Whats up with the unfriendly pple in MFP???

whitnapkin

Maybe it is the lack of food and people are just hangry

Annd. This.. is the hardest I've laughed all day. Such a good point!! Thanks! lol

_SusieQ_

I've been here a while and cultivated a great friends list. I also tend to overshare as I get more comfortable. So I don't add new people very often unless I have a vague idea they would be a good fit. Maybe some people think that is not being supportive but really, I'm not here for YOU, I'm here for me.

markymarrkk

Most of the time it's just people being HONEST and not candy coating B.S. I prefer to bish slap people with science than encourage your unicorn poop cleanse diets

BeachIron

Yeah some people can get mean. I commented on a post to try and help someone and someone jumped in saying how wrong I was and its all off even though what i said made me loose 20 lbs and my trainer told me it lol. Its really annoying but I just brush it off cause no matter what they're gunna be b*tchy

I agree that some people can be mean, but I checked that posting and they weren't being mean or b*tchy. They were telling you what's healthy. (I'm assuming you are talking about this post: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1011197-to-eat-or-not-to-eat-that-is-my-question) They also explained why they said what they said.
They didn't say "oh you're dumb". THAT is mean and rude and uncalled for. They didn't say that because they don't think that. They think you may have been misguided. And they want to help. :flowerforyou:


There are lots of unfriendly people on here.
But there are a lot of friendly and super helpful people on here too that get mistaken for unfriendly because they are brutally honest when answering questions. They have been in many situations that other newer people ask about, and they want newer people to not deal with all the BS they went through. So they give the straightforward blunt truth which often gets mistaken for bullying, being mean, rudeness, etc... They are also quick to correct things when someone gives out false information. Something that also gets mistaken for rudeness, etc...

Thing is, if they keep being called rude and mean, they will eventually stop helping. And I dread that day.... :frown:

Oh. Of course. From what I've seen, the meanie threads, and their supporters, are related to a prior post where the OP was given solid information, albeit without too much handholding. smh

Careful....

Oh come now. So what you're saying is people would rather get warm and fuzzy internet hugs, and "atta girls/boys" while they go on VLCDs and sweat for hours a day on programs that won't get them to their goals and may actually cause lasting harm, than to be told the plain, unvarnished truth so they can instead achieve their goals in a most efficient manner? Yea. Okay. You're right . . .

skullshank

When people are mean, report them by holding the Alt key and then press F4, and that'll bring up the report window.

this.

also, disagreeing =/= "mean."

RGv2

Yeah some people can get mean. I commented on a post to try and help someone and someone jumped in saying how wrong I was and its all off even though what i said made me loose 20 lbs and my trainer told me it lol. Its really annoying but I just brush it off cause no matter what they're gunna be b*tchy

I agree that some people can be mean, but I checked that posting and they weren't being mean or b*tchy. They were telling you what's healthy. (I'm assuming you are talking about this post: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1011197-to-eat-or-not-to-eat-that-is-my-question) They also explained why they said what they said.
They didn't say "oh you're dumb". THAT is mean and rude and uncalled for. They didn't say that because they don't think that. They think you may have been misguided. And they want to help. :flowerforyou:


There are lots of unfriendly people on here.
But there are a lot of friendly and super helpful people on here too that get mistaken for unfriendly because they are brutally honest when answering questions. They have been in many situations that other newer people ask about, and they want newer people to not deal with all the BS they went through. So they give the straightforward blunt truth which often gets mistaken for bullying, being mean, rudeness, etc... They are also quick to correct things when someone gives out false information. Something that also gets mistaken for rudeness, etc...

Thing is, if they keep being called rude and mean, they will eventually stop helping. And I dread that day.... :frown:

Oh. Of course. From what I've seen, the meanie threads, and their supporters, are related to a prior post where the OP was given solid information, albeit without too much handholding. smh

Careful....

Oh come now. So what you're saying is people would rather get warm and fuzzy internet hugs, and "atta girls/boys" while they go on VLCDs and sweat for hours a day on programs that won't get them to their goals and may actually cause lasting harm, than to be told the plain, unvarnished truth so they can instead achieve their goals in a most efficient manner? Yea. Okay. You're right . . .

