Negative feedback on my food diary

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  • trijoe
    trijoe Posts: 729 Member
    Don't worry about it. Honesty in your diary is important so you can have an accurate idea of what you are consuming. Good job for being honest and for a good run! If people on your list feel the need to make you feel crudy DELETE THEM.

    This is basically what I had planned to write, word for word.

    For the record, Vpinklotus is busting at the seems with good advice, ideas, and ways of seeing the world. If she says "This is how it is", that's how it is. Advice well worth following.
  • ozigal
    ozigal Posts: 173 Member
    I think I'm going to make my food diary private. Yesterday was my rest day and cheat day, as we went to Applebees for dinner, and I had a small blizzard from DQ. Someone on my friends list commented that I "shouldn't have eaten all those calories at lunch" which was only 250 and had dinner instead. I refuse to feel guilty about what I eat and skipping meals is a big no no to me.

    After I read that post I did feel a little guilty about what I ate, even though I went running and burned about 220 calories beforehand. I keep trying to tell myself, one bad meal won't make me fat.

    Edited to say that I'm down 23 lbs.

    My diary is private for similar reasons. I got sick of people making comments about what I should and shouldnt be eating. To be honest I eat reasonably healthily but I do have a blow out every now and again. I figure the only person who needs to be satisified with what I eat is me and if I cheat on it I am only cheating myself (which would be pointless) so now I just make it private.
  • Stargrace2
    Stargrace2 Posts: 48 Member
    I personally love browsing food dairies because I like to see what has worked for people, and just natural curiosity (I leave mine open for the same reason). I read the forums, see someone post a success story, and think to myself "they're the same size and height as me! I wonder what they're doing!" - nothing rude though, just natural curiosity.

    I wouldn't post comments like that on just anyone's wall - but if a friend has specifically asked for "tough love" then that's a different story. They could have simply assumed you wanted tough love, too. Maybe nothing malicious behind it at all. Misunderstandings happen. Of course you know yourself, your exercise, goals and diet, better than anyone. That is all that matters.
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    If I'm struggling with my progress and asking, "What am I doing wrong?" then it's perfectly ok to say, "Uh... you might want to skip that lemon meringue pie."

    If I'm perfectly happy with the progress I'm having, it's just annoying to have someone say, "You shouldn't have had the lemon meringue pie."

    After my first 5k, I had a donut. A great, big jelly-filled donut. It was the first time I ate a donut in months. I was well within my calorie goals for the day. And someone commented on my diary, "Watch it with the donuts." I thought, "What the hell?!" I was under my goal. I'd not only run a 5k but also done some extra exercise after the race, burning a total of about 700 calories that day. And (looking back at my diary for that day), it's really bizarre they zeroed in on the 300 calorie donut, not the whipped cream vodka or boneless wings or loaded fries I had later that day. :laugh:

    Some folks have hard wired ideas of what's acceptable while dieting. And maybe that works for them, but it's not for everyone.
  • CLFrancois
    CLFrancois Posts: 472 Member
    sounds like instead of making it private, your friends list should be "updated"
    seriously? judgy mcjudgersons can take a flyin leap.
  • christylindquist
    christylindquist Posts: 32 Member
    One bad day didn't get you to where you are today and one good day won't get you to where you want to be. I agree with you 100% I have my food diary open and get some negative feedback but I refuse to explain myself to anyone! I know my cheet days or meals and I make up for it with exercise. You need to do what makes you feel good! For me, if I deprive myself I know I will bing later so I don't beprive myself of any food that I like. I just have to watch my protions. Keep up the great work and don't let anyone get you down!
  • Sandytoes71
    Sandytoes71 Posts: 463 Member
    Meh....it's just constructive feedback....I doubt they meant it to offend you. I'm sure you're on here to lose weight since you mentioned that you lost 23 pounds so far, so perhaps the person was pointing out where you can improve.

    If it bugged you so much, you could have commented on her profile and explained it was your cheat day....or do what I do and ignore it and move on with my day.

    If this person would continue to pick at every little thing I do, then I would consider deleting her.

    I agree. I want constructive criticism which is why I leave mine open. Periodically, I will explain what my goals are so my friends will know what I expect from myself. For instance, they know that I believe in eating what I want as long as im under my cals. Sometimes I will get a comment on my sodium intake and I just explain that im not watching my sodium at this time. But I appreciate them caring enough to mention it. I have great friends who are very supportive and havent given up on me. And I know that if they give me a concerned opinion, that it is because they care.

    Now, if I had someone who only gave critique, then I could see where that would be a problem. There should be a balance.

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