females lifting heavy get bigger -_-
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Kriistabell wrote: »Jackie0Marie wrote: »LolBroScience wrote: »Kriistabell wrote: »Hi. Let me start with I'm 5'8, 176#, about 26% body fat, and enjoy challenging myself with weight lifting. I'm not petite and my family won't let me forget it. My profile pic is from last year when I was 11 pounds lighter and lifting.I'm getting back on track after losing 11 pounds on weight watchers and not liking how my body looked from just cardio and deficit in calories. So, I joined the juice head gym by me because it's cheap and has a lot of great equipment. It's only been a week but I'm really excited and proud of how determined I am and how I feel like I know what I'm doing with my form and what whatever. I'm also following iifym and tracking everything. Ihave already lost 2.2 more pounds in this first week.
That being said, my family is discouraging me because I'm very muscular (with chub on top) and have a larger bone structure (wide shoulders). I have my mother's horrendous arms that run in my family like you wouldn't believe, a naturally xlarge behind, and strong, big, thighs. I've been an athlete through college so I have a lot of strength for a girl. So far I sound gigantic. But, my waist is rather small, and my knees and elbows down are boney. So in short - I'm a bulky girl. I'm not fat but I'm not the kind of girl you say is thin either. I'd like to get smaller overall but keep my proportions for the most part because they make me feel feminine. My family is telling me when regular (petite) girls lift heavy they can look good but not me because I've got a large frame. They are getting in my head and after going to the beach yesterday all I could see were my bulky, non-petite flaws and I need confirmation that I'm doing the right thing. I'd really love (I really need) some insight on this! Thanks mfps
In addition to working out, you should work on your mindset.
What is wrong with being "bulky" or looking/being strong? If it makes YOU happy, then that is all that matters. Your family doesn't understand, so like most people who don't...they just talk. Ignore it, and do what makes you happy regardless of the approval of others.
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Tell your family to go f*** themselves.Kriistabell wrote: »Hi. Let me start with I'm 5'8, 176#, about 26% body fat, and enjoy challenging myself with weight lifting. I'm not petite and my family won't let me forget it. My profile pic is from last year when I was 11 pounds lighter and lifting.I'm getting back on track after losing 11 pounds on weight watchers and not liking how my body looked from just cardio and deficit in calories. So, I joined the juice head gym by me because it's cheap and has a lot of great equipment. It's only been a week but I'm really excited and proud of how determined I am and how I feel like I know what I'm doing with my form and what whatever. I'm also following iifym and tracking everything. Ihave already lost 2.2 more pounds in this first week.
That being said, my family is discouraging me because I'm very muscular (with chub on top) and have a larger bone structure (wide shoulders). I have my mother's horrendous arms that run in my family like you wouldn't believe, a naturally xlarge behind, and strong, big, thighs. I've been an athlete through college so I have a lot of strength for a girl. So far I sound gigantic. But, my waist is rather small, and my knees and elbows down are boney. So in short - I'm a bulky girl. I'm not fat but I'm not the kind of girl you say is thin either. I'd like to get smaller overall but keep my proportions for the most part because they make me feel feminine. My family is telling me when regular (petite) girls lift heavy they can look good but not me because I've got a large frame. They are getting in my head and after going to the beach yesterday all I could see were my bulky, non-petite flaws and I need confirmation that I'm doing the right thing. I'd really love (I really need) some insight on this! Thanks mfps
More importantly ^ this!
I'm 5'2 and I've heard the opposite, "Muscular petite girls just look bulky/too big," and my response to that is, "LOL KEWL STORY!"
Just keep in mind most people are f**king morons and have no idea what they are talking about - including family.
Lol nice. I'm going to tell them Kewl StoryBro. They won't know what to say
Omg, DO EEETTTT!!!! :laugh:0 -
Sounds like you have the same body type as I do. Sit down with you family and ask them nicely to never ever ever comment on your body again. It's just not allowed.
And as everyone says, "big" isn't bad. I think we hear that as women and it eats at those of us who will never be anything but "big" but why, why is it bad? I can reach things in high cupboards, I can carry my 9 year old daughter, I can do manual labor at work, I can eat 2000 calories and still lose weight, really my size is very beneficial. There's no logical reason why women should be small. And yeah, my big shoulders and big rib cage just make my waist look smaller.0 -
Kriistabell wrote: »
I might have been using it wrong. I was thinking it meant something similar to daintyCharlieBeansmomTracey wrote: »isnt petite anything under 5'4? correct me if Im wrong unless you mean a smaller frame.
