A really bad day

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  • dramos1961
    dramos1961 Posts: 81 Member
    Been there! My weakness is beer & wings. But you do have to enjoy life as long as you reset your focus next day. Working on a mind set of 5 days diet, 3-4 days workout & 2 day to enjoy life. As long as I lose 2 pounds a week ...it's all good. GLTA
  • mirrim52
    mirrim52 Posts: 763 Member
    Meh. Had my BFF's birthday party a couple weeks ago. Consisted of take out, followed by the opening of a jazz bar another friend owns, which meant booze and apps. Then back to our place for more booze, snacks, and fun. I estimated I ate/drank approx 1800 calories over my goal that day. Sure it slowed my weight loss down that week (by almost exactly half a pound), but it didn't kill me and since then everything has been back on track. Life happens.

    Log it and move on. Don't make a habit of it. This month my husband is throwing a big birthday party at our place. I am not even going to try counting that day. It will be the only day in 4 months that I haven't logged. I will probably just skip my weigh in that week and wait until the following week. Long term is the only thing that matters.
  • gpstreet
    gpstreet Posts: 184 Member
    Long term is what matters. Lifestyle changes so this is not just a diet but a way of life. Actually the soup is very very nice and really enjoying it.
  • wizzybeth
    wizzybeth Posts: 3,578 Member
    Spring break is different in various areas. My kids don't have any spring break. The closest we get to it is the Easter Holiday (today and Monday off) but they took away our Monday "off" because of too many snow days this year. :)

    OP I understand if you're not comfortable leaving your daughter at home alone - my mom never left me alone until I was a teen (much to my chagrin..used to annoy me to no end, lol..I'm not a baby! LOL) but every 10 year old is different. Can you take her with you for a walk? Do you have a partner or neighbor who could stay with her in the early morning or late afternoon so you can go for even a short ride?

  • AliceDark
    AliceDark Posts: 3,886 Member
    gpstreet wrote: »
    Long term is what matters. Lifestyle changes so this is not just a diet but a way of life. Actually the soup is very very nice and really enjoying it.
    So is your long-term plan to fast/just eat soup after every day that you overeat? Because that's a really bad plan.

  • jmagdalena707
    jmagdalena707 Posts: 28 Member
    Liftng4Lis wrote: »
    Log it and move on.

    This.

    Really no need to pay penance.

  • gpstreet
    gpstreet Posts: 184 Member
    Have logged it and will move on.
  • ncboiler89
    ncboiler89 Posts: 2,408 Member
    rabbitjb wrote: »
    gpstreet wrote: »
    Yesterday was a really bad day for me. Somehow I over indulged in hot cross buns, cheese sandwiches and beer. A couple of thousand calories over my limit. I am off work for two weeks so I have no chance to do my usual 20 mile cycle ride. Just wondered if anyone else has had these kind of days ? My thoughts have turned to fasting today to see if it will turn things round.

    Explain "somehow"

    And why can't you do your bike ride or similar

    Have you never over indulged in beer? Somehow a lot of things happen.
  • maidentl
    maidentl Posts: 3,203 Member
    gpstreet wrote: »
    However the weather cleared up enough to allow us to spend a couple of hours in the park but I am sure it is difficult to work out calories burnt pushing a child on a swing.

    One thing I had to learn early on - don't NOT do something because you can't calculate its calories. I get that you want "credit" for the activity but your body appreciates the movement. I'd also like to gently remind you that you're modeling behavior for your daughter. Please stop being a martyr and eat.
  • LAWoman72
    LAWoman72 Posts: 2,846 Member
    edited April 2015
    Not getting why having a child should be a hindrance to activity - don't they come built in with their own activity? My kids are exercise all by themselves! I don't need to "go anywhere" or join a gym to get active and have my kids right there. The activity doesn't HAVE to be cycling without the child, right? Or going to the gym and scrambling to find daycare?

    My kids and I go out front and do soccer drills and throw the baseball around and run all over the place trying to find it again when somebody misses. I go on walks with them. I take them to the park and I swing with them, I spin them on that...spinny-thing (have no idea what it's called), power-walk behind them when they're on their scooters because the scooters go fast. Or sometimes we'll switch off and one will be walk/running, another will be scooter-ing and I'll also be scooter-ing (which is a trip to watch but I've learned not to be embarrassed). We also do DVDs together - yoga and soon to be karate, as they are very interested in karate and are taking a weekly class so I think the tie-in to doing it at home as well would be great.

