6 BRUTALLY HONEST reasons why you are still fat
MissAmyx
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(This dude curses a bit so if that stuff offends you, you might want to skip it...)
strengthcoachtaylor.ca/uncategorized/the-brutally-honest-6-reasons-you-are-still-overfat/
I just came across this article and I've got to say, it's pretty damn true! There's no mushy, inspirational, chin up buddy you can have your cake and eat it to! B.S here it's straight up honest and I reckon if anyone who is over weight and finds they are constantly struggling to lose weight reads this and is honest with themselves they'll agree with a lot of these reasons on here.
I know when I was reading it I could go through the list and think "I've done that" "I've felt like that" "Yep done that too..."
I actually printed it out and put it on my wall so next time I'm feeling weak and trying to convince myself that skipping a workout isn't so bad and thinking i might just "treat" myself I can look at it and remember I've got to harden the eff-word up and make changes for the better
I thought some people might like the tough love style as well so I thought it was worth a share on here
strengthcoachtaylor.ca/uncategorized/the-brutally-honest-6-reasons-you-are-still-overfat/
I just came across this article and I've got to say, it's pretty damn true! There's no mushy, inspirational, chin up buddy you can have your cake and eat it to! B.S here it's straight up honest and I reckon if anyone who is over weight and finds they are constantly struggling to lose weight reads this and is honest with themselves they'll agree with a lot of these reasons on here.
I know when I was reading it I could go through the list and think "I've done that" "I've felt like that" "Yep done that too..."
I actually printed it out and put it on my wall so next time I'm feeling weak and trying to convince myself that skipping a workout isn't so bad and thinking i might just "treat" myself I can look at it and remember I've got to harden the eff-word up and make changes for the better
I thought some people might like the tough love style as well so I thought it was worth a share on here
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Damn.. they are brutal lmao0
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Great article he doesn't beat around the bush does he? Brutal but true thanks for sharing!0
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"You are among the luckiest human on earth" the awesome true0
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I LOVE this guy!!!!!0
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Yep, pretty much all true.
Number of people it will help: 0.
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Yes, honesty is his problem, lol. It's not hating people he works with and whining about it online. It's honesty!
Maybe he should go to medical school and become a cardiologist. Then he'd have a never-ending supply of people who made bad choices and suffered the consequences to yell at and he could do it in person. He could also get them when at their lowest, weak and in hospital beds. "You shouldn't have eaten all that crap! That's why you're going to DIE!!!" They might even cry.
He could become a clergyman. Holy crap, how he'd find people regretting their bad decisions. He could then tell them all the things they did wrong...and again, they'd be coming for help when they're the most miserable.
Lots of opportunities to inflict that honesty on people and kick them when they're down. There's good coaching for you.
But instead he finds himself in the unfortunate position of Fitness Coach, dealing with people who are...goodness, not fit!...and have the opportunity to blow him off much easier.
Oh, that honesty. It's such a burden.0 -
The only people who will hear through the ***holeness are the people who already get it.
Which also means the subject of the article is really just the author and his self-perceived awesomeness...but that's a different issue. Or not.
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The only people who will hear through the ***holeness are the people who already get it.
Which also means the subject of the article is really just the author and his self-perceived awesomeness...but that's a different issue. Or not.
I think that's very perceptive
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I didn't find him that brutal. Just honest. Thanks for posting! 0
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The only people who will hear through the ***holeness are the people who already get it.
Which also means the subject of the article is really just the author and his self-perceived awesomeness.
Thanks for elaborating. I agree, the author does come across as arrogant and a bit of a butt. You're right, many people don't like to be told, so to speak, in such a brutal way.0 -
The only people who will hear through the ***holeness are the people who already get it.
Which also means the subject of the article is really just the author and his self-perceived awesomeness...but that's a different issue. Or not.
I thought the same thing but couldn't figure out how to word it properly.0 -
Yes, honesty is his problem, lol. It's not hating people he works with and whining about it online. It's honesty!