Well, you aren't. You can either mope about it and let others make you feel bad for your genetics or you can decide to embrace what you have and tell them to mind their own business.
I got teased about my thick thighs and huge butt for years. I'm not built to be thin or dainty. I stopped trying to fit what others thought I should be and I went out and set a world record for deadlift. They don't tease me anymore.
Tell your family to stop talking about your body or you'll stop talking to them.
Omg that's amazing! Congrats!! I'm planning to continue what I'm doing because when I think rationally I think it's the right thing for what it want. My family does get in my head but I've decided to cut them out of my conversations involving fitness. This community is much more knowledgeable and supportive than them and I'm very appreciative for everything that's been said to me here. I had to hear it. Thanks again.0 -
BusyRaeNOTBusty wrote: »Sounds like you have the same body type as I do. Sit down with you family and ask them nicely to never ever ever comment on your body again. It's just not allowed.
And as everyone says, "big" isn't bad. I think we hear that as women and it eats at those of us who will never be anything but "big" but why, why is it bad? I can reach things in high cupboards, I can carry my 9 year old daughter, I can do manual labor at work, I can eat 2000 calories and still lose weight, really my size is very beneficial. There's no logical reason why women should be small. And yeah, my big shoulders and big rib cage just make my waist look smaller.
Hell yeah for being a "big" woman
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Need2Exerc1se wrote: »Kriistabell wrote: »Runningman_78 wrote: »LolBroScience wrote: »In addition to working out, you should work on your mindset.
What is wrong with being "bulky" or looking/being strong? If it makes YOU happy, then that is all that matters. Your family doesn't understand, so like most people who don't...they just talk. Ignore it, and do what makes you happy regardless of the approval of others.
I echo this ^ It almost sounds like some jealously coming from your family. You're on your way to being happy, healthy and strong, and I dare say that they aren't any of these? You don't lift for others, you do it for yourself so keep on lifting!
i love being strong. I'm not sure I want to be bulky though. I like some types of bulky but not all so I'm trying to work towards my own goal of being the kind of bulky that would make me happy. I don't know that I get to choose though.
From your profile pic it doesn't seem like you get bulky for a woman, but some women do. I was reading an interview with Serena Williams on her body and she said she never lifts weights because she is bulky enough without them. She does some other type of strength training.
So, if you feel you get too bulky from weight lifting then don't lift weights. Maybe give your dad's plan a try, or try some other form of strength training. But if you like the way you look when weight lifting, then lift weights and ignore the comments.
Do what makes you happiest.
Yeah I'll see what happens. It's far too soon to tell. I'd be sad to stop lifting because I love the challenge, but we will see. Thanks!0 -
sarahlifts wrote: »You wont get bulky. I only lift heavy and have been eating at a deficit. At one point I was 220 lbs I started lifting at 188 lbs. I am 140 lbs now 5'7
I wear a size 2. I am not bulky but I am lean.
Wow you've come a long way. That's amazing! Congrats to you! I'm ok with being a size 7 jeans lol but I'm hoping to just make progress. Lean is my goal!0 -
Kriistabell wrote: »I'm not petite and my family won't let me forget it.
Tell your family to jog the hell on.
Your family do not own your body. You do. Society does not own your body. You do. Religion does not own your body. You do.
And as the person with ownership of your body you get to decide what you want it to look and perform like. No one else.
If you feel comfortable, happy, healthy and like your body you win.
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BusyRaeNOTBusty wrote: »Sounds like you have the same body type as I do. Sit down with you family and ask them nicely to never ever ever comment on your body again. It's just not allowed.
And as everyone says, "big" isn't bad. I think we hear that as women and it eats at those of us who will never be anything but "big" but why, why is it bad? I can reach things in high cupboards, I can carry my 9 year old daughter, I can do manual labor at work, I can eat 2000 calories and still lose weight, really my size is very beneficial. There's no logical reason why women should be small. And yeah, my big shoulders and big rib cage just make my waist look smaller.
True that. I do love being strong0 -
Kriistabell wrote: »I'm not petite and my family won't let me forget it.
