup size. I didn't fill it out properly though and there was plenty of room for rubbing/chafing.

I hear you on the boobs disappearing. I went from a 48 G or H to a 34 long.

Enell is the best sports bra I have ever invested in. Since seeing on the Oprah show years ago, I stayed with them so if you're working out and have the rubbing or lack of support issue then try enell.com sports bras.

kq1981

That some weeks you'll be really hungry and learn it's ok to eat a little more without feeling like a failure

Jezreel12

kq1981 wrote: »

That some weeks you'll be really hungry and learn it's ok to eat a little more without feeling like a failure

I have to agree ! It's a lifestyle, so those days of eating a bit more will occur but the important thing is to get back at it without guilt or obsession about it, and to enjoy that extra food when it happens because it's part of life and it should be delicious to do it. That's the beauty when this is a lifestyle and not a short term thing.

missevil

In total, I've lost about 25 kilos. In this round, I'm down by ~8 so far. I love reading all those success stories and this thread is awesome, but for me, reality looks different:

1. I never gained more energy and still hate moving / sports. (yeah, there might be the *one* type of sports that I like and enjoy, but I haven't found it yet. So I move only out of necessity and force myself to commute by bike, do a bit of bodyweight stuff and Yoga once per week. I know it's good for me, but I definitely don't like it.
2. I'm hungry. Very often. Being only 1,55m (~5'1") means that I have a very low TDEE, which is frustrating, especially in combination with the prior point of hating sports. So my calorie goal is very low and therefore, the amount of food is pretty low.
3. When you're short, a piece of cake or some other sweets / fast food usually replace at least one entire meal. My BF can have a Pizza for dinner after having a decent breakfast and lunch, while the pizza alone easily caps my daily budget.
4. Being a stickler for rules actually helps to stay in budget most of the time, no matter how frustrating it is. Seeing the numbers on Garmin/MFP really makes me want to stick to them.
5. Not working out makes me keep the same curvy figure even after -25 kilos. And it makes me keep the ~40% of body fat. So one day I'll probably end up being a skinny fat.

On the positive "different" side: I never had people treating me bad when I was fat or better now.

mskimee

missevil wrote: »

In total, I've lost about 25 kilos. In this round, I'm down by ~8 so far. I love reading all those success stories and this thread is awesome, but for me, reality looks different:

1. I never gained more energy and still hate moving / sports. (yeah, there might be the *one* type of sports that I like and enjoy, but I haven't found it yet. So I move only out of necessity and force myself to commute by bike, do a bit of bodyweight stuff and Yoga once per week. I know it's good for me, but I definitely don't like it.
   
2. I'm hungry. Very often. Being only 1,55m (~5'1") means that I have a very low TDEE, which is frustrating, especially in combination with the prior point of hating sports. So my calorie goal is very low and therefore, the amount of food is pretty low.
3. When you're short, a piece of cake or some other sweets / fast food usually replace at least one entire meal. My BF can have a Pizza for dinner after having a decent breakfast and lunch, while the pizza alone easily caps my daily budget.
4. Being a stickler for rules actually helps to stay in budget most of the time, no matter how frustrating it is. Seeing the numbers on Garmin/MFP really makes me want to stick to them.
5. Not working out makes me keep the same curvy figure even after -25 kilos. And it makes me keep the ~40% of body fat. So one day I'll probably end up being a skinny fat.

On the positive "different" side: I never had people treating me bad when I was fat or better now.

^^This!! Oh my god, I'm the same, my TDEE is only about 1200 and I hate it. One single take away can mess with my entire weekly calorie goal (I only have take away once every six weeks or so) and the worst thing is the difference between my "half a lb a week weight loss" calories and my "maintenance" calories is negligible, so it's not like I can look forward to hitting my goal and getting an extra 200 calories a day. According to MFP, I only get an extra 50 once I hit my goal weight. I hate exercise too!!

cburke8909

After you've changed your ways for a long time there will be times you eat unhealthy food and feel sick afterwards. Not an emotional sick, but physically not well. You will learn to enjoy these foods in much more reasonable amounts, because you'll still want them but you won't want to be sick for them.

ColoradoRobin

Here's a parable for those who have had "friends" become very negative as you've succeeded in your weight and fitness goals.

THE STORY OF THE CRAB BUCKET

One time a man was walking along the beach and say another man fishing in the surf with a bait bucket beside him. As he drew closer, he saw that the bait bucket had no lid and had live crabs inside.

"Why don't you cover your bait bucket so the crabs won't escape?", he said.

"You don't understand.", the man replied, "If there is one crab in the bucket it would surely crawl out very quickly. However, when there are many crabs in the bucket, if one tries to crawl up the side, the others grab hold of it and pull it back down so that it will share the same fate as the rest of them."

So it is with people. If one tries to do something different, get better grades, better jobs, improve themselves, escape their environment, or dream big dreams, other people will try to drag them back down to share their fate.

Moral of the story: Ignore the crabs. Charge ahead and do what is right for you. It may not be easy and you may not succeed as much as you like, but you will NEVER share the same fate as those never try.

Lesley2603

LauraInTheWater wrote: »

That if you're a drinker, you should quit. For so many reasons. Big ones: 1) The same amount affects you more when you're smaller. 2) It's sooooo much easier to lose weight when you don't drink. 3) Hangovers make working out that much harder.

Oh yes. I discovered that this weekend, celebrating my daughters birthday, two glasses of Rose and I was done. Have to be more careful

Geocitiesuser

Sitting is uncomfortable for the same reasons

Sitting is horrid for me now sometimes. Hard wood chairs mean either my back or my tailbone or my butt are going to be jutting up against it with no "cushion". I really REALLY appreciate fluffy cushions now.

Jezreel12

Geocitiesuser wrote: »

Sitting is uncomfortable for the same reasons

Sitting is horrid for me now sometimes. Hard wood chairs mean either my back or my tailbone or my butt are going to be jutting up against it with no "cushion". I really REALLY appreciate fluffy cushions now.

I feel your pain ! My knees need a pillow when I'm sleeping because all I feel if I don't use it is bones.

tabletop_joe

FYI If you have Aldi stores near you, they have these great cushions with handles right now that are perfect for bleachers. I picked up a couple yesterday--my coccyx can't handle those bleachers at all.

smantha32

cburke8909 wrote: »

After you've changed your ways for a long time there will be times you eat unhealthy food and feel sick afterwards. Not an emotional sick, but physically not well. You will learn to enjoy these foods in much more reasonable amounts, because you'll still want them but you won't want to be sick for them.

So far I've never had this happen. lol
I can switch back to crap food just like blinking.

LauraInTheWater

Oh oh I have another one! That there will always be that *one* high cal, unhealthy food you refuse to give up. For me, it's the Panera Bread California Avocado sandwich. 900+ calories but I will eat it like once a month or so. I mean...it does have vegetables. Lol.

Then I have to go on a hardcore swim to burn at least half of it off. Still worth it.