I just want to make sure you're not misunderstood and your solid info isn't construed as mean.

lilbrowngirlsj

Maybe it is the lack of food and people are just hangry

HAHAHAHAHA! Probably!

tapirfrog

I'm not sure what you wanted to accomplish with this post. Saying "People are mean" isn't going to *change* the mean people. If anything, it will attract them to your post to be mean some more.

bigcrystal123

I hear u on that some people can be rude as hell on here.all we r asking for is support and motivation. We are all changing our lifestyles. So we all should be helping each other not being rude to each other

Contrarian

Maybe it is the lack of food and people are just hangry

Annd. This.. is the hardest I've laughed all day. Such a good point!! Thanks! lol

No matter how many hundreds of times this is mentioned, it remains as funny as it was the first time.

AutumnRed84

Maybe it is the lack of food and people are just hangry

lol this

and to those that are "soooo tired" of replying to the same questions over and over andoverrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr....

why do you reply then?? just don't, we won't miss ya :laugh:

AGREED!!!

BrainyBurro

When people are mean, report them by holding the Alt key and then press F4, and that'll bring up the report window.

this.

also, disagreeing =/= "mean."

i agree in the meanest possible way. :flowerforyou:

jofjltncb6

Yeah some people can get mean. I commented on a post to try and help someone and someone jumped in saying how wrong I was and its all off even though what i said made me loose 20 lbs and my trainer told me it lol. Its really annoying but I just brush it off cause no matter what they're gunna be b*tchy

I agree that some people can be mean, but I checked that posting and they weren't being mean or b*tchy. They were telling you what's healthy. (I'm assuming you are talking about this post: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1011197-to-eat-or-not-to-eat-that-is-my-question) They also explained why they said what they said.
They didn't say "oh you're dumb". THAT is mean and rude and uncalled for. They didn't say that because they don't think that. They think you may have been misguided. And they want to help. :flowerforyou:


There are lots of unfriendly people on here.
But there are a lot of friendly and super helpful people on here too that get mistaken for unfriendly because they are brutally honest when answering questions. They have been in many situations that other newer people ask about, and they want newer people to not deal with all the BS they went through. So they give the straightforward blunt truth which often gets mistaken for bullying, being mean, rudeness, etc... They are also quick to correct things when someone gives out false information. Something that also gets mistaken for rudeness, etc...

Thing is, if they keep being called rude and mean, they will eventually stop helping. And I dread that day.... :frown:

This actually already happens...or more accurately, has been happening for many years now. The next time someone resurrects a zombie thread, look back through the names of the people providing the best advice. Most of them are no longer here.

Did they move on of their own accord? Maybe. Or maybe they tired of being called out as "mean" or "rude" for providing valid advice that others didn't want to hear.

It's all happened before...and it will happen again.

cmriverside

People generally see what they want to see - on forums and in real life.


If you think everyone is a big meanie, check yourself. If that is how you approach/filter the world, you're going to find a lot of that. Assume the best in people, and that's what you'll see.

On any given thread, there will be 98% helpful suggestions and 2% sarcasm or flippancy.

Choose to see the 98%. Your life will be ever so much more enjoyable.

BeachIron

Yeah some people can get mean. I commented on a post to try and help someone and someone jumped in saying how wrong I was and its all off even though what i said made me loose 20 lbs and my trainer told me it lol. Its really annoying but I just brush it off cause no matter what they're gunna be b*tchy

I agree that some people can be mean, but I checked that posting and they weren't being mean or b*tchy. They were telling you what's healthy. (I'm assuming you are talking about this post: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1011197-to-eat-or-not-to-eat-that-is-my-question) They also explained why they said what they said.
They didn't say "oh you're dumb". THAT is mean and rude and uncalled for. They didn't say that because they don't think that. They think you may have been misguided. And they want to help. :flowerforyou:


There are lots of unfriendly people on here.
But there are a lot of friendly and super helpful people on here too that get mistaken for unfriendly because they are brutally honest when answering questions. They have been in many situations that other newer people ask about, and they want newer people to not deal with all the BS they went through. So they give the straightforward blunt truth which often gets mistaken for bullying, being mean, rudeness, etc... They are also quick to correct things when someone gives out false information. Something that also gets mistaken for rudeness, etc...

Thing is, if they keep being called rude and mean, they will eventually stop helping. And I dread that day.... :frown:

Oh. Of course. From what I've seen, the meanie threads, and their supporters, are related to a prior post where the OP was given solid information, albeit without too much handholding. smh

Careful....