    I don't see why someone would have to go through hoops and pay oodles of money and find babysitting just because that person has a child...? Do stuff WITH your child and trust me, you'll be active! And yes, I did all this with my oldest when I was working full-time. In the winter we had to find more indoor stuff to do just because it was already so dark by 5PM but the rest of the year, we could get out there until 7, 8, whatever the latest "still not dark yet" time was. Pick up the child from daycare, have a quick dinner, and get out there, did this for years.
  • LAWoman72
    LAWoman72 Posts: 2,846 Member
    p.s. Hope you're feeling better about yourself today, OP. It's a brand-new day! Every choice is before you. You can make whatever choices you wish. And tomorrow and the next day. :) Hope all is going well!
  • janejellyroll
    janejellyroll Posts: 25,763 Member
    maidentl wrote: »
    gpstreet wrote: »
    However the weather cleared up enough to allow us to spend a couple of hours in the park but I am sure it is difficult to work out calories burnt pushing a child on a swing.

    One thing I had to learn early on - don't NOT do something because you can't calculate its calories. I get that you want "credit" for the activity but your body appreciates the movement. I'd also like to gently remind you that you're modeling behavior for your daughter. Please stop being a martyr and eat.

    So true. You don't have to understand exactly how many calories you have burned to benefit from movement.
  • ahoy_m8
    ahoy_m8 Posts: 3,053 Member
    I hope today is a better day. I go way over (having not planned to do so) every now and then, too. Can't speak for most folks, but I suspect many of us do. It's not what happens once in a blue moon that matters most, it's the small things done consistently and faithfully over and over that add up. As a practical matter, I'm often not too hungry the next day, so nothing wrong with eating light if that's the reason. Punitive restricting, however, just sets the table for the next binge. Best to avoid extremes on both ends. FWIW I too left my 10 year old daughter home alone for an hour or so while running in the neighborhood. Best to you!
  • runnrchic
    runnrchic Posts: 130 Member
    gpstreet wrote: »
    So far the fast has not been so bad. Have not felt hungry. However I am tucking into a small bowl of vegetable curry soup.

    Fasts are not bad if you do them correctly, with a purpose, have already lost most of your weight and have established good eating habits (and no disordered eating). They teach you to recognize hunger and that will you not starve because you don't eat immediately. You will also feel more full in the meals that you eat, so you may be able to feel like going overboard less. I want to lean out a little more so I'm trying the 15hr fast/ 9hr eating, so essentially I skip breakfast. So far it's been working great. It's honestly another means to the same end of calorie deficit, but you see food in a new way and practice some major discipline.
  • donjtomasco
    donjtomasco Posts: 790 Member
    Okay, so here is some simple math. There are roughly 2,000 steps in a mile. Get yourself a piece of paper and pencil and whenever your daughter is doing her own thing, walk the length of a hallway, or across the room back and forth and write down the number of steps you took before your daughter needs you. You can walk as many miles as you want in your own home. And mix on some sit ups and leg lifts. Grab a book in each hand and do some curls and shoulder reps with them. Get the idea? There really are zero excuses to burn calories if you really want to.
  • gpstreet
    gpstreet Posts: 184 Member
    new day. Measured my weight after a day of eating curry soup and one of the calorie rich caked I made with my daughter.

    Surprised to find my weight had dropped to below 82 kg which is a milestone for me :-)
  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,626 Member
    did you enjoy it? yes? good.

    do you eat like that frequently? no? good.

    eat it. log it. move on.

  • 999tigger
    999tigger Posts: 5,235 Member
    rabbitjb wrote: »
    gpstreet wrote: »
    Yesterday was a really bad day for me. Somehow I over indulged in hot cross buns, cheese sandwiches and beer. A couple of thousand calories over my limit. I am off work for two weeks so I have no chance to do my usual 20 mile cycle ride. Just wondered if anyone else has had these kind of days ? My thoughts have turned to fasting today to see if it will turn things round.

    Explain "somehow"

    And why can't you do your bike ride or similar

    This in the nano seconds it took me to read it. Its about mindset. I cant see whats to stop you doing 2x as much or going a different route. Stop creating obstacles for yourself and be a winner. Get healthy. Dp some weights whilst you are at it.

    A couple of thousand calories is nothing if you are doing 20 mile rides every day. Fast if you want to but uts a bit dramatic for someone who doesnt need it or is capable of burning it off in oher ways. restriction, especially if you dont wish to is dull.
  • Christine_72
    Christine_72 Posts: 16,049 Member
    edited April 2015
    Wow how times have changed. I was getting myself up and ready for school when I was 6. Then walking all the way there by myself. Teach your 10 year old to ride a bike... unless there's other reasons she can't learn or be left alone for an hour or two. If so, sorry.
  • 999tigger
    999tigger Posts: 5,235 Member
    edited April 2015
    Ahh i see it changed and you now decided to tell us you are with child.
    1. Find someone to babysit or take care of the child for an hour i.e cnat they go to a friends?
    2. You can exercise in front of the TV doing a workout.
    3. You can go and do an activity with your kid, swimming, skating, biking, walking.