Maybe he should go to medical school and become a cardiologist. Then he'd have a never-ending supply of people who made bad choices and suffered the consequences to yell at and he could do it in person. He could also get them when at their lowest, weak and in hospital beds. "You shouldn't have eaten all that crap! That's why you're going to DIE!!!" They might even cry.
He could become a clergyman. Holy crap, how he'd find people regretting their bad decisions. He could then tell them all the things they did wrong...and again, they'd be coming for help when they're the most miserable.
Lots of opportunities to inflict that honesty on people and kick them when they're down. There's good coaching for you.
But instead he finds himself in the unfortunate position of Fitness Coach, dealing with people who are...goodness, not fit!...and have the opportunity to blow him off much easier.
Oh, that honesty. It's such a burden.
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^^. Agreed. The desperate "I'm so awesome" thing is annoying.
The "I'm so awesome, but burdened with that dang honesty!" is ridiculous.
Guy needs a new job.0 -
Love it!
I think the article won't help anyone who doesn't want to be helped. Nothing will, really.
But it will help those that are already self-aware and motivated to get a little boost when things get boring or tough. It is a good *reminder* of personal responsibility, self-awareness.
I don't think the article was intended as a self-help guide or diet woes-eraser; but I like it.
It is nice change from the "Oh, just go for a nice walk and have extra veggies for dinner" -B.S that syrupy publications like PopSugar and "women" magazines give you in every issue of the "How to Get Fit For Summer" article of their latest publication.
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Article was posted here before and caused tremendous butthurt. This is supposed to be a happy place that supports everyone devoid of critical thinking or scrutiny. We are all unique and special
-Happy Rainbows and Unicorn Sparkles MFP Welcome Crew0 -
Yes, honesty is his problem, lol. It's not hating people he works with and whining about it online. It's honesty!
Maybe he should go to medical school and become a cardiologist. Then he'd have a never-ending supply of people who made bad choices and suffered the consequences to yell at and he could do it in person. He could also get them when at their lowest, weak and in hospital beds. "You shouldn't have eaten all that crap! That's why you're going to DIE!!!" They might even cry.
He could become a clergyman. Holy crap, how he'd find people regretting their bad decisions. He could then tell them all the things they did wrong...and again, they'd be coming for help when they're the most miserable.
Lots of opportunities to inflict that honesty on people and kick them when they're down. There's good coaching for you.
But instead he finds himself in the unfortunate position of Fitness Coach, dealing with people who are...goodness, not fit!...and have the opportunity to blow him off much easier.
Oh, that honesty. It's such a burden.
Bu the thing is, he is not a priest, he is not a family doctor, he is not a suicide hotline counselor, he is a random guy with a blog. As he states in the disclaimer, if he was writing for a scientific journal or magazine, he would use a different approach.
It's a blog post, not doctrine. *shrugs*
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beachhouse758 wrote: »Yes, honesty is his problem, lol. It's not hating people he works with and whining about it online. It's honesty!
Maybe he should go to medical school and become a cardiologist. Then he'd have a never-ending supply of people who made bad choices and suffered the consequences to yell at and he could do it in person. He could also get them when at their lowest, weak and in hospital beds. "You shouldn't have eaten all that crap! That's why you're going to DIE!!!" They might even cry.
He could become a clergyman. Holy crap, how he'd find people regretting their bad decisions. He could then tell them all the things they did wrong...and again, they'd be coming for help when they're the most miserable.
Lots of opportunities to inflict that honesty on people and kick them when they're down. There's good coaching for you.
But instead he finds himself in the unfortunate position of Fitness Coach, dealing with people who are...goodness, not fit!...and have the opportunity to blow him off much easier.
Oh, that honesty. It's such a burden.
Bu the thing is, he is not a priest, he is not a family doctor, he is not a suicide hotline counselor, he is a random guy with a blog. As he states in the disclaimer, if he was writing for a scientific journal or magazine, he would use a different approach.
