Unfit bosses
karenhannahmae
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Don't get me wrong, I love my superiors. They generally care about my wellbeing, but not for the eating habits. Since they live near, they usually offer to give me a ride. But I hate it when they have spontaneous dinners and drinking sessions and I'm just internally forced to tag along. It's not that unhealthy, but it doesn't help in my weight loss journey either. Help!
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If you feel you have to attend these events drink water and limit your calorie intake.0
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What do their eating habits have to do with anything-they aren't force feeding you whatever they eat are they? And if you don't want to go out with them, just don't go out with them. You're an adult, you make your own decisions right?? If it is a case of you know if you accept a lift off them and will be forced to go to some place because they make an 'executive' decision that is where they are detouring after work, don't grab a lift with them, get the bus or something.
I don't get why this is a problem.0 -
Eating can be social and fun too! Food is not love or an enemy... it's just fuel. Go have fun, pick the carrots and celery appetizer and choose water with lime to drink. Enjoy the company!0
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What kind of job do you have that you are obligated to attended spontaneous dinners and drinking sessions?0
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You can just say sorry I have other plans for tonight and not go. If you do just don't drink and opt for a light meal. I was away on business and had to go out for a business meeting/dinner to a place famous for their big roasts. I opted for a light vegetarian meal and I got a bit of stick from my bosses for that.0
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Are these bosses men? How do you normally deal with unwanted male attention?0
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Can you transport yourself to and from work?
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If it bothers you that much, find another way to get home. You can't expect friends or coworkers to change how they do things to accommodate your weight loss journey.0
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NoIdea101NoIdea wrote: »What do their eating habits have to do with anything-they aren't force feeding you whatever they eat are they? And if you don't want to go out with them, just don't go out with them. You're an adult, you make your own decisions right?? If it is a case of you know if you accept a lift off them and will be forced to go to some place because they make an 'executive' decision that is where they are detouring after work, don't grab a lift with them, get the bus or something.
I don't get why this is a problem.
This. And if you're going out to eat, order a salad or healthier option, eat a smaller portion, or just have a few bites from a shared appetizer. If I don't have a lot of calories left for drinks, I do hard liquor in either a diet mixer or straight (like whisky) and then nurse one drink for an hour.0 -
kshama2001 wrote: »Are these bosses men? How do you normally deal with unwanted male attention?
Why would it relate to their gender at all?0 -
You DON'T have to take the ride.
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Yes, it was a very heterocentric and othering question.kshama2001 wrote: »Are these bosses men? How do you normally deal with unwanted male attention?
Why would it relate to their gender at all?
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If you don't want to eat or drink, don't. If your bosses are making eating and drinking a requirement for you keeping your job, talk to HR.0
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kshama2001 wrote: »Are these bosses men? How do you normally deal with unwanted male attention?
Why would it relate to their gender at all?
If she sees that they are not giving her a ride and taking her drinking to be friendly but to get into her pants (if this is the case), it may be easier for her to turn down their invitations.
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DeguelloTex wrote: »
Yes, it was a very heterocentric and othering question.kshama2001 wrote: »Are these bosses men? How do you normally deal with unwanted male attention?
Why would it relate to their gender at all?
I considered adding "lesbian" but since I have seen this behavior often from het men and never from lesbians, I didn't.
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karenhannahmae wrote: »Don't get me wrong, I love my superiors. They generally care about my wellbeing, but not for the eating habits. Since they live near, they usually offer to give me a ride. But I hate it when they have spontaneous dinners and drinking sessions and I'm just internally forced to tag along. It's not that unhealthy, but it doesn't help in my weight loss journey either. Help!
So, let me get this straight.
Your company provides you with free transport, free dinner parties with free food and free drinks on top of your salary and other work related entitlements?
Daaaaaaaaamn, that's a good gig.
Get a bike and ride to work. Or run in. Job done.
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These decisions can be difficult because it may not be a case of being "forced" to go along in order to keep a job, more that in many cases promotions and such tend to become available to those who have schmoozed a little with the bosses. Since this will always be unstated, it can't usually be taken up with HR with any success. So the decision becomes whether to focus on weight loss or career. I second those who have said to choose carefully what you eat, or to order one drink and nurse it for the evening. These are habits that will be useful after you have lost the desired weight and are maintaining, too.0
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Why is it a focus on weight loss or career when your very next sentence shows that it isn't? It's straightforward to do both.kat_princess12 wrote: »These decisions can be difficult because it may not be a case of being "forced" to go along in order to keep a job, more that in many cases promotions and such tend to become available to those who have schmoozed a little with the bosses. Since this will always be unstated, it can't usually be taken up with HR with any success. So the decision becomes whether to focus on weight loss or career. I second those who have said to choose carefully what you eat, or to order one drink and nurse it for the evening. These are habits that will be useful after you have lost the desired weight and are maintaining, too.
