Size 12 little black dress=Panic and anxiety

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  • jnv7594
    jnv7594 Posts: 983 Member
    edited March 2015
    Congrats to you. You look beautiful.

    My problem is that I felt like I was looking at a stranger in the mirror. I started to cry. Tears of disbelief, pride, fear, amazement, anger (towards my former overweight self)...so many emotions.

    And yes, having lost a large amount of weight myself, I have felt like this many times. You worded it perfectly. Just a couple of weeks ago I was trying on some clothes. I looked at my daughter and said it's so weird to look in the mirror...I don't even recognize myself. It's both thrilling and unsettling, and yes, I've experience that same anxiety. It's strange how that works.

  • DoneWorking
    DoneWorking Posts: 247 Member
    Hope you get used to the new you, because she really looks good! Nice job.
  • IAmTheGlue
    IAmTheGlue Posts: 701 Member
    You look amazing! I weighed in at 273 this morning (27 pounds down from a dr visit in January & more than 100 pounds from my goal weight) & I hope that I look as amazing as you do when I hit my goal. Seriously, you look great!
  • bainsworth1a
    bainsworth1a Posts: 313 Member
    i have not experienced that recently but my daughter did yesterday. I took her shopping for her birthday and she went to try on 12's and 14's in jeans. she put the 12's on and they fit perfectly. it was the best shopping experience she has had in a long time

    CONGRATULATIONS on your smaller size
  • bainsworth1a
    bainsworth1a Posts: 313 Member
    ps you look great in the "little black dress"
  • blankiefinder
    blankiefinder Posts: 3,599 Member
    edited March 2015
    You are absolutely gorgeous, and look fantastic in that dress! Congrats on the transformation! Yes, it will take a while to get used to the new you, I am going through the same thing myself!

    My husband keeps telling me how attractive I look now, (not that he ever, ever said otherwise!!) and I am struggling to accept it as truth and not that he's just looking for somethin' somethin' o:):p
  • perseverance14
    perseverance14 Posts: 1,364 Member
    Great story, great dress.
  • Selah722
    Selah722 Posts: 86 Member
    SO Beautiful! lovely lady! Congratulations!
  • StephannieL
    StephannieL Posts: 198 Member
    tatihesby wrote: »
    Love this story!!! WHERE is the "like" button?!?

    I agree!!!! MFP totally needs a "Like" button!

    Congrats to the OP on her amazing weight loss and new dress!!!! Enjoy and feel proud!

  • epido
    epido Posts: 353 Member
    You are beautiful, and that dress is fabulous!

    Congrats on the weight loss - you've done great! You aren't the only one who struggles with those types of emotions. I think it happens to anyone who has lost a substantial amount of weight. I know I've been there before. Heck, there are some days I still feel like that. Honestly, there are moments when I wonder if my brain is ever going to catch up with my body. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other. You'll get there!
  • emilyesq
    emilyesq Posts: 47 Member
    Wow, you're a knockout in that dress. Congrats!

    I had similar issues with clothes shopping back a few years ago when I got my weight under 200 pounds. I actually shopped at plus sized stores for ages, long after their sizes were way too big for me, because I just didn't realize how much smaller I was. I didn't get it until a friend of mine, who was always much smaller than me, offered to let me borrow one of her dresses for an event. I told her there was no way it would fit me, and then I tried it on, and it did, like a glove. The next day I went shopping and finally figured out that I was actually three sizes smaller than the clothes I'd been buying. It's a great feeling when you finally get it. :)
  • Princess_in_training84
    Princess_in_training84 Posts: 11 Member
    this is such an inspiration to me as i started at a similar weight...although mine is coming off so slowly with a total of 16lbs off so far
  • nola_girl504
    nola_girl504 Posts: 13 Member
    coonhoundlove wrote: »
    Just wondering if anyone else has experienced the emotions I just went through.

    In the last 15+ months I have lost almost 110# from my highest weight (SW-294, CW-185, GW-165 Height-5'10"). Yes, I have had to but new clothes along the way, but even when I tell myself I'm not a plus size woman anymore, I still gravitate towards and purchase mostly "safe", "conservative" fashions in sizes that are probably too big and baggy on my new body. Today, I met my best friend at the mall. We went into a store and she tried on an adorable little black dress and looked stunning in it. While the clerk was tending to her, I made the comment that I wished it came in my size. She quickly walked away to the sales floor and returned with a size 12 in the same dress. To be quite honest, I really didn't know what size I was, so I was a little apprehensive to try it on. Especially in a non-plus size store, which I have had to shop at for almost 10 years. I really didn't want to be embarrassed or emotionally crushed if I couldn't even get the darn thing over my hips. Reluctantly, I went into the fitting room and tried it on. I walked out to the large, 3-way mirror to get a better look. My best friend immediately hugged me and started to tear up a bit. I looked again at my reflection. The dress fit. Oh my gosh. Not only did it fit, but it looked amazing. I didn't have to suck my stomach in to get it zipped (thank you, core strengthening exercises and kettlebells), or need to tell myself that I won't look like a busted can of biscuits if I lose another 10#. My problem is that I felt like I was looking at a stranger in the mirror. I started to cry. Tears of disbelief, pride, fear, amazement, anger (towards my former overweight self)...so many emotions.

    I composed myself a bit, bought the dress, but couldn't forward to do any more shopping. I had to go home. I am trying to wrap my brain around this "new" me that I truly saw for the first time in that dressing room mirror today. Every rational, logical part of me tells me I should just be ecstatic and enjoy who I am now, but I am so overwhelmed with an array of feelings. I am feeling a little panic and anxiety because I don't know how to handle this.

    This post brought tears to my eyes. You don't realize how emotional weightloss can be. I recently changed my lifestyle and this really hits home. I cannot wait to fill my soul with such emotions. I am so happy to have read this.
    congratulations!
  • pmg2000m
    pmg2000m Posts: 44 Member
    Wow, you look fabulous! I'm so happy for you! You certainly worked hard, and you should be very proud of yourself :D
  • trina1049
    trina1049 Posts: 593 Member
    Dahling! You make that dress look fabulous! Every time you doubt yourself put it on and raise the roof!
  • urloved33
    urloved33 Posts: 3,323 Member
    Fabulous....get to know your new self.
  • spzjlb
    spzjlb Posts: 599 Member
    YOU LOOK FABULOUS!!!!! Thank you for being brave and sharing with us. I hope that you wear it a lot. I especially like your smile.
  • Sued0nim
    Sued0nim Posts: 17,456 Member
    trina1049 wrote: »
    Dahling! You make that dress look fabulous! Every time you doubt yourself put it on and raise the roof!

    This!
  • yiscaht
    yiscaht Posts: 25 Member
    Wow!!! I teared up reading, then scrolled down ... holy moly!! You look AHHHH-Mazing! Congratulations. Be prepared to turn heads when you decide to wear that out.
  • girlwithcurls2
    girlwithcurls2 Posts: 2,281 Member
    That's a great dress, and you look fantastic! It will take a while to process your feelings, but gradually, you will begin to see the new you as the real you :heart: When I read your original post, I was so happy to hear that you bought the dress!!! :)
  • navyjen
    navyjen Posts: 1,043 Member
    COngrats you look amazing and I bet you feel ever better. Happy happy for you.
  • laura3977
    laura3977 Posts: 191 Member
    Beautiful story - thank you for sharing!!! And like others have said, you make that dress look amazing!!!
  • Emilia777
    Emilia777 Posts: 978 Member
    I can’t help saying that you are really truly beautiful, both inside and out, by the sound of it! That dress looks just amazing on you - you should wear it with pride. Congratulations on your success :smile:

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