i want to give up help

fat_killer1

im not even finished day 1 and i want to give up im trying hard not to

kindrabbit

Why? What made you start counting calories today? What is your goal?

Gska17

It gets easier, almost second nature! Hang in there!

fat_killer1

Karen_libert wrote: »

Why? What made you start counting calories today? What is your goal?

i duno its i want the weight gone but its so hard

kshama2001

Creating new habits is hard at first, but once they are habits they become second nature.

Are you trying to do too much at once? How many pounds per week are you trying to lose?

fat_killer1

kshama2001 wrote: »

Creating new habits is hard at first, but once they are habits they become second nature.

Are you trying to do too much at once? How many pounds per week are you trying to lose?

hi id be happy with 0.1 any thing at all il take

debsdoingthis

Not much information to go on. How low did your set your calories?

elphie754

To be 100% blunt- if you are that quick to throw in the towel, you likely won't succeed.

Balikkk

Try it a little slower, you don't have to lose 2 lbs a week. You can go 1 lbs or even lower if you feel like you are starving yourself at this pace.
What makes it difficult for you?

fearlessleader104

When you say give up, what does that mean?

kindrabbit

fat_killer1 wrote: »

Karen_libert wrote: »

Why? What made you start counting calories today? What is your goal?

i duno its i want the weight gone but its so hard

What are you finding hard? Counting calories? How many calories are you allowing yourself?

malibu927

Remind yourself of the potential consequences to your health if you give up. This is going to be a very long process, especially when you have a lot to lose, and you'll find moments that will bring you down all the time. The trick is to get back up and get going again.

goaliesmate

Aim to lose half a pound a week - that won't seem so hard. Start by not eating half the food on your plate. Wait 10 minutes before you start to eat the 2nd half and stop when you feel satisfied. Over time you may discover the first half was all you needed to feel satisfied. Be patient with yourself. It will take months to lose the weight it has taken you years to gain.

fat_killer1

i have not set any calories im just trying to eat healthier and use this website for support and motivation along with tracking my weigh

kshama2001

What have you eaten today? I'm wondering if you want to give up because you haven't eaten enough.

fat_killer1

i ate eggs and toast / a chicken roll / steak and potatos / a yogart / and about 10 strawberrys

Sued0nim

When you decide to commit you'll do it and you'll learn how

Until you commit you will have issues

So work on your commitment

Why do you want to do this, what will happen if you don't

Sued0nim

If you count your calories you may learn something too

kindrabbit

You're goal to eat "healthier" is quite vague. Also, just choosing "healthy" foods is not necessarily going to help you loose weight. If it is weight loss you are after the best advice I can give is to enter all your stats into mfp (I think it asks for them when you register) and eat the number of calories it suggests. Weigh and measure absolutely everything that you eat. If you stay within the calorie allowance you will loose weight. I have list over a stone so far you do have to get a little obsessive but it works if you stick to it. It doesn't have to be"healthy" it just has to be within the allowance set for you. Feel free to have a look at my diary.

forgtmenot

fat_killer1 wrote: »

i have not set any calories im just trying to eat healthier and use this website for support and motivation along with tracking my weigh

You don't necessarily have to eat healthy to lose weight. You just have to eat less calories than you have to to maintain the weight you're at. I recommend using the calorie counting portion of the site. I eat mostly healthy, but it is mostly so I will get more food to eat since healthy food tends to be less calorie dense, but I still eat things I want every day. I still eat pizza, ice cream, chips, cookies, etc. I just don't eat loads of them all day every day. If you start counting the calories you will see that you can have those things as long as they fit into your calorie goal. Calorie counting can actually be less restrictive than just saying "I can only eat x y z". You can still gain weight on too much "healthy food" too.

You can do this!

goaliesmate

fat_killer1 wrote: »

i ate eggs and toast / a chicken roll / steak and potatos / a yogart / and about 10 strawberrys

That is enough to feed a mouse. No wonder you want to give up. Add some fruit to the breakfast. A large bowl of salad or vegetables to lunch. Ditto for dinner.

elphie754

goaliesmate wrote: »

fat_killer1 wrote: »

i ate eggs and toast / a chicken roll / steak and potatos / a yogart / and about 10 strawberrys

That is enough to feed a mouse. No wonder you want to give up. Add some fruit to the breakfast. A large bowl of salad or vegetables to lunch. Ditto for dinner.

Uhhhh- how do you know? The calorie count could be 3k+. You don't know how much of each they ate...

abatonfan

Hi!

I checked your profile, and you said that you tried calorie counting in the past, failed, and are not planning on calorie counting with this weight loss journey. Calorie counting is crucial to weight loss; something as simple as being 250 calories off (very easy when eyeballing portions) can throw me from maintaining my weight to gaining. If you really want to be successful in losing weight, I recommend getting a food scale, weighing everything, logging everything, and sticking to your calorie goal. It gets a lot easier with time and practice and will become habit if you stick to it.

I hate to sound mean, but nobody is going to hold your hand during this process. You either want to be motivated to lose weight, or you don't. No amount of motivation from others is going to help if you are not motivated.

lemurcat12

Why not try logging your food for a week, getting familiar with how to do it? Once you do that, go back and look at what you've logged and figure out a way to make cuts and make your diet healthier that won't be all that burdensome. If you approach it the right way MFP can help you make this as easy as possible.

My understanding is just the process of logging food tends to encourage people to make better choices, but you don't have to do everything all at once and you don't want to go super low cal or restrictive as you won't be able to stick with it.

I lost 95 lbs in a little more than a year, and I was able to do that because I made it pleasant for myself and wasn't too hard on myself.

