Choosing Friends

mattyc772014

Non_Stop wrote: »

mattyc772014 wrote: »

@Non_Stop That's a fury dog between my legs. Way to go off topic.

Oh wow, completely missed that. My imagination got carried away.

Its ok if you have those thoughts. I dont judge.

mattyc772014

We should get back to the OP. Dont be afraid to make friends. Most don't bite.

TheVirgoddess

I look for people that have mutual friends, or we seem to connect here on the forums, or through other friends profiles. When people friend request me, I ask for a message because I want friends that are invested enough in me to at least read my profile first

I don't want to collect friends, I want to make actual friends.

barbecuesauce

Non_Stop wrote: »

Fitwarrior7_Round_2 wrote: »

Dont accept friend requests without a message. Most people say why they want to add you...even put a line in your profile about it to ward off skeevers.

Problem with this advice is that a lot of people on this site only use the app to access MFP, which means they can't read that they should include a message.

Best advice is to accept, read through prior comments they've made on their profile and if you agree with their lifestyle, then keep them around.

Agree.

I didn't want friends when I first made this profile, deleted all requests. Now I've started accepting everyone and unless they are people I would avoid IRL, they stay. I'm not that interested in the friendship side of it though--one reason I deleted my last one was that there were some people who would. not. stop. messaging. me.

OP, decide what you want out of your experience on here and choose from there. Do you want people who are like you and have similar goals? Do you want chatty people? Do you want people who are more experienced (you're probably going to have to do the asking there)?

teanahk

I'll accept pretty much anybody.
I'm quick to befriend them if they turn out to be wack-a-doodles.

A general bit of advice, if they constantly mention their instagram account or ask you to join their "Facebook weight loss challenge group" run the other way because they are going to try and sell you some crappy smoothies/cleanses/miracle pills.

ImNancyLynn

So far I have had excellent luck with the people I have asked to be friends and then some of their friends have friended me. I have a really terrific support group. I have not encountered any creepy people yet! If anyone gets weird I will simply delete them. Take a chance on adding some people, you might find some terrific support like I have! Good luck!

angel_minor18

_incogNEATo_ wrote: »

Just remember when you accept FRs that this place also serves as part online dating site, so you may get random messages to flirt.

I have noticed this already...lol...trying to avoid that.

angel_minor18

michellemybelll wrote: »

you'll get better quality friends if you fill out your profile and tell a little more about yourself too.

Good idea...didn't think about that.

angel_minor18

goofyrick24 wrote: »

I just want friends so I Can be more motivated on here and with my diet and weight loss. I was on here with a lot of support 2 years ago now only one of those friends still posts on here. I am about 60 lbs overweight, out of shape, and tired of taking medicines and having surgeries (gall bladder, ulcer, etc) all do to my crappy habits... I would love as many friends as possible.. I'm not on here to be a perv. (I'm happily married).. I just need help and support..

It sounds like you're here for all the right reasons. ..I wish you the best!

angel_minor18

Caitwn wrote: »

What worked for me was getting brave enough to send friend requests to people I noticed here (and a couple I met on the reddit site /r/loseit) who had clearly been active posters for some time, and who consistently gave good advice and feedback. I included a brief note introducing myself and letting them know why I was reaching out to them in particular.

So now I feel extremely fortunate in having a strong and supportive friends network here.

When it comes to others contacting me, I'll typically accept and then delete them if they never communicate or if they get hung up in diet scams that they decide are The One True Way.

Thank you for your positive and helpful feedback

angel_minor18

barbecuesauce wrote: »

Non_Stop wrote: »

Fitwarrior7_Round_2 wrote: »

Dont accept friend requests without a message. Most people say why they want to add you...even put a line in your profile about it to ward off skeevers.

Problem with this advice is that a lot of people on this site only use the app to access MFP, which means they can't read that they should include a message.

Best advice is to accept, read through prior comments they've made on their profile and if you agree with their lifestyle, then keep them around.

Agree.

I didn't want friends when I first made this profile, deleted all requests. Now I've started accepting everyone and unless they are people I would avoid IRL, they stay. I'm not that interested in the friendship side of it though--one reason I deleted my last one was that there were some people who would. not. stop. messaging. me.

OP, decide what you want out of your experience on here and choose from there. Do you want people who are like you and have similar goals? Do you want chatty people? Do you want people who are more experienced (you're probably going to have to do the asking there)?

Those are great things to think about...thanks!

angel_minor18

Thank you for all the great advice...some of the comments sorta took a rabbit trail, but it was obviously all in good fun lol ;-) I have definitely learned a lot from everyone's comments

Liftng4Lis

I like to actually talk to my friends, not collect them. You'll know when you've clicked with someone, if not, you can always DELETE!

angel_minor18

Liftng4Lis wrote: »

I like to actually talk to my friends, not collect them. You'll know when you've clicked with someone, if not, you can always DELETE!

I'm starting to figure that out already...thanks!