Men, why you shouldn't go all the way on the first date.

KenosFeoh

Parenthood.

ARe you ready?

Serenstar75

Having sex with a woman too early in a relationship seriously hinders/impairs his judgment. Important red flags will be overlooked or dismissed. At the beginning of a relationship, women (people in general) are likely to wear a mask and not reveal their real personality.

I received that advice from a divorced man, who has custody of his child (for that to happened his ex-wife has to be really messed up!!!), who admitted to marrying the wrong person.

Having sex early on in the relationship seriously hinders and impairs HER judgment as well. She may miss all of his red flags and he's likely pretending too. Sad, isn't it? Also, bear in mind, not all men who have custody of their kids were married to an unfit mother. My daughter opted to go back and forth between her father and I. She's 18 and quite well adjusted at this time. But yes, there are some bad situations and some insane women out there. Oi. With my last husband, all of the red flags were there and we'd known each other for many years, but I still dismissed them and overlooked them with that moon in the eyes "love of my life" crap that people get.

m0jk

oh! try before you buy, why waste time money and effort if one of the most important things in the relationship isnt any good :P

but be safe use protection!

rml_16

Does anyone wait for marriage?

I don't. But I also don't put out on the first date. Generally, dating is when you're getting to know someone. I don't want someone I don't know getting all intimate with my intimates. I want someone who I can stand, can be friends with, and have built up attraction for. Half the fun in a relationship is also anticipation. If they've done it all on the first date, how much build up is that?

I'm also twice divorced from two men who were rather on the emotionally abusive (and otherwise) side. So for me, I'm happy living with a really great guy and not being married at this time. It amazes all the people who think of a date as basically a free session with a hooker. Maybe I'm old fashioned too, even if not on the scale of waiting for marriage.

Sometimes it's just a connection so strong it defies reason. If you have never actually experienced the whole love at first sight thing (and most people probably never will), it's difficult to explain it. It's almost like your souls already know each other. I've had that exactly once in my life, but unfortunately circumstances made it impossible for us to end up together in the end.

On the other hand, the current SO and I met in January, talked for a few hours and then I didn't see or hear from him again until April. We spent a good five hours just talking, then went to breakfast (at 2 am) with my best friend and another friend and then he came back to my place ...

He was supposed to leave town a few weeks later and I was not looking for a relationship, but I liked him, was attracted to him and it had been a long time. Eight years later, we're still learning about each other.

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