Men, what should a woman eat(or not) on the first date?
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First date with my husband was an art museum, walk through the park & then a pizza with everything on it. My slice folding and devouring skills are exemplary (slice held with pinky out all ladylike) so he asked for a second date before the first was even through.0
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Alyssa_Is_LosingIt wrote: »Chrysalid2014 wrote: »Haven't read all the replies - just the first few. I'll take a different tack with my advice.
This is a *first* date -- remember, you only get one chance to make a first impression. So, you need to focus on maximizing that first impression. And how do you do that? By displaying, through your superior taste and discernment, that you are worldly, tasteful, and most of all *classy*!
With the appetizer, I think there are a couple of ways to go. A good foie gras gets things rolling well. And you have a real opportunity to let him know just how discerning you are – I’ve never been more impressed than the time a date asked about the foie gras (be sure to pronounce it correctly as “fwaw graw” with emphasis to enhance the classiness) and turned up her nose when told it was actually duck and not goose! Raw oysters or chilled shellfish are also great choices. You might even pair a foie gras with some chilled oysters or lobster tails. Be sure to ask him what he’s going to have as an appetizer – emphasizing that this is for you, and also being able to veto another choice that clashes with yours.
Foie gras (aka 'fatty liver') is produced in factory farms where geese and ducks are aggressively force fed by having pipes shoved down their throats three or four times a day, until their livers swell up to 10x normal size and they can no longer stand up.
Ordering it would be a good idea for someone who wants to prove to their date that they are cruel, vulgar and unconcerned with the suffering of others.
Have fun kids!
Ugh.
I wouldn't want to eat the waste-filtering organ of any animal anyway, regardless of its treatment while alive. Yuck.0 -
AllOutof_Bubblegum wrote: »Alyssa_Is_LosingIt wrote: »Chrysalid2014 wrote: »Haven't read all the replies - just the first few. I'll take a different tack with my advice.
This is a *first* date -- remember, you only get one chance to make a first impression. So, you need to focus on maximizing that first impression. And how do you do that? By displaying, through your superior taste and discernment, that you are worldly, tasteful, and most of all *classy*!
With the appetizer, I think there are a couple of ways to go. A good foie gras gets things rolling well. And you have a real opportunity to let him know just how discerning you are – I’ve never been more impressed than the time a date asked about the foie gras (be sure to pronounce it correctly as “fwaw graw” with emphasis to enhance the classiness) and turned up her nose when told it was actually duck and not goose! Raw oysters or chilled shellfish are also great choices. You might even pair a foie gras with some chilled oysters or lobster tails. Be sure to ask him what he’s going to have as an appetizer – emphasizing that this is for you, and also being able to veto another choice that clashes with yours.
Foie gras (aka 'fatty liver') is produced in factory farms where geese and ducks are aggressively force fed by having pipes shoved down their throats three or four times a day, until their livers swell up to 10x normal size and they can no longer stand up.
Ordering it would be a good idea for someone who wants to prove to their date that they are cruel, vulgar and unconcerned with the suffering of others.
Have fun kids!
Ugh.
I wouldn't want to eat the waste-filtering organ of any animal anyway, regardless of its treatment while alive. Yuck.
I'm not a fan of the stuff myself, but I think that saying that someone is "cruel, vulgar and unconcerned with the suffering of others" just because they made a questionable food choice is a bit much.0 -
Chrysalid2014 wrote: »Haven't read all the replies - just the first few. I'll take a different tack with my advice.
This is a *first* date -- remember, you only get one chance to make a first impression. So, you need to focus on maximizing that first impression. And how do you do that? By displaying, through your superior taste and discernment, that you are worldly, tasteful, and most of all *classy*!
With the appetizer, I think there are a couple of ways to go. A good foie gras gets things rolling well. And you have a real opportunity to let him know just how discerning you are – I’ve never been more impressed than the time a date asked about the foie gras (be sure to pronounce it correctly as “fwaw graw” with emphasis to enhance the classiness) and turned up her nose when told it was actually duck and not goose! Raw oysters or chilled shellfish are also great choices. You might even pair a foie gras with some chilled oysters or lobster tails. Be sure to ask him what he’s going to have as an appetizer – emphasizing that this is for you, and also being able to veto another choice that clashes with yours.