Tell your family to jog the hell on.
Your family do not own your body. You do. Society does not own your body. You do. Religion does not own your body. You do.
And as the person with ownership of your body you get to decide what you want it to look and perform like. No one else.
If you feel comfortable, happy, healthy and like your body you win.
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Families are often the most vocal, and critical, even when things are said with the best of intentions. I'm still about 25 lbs overweight, and already my family is started in on the "don't lose any more, you've already lost too much".
Do what you have to do for yourself and your own body. Let your families comments slide. Say thank you for your concern, but just go on and do your own thing. I would love to have your height/shape. I'm a shortie (5'2), and believe me, i've often lamented of the suckiness of being so short. I can only eat at 1200 calories to lose weight. When I was pregnant, there was nowhere for the babies to go but out because my torso is so short, so I had a huge stomach on each pregnancy, with stretch marks galore.
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whatatime2befit wrote: »Families are often the most vocal, and critical, even when things are said with the best of intentions. I'm still about 25 lbs overweight, and already my family is started in on the "don't lose any more, you've already lost too much".
Do what you have to do for yourself and your own body. Let your families comments slide. Say thank you for your concern, but just go on and do your own thing. I would love to have your height/shape. I'm a shortie (5'2), and believe me, i've often lamented of the suckiness of being so short. I can only eat at 1200 calories to lose weight. When I was pregnant, there was nowhere for the babies to go but out because my torso is so short, so I had a huge stomach on each pregnancy, with stretch marks galore.
Thank you. I am trying to deal with them better. Congrats on your progress. Your picture looks great! I don't dislike my height. I think short is good but so is tall. I can see what you are saying about being short though. I've never thought of all that. I'm allowed 1900 calories based on my iifym so I grateful for that. I hope you are able to appreciate your height though. Pants probably don't look like high waters on you! Lol and if they're long you can fold or hem them! And I'm sure your pregnant belly was very cute
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Kriistabell wrote: »Congrats on your progress. Your picture looks great!
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There are many ways to be strong. Your father's method is one but not the only one. Many women worry about becoming bulky but it's not as common as it is perceived to be. Body type does affect how one develops muscle and it's all about seeing how your body reacts to what you do and making adjustments to make your body into what you want. Some people don't fit into "skinny" or "fat". Do what makes you feel good physically and emotionally.0
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Jeffery12p wrote: »There are many ways to be strong. Your father's method is one but not the only one. Many women worry about becoming bulky but it's not as common as it is perceived to be. Body type does affect how one develops muscle and it's all about seeing how your body reacts to what you do and making adjustments to make your body into what you want. Some people don't fit into "skinny" or "fat". Do what makes you feel good physically and emotionally.
Thank you. I do love lifting weights. It makes me happy and I feel strong while doing it and meeting goals0 -
I never understand how seeing muscle definition means getting bigger.0
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My mom will gladly explain it to you lolyopeeps025 wrote: »I never understand how seeing muscle definition means getting bigger.
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Kriistabell wrote: »
My mom will gladly explain it to you lolyopeeps025 wrote: »I never understand how seeing muscle definition means getting bigger.
Well I am a visual learner if that helps her explain it more. I'd like to laugh at something that will make no sense.
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yopeeps025 wrote: »I never understand how seeing muscle definition means getting bigger.
It's not an uncommon misconception, even today. Many times, people see women with low body fat percentages as "bulky" because of the muscle definition.0 -
yopeeps025 wrote: »Kriistabell wrote: »
My mom will gladly explain it to you lolyopeeps025 wrote: »I never understand how seeing muscle definition means getting bigger.
Well I am a visual learner if that helps her explain it more. I'd like to laugh at something that will make no sense.
She has zero definition. Does Zumba once a week and eats everything except veggies. Her belly is exceptionally round. It's quite amazing. I think you would learn a lot!0 -
PikaKnight wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »I never understand how seeing muscle definition means getting bigger.
It's not an uncommon misconception, even today. Many times, people see women with low body fat percentages as "bulky" because of the muscle definition.
That is the thing though. Those women are lean. Like that thread before of when Madonna got her muscle definition on. Some posters called her bulky and I was like how little does she weigh. I thing I can throw her with one arm.0 -
Kriistabell wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »Kriistabell wrote: »
My mom will gladly explain it to you lolyopeeps025 wrote: »I never understand how seeing muscle definition means getting bigger.
