Discouraged
Armygirl34
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so I've been staying on track and eating right and exercising and trying to stay motivated today was just a bad day for me I went to school for her to see a counselor and she straight out call me fat and that was impossible to reach my goals I thought counselors were there to help you and try to encourage you so you can reach her goals not bring you down I just feel a little bit down because of what she said I'm still doing what I need to do it just is hard sometimes when you have someone saying negative things about you
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People can be cruel. Some people can be condescending or insulting without even realizing they're doing it, others are jealous and are struggling with their own issues, but whatever the reason, it doesn't hurt any less. Just have faith in yourself and your goals, and realize that there are many, many more people supporting you and cheering you on than people trying to cut you down. Hang in there!!0
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Use those comments and get mad. F you I WILL do this!!!!!0
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You are better than the counsellor, sounds like they need to see someone. Their role is to be supportive, offer suggestions and where one can get help. Rise above them! Be the better person and do this for yourself!!0
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People can be cruel. Some people can be condescending or insulting without even realizing they're doing it, others are jealous and are struggling with their own issues, but whatever the reason, it doesn't hurt any less. Just have faith in yourself and your goals, and realize that there are many, many more people supporting you and cheering you on than people trying to cut you down. Hang in there!!
It's true people don't always see how hurtful words can be I'm not going let it get me down I was for a while today but made me think I'm not going let her win I will win I will do this and loose the weight and join the military as my goal and dream to succeed
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I feel like I should turn her in what if she does this to other students. And it's not right I go I there for my academics not to talk about my weight I get in over weight but she has no right telling me that is out of her area I can see a coach telling me to drop weight but not a guidance counselor thank you all for your kind words and support0
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This is so bizarre. Did it come up because you two were chatting casually and weight came up? Also, what is your target weight and how long were you trying to reach the goal? Is this for any kind of army recruitment (based on your user name?). This person you went to meet sounds totally crazy, I'm pretty much flabbergasted and wondering if there's any sense to be made of this!0
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This is so bizarre. Did it come up because you two were chatting casually and weight came up? Also, what is your target weight and how long were you trying to reach the goal? Is this for any kind of army recruitment (based on your user name?). This person you went to meet sounds totally crazy, I'm pretty much flabbergasted and wondering if there's any sense to be made of this!
Yea confused as well....... your counselor called you FAT? What type of counselor are you seeing that would be so blunt. Are they licensed or .......yea makes no sense.. shrugs0 -
Armygirl34 wrote: »I feel like I should turn her in what if she does this to other students. And it's not right I go I there for my academics not to talk about my weight I get in over weight but she has no right telling me that is out of her area I can see a coach telling me to drop weight but not a guidance counselor thank you all for your kind words and support
Are you in high school or college?0 -
If the profile / username age is correct, maybe they're trying to get in before age 35?0
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If your counselor straight-out called you fat, that is 100% wrong. But if I'm interpreting the situation correctly and you are a 34-year-old woman with 95 pounds to lose and a dream to join the military, well . . .maybe your advisor was trying to suggest that it might be a better idea to look into a different line of work. And unless you want to join some of the reserves, she's right: http://usmilitary.about.com/od/joiningthemilitary/a/enlage.htm
I don't want to discourage you--you absolutely can lose this weight, and you will find a fulfilling career--but this particular dream probably won't work out.0 -
This is so bizarre. Did it come up because you two were chatting casually and weight came up? Also, what is your target weight and how long were you trying to reach the goal? Is this for any kind of army recruitment (based on your user name?). This person you went to meet sounds totally crazy, I'm pretty much flabbergasted and wondering if there's any sense to be made of this!
No I was starting school and had to see counselor talking about my goals and she said my scheduled looked fine I told her my goal to go in military she said straight out how do you expect to do that your fat word for word I said she was being rude and she said no it's truth
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I don't have 95 pounds to loose They don't just go of weight u can also be taped and only need to drop 2% body fat so no I don't see it being unrealistic.0
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To be at weight it's 50 pounds not 90 but I have tell April to complete it all I just have to be at basic before April. And my recruiter said won't be a problem bc I'm on track and doing well0
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Armygirl34 wrote: »I don't have 95 pounds to loose They don't just go of weight u can also be taped and only need to drop 2% body fat so no I don't see it being unrealistic.
How much do you weigh, how tall are you and whats your age?
Btw context is everything. Even if the counsellor was rude I just get the impression you are quite sensitive as well.
It might be hrd, but you cna cchoose how you react and whether you let it get to you.
Stik to being at a consistent deficit and you will lose.