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karenhannahmae wrote: »Don't get me wrong, I love my superiors. They generally care about my wellbeing, but not for the eating habits. Since they live near, they usually offer to give me a ride. But I hate it when they have spontaneous dinners and drinking sessions and I'm just internally forced to tag along. It's not that unhealthy, but it doesn't help in my weight loss journey either. Help!
This is blunt, but it seems to me you are setting yourself up as a victim by your statement in bold. You have the power over your actions one hundred percent of the time.
If you're uncomfortable, can you not ride with them?
If they suggest dinner, can you tell them no thank you because you need to get home? Or, you have other plans after work?
If you do choose eat dinner with them, can you limit your food/drink intake earlier so it does fit your calorie goals? Or, just leave some calories available in case if you don't know if you'll be going? Maybe pre-plan so you stay in your goals?
In my opinion, pre-planning helps.0 -
You don't have to eat what they do :]
If you want to attend these dinners, by all means do! Don't cut off your social life for the sake of eating healthily. You'll just have to learn to make 'better choices' for your calorie allowance! Keep tracking and you'll be fine.0 -
kshama2001 wrote: »Are these bosses men? How do you normally deal with unwanted male attention?
Why would this even matter? This is silly.0 -
So in other words it's better to be a lackey to get ahead? People in most settings know who the "brown noser" is and there's lack of respect by many because they seem to not work as hard due to favoritism with the boss.kat_princess12 wrote: »These decisions can be difficult because it may not be a case of being "forced" to go along in order to keep a job, more that in many cases promotions and such tend to become available to those who have schmoozed a little with the bosses. Since this will always be unstated, it can't usually be taken up with HR with any success. So the decision becomes whether to focus on weight loss or career. I second those who have said to choose carefully what you eat, or to order one drink and nurse it for the evening. These are habits that will be useful after you have lost the desired weight and are maintaining, too.
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kshama2001 wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »Are these bosses men? How do you normally deal with unwanted male attention?
Why would it relate to their gender at all?
If she sees that they are not giving her a ride and taking her drinking to be friendly but to get into her pants (if this is the case), it may be easier for her to turn down their invitations.
What? This is like a train derailing........kshama2001 wrote: »DeguelloTex wrote: »
Yes, it was a very heterocentric and othering question.kshama2001 wrote: »Are these bosses men? How do you normally deal with unwanted male attention?
Why would it relate to their gender at all?
I considered adding "lesbian" but since I have seen this behavior often from het men and never from lesbians, I didn't.
And it's crashed.0 -
I would say if you're going to dinner out side of work hours treat it like any other social event. Either choose to go but be healthy or don't go at all.
If I was in the situation I would go to dinner but drink sparkling wine rather than beer and eat something healthy or eat less during another meal.
I have a work night out next weekend which isn't compatible with my diet. I'm taking the car so I can leave when I want and so I'm not tempted to drink calorific beers and will have a super light lunch so I can have a larger meal than I usually would.0 -
If you are invited to dinner, you can always say No. If they are offering to give you a ride and this involves a stop for dinner, find another to get home. If you enjoy having dinner with them, or feel it will help advance your career, make lower calorie choices, eat less, drink less, or plan for these calories in advance.
If you expect your boss to get in shape for you to lose weight, good luck with that...0 -
afranklin85 wrote: »I would say if you're going to dinner out side of work hours treat it like any other social event. Either choose to go but be healthy or don't go at all.
If I was in the situation I would go to dinner but drink sparkling wine rather than beer and eat something healthy or eat less during another meal.
I have a work night out next weekend which isn't compatible with my diet. I'm taking the car so I can leave when I want and so I'm not tempted to drink calorific beers and will have a super light lunch so I can have a larger meal than I usually would.
This exactly. If my boss decides he wants to buy us all lunch, I order something that will fit in my calories, or I say no thank you that day. He never takes it personally.
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Seriously? They force you to eat and drink? I think you need to forgo the excuses and take responsibility for yourself.0
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You're always going to be faced with social situations where you have to put on your big girl pants and eat/drink what you want instead of going with the party flow...that's on you, always.0
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