You don't have to explain your diet to everyone. Just take ownership.
californiagirl2012
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One of the biggest mistakes people make in the beginning is feeling the need to explain their diet to everyone, or explain why they are not eating this or that in a social situation.
There is also the pressure from others, all the "food pushers" in our life. Just don't let them have ownership of what you put into your body. It's not their body, it's yours. You don't have to explain that to them, but you do have to DECIDE it is yours to own.
Take ownership for food intake. Never again give that ownership to friends and family. If you are at a party and there is cake, you can decide for yourself to have the cake or not. Own what you put in your body.
You don’t have to explain why you decide to not have cake. You don’t have to explain you are on a diet. Just simply say “No thank you” and OWN IT.
Cake is not bad. I don't believe in good food and bad food lists. However, there are times when we say no to stay on track. I always remind myself there is a NEXT TIME.
When I do have cake, I ALWAYS want more. Of course we want more we are human. Most of us can eat the whole dang thing. Every dang day. But, that won't get us to our fitness goals. And if you are already at your goal, it won't keep you there.
It's a lifestyle. Little choices every day. Nothing big and drastic or even very exciting in the day to day effort.
There is also the pressure from others, all the "food pushers" in our life. Just don't let them have ownership of what you put into your body. It's not their body, it's yours. You don't have to explain that to them, but you do have to DECIDE it is yours to own.
Take ownership for food intake. Never again give that ownership to friends and family. If you are at a party and there is cake, you can decide for yourself to have the cake or not. Own what you put in your body.
You don’t have to explain why you decide to not have cake. You don’t have to explain you are on a diet. Just simply say “No thank you” and OWN IT.
Cake is not bad. I don't believe in good food and bad food lists. However, there are times when we say no to stay on track. I always remind myself there is a NEXT TIME.
When I do have cake, I ALWAYS want more. Of course we want more we are human. Most of us can eat the whole dang thing. Every dang day. But, that won't get us to our fitness goals. And if you are already at your goal, it won't keep you there.
It's a lifestyle. Little choices every day. Nothing big and drastic or even very exciting in the day to day effort.
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Right on. Why people think that it's "polite" to let others criticize and/or pressure them is way beyond me.0
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That is something I need to hear. You have made great progress yourself and I hope to do the same for myself. Thanks for the 'kick in the pants'!0
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Reminds me of the thread where someone pushed food on a girl who said "no thank you" and the pusher kept pushing so then the girl took the item and dropped it straight into the trash in front of the pusher. lol!!!0
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You...I like0
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Amen.0
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This is quality advice, and your photo certainly backs you up because you look incredible.
My personal strategy is just trying to make the food pusher uncomfortable if they're persistent. As in, when "no, thank you" doesn't work, then "Well, you know cupcakes give you a muffin top!" does.0 -
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Agreed 100%. My life became so much easier when I stopped explaining myself to other people.0
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So true
And tbh it's good to hear this
I have a few food pushers in my life... including my boyfriend
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This is exactly how I live my life. It makes other people uncomfortable, particularly the food pushers and those who equate food with love, but I don't care. As long as I am not uncomfortable then it's up to others to deal with their own issues.
Sounds harsh, but in all practicality it really isn't. Social event, food is set out, someone says, "Eat! Grab a plate!". "I will when I'm ready, thank you." Rinse, repeat. People tire of it and move on to their next "victim". So I say to everyone here, make sure you aren't the next victim! Find your voice and set your boundaries. It can be done very quietly as a matter of fact.0 -
*clap clap*
I had an issue with someone at work once always pushing yummy, randomly brought in stuff. When I asked for advice on polite ways to say no. I got torn apart, saying that I should not be rude and just eat it, etc etc. No, I don't have to conform to my old ways/your ways.
Example, with it being Nurses week, I know there's gonna be lotsa yummies and treats brought in for this week and next. I'm alloting some space for it, IF I want it. If it's not worth it, oh well, that's only more calories for more dinner or something I actually want!0 -
Great post, OP. My body, my choice what goes on it. Food pushers and people in general will eventually learn that you are not an easy target and move on to someone easier to control. Stand your ground.