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Armygirl34 wrote: »This is so bizarre. Did it come up because you two were chatting casually and weight came up? Also, what is your target weight and how long were you trying to reach the goal? Is this for any kind of army recruitment (based on your user name?). This person you went to meet sounds totally crazy, I'm pretty much flabbergasted and wondering if there's any sense to be made of this!
No I was starting school and had to see counselor talking about my goals and she said my scheduled looked fine I told her my goal to go in military she said straight out how do you expect to do that your fat word for word I said she was being rude and she said no it's truth
I agree you should report her. I can't think of any reason she should go around mentioning people's weight. And as you've said, the military recruiter is the one that'll give you the latest and proper info on this. Geez people already have body issues, the gall of her to add to it so blatantly!
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Armygirl34 wrote: »To be at weight it's 50 pounds not 90 but I have tell April to complete it all I just have to be at basic before April. And my recruiter said won't be a problem bc I'm on track and doing well
Oh, I was going by your profile. Well, ignore the school counselor and go by what your recruiter says. You can definitely lose 50 pounds before next April.0 -
Well... counselor was rude yes. Prove her wrong.
That said. If you let a little thing like this get you upset, how are you going to get through basic? It is very very brutal both physically and emotionally.
I have a good friend who decided to g into the Air Force about 10 years ago. She also had to drop quite a bit of weight to get in and she worked hard and did it. Basic was really hard on her. She called crying sometimes because she was so overwhelmed and I just told her to suck it up. She wanted this, she could handle it. And she did. She went through a lot of hard stuff. Keeping weight off was an issue for her once she got stationed. She had some other problems as well. But she got through her 6 years of enlistment, got her education and is now a teacher with a gorgeous cattle ranch. She has a wonderful life with a great husband. Life still throws some tough challenges at her but I think she really made a good choice when she decided to join up. It showed her just how strong she really is.
So don't go letting some ignorant comment hold you back. Use it as fuel to motivate you through the first of what will be a lot of very difficult obstacles in your path.0 -
Use her kind(notso)words as fuel..0
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shadowfax_c11 wrote: »Well... counselor was rude yes. Prove her wrong.
That said. If you let a little thing like this get you upset, how are you going to get through basic? It is very very brutal both physically and emotionally.
I have a good friend who decided to g into the Air Force about 10 years ago. She also had to drop quite a bit of weight to get in and she worked hard and did it. Basic was really hard on her. She called crying sometimes because she was so overwhelmed and I just told her to suck it up. She wanted this, she could handle it. And she did. She went through a lot of hard stuff. Keeping weight off was an issue for her once she got stationed. She had some other problems as well. But she got through her 6 years of enlistment, got her education and is now a teacher with a gorgeous cattle ranch. She has a wonderful life with a great husband. Life still throws some tough challenges at her but I think she really made a good choice when she decided to join up. It showed her just how strong she really is.
So don't go letting some ignorant comment hold you back. Use it as fuel to motivate you through the first of what will be a lot of very difficult obstacles in your path.
Completely agree with this as the attitdue you will find helpful. Use it to spur you on and get to your target of getting into the forces. The next 3-6 months are vital to get to your target as you should be well on your way by Christmas. Break it down into mini diets of say 4-6 weeks.0 -
Armygirl34 wrote: »I don't have 95 pounds to loose They don't just go of weight u can also be taped and only need to drop 2% body fat so no I don't see it being unrealistic.
You can do that easily I'm in the Army & I always get taped & I pass. I use preparation H & Saran Wrap but I am sick of having to stress getting taped so I'm losing weight. As long as u can pass this tape, u can lose all the weight in basic. Before Meps I was 130 when my recruiter weighed me, 2 weeks later I was 114 at Meps then 105 after basic 0 -
barbecuesauce wrote: »Armygirl34 wrote: »To be at weight it's 50 pounds not 90 but I have tell April to complete it all I just have to be at basic before April. And my recruiter said won't be a problem bc I'm on track and doing well
Oh, I was going by your profile. Well, ignore the school counselor and go by what your recruiter says. You can definitely lose 50 pounds before next April.
I don't know why my profile says that weird I'm 200 max weight go in is 155 I'm
New to this site don't know how to fix it
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Don't beat yourself up over slipping up for one day. It won't affect you if you climb back on the wagon and begin meeting your calorie goals again. You can do it! You've received some really good advice here, I hope it helps you. Good luck!0
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shadowfax_c11 wrote: »Well... counselor was rude yes. Prove her wrong.
That said. If you let a little thing like this get you upset, how are you going to get through basic? It is very very brutal both physically and emotionally.
