Bummed...what have I done?
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You know what it takes- go get it!0
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The best jump start you can do for yourself is to dig deep, find your motivation and get back at it. You did it before, so you can do it again. It's simply a decision, nothing more. Then everyday, it's a series of little decisions all day long to keep moving in the right direction. Soon, what was once a challenge to do becomes a habit - cooking healthy, drinking water, exercising, etc. Set a goal, write it down, share it with a friend - then find your motivation and do it. Simple as that! Your mind and your body will thank you!0
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I can totally relate. Two years ago, I did a great job of keeping myself on track and I lost some weight; started to feel really good about myself. Then my grandfather, who lived next door to me growing up, was dying of cancer and I spent lots of my free time with him and my father. He passed in February of 2013, then my other grandfather passed in August of the same year. I put on the weight I lost, and an extra 10 pounds! I stopped making that commitment to myself at the time when it was most important.
I've recently begun getting up at 4:30am every weekday to exercise before work. I pack my breakfast, lunch, and snacks the night before, as well as my work clothes and whatever I need for the next day. Something kicked me in the butt - I don't know what it was...an epiphany? I knew I could do better and be better for myself. Even though I started getting up very early to get my workouts in, I have more energy than I've felt in a long time. I know if I wait until after work to exercise, I won't do it, so I get it done first thing. Within the first week of doing this, I already felt more energized because I realized that I have control over the choices I make. I have two kids at home, a 6- and 7-year-old, and I work full time, so I know what it's like to get home from work then have to do MORE work. But I realized that it's not an excuse.
During that "epiphany," I also realized that this is something I have to do long-term. The changes I've made are ones that I can stick with. I know I can dedicate 45 minutes to an hour of exercise 5-6 times a week, and I know I can stick to the foods I've been eating. I'm not going to lose weight quickly by doing this, but slow and steady wins the race. It's hard work to keep on it, but it'll be worth it...it already is worth it. I feel so much better (I feel in control), and I've started losing weight. You don't need a quick fix, you need to see the big picture.
Thank you for the advice and different things you do! I also have a 7 year old and 4 year old step son part time. It's VERY difficult to find time to exercise...i am up already at 5:30 to get myself and son ready and out the door for work. Then by the time we get home it's homework,trying to make dinner,whatever needs to be done around the house etc etc. I am hoping now that it's daylight savings time we at least have more time to get out and walk or bike before it gets dark.
You have been encouraging and I appriciate it
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Well first of all, being mad & beating yourself up about it is only going to make you feel worse and most likely drive you to eat more. Accept that the weight is back - it sucks, but it doesn't have to be permanent.
I'd say start with baby steps. Are you logging your food? If not, start, even if you don't change your eating habits right away. Sometimes just seeing the numbers can give you a kick in the butt. Since you've moved, why don't you go for a walk/bike ride to check out the new area? Don't think of it as "exercising", you're just exploring & getting some movement in as a bonus. You might plan on only 10-15 minutes, but once you're out you will probably realize you want to go for longer.
Thank you...I am officially starting today and am going to stop being mad at myself and just get back on the wagon!0 -
RudeboyCantFail wrote: »When you say you get home from work and "have a few drinks" are you talking about alcohol? If so, and it's a daily thing, alcohol is a depressant and may be contributing to your "feeling almost depressed." You might want to think about cutting that back as one step. Aside from depression, personally I find when I drink alcohol I lose all motivation to do other productive things afterwards. I limit my consumption to social activities.
Yes...I mean alcohol.You are right about this. I am cutting back like NOW. I lose all motivation when i have a drink. And that is a big part of it. I know it's a depressant. That's it....i know all these things but it has been so hard for me to do the right thing. But I am so fed up....I am honestly ready to begin this again. Thank you!0 -
Alyssa_Is_LosingIt wrote: »I started with the 24 Day Challenge and I lost 15lbs.. I wouldn't suggest looking to close at reviews on a website especially because those people are not buying it through a distributor and getting proper support. I stand behind Advocare 100%, a very good friend of mine just hit her 50lb mark because of Advocare. I have reached 20lbs myself. The 24 Day Challenge is a great way to jump back in a long as it is done properly, through a distributor getting the right support, meal plans, and coaching.
What is your friend going to do when it's time to come off of the Advocare? Will she have learned portion control and developed a healthy relationship with food? Is she planning on forking over the cash for the shakes for the rest of her life?