Foie gras (aka 'fatty liver') is produced in factory farms where geese and ducks are aggressively force fed by having pipes shoved down their throats three or four times a day, until their livers swell up to 10x normal size and they can no longer stand up.
Ordering it would be a good idea for someone who wants to prove to their date that they are cruel, vulgar and unconcerned with the suffering of others.
Have fun kids!
It sounds as if you may be a philistine. And perhaps also didn't grok the post.
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Haven't read all the replies - just the first few. I'll take a different tack with my advice.
This is a *first* date -- remember, you only get one chance to make a first impression. So, you need to focus on maximizing that first impression. And how do you do that? By displaying, through your superior taste and discernment, that you are worldly, tasteful, and most of all *classy*!
So, your challenge starts right with the drinks. Consider a nice bottle of bubbly - cheaper than ordering by the glass and let's you set the tone for the meal. Although I am a California boy, I still say stay away from domestics. A real champagne - from France - is the way to go here. I can see ordering a prosecco or similar sparkling wine, but for God's sake make sure it isn't domestic - nothing says "I'm not classy" like a domestic sparkling.
With the appetizer, I think there are a couple of ways to go. A good foie gras gets things rolling well. And you have a real opportunity to let him know just how discerning you are – I’ve never been more impressed than the time a date asked about the foie gras (be sure to pronounce it correctly as “fwaw graw” with emphasis to enhance the classiness) and turned up her nose when told it was actually duck and not goose! Raw oysters or chilled shellfish are also great choices. You might even pair a foie gras with some chilled oysters or lobster tails. Be sure to ask him what he’s going to have as an appetizer – emphasizing that this is for you, and also being able to veto another choice that clashes with yours.
For soup or salad, I always say “why not both?” A simple Caesar salad – insist on the parmesan begin grated tableside and make sure the anchovies are not a cheap restaurant-supply-company staple in a can – is great, and a small cup of lobster bisque (if you didn’t have lobster as an appetizer) is good. Perhaps a simple tomato soup, so long as the waitstaff is willing to let you spoon your own crème fraiche and will freshly grind pepper for you from a grinder at least 1.5 meters long! Get a bottle of California chardonnay to go with the soup salad combo.
Entrees really are wide open, depending on the type of restaurant you’re visiting. If in doubt, just go for the most expensive item – class isn’t concerned with prices. One thing I’ve found to be really worthwhile is to mix and match your own entrée and sides. For example, a date once wanted to try the seared Ahi tuna steak in a seasame crust served with wasabi-infused mashed potatoes and lightly grilled asparagus drizzled with olive oil. But she was also interested in the filet mignon in a balsamic reduction, with roasted new potatoes with rosemary and buttered / creamed spinach. She insisted on a half portion of the Ahi, light on the seasame crust and cooked well, and a half portion of the filet but with a mushroom sauce instead of the balsamic reduction. She wanted the wasabi-infused mashed potatoes but asked to substitute garlic for the wasabi, and also a lightly stir-fried asparagus tip, pancetta, and walnut side. Never mind that these sides weren’t prominently featured on the menu – she knew what she wanted and any decent kitchen should meet your requests. And don’t listen to any protests from the waitstaff that they only serve the items listed on the menu; you order what makes most sense for you and demand that the restaurant accommodate you; that’s what they’re there for after all – it’s their whole reason for being in business. If met with further resistance, just raise your voice a bit. A bottle of a bold red (regardless of your entrée) is appropriate with your main. As I said, I am from California, so am partial to a California Cabernet, but if there are interesting French Burgundies available, that’s always an option. (BTW, don’t feel the need to finish absolutely every bottle – it’s just nice to have the bottle available so you don’t ever have to wait on a refill).
Dessert is really your playground. Whatever suits your fancy. I like to see a date pair something like a chocolate souffle and a cheese plate with a 375ml bottle of a nice tawny port. One date asked for small portions of everything on the dessert menu so she could taste and try a bit of everything – I was impressed!
As dessert winds down, confirm that they offer espresso, and ask where they source their coffee. If not up to your standards, dismiss the waitstaff with a sad shake of the head and a sigh and make clear that you’ll go elsewhere for proper coffee and after-dinner drink.