Well I am a visual learner if that helps her explain it more. I'd like to laugh at something that will make no sense.
She has zero definition. Does Zumba once a week and eats everything except veggies. Her belly is exceptionally round. It's quite amazing. I think you would learn a lot!
LOL.0 -
yopeeps025 wrote: »PikaKnight wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »I never understand how seeing muscle definition means getting bigger.
It's not an uncommon misconception, even today. Many times, people see women with low body fat percentages as "bulky" because of the muscle definition.
That is the thing though. Those women are lean. Like that thread before of when Madonna got her muscle definition on. Some posters called her bulky and I was like how little does she weigh. I thing I can throw her with one arm.
That's why it's a misconception. Some times it takes awhile to change how things are viewed/perceived. Especially something that has been a part of a few society norms for a very long time.0 -
yopeeps025 wrote: »PikaKnight wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »I never understand how seeing muscle definition means getting bigger.
It's not an uncommon misconception, even today. Many times, people see women with low body fat percentages as "bulky" because of the muscle definition.
That is the thing though. Those women are lean. Like that thread before of when Madonna got her muscle definition on. Some posters called her bulky and I was like how little does she weigh. I thing I can throw her with one arm.
I think my family thinks that because I'm not small and can't be thrown with one arm that I will look like Madonna on steroids one day0 -
PikaKnight wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »PikaKnight wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »I never understand how seeing muscle definition means getting bigger.
It's not an uncommon misconception, even today. Many times, people see women with low body fat percentages as "bulky" because of the muscle definition.
That is the thing though. Those women are lean. Like that thread before of when Madonna got her muscle definition on. Some posters called her bulky and I was like how little does she weigh. I thing I can throw her with one arm.
That's why it's a misconception. Some times it takes awhile to change how things are viewed/perceived. Especially something that has been a part of a few society norms for a very long time.
My mother would try to school you on how you're wrong and crazy... And use no facts! She's magical0 -
Kriistabell wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »PikaKnight wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »I never understand how seeing muscle definition means getting bigger.
It's not an uncommon misconception, even today. Many times, people see women with low body fat percentages as "bulky" because of the muscle definition.
That is the thing though. Those women are lean. Like that thread before of when Madonna got her muscle definition on. Some posters called her bulky and I was like how little does she weigh. I thing I can throw her with one arm.
I think my family thinks that because I'm not small and can't be thrown with one arm that I will look like Madonna on steroids one day
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I hope everybody in this thread is saying the same thing that I'm about to, which is: kindly request your family shove it, your body is AWESOME - you should really love it more, and if lifting & getting strong is what you want to do... DO IT.
While every woman will have different goals, I've been trying to bulk up for a few years now, and it's hard. You're not going to wake up one morning and not recognize yourself, because you're gotten "too bulky". Strong women is where it's fckin at. Pick up those weights, girl!!
Also, our families are usually unsupportive jerks.0 -
Kriistabell wrote: »PikaKnight wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »PikaKnight wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »I never understand how seeing muscle definition means getting bigger.
It's not an uncommon misconception, even today. Many times, people see women with low body fat percentages as "bulky" because of the muscle definition.
That is the thing though. Those women are lean. Like that thread before of when Madonna got her muscle definition on. Some posters called her bulky and I was like how little does she weigh. I thing I can throw her with one arm.
That's why it's a misconception. Some times it takes awhile to change how things are viewed/perceived. Especially something that has been a part of a few society norms for a very long time.
My mother would try to school you on how you're wrong and crazy... And use no facts! She's magical
Then I give this gif to your mother....
:laugh:
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Read this, and show it to your family:
http://www.buzzfeed.com/sallytamarkin/am-i-right-ladies
Shamelessly stolen from this thread ( http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/comment/33111158#Comment_33111158 ):
Both require dedication ... the left also requires significant supplementation.0 -
There is an MFP user who co-leads the Eat Train Progress group here. @Sarauk2sf
You can check out her blog and pictures. She's awesome, knowledgable and can deadlift 325lbs+. And she's not "bulky" at all :bigsmile:
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The idea behind that picture is good - but WTF with the little 2-3 lb dumbbell? No wonder people have so many misconceptions regarding fitness.0
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