NikiChicken

I have just read the first couple posts from the OP. I'm sorry for being blunt, but:

Losing weight is hard. Being fat is hard. Pick your hard.

If you really want to make a change and be successful, listen to the great advice on this site. Set your weight loss goals to a reasonable amount. Weight, measure and log everything you eat. Eat at a calorie deficit to lose weight. Exercise to feel good and get fit. Take each day one at a time and create good habits. Practicing this every day makes it become easier.

Akimajuktuq

Gotta love the "you don't have to eat healthy to lose weight" comments. Sorry, but the food matters. And healthy doesn't mean low calorie and low fat. Dump the processed crap, eat real food, eat enough and focus on permanent change. A temporary change in diet will only give temporary results.

There are ways to eat and lose weight without calorie counting but you would likely find those lifestyles too "hard". For now, pick a calorie goal that fits with where you are (no adult should be eating 1200 calories!) and commit to doing it. Healthy foods are far more filling (again not low fat, but low sugar would be very beneficial) than struggling to "moderate" a diet full of junk. All food is not created equal and if one is malnourished you will always be struggling with over-eating because the body is not getting adequate micro-nutrients even while it is getting too many calories and storing fat like crazy.

Your choice. It's not really that hard and if it is, try a different strategy. Or just give up I guess.

malibu927

Akimajuktuq wrote: »

Gotta love the "you don't have to eat healthy to lose weight" comments. Sorry, but the food matters. And healthy doesn't mean low calorie and low fat. Dump the processed crap, eat real food, eat enough and focus on permanent change. A temporary change in diet will only give temporary results.

There are ways to eat and lose weight without calorie counting but you would likely find those lifestyles too "hard". For now, pick a calorie goal that fits with where you are (no adult should be eating 1200 calories!) and commit to doing it. Healthy foods are far more filling (again not low fat, but low sugar would be very beneficial) than struggling to "moderate" a diet full of junk. All food is not created equal and if one is malnourished you will always be struggling with over-eating because the body is not getting adequate micro-nutrients even while it is getting too many calories and storing fat like crazy.

Your choice. It's not really that hard and if it is, try a different strategy. Or just give up I guess.

When it comes to weight loss, CICO is all that matters. That's not saying eat nothing but unhealthy foods all day, but they don't have to be cut out completely

jgnatca

I tried fasting twice, for religious reasons. I failed both times. Never lasted the day. Was I a failure or was my plan unrealistic?

I've learned that some religious fasts are just until sundown. That sounds more manageable.

Have you thought through what your clean meals will look like and how much you can eat a day? What is your ultimate goal? Some people give up because they think they have to eat perfectly all the time. That's a recipe for failure. If you shoot for maybe 80% good choices, you might see yourself to a sustainable diet.

whmscll

malibu927 wrote: »

Akimajuktuq wrote: »

Gotta love the "you don't have to eat healthy to lose weight" comments. Sorry, but the food matters. And healthy doesn't mean low calorie and low fat. Dump the processed crap, eat real food, eat enough and focus on permanent change. A temporary change in diet will only give temporary results.

There are ways to eat and lose weight without calorie counting but you would likely find those lifestyles too "hard". For now, pick a calorie goal that fits with where you are (no adult should be eating 1200 calories!) and commit to doing it. Healthy foods are far more filling (again not low fat, but low sugar would be very beneficial) than struggling to "moderate" a diet full of junk. All food is not created equal and if one is malnourished you will always be struggling with over-eating because the body is not getting adequate micro-nutrients even while it is getting too many calories and storing fat like crazy.

Your choice. It's not really that hard and if it is, try a different strategy. Or just give up I guess.

When it comes to weight loss, CICO is all that matters. That's not saying eat nothing but unhealthy foods all day, but they don't have to be cut out completely

I challenge anyone to meet their calorie goals eating a diet full of junk. THE FOOD MATTERS.

snowflakesav

I am curious about what you feel you are giving up that is so difficult? It is understandable. Many of us have had stressful days and used food for comfort. I guess what I am saying is that it is ok to let yourself feel what you are feeling. You came here and asked for help so I suspect you are feeling something you don't like. It is part of the weight loss journey.

I am kinda older and grew up in an environment where children were seen and not heard. Feelings and ouburst were not encouraged. I guess I never learned to feel anything or I wasn't comforted as a child... I discovered drinking and eating when feeling came up and spent a lot of my adult life drunk and fat because I didn't know how to comfort myself. Just saying that this is an emotional journey for most of us.

malibu927

whmscll wrote: »

malibu927 wrote: »

Akimajuktuq wrote: »

Gotta love the "you don't have to eat healthy to lose weight" comments. Sorry, but the food matters. And healthy doesn't mean low calorie and low fat. Dump the processed crap, eat real food, eat enough and focus on permanent change. A temporary change in diet will only give temporary results.

There are ways to eat and lose weight without calorie counting but you would likely find those lifestyles too "hard". For now, pick a calorie goal that fits with where you are (no adult should be eating 1200 calories!) and commit to doing it. Healthy foods are far more filling (again not low fat, but low sugar would be very beneficial) than struggling to "moderate" a diet full of junk. All food is not created equal and if one is malnourished you will always be struggling with over-eating because the body is not getting adequate micro-nutrients even while it is getting too many calories and storing fat like crazy.

Your choice. It's not really that hard and if it is, try a different strategy. Or just give up I guess.

When it comes to weight loss, CICO is all that matters. That's not saying eat nothing but unhealthy foods all day, but they don't have to be cut out completely

I challenge anyone to meet their calorie goals eating a diet full of junk. THE FOOD MATTERS.

Look up the Twinkie diet