Obese people telling me what's unhealthy...

jillwhite12

This is basically just a rant...

I`ve lost 75 lbs since january and have been eating very healthy foods with the occasional treat and it has been working very well for me. I plan my "treat" meals by lowering my calories by a few hundred every day during the week if I know I'll be going out to eat on the weekend. Then I don't feel guilty because even my treat meals are planned to fit into my weekly calorie goal. I eat vegetables and lean protein all the time and those "treat" meals happen only about once a month or less...

Anyway, today at lunch, while I ate my vegetables, I said to one of my co-workers "I had a poutine this weekend for the first time this year!". And she said "well you should watch cause those are full of fat and it's not good for you"!!!! This coming from a person who is very obese with no intentions of changing it, who has no problem eating junk food every day!

I was stunned! I mean I know it's not good for me and that's why I`ve only had one this year! And I eat vegetables all week so surely one poutine isn't going to kill me! She is a very nice woman who I like alot but I felt a little judged and I guess I just had to rant a bit!

Anyone else have experiences like this?

PepperWorm

ALL THE TIME.

My dad, who lives with me, is the worst about it. Gives me outdated "advice" and criticizes my food choices.

Annoying.

sc10985

That would piss me off SO bad. Most likely though, it's either ignorance or jealousy, or a combination of both lol.

Pearsquared

Oh jeez.

These kind of comments were triggers for my binge eating. I would think, "Well, what's the point then?" and not eat anything when people were around, and then more than make up for it when I was alone. It got to the point where I couldn't eat in front of people for a while there for fear of comments.

#lifestory

jillwhite12

@ starrxoxo9, Yeah, you're probably right... I just felt like throwing my cucumber at her lol

ks4e

This is my niece! She's probably at 200 lbs at 5 feet tall, and only 17 years old. I am "fluffy" after having a baby, but I need to eat a lot since I'm breastfeeding. She will tell me that I'm eating too much, or that I'm eating too late, or that what I'm having has too much this and that.

I don't know the logic behind it. I know it's not jealousy, I know it's not hate. My niece and I love each other very much and I encourage her to eat better and exercise with me.

People are weird. You know what you're doing is right, so just ignore her and wish her the best at the same time.

whierd

Chill out bro, people give unasked for advice all the time. Smile, nod, and move on.

melindasuefritz

nO

melindasuefritz

Chill out bro, people give unasked for advice all the time. Smile, nod, and move on.

sc10985

Hahaha I hear ya!!

heytherelameman

Chill out bro, people give unasked for advice all the time. Smile, nod, and move on.

Yup.

Chelledl

Maybe stating the obvious made her feel smart? Congratulations on your weight loss success! )

lcvaughn520

Oooh whether they're obese or not, nothing bothers me more than someone saying "OMG THAT IS SO BAD FOR YOU" after I've already eaten it. Like, thank you...it's been eaten, nothing I can do about it now, so why don't you not shame me for it!!

When I was 16, I worked in a retail store and I was SUPER active and thin. I went to Cinnabon for one of my lunch breaks (I did not do this every day), and when I got back my co-worker was like "wow you just consumed your daily allotment of calories in 15 minutes." COOL, LADY! I literally have not had Cinnabon since. Not like that's really the end of the world, but still. Why?

xinit0

Anyway, today at lunch, while I ate my vegetables, I said to one of my co-workers "I had a poutine this weekend for the first time this year!". And she said "well you should watch cause those are full of fat and it's not good for you"!!!! This coming from a person who is very obese with no intentions of changing it, who has no problem eating junk food every day!

See, I don't handle that sort of thing very well, so my advice would be bad advice...

I'd adopt a shocked look, and drop my fork on the table.

"POUTINE IS HIGH IN FAT?! OH MY GOD! REALLY? I'M GOING TO BE SICK!"

Then I'd stop, pick up my fork and say "I've lost 75 pounds. Could I get you another soda or a bag of chips?"

sixout

Chill out bro, people give unasked for advice all the time. Smile, nod, and move on.

Come on dude. Telling people to use logic? Get out of here with that!

nmeeks81

I liked to think a comment like that may have a postive intent maybe she proud of you for doing something she thinks she uncapable of and she does not want to fall off the wagon. sometime neg comments motive .

xinit0

Also, I think that someone who's giving you advice on what to eat is opening the gates to your advice on what to eat... should you be so inclined.

SteveStedge

Expand this to "People who have never accomplished thing X telling me it can't be done while I've already done it". There are an endless supply of idiots in the world. They are insecure and because THEY can't do something they want to tell YOU it can't be done.

Behavior_Modification

That is a new word for me, poutine. Never heard of it. Had to google it.

juliegrey1

what is a pouyine? sorry now I dont know

Siegel15

Chill out bro, people give unasked for advice all the time. Smile, nod, and move on.

That's what I would do. Ignore them.