Why do my coworkers make fun of me for eating "healthy"?
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Tell then to go pound sand.0
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sugamonstaa wrote: »Because you're challenging their comfort, you're making them self-conscious about their choices (which they understand are choices only by looking at yours). Smile through it, they'll get bored with it after a while. Even with the defensive motivation, chickpeas are only funny for so long.
lol funny you mention it. They said I was trying to make them feel bad but I joked and said, "sure that's not your guilt?" I get along with them great but im just annoyed with the put down lol other than that we all cool.
If that went down ok (which, really?? but ok), keep it light like that, it'll work
what do you mean which really- but okay?
that sounds like you're implying- really? you said that?
Not sure if serious or not- because that's EXACTLY what it is!!! their own guilt- so what- she called them out on it.
You don't get to give someone a hard time and then not get called out on it. Actually- people expect it frequently- we'd have more people minding their own business- and less hassling others if THEY WERE called out on it.
She was 100% right.0 -
Opinions are like *kitten* everyone has one.0
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AllonsYtotheTardis wrote: »Maybe if you'd stop judging others, they'll stop judging you.
Um, no? You will notice her criticisms are in response to theirs not the other way around.0 -
sugamonstaa wrote: »Because you're challenging their comfort, you're making them self-conscious about their choices (which they understand are choices only by looking at yours). Smile through it, they'll get bored with it after a while. Even with the defensive motivation, chickpeas are only funny for so long.
lol funny you mention it. They said I was trying to make them feel bad but I joked and said, "sure that's not your guilt?" I get along with them great but im just annoyed with the put down lol other than that we all cool.
If that went down ok (which, really?? but ok), keep it light like that, it'll work
what do you mean which really- but okay?
that sounds like you're implying- really? you said that?
Not sure if serious or not- because that's EXACTLY what it is!!! their own guilt- so what- she called them out on it.
You don't get to give someone a hard time and then not get called out on it. Actually- people expect it frequently- we'd have more people minding their own business- and less hassling others if THEY WERE called out on it.
She was 100% right.
Right. Telling the truth at all times is excellent for work relationships.
My "really?" was two-fold
- did she really say that
- did they think it was funny (possible, depending)0 -
sugamonstaa wrote: »AllonsYtotheTardis wrote: »Maybe if you'd stop judging others, they'll stop judging you.
How was I judgong them? I joined but then de iced for my own good I didn't want to and then got made fun of each time I say no. Sometimes they even buy r anyways because they think it's funny to tempt me
"they are impulsive and weak" certainly doesn't sound like judgement to me and anyone that thinks it does is just a jealous hater.
Seems like an observation to me, it's also a defensive statement made after she was criticized similarly.
And since when is judgement bad? Don't we all judge daily ? Unfair judgement is bad perhaps but not fair informed judgement.0 -
It's sad that people who do not care about what they put into their body judge and criticize others who actually do. I would seriously just ignore them... People are ignorant, and I can't imagine having to deal with that at work everyday. Maybe it will help like someone else already suggested if when they ask if you want something you get like a tea or coffee or something... Then offer to go on the run sometimes too? It might help, and if it doesn't, then just say, oh well screw them in your head and forget about them because at the end of the day, haters are gonna hate!0
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It may be that they want you to be part of their group and that's their way of getting you in.I say you can be part of their goup but keep your own counsel because, unless they are paying your bills or buying your clothes their opinion can whistle. You just concentrate on what you're doing and leave them to do their thing.0
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I think it's that same mentality that makes people make fun of high-achievers for being "nerdy." It's easier to shame someone for something you know YOU should be doing than to acknowledge and praise - it's a lot easier to tear something down than to build it up.
Good job on sticking to what you're doing
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FemaleWarriorxo wrote: »And if they really REALLY REALLY are annoying you- just tell them " if I want to look like you- I'll eat like you"
I'm dying
The problem is that we really spend almost as much time with our coworkers thabn with our family - maintaining a stress- and suspenseful and uncomfortable relationship with them do big harm in the long run. I hope that eventually they'll stop, but if not just go with them for a tea every now and then. 0 -
I have been personally inconvenienced many times by the glutendairysugaregg free crowd. Super funny that you get hassled for being low maintenance and not wanting a milkshake at noon. Tell them your nutritionist put you on a very restricted diet for some unnamed rare intolerance. It seems to work for a lot of people.0
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there are a few options I can think of, call them on it or give a comeback as already suggested, explain what your goals are and why you have them so they can be in your corner instead of wondering what the heck is going on, misdirect their attention entirely "sorry not buying food out right now because I am saving my extra money for whatever..."
hope you find a good solution, it can be tough navagating issues with co workers0 -
sugamonstaa wrote: »Because you're challenging their comfort, you're making them self-conscious about their choices (which they understand are choices only by looking at yours). Smile through it, they'll get bored with it after a while. Even with the defensive motivation, chickpeas are only funny for so long.
lol funny you mention it. They said I was trying to make them feel bad but I joked and said, "sure that's not your guilt?" I get along with them great but im just annoyed with the put down lol other than that we all cool.