I have a good friend who decided to g into the Air Force about 10 years ago. She also had to drop quite a bit of weight to get in and she worked hard and did it. Basic was really hard on her. She called crying sometimes because she was so overwhelmed and I just told her to suck it up. She wanted this, she could handle it. And she did. She went through a lot of hard stuff. Keeping weight off was an issue for her once she got stationed. She had some other problems as well. But she got through her 6 years of enlistment, got her education and is now a teacher with a gorgeous cattle ranch. She has a wonderful life with a great husband. Life still throws some tough challenges at her but I think she really made a good choice when she decided to join up. It showed her just how strong she really is.
So don't go letting some ignorant comment hold you back. Use it as fuel to motivate you through the first of what will be a lot of very difficult obstacles in your path.
I know she was rude and I know basic was will be tough yes I'm little sensitive at times but the point was it was uncalled for was my point I can see a drill Sargent picking on me for it but not a guidance counselor. I'm not letting it get me down its making me push forward so when people say no u can't do it or it's not realistic that makes me work twice as hard and work my *kitten* off That's great about your friend sounds like she has amazing life.0 -
Felicia_Fawn wrote: »Armygirl34 wrote: »I don't have 95 pounds to loose They don't just go of weight u can also be taped and only need to drop 2% body fat so no I don't see it being unrealistic.
You can do that easily I'm in the Army & I always get taped & I pass. I use preparation H & Saran Wrap but I am sick of having to stress getting taped so I'm losing weight. As long as u can pass this tape, u can lose all the weight in basic. Before Meps I was 130 when my recruiter weighed me, 2 weeks later I was 114 at Meps then 105 after basic
What does preparation h and Saran Wrap do that is pretty impressive lost so much so quick have you ever tried the 3 day military diet ?0 -
Armygirl34 wrote: »shadowfax_c11 wrote: »Well... counselor was rude yes. Prove her wrong.
That said. If you let a little thing like this get you upset, how are you going to get through basic? It is very very brutal both physically and emotionally.
I have a good friend who decided to g into the Air Force about 10 years ago. She also had to drop quite a bit of weight to get in and she worked hard and did it. Basic was really hard on her. She called crying sometimes because she was so overwhelmed and I just told her to suck it up. She wanted this, she could handle it. And she did. She went through a lot of hard stuff. Keeping weight off was an issue for her once she got stationed. She had some other problems as well. But she got through her 6 years of enlistment, got her education and is now a teacher with a gorgeous cattle ranch. She has a wonderful life with a great husband. Life still throws some tough challenges at her but I think she really made a good choice when she decided to join up. It showed her just how strong she really is.
So don't go letting some ignorant comment hold you back. Use it as fuel to motivate you through the first of what will be a lot of very difficult obstacles in your path.
I know she was rude and I know basic was will be tough yes I'm little sensitive at times but the point was it was uncalled for was my point I can see a drill Sargent picking on me for it but not a guidance counselor. I'm not letting it get me down its making me push forward so when people say no u can't do it or it's not realistic that makes me work twice as hard and work my *kitten* off That's great about your friend sounds like she has amazing life.
I agree with using the comment as fuel. I do also like to think the military could use empathetic people like you, who will handle things like you intend to, in order to ensure that she doesn't do this to someone else
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This is a college counselor? You are attending college?0
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Armygirl34 wrote: »Felicia_Fawn wrote: »Armygirl34 wrote: »I don't have 95 pounds to loose They don't just go of weight u can also be taped and only need to drop 2% body fat so no I don't see it being unrealistic.
You can do that easily I'm in the Army & I always get taped & I pass. I use preparation H & Saran Wrap but I am sick of having to stress getting taped so I'm losing weight. As long as u can pass this tape, u can lose all the weight in basic. Before Meps I was 130 when my recruiter weighed me, 2 weeks later I was 114 at Meps then 105 after basic
What does preparation h and Saran Wrap do that is pretty impressive lost so much so quick have you ever tried the 3 day military diet ?
You can change your weight by going here: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/account/change_goals_guided Your profile currently says 5 pounds lost, 95 to go; that is why I initially agreed with your advisor.
The 3 Day Military Diet isn't from the military--it is a very low-calorie diet, whenever a thread is made about it it is locked and removed because it is unsafe. Do not do that to yourself. All the Saran Wrap is doing is causing her to lose water weight so she has the right number for the scale--seems like it would be easier to eat fewer calories than you burn instead of going through that ordeal over and over again.0 -
Armygirl34 wrote: »I know she was rude and I know basic was will be tough yes I'm little sensitive at times but the point was it was uncalled for was my point I can see a drill Sargent picking on me for it but not a guidance counselor. I'm not letting it get me down its making me push forward so when people say no u can't do it or it's not realistic that makes me work twice as hard and work my *kitten* off That's great about your friend sounds like she has amazing life.
Sometimes in life you meet people like that. Keep in mind that how they behave is their problem. How you react to it is yours.
Just let it go.
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