I don't mention trying to lose weight to anyone so there is less drama overall.0 -
Great post and I was shocked when I saw you were 54 years old. I am sure you are very tired of giving advice but can I ask you what you think is the single most important factor in getting such great arms? Is it hitting your protein goal or is it more to do with lifting technique/time invested?? Thanks in advance if you take the time to respond!0
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farfromthetree wrote: »Great post and I was shocked when I saw you were 54 years old. I am sure you are very tired of giving advice but can I ask you what you think is the single most important factor in getting such great arms? Is it hitting your protein goal or is it more to do with lifting technique/time invested?? Thanks in advance if you take the time to respond!
Focus on protein, calorie deficit, and hit those weights!!! And patience. That is all.
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Couldn't agree more.0
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hollyrayburn wrote: »*clap clap*
I had an issue with someone at work once always pushing yummy, randomly brought in stuff. When I asked for advice on polite ways to say no. I got torn apart, saying that I should not be rude and just eat it, etc etc. No, I don't have to conform to my old ways/your ways.
Example, with it being Nurses week, I know there's gonna be lotsa yummies and treats brought in for this week and next. I'm alloting some space for it, IF I want it. If it's not worth it, oh well, that's only more calories for more dinner or something I actually want!
I'm sorry that happened. I remember that thread. However, good for you for not giving in! Learning to turn food down and not feeling badly about it is an important step in taking control of your health.0 -
californiagirl2012 wrote: »farfromthetree wrote: »Great post and I was shocked when I saw you were 54 years old. I am sure you are very tired of giving advice but can I ask you what you think is the single most important factor in getting such great arms? Is it hitting your protein goal or is it more to do with lifting technique/time invested?? Thanks in advance if you take the time to respond!
Focus on protein, calorie deficit, and hit those weights!!! And patience. That is all.
awesome! I definitely will. Thank you!0 -
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hollyrayburn wrote: »*clap clap*
Example, with it being Nurses week, I know there's gonna be lotsa yummies and treats brought in for this week and next. I'm alloting some space for it, IF I want it. If it's not worth it, oh well, that's only more calories for more dinner or something I actually want!
I love nurses week. Our supervisor has a pancake breakfast every year for us. When asked if I want any of the extra goodies, I usually just end it with "no I'm good" My coworkers are usually pretty good with that response.0 -
hollyrayburn wrote: »*clap clap*
Example, with it being Nurses week, I know there's gonna be lotsa yummies and treats brought in for this week and next. I'm alloting some space for it, IF I want it. If it's not worth it, oh well, that's only more calories for more dinner or something I actually want!
I love nurses week. Our supervisor has a pancake breakfast every year for us. When asked if I want any of the extra goodies, I usually just end it with "no I'm good" My coworkers are usually pretty good with that response.
Our psych doctor brought in cheesecake this week.
Next week, a biscuit breakfast, a lunch, and an ice cream social are planned throughout the week. I may not partake in the biscuits, since they're usually not worth the calories unless it's homemade, but I am sure they can fit in something for lunch, and I'll make room for the ice cream social. because ice cream!0 -
Also, why should I have to explain why I have avocados and whole wheat wraps. Is it okay to ask someone "why are you eating that third brownie when you're morbidly obese and diabetic?" Nope. Our bodies, our businesses.
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asflatasapancake wrote: »I'm still the only dude who has posted to this thread. Was this meant only for women?
Not at all!0 -
One of THE best things I've read in these forums. And go you for being 54 and in such phenomenal shape!! I just turned 52 and have discovered the joys of weight lifting... if I could look half as good as you a year from now I'd be seriously happy!0
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I am eating this food because I want to eat this food. OMNOMNOMNOMNOMNOM.0
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asflatasapancake wrote: »I'm still the only dude who has posted to this thread. Was this meant only for women?
LOL no I didn't mean it for just women. As far as I know this is a COED forum.
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scottacular wrote: »I am eating this food because I want to eat this food. OMNOMNOMNOMNOMNOM.
NOM NOM NOM NOM... Love it!!!!!!!!
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OMG! This is so true.!!0
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Love all of this!! And 75% of the time or more people also don't give a crap what you are eating or why.0
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Yup for sure..same thing applies to life in general...
I own myself and my decisions and choices...I don't get "pushed"0
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