If that went down ok (which, really?? but ok), keep it light like that, it'll work
what do you mean which really- but okay?
that sounds like you're implying- really? you said that?
Not sure if serious or not- because that's EXACTLY what it is!!! their own guilt- so what- she called them out on it.
You don't get to give someone a hard time and then not get called out on it. Actually- people expect it frequently- we'd have more people minding their own business- and less hassling others if THEY WERE called out on it.
She was 100% right.
Right. Telling the truth at all times is excellent for work relationships.
My "really?" was two-fold
- did she really say that
- did they think it was funny (possible, depending)
So you think it wise to constantly lie to your colleagues?0 -
"Why did you leave your last job?"
"The culture from the top down was rotten. Management allowed the staff to treat the business location more as a high school than a work establishment. After spending x months attempting to help correct course, I found it far more efficient to find a new job."
Unless you're working at the local piggly wiggly, culture is a huge thing. If the culture is wrong, people will completely understand if you bail out.0 -
They jelly- that's how I view it.
I deal with it all the time from my coworkers.0 -
I was just being cheeky
"Why did you leave your last job?"
"The culture from the top down was rotten. Management allowed the staff to treat the business location more as a high school than a work establishment. After spending x months attempting to help correct course, I found it far more efficient to find a new job."
Unless you're working at the local piggly wiggly, culture is a huge thing. If the culture is wrong, people will completely understand if you bail out.
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I was just being cheeky
"Why did you leave your last job?"
"The culture from the top down was rotten. Management allowed the staff to treat the business location more as a high school than a work establishment. After spending x months attempting to help correct course, I found it far more efficient to find a new job."
Unless you're working at the local piggly wiggly, culture is a huge thing. If the culture is wrong, people will completely understand if you bail out.
I was being clear. It's 6am, I'm not cheeky, I'm headachy and probably wanting to be a little mean. lol.0 -
sugamonstaa wrote: »Because you're challenging their comfort, you're making them self-conscious about their choices (which they understand are choices only by looking at yours). Smile through it, they'll get bored with it after a while. Even with the defensive motivation, chickpeas are only funny for so long.
lol funny you mention it. They said I was trying to make them feel bad but I joked and said, "sure that's not your guilt?" I get along with them great but im just annoyed with the put down lol other than that we all cool.
If that went down ok (which, really?? but ok), keep it light like that, it'll work
what do you mean which really- but okay?
that sounds like you're implying- really? you said that?
Not sure if serious or not- because that's EXACTLY what it is!!! their own guilt- so what- she called them out on it.
You don't get to give someone a hard time and then not get called out on it. Actually- people expect it frequently- we'd have more people minding their own business- and less hassling others if THEY WERE called out on it.
She was 100% right.
Right. Telling the truth at all times is excellent for work relationships.
My "really?" was two-fold
- did she really say that
- did they think it was funny (possible, depending)
So you think it wise to constantly lie to your colleagues?
"you have bad breath"
"your jokes are terrible and i wish you'd stop telling them"
"your partner is unattractive"
"you're lazy and you're dragging everyone down"
"i think you stole my favourite spoon, but i can't prove it"
are things that cross people's minds. not all of it needs to be said.
life is long and networks are luck and money; any of those people could be clients or bosses or who knows what, now or later.0 -
skinny people eat some amazing food too. Funny thing to realize.
Something I HAVE noticed in my years cooking, is that skinny people usually make the best and most innovative food.
You are probably right. I am skinny now, and I am certainly not eating sand/twigs. My food is so good.
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I guess if you aren't working in a meritocracy based industry, then have at it.
I see nothing wrong with any of those.
"You have bad breath."
"Oh no! I have a presentation in 3 minutes. Do you have any gum?"
- Boom, just saved a team mate from being a jackwagon in a presentation.
"You're lazy and you're dragging everyone down."
- That's a solid and efficient way to correct a wayward team member, while also chronicling the counseling, in order to facilitate speedier and easier firing.
Networks are based on mutual value and contribution. Not looking out for someone in your network with little stuff like this means you aren't contributing value, and are not an investment worthy network resource.0 -
I do IF, and have had a **** of a time explaining this concept to my coworkers. They're firmly in the "breakfast is the most important meal of the day and if you don't eat it your body will slip into starvation mode and you'll DIE" camp, so they are at least 50% convinced that I have the most unhealthy eating habits possible.
