Trainer's wife hates me... what to do?
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I agree you were inappropriate. He did the right thing.
A married man should not be your confidant... that's what girlfriends and single men are for.0 -
No. The relationship between a trainer and a client is a professional one. Communicating occasionally outside of training sessions about health and fitness issues, if the trainer offered that, is probably fine. Texting about relationship issues, bringing little gifts, etc, crosses a line to outside a professional relationship. If both parties are cool with that, then cool. If not, well...then it's not appropriate. Perhaps it could have been handled a little bit better on your trainer's side - maybe by letting you know earlier that it was getting out of hand and giving the professional relationship another shot - but, that said, your trainer is well within his rights to end your professional relationship if he's become uncomfortable. And, IMHO, his wife is well within her rights to be annoyed - if one of my husband's clients/co-workers/employees was acting the way you described, I certainly wouldn't appreciate it.
Find another gym. Good luck with your goals.
I totally agree with this Barbie! And IMHO, you are the one being completely inappropriate. This man is not nor has ever been your friend, he WAS your trainer and you crossed that line long ago and are still continuing to do so by posting this on MFP trying to get backup to your thought process. Let it go and move on!0 -
Are you really 34 years old?^^^This
What is it with these 30-something-year-old women coming in here lately acting like teenagers?
And I must know: What is a "package deal couple?"0 -
Has to be the same poster. the information and wording is too related.0
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Birthday gifts? Fine.
Random cashew milk? Too much.0 -
yopeeps025 wrote: »Are you really 34 years old?^^^This
What is it with these 30-something-year-old women coming in here lately acting like teenagers?
And I must know: What is a "package deal couple?"
i saw that one LOLOL0 -
cordreyrich wrote: »Birthday gifts? Fine.
Random cashew milk? Too much.
How about coconut milk? is that acceptable?
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male/female friendships can be complicated- however, it does sound like you crossed some trainer/trainee boundaries. discussing your breakup being one of them. although my husband has female friends, and i do not have a problem with it and have never tried to control who he is friends with because he is a grown man. i don't know how i would feel about them bringing him gifts randomly and texting him about their relationships, especially if they ignored me as his spouse.
i would agree with the above poster- respect what he has asked and find a new gym- especially if he is the owner of the business. doing anything other than that may appear as if you are still trying to be in his life0 -
Oh boy. I hope this thread stays till I'm back from lunch YOU GUYS BETTER NOT RUIN IT FOR ME !!1!0
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I seen a movie like this.
She turned out to be a stalker.
Didn't end well!0 -
kraft_kris wrote: »cordreyrich wrote: »Birthday gifts? Fine.
Random cashew milk? Too much.
How about coconut milk? is that acceptable?
Depends on the coconuts.0 -
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whether a troll or just a person still hung up on the issue, this is just sad. If this was my husband I would have been upset too but I definitely would have addressed it before it got that far. Hope this is a joke and someone really isn't that blind about the Trainer/Trainee relationship boundaries.0
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violentbeauty84 wrote: »whether a troll or just a person still hung up on the issue, this is just sad. If this was my husband I would have been upset too but I definitely would have addressed it before it got that far. Hope this is a joke and someone really isn't that blind about the Trainer/Trainee relationship boundaries.
Look through the thread. Yes this is a joke.0 -
The wife, like many people, have probably seen their share of marriages end by starting with exactly what you were doing with her husband.
Doesn't matter if that was your intent right now - that's what it could have moved to.
Truth. I've been the wife in that situation, and trust me when I say it got ugly.0 -
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cordreyrich wrote: »kraft_kris wrote: »cordreyrich wrote: »Birthday gifts? Fine.
Random cashew milk? Too much.
How about coconut milk? is that acceptable?
Depends on the coconuts.
if there's lime in the coconuts?0 -
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kraft_kris wrote: »cordreyrich wrote: »kraft_kris wrote: »cordreyrich wrote: »Birthday gifts? Fine.