Also buying through a distributor is the worst thing you can do with these types of programs. They'll always have your contact information, they'll always view you as a potential customer, and they'll be there waiting like vultures as soon as the weight comes back.
Actually not really. I am a distributor and I don't have anyone's information. Do you look for people posting about this and bash them? Cause this isn't the only post I've seen from you. I'm not sitting here bashing what you do. If it works for people then it works. It's not for everyone. But yes from personal expierences and watching my friend, it does help teach portion control and want to eat healthier and it's not about having shakes either. In fact, I don't even use shakes. So please don't just assume how people are based on a product they take.
From what I have heard they do teach you a healthy portion controlled way to eat. And the one distributor I know told me not everyone uses the shakes either. It's a lot of vitamins and healthy products (I don't know all the details) I may try it I may not. For this week at least i am going to try to make some small changes to get back to where i was last year! Thank you!0 -
Just do it. No tricks no game just say 'I'm either going to start NOW or never" (start logging your food, NOW. even if halfway thru the day!!)
Scan the barcode of the next thing you eat, and keep your log. DO IT NOW OR YOU'LL REGRET IT.
Hows that for truth and motivation?0 -
If you've done this before and you've been successful than you should know quick fix diets don't work. You don't need to buy a product to "jump start" anything - you need to accept accountability for your own motivation.0
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I know how you feel. I lost 32lb last year and since New year I put almost all of it back on, all but 6lb.
I struggled to get back on track too.
Something just clicked and now I am determined again.
I have drawn a line in the sand and deleted all of last year's weight entries, I started from zero again. What is done is done, can't change it.
I also destroyed my written down goals and motivations and started from scratch too.
You can do it, you just need to find your mojo again. Good Luck.
Thank you! i am so glad you got back on track also. I am excited now to really do this again and stick to it!0 -
OP, you sound like me when faced with a particularly odious chore. I know I need to do it, and I know how to do it, and yet here I sit having just one more cup of tea while beating myself up about not doing it.
I can't remember where I first heard this expression, but it has served me well..."well begun, is half done." All you need to do is simply start. You don't have to tackle the whole project all at once, just do one simple thing. It seems to create momentum.
Maybe for you it would be just going outside and doing a short walk. You don't have to do miles, just put your sneakers on and walk aroung the block. I'll bet if you just did that tonight, it will be easier to do tomorrow and eventually you will start back to the eating habits that you already know work.0 -
lthames0810 wrote: »OP, you sound like me when faced with a particularly odious chore. I know I need to do it, and I know how to do it, and yet here I sit having just one more cup of tea while beating myself up about not doing it.
I can't remember where I first heard this expression, but it has served me well..."well begun, is half done." All you need to do is simply start. You don't have to tackle the whole project all at once, just do one simple thing. It seems to create momentum.
Maybe for you it would be just going outside and doing a short walk. You don't have to do miles, just put your sneakers on and walk aroung the block. I'll bet if you just did that tonight, it will be easier to do tomorrow and eventually you will start back to the eating habits that you already know work.
Darn you. Now I have to get up from my computer and finish doing my taxes like I said I would.0 -
iamchuckbass78 wrote: »I hear ya. That's where I am about right now. I'm completely beating myself up over it too. A week ago I started using meal replacement shakes and really watching my calories. This week I started doing the 30 Day Shred. Looking at before/after weight loss photos motivates me too.
Sorry you are dealing with this too! I hope we can both get back on track 0 -
I don't understand what's so much harder about making healthier dinners than 'not healthy' dinners, if you're going to cook anyway.
What do you do when you just sit on the couch? Buy an exercise bike and do it on the bike instead. It doesn't have to be 'either or'.
Healthier meals take more time to make in my opinion (cutting and using more veggies, begin creative with spices and flavors)....it's really just an excuse. I can do it.. I've got so lazy!
It is also harder when my son and fiance don't like a lot of the better foods I should be cooking and eating so I'll end up making 2 meals. I did it before and I think just got burnt out...plus a burger and fries or an extra cheese pizza are quicker and taste so much better some times
I do have an ellipical set up in my bedroom. My fiance is hooking up our TV so I can watch Netflix while I'm on it....I can stay on longer when I have something interested to watch on TV!