That being said, after several months of politely declining lunch runs, doughnuts, and other snacks, the novelty of my declining these things wore off and I stopped hearing all but the occasional comment.
Live and let live (even if your coworkers can't follow that same advice).0 -
Bye Felicia0
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I guess if you aren't working in a meritocracy based industry, then have at it.
I see nothing wrong with any of those.
"You have bad breath."
"Oh no! I have a presentation in 3 minutes. Do you have any gum?"
- Boom, just saved a team mate from being a jackwagon in a presentation.
"You're lazy and you're dragging everyone down."
- That's a solid and efficient way to correct a wayward team member, while also chronicling the counseling, in order to facilitate speedier and easier firing.
Networks are based on mutual value and contribution. Not looking out for someone in your network with little stuff like this means you aren't contributing value, and are not an investment worthy network resource.
There's a difference between looking out for your colleague and commenting on their eating habits and motivations, lol!
Also what, to bolded? You'd say that to someone you work with (not supervise, and even then!)?0 -
Oh riiiiiight, you mentioned your field - tech, or video games, right? I feel like that that's kind of a special industry0
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sugamonstaa wrote: »Because you're challenging their comfort, you're making them self-conscious about their choices (which they understand are choices only by looking at yours). Smile through it, they'll get bored with it after a while. Even with the defensive motivation, chickpeas are only funny for so long.
lol funny you mention it. They said I was trying to make them feel bad but I joked and said, "sure that's not your guilt?" I get along with them great but im just annoyed with the put down lol other than that we all cool.
If that went down ok (which, really?? but ok), keep it light like that, it'll work
what do you mean which really- but okay?
that sounds like you're implying- really? you said that?
Not sure if serious or not- because that's EXACTLY what it is!!! their own guilt- so what- she called them out on it.
You don't get to give someone a hard time and then not get called out on it. Actually- people expect it frequently- we'd have more people minding their own business- and less hassling others if THEY WERE called out on it.
She was 100% right.
Right. Telling the truth at all times is excellent for work relationships.
My "really?" was two-fold
- did she really say that
- did they think it was funny (possible, depending)
Meh - work place relationships are overrated. I've even found the odd, "Go F yourself" useful in some workplace scenarios.
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sugamonstaa wrote: »AllonsYtotheTardis wrote: »Maybe if you'd stop judging others, they'll stop judging you.
How was I judgong them? I joined but then de iced for my own good I didn't want to and then got made fun of each time I say no. Sometimes they even buy r anyways because they think it's funny to tempt me
"they are impulsive and weak" certainly doesn't sound like judgement to me and anyone that thinks it does is just a jealous hater.
Seems like an observation to me, it's also a defensive statement made after she was criticized similarly.
And since when is judgement bad? Don't we all judge daily ? Unfair judgement is bad perhaps but not fair informed judgement.
oh, i'm sorry, i wasn't aware that at no point in time did the OP make a statement to any coworker ever that could possibly be construed as her judging them. i'll just take everything she says at face value and assume that she's a complete and total victim and that she's fully documented every interaction with coworkers right here in this thread. because the type of personality that would call someone impulsive and weak is certainly not the type of person that would ever let those feelings slip thru in their day to day interactions.
and if judgement is perfectly okay, why does this thread even exist? let's all just go home0 -
Does your co workers have a body like your profile pic? If not then they can't say anything.0
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Sounds like these people don't have enough to do at their jobs.
I don't see what the problem is to just say 'no thanks' and move on.0 -
I guess if you aren't working in a meritocracy based industry, then have at it.
I see nothing wrong with any of those.
"You have bad breath."
"Oh no! I have a presentation in 3 minutes. Do you have any gum?"
- Boom, just saved a team mate from being a jackwagon in a presentation.
"You're lazy and you're dragging everyone down."
- That's a solid and efficient way to correct a wayward team member, while also chronicling the counseling, in order to facilitate speedier and easier firing.
Networks are based on mutual value and contribution. Not looking out for someone in your network with little stuff like this means you aren't contributing value, and are not an investment worthy network resource.
There's a difference between looking out for your colleague and commenting on their eating habits and motivations, lol!
Also what, to bolded? You'd say that to someone you work with (not supervise, and even then!)?
which circles back around to you just shouldn't be doing so..... meaning- keep your mouth shut- and if you don't- then you open yourself up to all sorts of missiles- including "if I want to look like you- I'll eat like you"
Don't make comments- then people don't make comments back.
I'm not at work to make friends- or coddle them- I'm here to get my job done. Fortunately for me- I love my coworkers- and we have a great working relationship- and if they have bad breath- you're damn right I say something- like dude- you're killing me- go brush.
And yes- my boss has had conversations with us- fix your ish- or you're out. Allowing mediocrity to remain doesn't help anyone.0
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