It's a blog post, not doctrine. *shrugs*
If he wants to dump on people when they're down, which he obviously does, there are better jobs for it.0 -
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I second this sentiment.
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"‘Treats’ are something out of the ordinary. If it happens more than once a month it is no longer out of the ordinary. Stop saying treat. You aren’t having a treat.
It comes down to sacrifice and commitment, like we talked about earlier. Come on. You’re a grown *kitten* adult making their own decisions. Don’t delude yourself in an attempt to justify the fact you are fully responsible for the *kitten* you plow into your mouth.
You are just eating *kitten*." --Taylor Simon
This sort of restrictive-food-shaming advise is usually crucified on MFP daily. On every thread. And in mass. I'm surprised it's getting support today.
Ok, I'm not really surprised...0 -
I needed that..not in the health/fitness sense but the last part where he talks about attitude. That's something I badly need to work on as I'm a person that tends to focus on the negative. Thank you for this.0
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beachhouse758 wrote: »Yes, honesty is his problem, lol. It's not hating people he works with and whining about it online. It's honesty!
Maybe he should go to medical school and become a cardiologist. Then he'd have a never-ending supply of people who made bad choices and suffered the consequences to yell at and he could do it in person. He could also get them when at their lowest, weak and in hospital beds. "You shouldn't have eaten all that crap! That's why you're going to DIE!!!" They might even cry.
He could become a clergyman. Holy crap, how he'd find people regretting their bad decisions. He could then tell them all the things they did wrong...and again, they'd be coming for help when they're the most miserable.
Lots of opportunities to inflict that honesty on people and kick them when they're down. There's good coaching for you.
But instead he finds himself in the unfortunate position of Fitness Coach, dealing with people who are...goodness, not fit!...and have the opportunity to blow him off much easier.
Oh, that honesty. It's such a burden.
Bu the thing is, he is not a priest, he is not a family doctor, he is not a suicide hotline counselor, he is a random guy with a blog. As he states in the disclaimer, if he was writing for a scientific journal or magazine, he would use a different approach.
It's a blog post, not doctrine. *shrugs*
If he wants to dump on people when they're down, which he obviously does, there are better jobs for it.
I think he covered that in his sixth point where he talks about attitude and discusses how there are people with real issues such as homelessness, joblessness, cancer, diabetes, life-altering injuries, starvation, gang rape, kidnapping, and other very real obstacles in the world. He isn't talking to those people.
He's talking to the people who "couldn't get to the gym" but manage to keep up with the happenings of the Kardashians. Who "can't find time to go grocery shopping" and end up eating fast food or large restaurant portions every night, but find time to log their every waking thought on Facebook. He's talking to the people who have vast resources at their disposal in terms of gyms, money, health care, grocery stores with wide selections, and education, and who still choose to not make their health or weight loss a priority.
In short, he's talking to the ones who want to pretend to be a victim of their circumstances, rather than acknowledging that they have all the tools, they just choose not to use them.0 -
Article was posted here before and caused tremendous butthurt. This is supposed to be a happy place that supports everyone devoid of critical thinking or scrutiny. We are all unique and special
-Happy Rainbows and Unicorn Sparkles MFP Welcome Crew
This is not to disagree with what you have said...in fact most of me agrees with it. There is however another side to this.
Without going into detail...an event happened in my life that made me realize that we never really know what is going on in others lives. We don't know how a person is feeling...how they might react to certain words.
I learned from this event that maybe just a word of kindness...smile...a sign of encouragement can change another persons life.
It is hard in our daily lives to always know what someone might need from us...it is equally as hard or harder over the internet. The difference being...in real life we see the faces of those we affect...we see the outcome. Over the internet...we just move on and let the "chips fall where ever they may".
We can get a message across to someone and still give them that support that they might need...that bit of kindness that might get them over a hurdle.
Some people respond to tough love...for others it has quite the opposite affect. Knowing you audience is the key...on the internet unless they ask for tough love...we just don't know.
I happened to enjoy ready that article. I agree with most if not all of what was written. For myself personally...I can hand out tough love as well as the next...if I know my audience. If I don't...I would rather err on the side of being a little kinder and still trying to get my message across.