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I know exactly how you feel because this was me up until a month or so ago. In 2013 I lost about 30, and by January 2015 it was all back on and I was lazier than I could remember. I was depressed...and I toyed with getting a dr. to put me on appetite suppressants, something I would have never done before.
But eventually I just knew I had to kick my butt into gear, and do it the natural way. You have to just do it..but once you start, it's like getting a ball rolling
It helps me to work out in the morning, bc after work all I want to do is relax.
As far as food goes, you've done it before and you know how it works--you just have to start Good luck! 0 -
1Foot2Foot wrote: »I've been there, several times, and most recently I ran across this set of easy action steps from a MFP user/blogger to help get started (for the first time or the 10th time), http://www.organizeyourselfskinny.com/2014/04/29/5-things-you-can-do-in-the-next-24-hours-to-start-your-weight-loss-journey/
Going through these really helped me feel some control right away, especially meal planning. If I take a couple hours to plan ahead for the week, I don't have as many tough in the moment decisions that often lead to poor choices. In the last couple of months since I've gotten serious again about my health, I've been able to be gracious with myself and have lost pounds along the way.
Thank you! That link has some great tips.0 -
Seems like you got lots of helpful feedback based on your responses above, so I just want to wish you luck as you implement changes. You can do this!0
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Don't go home after work - go to the gym, or for that walk... just make it part of your work day - you can't go home til five even if you want to... sometimes you have to make the gym like that - you can't go home til the gym is over. Everyone struggles getting there sometimes, but we still go.
Also, plan a time on the weekends to plan meals - my husband and I get a lot of joy out of finding healthy but yummy meals we want to try and shopping for them. If you have all the meals planned and the ingredients in the cupboard each week, its not that hard to make those healthier meals than it is to make the less healthy ones. Also, if you struggle with craving "bad" foods, remember that there are no such thing - if you really want pizza, get a good workout in, and then have a big salad and a slice. By not making anything off limits, it makes it harder to fall of the wagon.0 -
The diet marketers bank on people like you that want to start feeling better right away. Don't get suckered in. I suggest making a personal contract with yourself to do something different this week; not to difficult a goal, something you can definitely do. Make that a permanent change and you have a new habit. Re-evaluate in a few weeks and change something else. Over time you will be back to that bike-riding, active, slimmer you.
Right away if you switch to one drink in the evening you are going to see a significant drop in daily calories.
All of this.
Also, OP, I'm in darn near the exact same boat. Last year, I was just about at my goal weight (and definitely at a weight where I felt really great) and then I went through a huge breakup, subsequent move, and basically started my life over from scratch with almost zero support system. From June 2014-November 2014, I was just actively gaining weight. One day of "you can eat pizza and drink a bottle of wine today to feel better" turned into six months. I didn't weigh myself because I didn't think I could emotionally handle it but I would venture to guess at least a 20 pound gain based on the way my clothes (didn't) fit (which shows quite a bit on my 5'2" frame!).
I totally understand that feeling of wanting a "jump start" but I agree with all the posters who are saying: don't worry about Advocare or whatever else to "jump start" your efforts, focus on making sustainable changes that make you feel good. It's frustrating, I know; I want to have all that weight back off immediately! But I know that's not realistic and that it's going to take months not just a few days.
I know that for me, when I'm in a place of eating and drinking to excess, I feel bad both emotionally and physically and when I feel that badly I'm sadly more likely to continue making poor decisions. (I feel bad, so I eat to feel better; now I've gained weight so I feel bad so I eat to feel better, etc etc etc). Especially as the poster I quoted said: alcohol = depressant! It's making everything feel so much worse, I promise. I was getting to a point of drinking every night when I got home too and just cutting that out made a huge world of difference--and you don't have to be drinking to the point of getting drunk for it to affect your mood, energy, etc. The good news is that I also know that once I start to feel positively again, it inspires me to make more good decisions and then the positive cycle starts so it's all about forcing myself to take positive steps until the good feelings start to kick in.
By asking these questions, it sounds like you're getting to that place of mentally being ready for the change. Be excited about that! Celebrate that good feeling! And then think about what small changes you can start to make today. That's the "jump start" you need -- whether it's logging every day this week without worrying about a deficit, not drinking alcohol during the work week, going for a walk a few days this week, etc. I think you'll find that as you start to take positive action and start feeling better, you'll want to keep it up and take even bigger steps!
