You don't have to explain your diet to everyone. Just take ownership.

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  • hollyrayburn
    hollyrayburn Posts: 905 Member
    asflatasapancake wrote: »
    I'm still the only dude who has posted to this thread. Was this meant only for women?

    Not at all!
  • tekkiechikk
    tekkiechikk Posts: 375 Member
    One of THE best things I've read in these forums. And go you for being 54 and in such phenomenal shape!! I just turned 52 and have discovered the joys of weight lifting... if I could look half as good as you a year from now I'd be seriously happy!
  • scottacular
    scottacular Posts: 597 Member
    I am eating this food because I want to eat this food. OMNOMNOMNOMNOMNOM.
  • californiagirl2012
    californiagirl2012 Posts: 2,625 Member
    asflatasapancake wrote: »
    I'm still the only dude who has posted to this thread. Was this meant only for women?

    LOL no I didn't mean it for just women. As far as I know this is a COED forum. <3B)

  • californiagirl2012
    californiagirl2012 Posts: 2,625 Member
    scottacular wrote: »
    I am eating this food because I want to eat this food. OMNOMNOMNOMNOMNOM.

    NOM NOM NOM NOM... Love it!!!!!!!! <3
  • stukawife
    stukawife Posts: 45 Member
    OMG! This is so true.!!
  • girlviernes
    girlviernes Posts: 2,402 Member
    Love all of this!! And 75% of the time or more people also don't give a crap what you are eating or why.
  • SezxyStef
    SezxyStef Posts: 15,268 Member
    Yup for sure..same thing applies to life in general...

    I own myself and my decisions and choices...I don't get "pushed"
  • segacs
    segacs Posts: 4,599 Member
    Great post!

    I think a lot of times when people complain about the judgment they get for their diet, it's because they're talking about their diet.

    "No thanks, I'm counting calories and it would push me over for the day" is just an invitation to the other person to comment and start a whole conversation about weight loss. It will inevitably lead to them giving their opinion, going on and on about their own struggles with weight loss, bringing up the latest fad diet, or going down any number of rabbit holes.

    "No, thanks" is enough. If they ask again, follow up with "really, no thanks, I'm fine" and leave it at that.

    We often get the reactions we ask for.

  • SarcasmIsMyLoveLanguage
    SarcasmIsMyLoveLanguage Posts: 2,668 Member
    segacs wrote: »
    Great post!

    I think a lot of times when people complain about the judgment they get for their diet, it's because they're talking about their diet.

    "No thanks, I'm counting calories and it would push me over for the day" is just an invitation to the other person to comment and start a whole conversation about weight loss. It will inevitably lead to them giving their opinion, going on and on about their own struggles with weight loss, bringing up the latest fad diet, or going down any number of rabbit holes.

    "No, thanks" is enough. If they ask again, follow up with "really, no thanks, I'm fine" and leave it at that.

    We often get the reactions we ask for.
    good point

  • Annapululu
    Annapululu Posts: 6 Member
    People: "How dare they say NO?!" *The M.F.P. crowd begins a slow thunderous clap* -world breaks-
  • mhankosk
    mhankosk Posts: 532 Member
    A lot of times, my friends will say "calories dont count when you're.... eating standing up, eating with friends, having cake, etc". It's so annoying. I'm like "no, they do count and they dont fit into my day/week so leave me alone" :p
  • jemhh
    jemhh Posts: 14,261 Member
    asflatasapancake wrote: »
    I'm still the only dude who has posted to this thread. Was this meant only for women?

    I don't think so. I will say that, in general from what I have observed, more women than men seem to have more trouble saying "no" without more of an explanation than men do. (This is a generalization based on my own observation of the women around me.)
  • Alyssa_Is_LosingIt
    Alyssa_Is_LosingIt Posts: 4,696 Member
    This is an awesome post, and OMG you look amazeballs.
  • sofaking6
    sofaking6 Posts: 4,589 Member
    jemhh wrote: »
    asflatasapancake wrote: »
    I'm still the only dude who has posted to this thread. Was this meant only for women?

    I don't think so. I will say that, in general from what I have observed, more women than men seem to have more trouble saying "no" without more of an explanation than men do. (This is a generalization based on my own observation of the women around me.)

    Men know what they want, women need someone to tell us.
  • avskk
    avskk Posts: 1,787 Member
    One of my favorite tools with pushy people is to turn it back on them. "Wow, what I eat is really important to you!" "Why is it so important to you that I eat this?" "What happens if I don't have any? You seem really concerned."
  • TiffanyR71
    TiffanyR71 Posts: 217 Member
    avskk wrote: »
    One of my favorite tools with pushy people is to turn it back on them. "Wow, what I eat is really important to you!" "Why is it so important to you that I eat this?" "What happens if I don't have any? You seem really concerned."

    Love this! Would love to see the reaction... Will have to try that one out when "No, thanks" doesn't seem to suffice.
  • jemhh
    jemhh Posts: 14,261 Member
    edited May 2015
    sofaking6 wrote: »
    jemhh wrote: »
    asflatasapancake wrote: »
    I'm still the only dude who has posted to this thread. Was this meant only for women?

    I don't think so. I will say that, in general from what I have observed, more women than men seem to have more trouble saying "no" without more of an explanation than men do. (This is a generalization based on my own observation of the women around me.)

    Men know what they want, women need someone to tell us.

    I can't tell if you are being serious or not.

    I think it's a matter of more women being concerned with hurting people's feelings. Not that men are out to hurt people's feelings. Just that fewer of them associate "no, I don't want cake" with personal rejection than do women. When I tell my sister "no, I don't want cake," she hears "I think your cake looks gross and would never eat it. In fact I can't believe you are eating it. Why would you eat that cake? Don't you know it's terrible for you? And by the way your roots are showing." So when I tell her no, I am more apt to try to explain a bit more. When I tell my husband "no, I don't want cake," he hears "Jemhh does not want cake. I can put the lid back on it without cutting her a piece."
  • azulvioleta6
    azulvioleta6 Posts: 4,195 Member
    No kidding...how is this not completely obvious?

  • azulvioleta6
    azulvioleta6 Posts: 4,195 Member
    sofaking6 wrote: »
    jemhh wrote: »
    asflatasapancake wrote: »
    I'm still the only dude who has posted to this thread. Was this meant only for women?

    I don't think so. I will say that, in general from what I have observed, more women than men seem to have more trouble saying "no" without more of an explanation than men do. (This is a generalization based on my own observation of the women around me.)

    Men know what they want, women need someone to tell us.

    Speak for yourself. :/

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