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He needs a new job.beachhouse758 wrote: »Yes, honesty is his problem, lol. It's not hating people he works with and whining about it online. It's honesty!
Maybe he should go to medical school and become a cardiologist. Then he'd have a never-ending supply of people who made bad choices and suffered the consequences to yell at and he could do it in person. He could also get them when at their lowest, weak and in hospital beds. "You shouldn't have eaten all that crap! That's why you're going to DIE!!!" They might even cry.
He could become a clergyman. Holy crap, how he'd find people regretting their bad decisions. He could then tell them all the things they did wrong...and again, they'd be coming for help when they're the most miserable.
Lots of opportunities to inflict that honesty on people and kick them when they're down. There's good coaching for you.
But instead he finds himself in the unfortunate position of Fitness Coach, dealing with people who are...goodness, not fit!...and have the opportunity to blow him off much easier.
Oh, that honesty. It's such a burden.
Bu the thing is, he is not a priest, he is not a family doctor, he is not a suicide hotline counselor, he is a random guy with a blog. As he states in the disclaimer, if he was writing for a scientific journal or magazine, he would use a different approach.
It's a blog post, not doctrine. *shrugs*
If he wants to dump on people when they're down, which he obviously does, there are better jobs for it.
I think he covered that in his sixth point where he talks about attitude and discusses how there are people with real issues such as homelessness, joblessness, cancer, diabetes, life-altering injuries, starvation, gang rape, kidnapping, and other very real obstacles in the world. He isn't talking to those people.
He's talking to the people who "couldn't get to the gym" but manage to keep up with the happenings of the Kardashians. Who "can't find time to go grocery shopping" and end up eating fast food or large restaurant portions every night, but find time to log their every waking thought on Facebook. He's talking to the people who have vast resources at their disposal in terms of gyms, money, health care, grocery stores with wide selections, and education, and who still choose to not make their health or weight loss a priority.
In short, he's talking to the ones who want to pretend to be a victim of their circumstances, rather than acknowledging that they have all the tools, they just choose not to use them.
It's obvious that he's kind of frustrated and overwhelmed with emotion after listening to excuses and wants to dump on people.
He's not a good coach. Good coaches don't go on like that. It's not about their issues.
He's even making excuses for himself and how he's so burdened by his honesty. So, he knows what he's doing is wrong.
He's not good at what he's trying to do and he's unhappy. Time to find a new job!
Theres a difference between honesty and brutal honesty. The brutal part is always about the person doling it out.0 -
He's talking to the people who "couldn't get to the gym" but manage to keep up with the happenings of the Kardashians.
No he's not - he's talking to the people who want to feel superior to the people keeping up with the Kardashians.
"Tough love" without first establishing the "love" is usually just called being a ****.
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As i said in my OP I get that this kind of "motivation" isn't for everyone but (and this is just my opinion here so you know don't get all mad...is that even a thing that happens? do people get mad at others for sharing their opinion on the internet? I doubt it, that sounds so crazy)
sometimes people need to just harden up a little, some people (not all) really do hide behind the whole "It's actually everyone else's fault I'm over weight, I try to eat healthy but they bring snack foods to work and i can't be rude and say no to the food offered to me!" the article points out that playing the victim isn't going to fix anything people need to own up to their problems not find excuses for them.
This article made me realize that I have used the excuses listed and i do need to harden up myself and take responsibility for my problems as well as realizing I'm the only one who's going to be responsible for any change that will occur.
P.s Just to add (again just MHO) I feel that sometimes this place can be a little to flowery and all "Omg you're such a special unique snowflake girl/guy! You are just so magical and the sun radiates from your're very being!!! HUUUUUUUUUUUUGZ!!" a little bit of tough love and a reality check every now and then isn't going to hurt
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oh and this pic is going to come in handy so many times for me!
there's already a dozen or so posts on my FB i'd love to reply to with this thing xD0
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