Good luck, OP!
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Look at it as long term solution and not a short term solution or else you'll be here again next year saying the same thing. Its a life style change. What are you going to do after 21 days?0
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Also, wanted to add: food prep has been a huge help for me, as other responses have said! I spend a few hours on Sunday chopping veggies, prepping/cooking big batches of things I can eat through the week, and portioning out snacks, packing stuff to bring to work for lunch, etc. On the weeks that I take the time to do this on Sunday, I am on point all week with my food. I'm also finding that I enjoy that time on Sundays! I like to listen to a good audiobook or watch some Netflix while I food prep. It's amazing how those few hours can make a world of difference to the rest of the week; the easier I can make those good decisions, the more likely I am to follow through!0
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I know I eat better when I plan my meals in advance, so I need to do that.
I also put my workouts in my google calendar. My husband can see my gym days. I go on days where he is able to be home with our daughter when she is in bed, and go to the gym around 8-8:30 pm, because that is the only time I can fit it in. Because he can see my gym days, I know he will stay home, and also he can call me on it if I have a gym day scheduled and ditch it. I have given him permission to kick me in the pants if I start slacking
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carlysuzanne85 wrote: »Also, wanted to add: food prep has been a huge help for me, as other responses have said! I spend a few hours on Sunday chopping veggies, prepping/cooking big batches of things I can eat through the week, and portioning out snacks, packing stuff to bring to work for lunch, etc. On the weeks that I take the time to do this on Sunday, I am on point all week with my food. I'm also finding that I enjoy that time on Sundays! I like to listen to a good audiobook or watch some Netflix while I food prep. It's amazing how those few hours can make a world of difference to the rest of the week; the easier I can make those good decisions, the more likely I am to follow through!
I am going to do this this weekend. I know i do wayyyy better too when I plan. I need to go through my recipes and plan and prep ahead. Thank you for the advice and encouragement!0 -
I know I eat better when I plan my meals in advance, so I need to do that.
I also put my workouts in my google calendar. My husband can see my gym days. I go on days where he is able to be home with our daughter when she is in bed, and go to the gym around 8-8:30 pm, because that is the only time I can fit it in. Because he can see my gym days, I know he will stay home, and also he can call me on it if I have a gym day scheduled and ditch it. I have given him permission to kick me in the pants if I start slacking
Fitting in time is the hardest! Now that it's daylight savings time I am so happy I'll be able to bike and walk or jog even with my son (he is 8)
I would like to get up and do it before work but I already wake up at 5:30am everyday for work and getting my son ready and off to school.
You are blessed to have your husband to take care of your daughter so you can go at night I'm going to start with walking, biking and my ellipical. Will see about a gym later
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I started with the 24 Day Challenge and I lost 15lbs.. I wouldn't suggest looking to close at reviews on a website especially because those people are not buying it through a distributor and getting proper support. I stand behind Advocare 100%, a very good friend of mine just hit her 50lb mark because of Advocare. I have reached 20lbs myself. The 24 Day Challenge is a great way to jump back in a long as it is done properly, through a distributor getting the right support, meal plans, and coaching.
The first one-star review is terrifying. And the person DID buy it from a distributor.
amazon.com/AdvoCare-Advocare-24-Day-Challenge/product-reviews/B007R6ZUFU/ref=cm_cr_pr_hist_1?ie=UTF8&filterBy=addOneStar&showViewpoints=0&sortBy=bySubmissionDateDescending
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You can do this! I've been where you were at. 3 years ago I was on here and went from 154 to 140, until a pair of injuries struck, one of which led to a severely frozen shoulder that had basically no mobility for 18 months. Due to feeling sorry for myself, and allowing myself to eat junk and baking for comfort, I not only regained the 14, but added another 15 on top of that!
Fast forward to August when both my parents were waiting for emergency surgery and my dad was fighting cancer, and I realized that I HAD to learn a new way to deal with stress. By the 6th month mark back at it I had lost 29 to sit at 140, and have dropped another 7 since then. Never in my wildest dreams did I see 133 in my future, but now my goal is 129. Need to lose the muffin top!
No tricks, no gimmicks, I just took the time to really learn as I went. Logging accuracy is crucial, and making compromises. Figuring what I could sacrifice, and what I wanted to make work.
Good luck, and remember, you can do this!0
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