Oh come now. So what you're saying is people would rather get warm and fuzzy internet hugs, and "atta girls/boys" while they go on VLCDs and sweat for hours a day on programs that won't get them to their goals and may actually cause lasting harm, than to be told the plain, unvarnished truth so they can instead achieve their goals in a most efficient manner? Yea. Okay. You're right . . .

I just want to make sure you're not misunderstood and your solid info isn't construed as mean.

Pushy. Not mean by any standard other than, perhaps, MFP. And honestly, I'd rather be construed as mean, than to support VLCDs or other hair brained ideas.

1ConcreteGirl

Nobody has an obligation to cushion-pad good advice. Take it as information and move on.

What you're doing is basically complaining about the birthday present someone gave you because they wrapped it in the wrong color paper.

sbabor

I try not to be unfriendly. I look at this site as a way to encourage others as well as myself. I have been on the site a little over 3 weeks. Who am I to judge?
There is a closed website my sister got me invited into that seems to be an excellent support site and many MFP are members there. Again there, like here there is a hesitancy to show all your cards so to speak, but I am not holding any aces or trump cards, if you know what I mean.

I love people and if I can help, please let me know.

sbabor

RGv2

Yeah some people can get mean. I commented on a post to try and help someone and someone jumped in saying how wrong I was and its all off even though what i said made me loose 20 lbs and my trainer told me it lol. Its really annoying but I just brush it off cause no matter what they're gunna be b*tchy

I agree that some people can be mean, but I checked that posting and they weren't being mean or b*tchy. They were telling you what's healthy. (I'm assuming you are talking about this post: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1011197-to-eat-or-not-to-eat-that-is-my-question) They also explained why they said what they said.
They didn't say "oh you're dumb". THAT is mean and rude and uncalled for. They didn't say that because they don't think that. They think you may have been misguided. And they want to help. :flowerforyou:


There are lots of unfriendly people on here.
But there are a lot of friendly and super helpful people on here too that get mistaken for unfriendly because they are brutally honest when answering questions. They have been in many situations that other newer people ask about, and they want newer people to not deal with all the BS they went through. So they give the straightforward blunt truth which often gets mistaken for bullying, being mean, rudeness, etc... They are also quick to correct things when someone gives out false information. Something that also gets mistaken for rudeness, etc...

Thing is, if they keep being called rude and mean, they will eventually stop helping. And I dread that day.... :frown:

Oh. Of course. From what I've seen, the meanie threads, and their supporters, are related to a prior post where the OP was given solid information, albeit without too much handholding. smh

Careful....

Oh come now. So what you're saying is people would rather get warm and fuzzy internet hugs, and "atta girls/boys" while they go on VLCDs and sweat for hours a day on programs that won't get them to their goals and may actually cause lasting harm, than to be told the plain, unvarnished truth so they can instead achieve their goals in a most efficient manner? Yea. Okay. You're right . . .

I just want to make sure you're not misunderstood and your solid info isn't construed as mean.

Pushy. Not mean by any standard other than, perhaps, MFP. And honestly, I'd rather be construed as mean, than to support VLCDs or other hair brained ideas.

Agreed, I was trying to play along.

tapirfrog

Nobody has an obligation to cushion-pad good advice. Take it as information and move on.

What you're doing is basically complaining about the birthday present someone gave you because they wrapped it in the wrong color paper.

^^^ THIS

shortie_sarah

Hmm... I think I may have an understanding of some things now. Those of us (and I say "us" because I have been there) who think people are being 'mean' are perceiving them as being mean, when in reality, they aren't. It seems like we think they are mean or rude simply because they disagreed with us. I really think that's something that us sensitive people need to get over.. Give it a week or so and go back and re-read what you thought was mean. I can almost guarantee that you will no longer see it as mean but simply someone just disagreeing with you and explaining why. I know it can seem like they are rude because you are so wrapped in your opinion and people don't see your opinion to be right so you have everyone jumping in to tell you how your way is wrong, so it results in you feeling almost like a victim, but that isn't true. It really is a matter of perspective. Try looking at the replies as informative instead of mean or rude...

Now I gathered this just from my own experience and observations of what people are referring to as mean or rude... this is my opinion on why we sensitive people tend to take informative replies that disagree with us the wrong way..