    ps horrified by people saying leave the child alone. In this country its an offence to leave a ten year old alone and you would be in trouble with social services as well as the police.
  • Sued0nim
    Sued0nim Posts: 17,456 Member
    edited April 2015
    999tigger wrote: »
    Ahh i see it changed and you now decided to tell us you are with child.
    1. Find someone to babysit or take care of the child for an hour i.e cnat they go to a friends?
    2. You can exercise in front of the TV doing a workout.
    3. You can go and do an activity with your kid, swimming, skating, biking, walking.

    ps horrified by people saying leave the child alone. In this country its an offence to leave a ten year old alone and you would be in trouble with social services as well as the police.

    Which country is that? I seriously doubt any country has such laws

    In the UK, and from your terminology that's where it sounds like you're talking about, children go to secondary school at 11 and generally make the journey alone.

    So how would they grow the independence to do that? Do they suddenly hit 11 and be capable of making a 3 mile journey on their own to school?

    My 14 year old has been cycling 3 miles to school, through London for the last 3 years, before that he walked / got the bus. My 10 year old will be making a similar, but different, journey by bus in 6 months time. How could they do this without learning independence in small steps.

    Any child must to be allowed to learn how to be alone / manage. Although I assume from what GP has said his daughter has special needs which change this timeline.
  • Christine_72
    Christine_72 Posts: 16,049 Member
    rabbitjb wrote: »
    999tigger wrote: »
    Ahh i see it changed and you now decided to tell us you are with child.
    1. Find someone to babysit or take care of the child for an hour i.e cnat they go to a friends?
    2. You can exercise in front of the TV doing a workout.
    3. You can go and do an activity with your kid, swimming, skating, biking, walking.

    ps horrified by people saying leave the child alone. In this country its an offence to leave a ten year old alone and you would be in trouble with social services as well as the police.

    Which country is that? I seriously doubt any country has such laws

    In the UK, and from your terminology that's where it sounds like you're talking about, children go to secondary school at 11 and generally make the journey alone.

    So how would they grow the independence to do that? Do they suddenly hit 11 and be capable of making a 3 mile journey on their own to school?

    My 14 year old has been cycling 3 miles to school, through London for the last 3 years, before that he walked / got the bus. My 10 year old will be making a similar, but different, journey by bus in 6 months time. How could they do this without learning independence in small steps.

    Any child must to be allowed to learn how to be alone / manage. Although I assume from what GP has said his daughter has special needs which change this timeline.

    Exactly. My kids were independent, reliable and trustworthy from a young age. I've seen how coddled kids turn out. I refused to send my now adult kids into the world like that....
    Also there's no such law in Australia.

  • josul75
    josul75 Posts: 41 Member
    No way would I leave a 10 year old child home alone for an hour. Sure, I'd pop to the shop across the road, but most 10 year olds just aren't emotionally mature enough to handle possible emergencies when a parent is gone for that length of time.
    Like others have said, I would take your child for a walk with you, unless she is ill, in which case, you can workout at home. Your child might even enjoy doing the workouts with you - mine do!
  • 47Jacqueline
    47Jacqueline Posts: 6,993 Member
    Some days are diamonds, some days are coal - John Denver
  • Sued0nim
    Sued0nim Posts: 17,456 Member
    But you should be able to...that's down to your fear, not their abilities and as a parent you need to teach them how to cope
  • Christine_72
    Christine_72 Posts: 16,049 Member
    edited April 2015
    rabbitjb wrote: »
    But you should be able to...that's down to your fear, not their abilities and as a parent you need to teach them how to cope

    Are you reading my mind woman!!?? :D

  • Darthlance714
    Darthlance714 Posts: 10 Member
    Was craving donuts bought a bag, with about three donuts left realized it was not as good as I thought it would be, it was about 1200 calories to late
  • gpstreet
    gpstreet Posts: 184 Member
    edited April 2015
    Leaving a child alone depends upon the child I believe. A 15 year old is technically a child right ? You know your child and know if they will be fine or not. I am coming to the conclusion that the odd bad day is not so bad. Just not to make it a habit.
  • bigd66218
    bigd66218 Posts: 376 Member
    It's just one bad day, log it and move on!!
  • amusedmonkey
    amusedmonkey Posts: 10,330 Member
    Be very careful with the fasting if you are planning to do it. It could easily turn into a bad thing if you do it as a form of punishment. I do it, but I do it as a part of a system that works for me, no guilt involved. Maybe it's best to work on your feelings and reactions to food, it will help you a lot with both weight loss and maintenance.
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