Random cashew milk? Too much.
How about coconut milk? is that acceptable?
Depends on the coconuts.
if there's lime in the coconuts?
This is hilarious. I love you krafty kris and i don't even know you.0 -
I'm getting sucked into that thread now...yopeeps025 wrote: »shrinkingletters wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »shrinkingletters wrote: »blankiefinder wrote: »
That site is blocked for me at work. Are you telling me that this is old news? I hope OP isn't continuing to harrass this couple.
YOu want me to copy and paste it? It is very very close to the OP. Ages were changed. Names seem the same.
Nah, I'll take your word for it.
The comments are funnier there than here.
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I'm getting sucked into that thread now...yopeeps025 wrote: »shrinkingletters wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »shrinkingletters wrote: »blankiefinder wrote: »
That site is blocked for me at work. Are you telling me that this is old news? I hope OP isn't continuing to harrass this couple.
YOu want me to copy and paste it? It is very very close to the OP. Ages were changed. Names seem the same.
Nah, I'll take your word for it.
The comments are funnier there than here.
That thread had me at sloots. Can't stop reading!0 -
One of the multiple threads she started on the other site was titled "Gym Crush Etiquette - Trainers GF hates me" ... now the troll moves to here.0
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yopeeps025 wrote: »shrinkingletters wrote: »blankiefinder wrote: »
That site is blocked for me at work. Are you telling me that this is old news? I hope OP isn't continuing to harrass this couple.
YOu want me to copy and paste it? It is very very close to the OP. Ages were changed. Names seem the same.
Ages are probably different because that was posted in Jan. and it's now July. OP still has an infatuation with the trainer and her birthday is sometime between Jan. 19 and Jul. 1.
OP, here is my advice: Don't ask for advice on the internet. Instead, seek a professional counselor for help. It costs more, but you pay for quality. On these forums, we can't provide the type of help you need or the amount of help you need.
Because you keep reaching out for help, I believe that you want it... but you maybe haven't found someone who can provide that help. You won't get it on internet forums. You will only get it by finding someone trained on sociological matters. So find a counselor.0 -
kraft_kris wrote: »cordreyrich wrote: »kraft_kris wrote: »cordreyrich wrote: »Birthday gifts? Fine.
Random cashew milk? Too much.
How about coconut milk? is that acceptable?
Depends on the coconuts.
if there's lime in the coconuts?
That would qualify as over the line. Citrus is the tangy homewrecker of the fruit family.0 -
sadiebrawl wrote: »kraft_kris wrote: »cordreyrich wrote: »kraft_kris wrote: »cordreyrich wrote: »Birthday gifts? Fine.
Random cashew milk? Too much.
How about coconut milk? is that acceptable?
Depends on the coconuts.
if there's lime in the coconuts?
This is hilarious. I love you krafty kris and i don't even know you.
sadiebrawl, don't forget to tip your server
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midwesterner85 wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »shrinkingletters wrote: »blankiefinder wrote: »
That site is blocked for me at work. Are you telling me that this is old news? I hope OP isn't continuing to harrass this couple.
YOu want me to copy and paste it? It is very very close to the OP. Ages were changed. Names seem the same.
Ages are probably different because that was posted in Jan. and it's now July. OP still has an infatuation with the trainer and her birthday is sometime between Jan. 19 and Jul. 1.
OP, here is my advice: Don't ask for advice on the internet. Instead, seek a professional counselor for help. It costs more, but you pay for quality. On these forums, we can't provide the type of help you need or the amount of help you need.
Because you keep reaching out for help, I believe that you want it... but you maybe haven't found someone who can provide that help. You won't get it on internet forums. You will only get it by finding someone trained on sociological matters. So find a counselor.
Or OP is a troll which is more believable.0 -
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Let's just hope that the OP's former trainer does not have a fondness for rabbits....0
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