Hopefully by this point your date has presented himself as something more than a horrible dullard. If not, oh well – we all must live and learn from our trials. If he does show any bit of promise, I am confident that you will have made an impression! He may even wonder how he managed to get a date with such a worldly and more importantly *classy* woman. Good luck!
I tried to read all this but I fell asleep at the Entrees, sorry I'll try again after a nap0 -
Woman should have bread and water and then when the meal is over they should go in the kitchen and wash dishes to pay their fair share....
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Chrysalid2014 wrote: »Haven't read all the replies - just the first few. I'll take a different tack with my advice.
This is a *first* date -- remember, you only get one chance to make a first impression. So, you need to focus on maximizing that first impression. And how do you do that? By displaying, through your superior taste and discernment, that you are worldly, tasteful, and most of all *classy*!
With the appetizer, I think there are a couple of ways to go. A good foie gras gets things rolling well. And you have a real opportunity to let him know just how discerning you are – I’ve never been more impressed than the time a date asked about the foie gras (be sure to pronounce it correctly as “fwaw graw” with emphasis to enhance the classiness) and turned up her nose when told it was actually duck and not goose! Raw oysters or chilled shellfish are also great choices. You might even pair a foie gras with some chilled oysters or lobster tails. Be sure to ask him what he’s going to have as an appetizer – emphasizing that this is for you, and also being able to veto another choice that clashes with yours.
Foie gras (aka 'fatty liver') is produced in factory farms where geese and ducks are aggressively force fed by having pipes shoved down their throats three or four times a day, until their livers swell up to 10x normal size and they can no longer stand up.
Ordering it would be a good idea for someone who wants to prove to their date that they are cruel, vulgar and unconcerned with the suffering of others.
Have fun kids!
More ridiculousness .....
I guess you don't eat meat either because butchering???0 -
You could get a hamburger and a salad. Then he will see how diverse you are.0
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Alatariel75 wrote: »
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Shoot, I don't even remember my first date. Must have been pretty good though since I married him.
Pretty sure food had nothing to do with it... unless you're like.... frying eggs and bacon...
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What did you eat?0
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Good point...
Water and lettuce probably better choice ...0 -
And now we all realise how sarcastic we all being over a WTF post, I really am going to bed,,,,,,,,,,,
Personally? On a first date? I would have usually starved myself for a week so would have eyes bigger than than my belly. Oh, for those days again,,,,!!!!! My belly has certainly proved the winner in recent years!!!0 -
OH, and I would never order salad. I wouldn't have wanted him to think I had to work at being 'slim'........0
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The last first date I had was brunch. I ordered chicken and waffles and mimosas. My dude ordered some nonsense with kale. He looked absolutely ecstatic when I offered him some of my syrup-covered goodness.
...and now I can't wait to start dating again just so I have an excuse to go out and eat delicious food!0 -
The last first date I had was brunch. I ordered chicken and waffles and mimosas. My dude ordered some nonsense with kale. He looked absolutely ecstatic when I offered him some of my syrup-covered goodness.
...and now I can't wait to start dating again just so I have an excuse to go out and eat delicious food!
Just try to avoid dudes who order nonsense with kale at brunch. *Shiver*.
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kshama2001 wrote: »
I too want to support those who choose not to drink. But I'm not sure I'd want to date one. In fact, my dating history would indicate that I don't. (I don't want to date an alcoholic either.)
An oenophile and someone who thinks wine is disgusting may be doomed.
Hello.... automatic designated driver!0 -
Eat whatever you would normally eat... A guy who judges a girl on what she eats (unless health related) is not a guy you wanna be with lol0
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becca_maee wrote: »Eat whatever you would normally eat... A guy who judges a girl on what she eats (unless health related) is not a guy you wanna be with lol
It's not a date's responsibility to judge what I eat, even if he thinks it's unhealthy. If he doesn't like the fact that I eat Dorito's, he can politely gtfo.0 -
On our first date my husband took me to see Don't Tell Mom The Babysitter Is Dead and the muffler fell off his car in the parking lot. His mom drove out and switched cars for him while we were watching the movie. I'm not sure what I ate. Probably Sour Patch Kids.0
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Crap. DH just told me that I didn't just have WAAAY too much to drink on our first date, but that I was indeed drunk as hell. Not that I didn't actually realize that, but he managed to make me feel embarrassed about it a whole freaking decade later.
I want to go out on a date and eat more sushi than my husband and then lay on the couch with my pants unbuttoned complaining about the brand of insane gas I will have later from it. That's a good date right there.0 -
if your not familiar with the restaurant, ask him what's good. easy.0
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mamapeach910 wrote: »I don't ever remember putting this much thought into dating. Except for what to wear. Maybe.
I admit that I looked at menus before my brunch date the other day, but that's because we were choosing between two cafes and I needed to see which had the yummiest thing!0 -
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Haven't read all the replies - just the first few. I'll take a different tack with my advice.
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Entrees really are wide open, depending on the type of restaurant you’re visiting. If in doubt, just go for the most expensive item – class isn’t concerned with prices. One thing I’ve found to be really worthwhile is to mix and match your own entrée and sides. For example, a date once wanted to try the seared Ahi tuna steak in a seasame crust served with wasabi-infused mashed potatoes and lightly grilled asparagus drizzled with olive oil. But she was also interested in the filet mignon in a balsamic reduction, with roasted new potatoes with rosemary and buttered / creamed spinach. She insisted on a half portion of the Ahi, light on the seasame crust and cooked well, and a half portion of the filet but with a mushroom sauce instead of the balsamic reduction. She wanted the wasabi-infused mashed potatoes but asked to substitute garlic for the wasabi, and also a lightly stir-fried asparagus tip, pancetta, and walnut side. Never mind that these sides weren’t prominently featured on the menu – she knew what she wanted and any decent kitchen should meet your requests. And don’t listen to any protests from the waitstaff that they only serve the items listed on the menu; you order what makes most sense for you and demand that the restaurant accommodate you; that’s what they’re there for after all – it’s their whole reason for being in business. If met with further resistance, just raise your voice a bit. A bottle of a bold red (regardless of your entrée) is appropriate with your main. As I said, I am from California, so am partial to a California Cabernet, but if there are interesting French Burgundies available, that’s always an option. (BTW, don’t feel the need to finish absolutely every bottle – it’s just nice to have the bottle available so you don’t ever have to wait on a refill).
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LOL 'cause nothing says *classy* more than raising your voice at waiting staff on a first date..0 -
KarenJanine wrote: »Haven't read all the replies - just the first few. I'll take a different tack with my advice.
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Entrees really are wide open, depending on the type of restaurant you’re visiting. If in doubt, just go for the most expensive item – class isn’t concerned with prices. One thing I’ve found to be really worthwhile is to mix and match your own entrée and sides. For example, a date once wanted to try the seared Ahi tuna steak in a seasame crust served with wasabi-infused mashed potatoes and lightly grilled asparagus drizzled with olive oil. But she was also interested in the filet mignon in a balsamic reduction, with roasted new potatoes with rosemary and buttered / creamed spinach. She insisted on a half portion of the Ahi, light on the seasame crust and cooked well, and a half portion of the filet but with a mushroom sauce instead of the balsamic reduction. She wanted the wasabi-infused mashed potatoes but asked to substitute garlic for the wasabi, and also a lightly stir-fried asparagus tip, pancetta, and walnut side. Never mind that these sides weren’t prominently featured on the menu – she knew what she wanted and any decent kitchen should meet your requests. And don’t listen to any protests from the waitstaff that they only serve the items listed on the menu; you order what makes most sense for you and demand that the restaurant accommodate you; that’s what they’re there for after all – it’s their whole reason for being in business. If met with further resistance, just raise your voice a bit. A bottle of a bold red (regardless of your entrée) is appropriate with your main. As I said, I am from California, so am partial to a California Cabernet, but if there are interesting French Burgundies available, that’s always an option. (BTW, don’t feel the need to finish absolutely every bottle – it’s just nice to have the bottle available so you don’t ever have to wait on a refill).
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LOL 'cause nothing says *classy* more than raising your voice at waiting staff on a first date..
Yep! And the whole 'demand that the restaurant accommodate you' bit. If I went on a first date with someone who 'demanded' that the staff went out of their way to accommodate them and raised their voice in what I would see as very rude behaviour, I would probably walk out.
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