Alcohol

AspenDan

I know it's been said a million times but..I'm a guy in my 20s and the amount of hell I take from friends when I don't drink with them is rough..so I drink, not often, but a lot..and I also eat when I drink..
Just sharing for those in a similar boat.

pinkgumdrop123

I'm in the same boat.. I usually drink water In-between drinks and stick to vodka sodas..boring haha

Venus_Red

I would think by the late 20s you'd be able to take it/people wouldn't care how much you were drinking. Either build the drinks into your daily intake, augment them with waters inbetween, nurse those drinks, or grow a spine and tell your friends your don't need to drink like you're in college any more to have a good time.

You can be social and not be a glutton all of the time. You can also be that glutton, you just can't do it constantly.

ncboiler89

danieltsmoke wrote: »

I know it's been said a million times but..I'm a guy in my 20s and the amount of hell I take from friends when I don't drink with them is rough..so I drink, not often, but a lot..and I also eat when I drink..
Just sharing for those in a similar boat.

cheers!

Lourdesong

So... how rough is it? The hell they give you, do they string you up by your underwear to a flagpole and leave you there for a good Samaritan to discover? Or what?

Don't see why you couldn't have wine or some good beer in moderation with your friends without getting grief for refraining from drinking everyone under the table.

Or why if your friends did give you grief for not wanting to get sloshed that you couldn't assert yourself and do what you intended to do to keep to your goals despite what your friends want or say about it.

ncboiler89

Lourdesong wrote: »

So... how rough is it? The hell they give you, do they string you up by your underwear to a flagpole and leave you there for a good Samaritan to discover? Or what?

Don't see why you couldn't have wine or some good beer in moderation with your friends without getting grief for refraining from drinking everyone under the table.

Or why if your friends did give you grief for not wanting to get sloshed that you couldn't assert yourself and do what you intended to do to keep to your goals despite what your friends want or say about it.

Peer pressure. It's a hellva drug.

AnnPT77

When in that kind of crowd, I used to start with a gin & soda with lime, and later quietly switch to soda & lime. Yeah, deceptive, but it takes some of the nonsense out of the night. Hard to do at a beer/wine event, though. Helps to go through lots of glasses of water on the side, too.

tincanonastring

You should get better friends.

goldthistime

My friends are always overjoyed to have a DD.

Patttience

You need to think about yoru priorities in life. What's important, your drinking friends or your health. You can have both but if i were you, i'd prioritise my health.

Bolibadale

You are in charge it is your life and if you want to live it fat and miserable then drink-up with your friends and dont complain. If you like being healthier then be strong and explain to your friends how important it is to you to be healthy. If they can not help you then are always going to give you a rough time about it then I agree you need to get new friends. Try just drinking one night a week as a compromise.

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Sandcastles61

Too funny.... I'm 54 and a girly girl female and have to say there is nothing better in life than a straight shot of expensive top shelf whiskey, over a single ice cube, splash of water and a lemon.... Ahhhh.... Yes, I have a place in my diary called alcohol/treats If it is something you enjoy, work it in. 1.5 oz is less than 100 very yummy calories. Can't tell you how many times one of my very manly friends orders a sweet drink when I order a lovely straight shot and the waiter always wants to give my drink to the fella LOL

arditarose

What in the heck

OneHundredToLose

I've had to switch from drinking beer when we go out to diet soda and whiskey. Overall much more effective for the caloric price tag

Annie_01

Let's see...

So far OP goes out with friends and feels pressure to drink and eat too much.

One poster translated that to mean...Only drink straight whiskey, bourbon, or scotch so that no one thinks you are gay.

Another poster has "manly" friends that drinks sweet drinks. I can't help but wonder what her "unmanly" friends drink.

I had no idea that people judged others based on what alcohol they drank.

vivmom2014

If you don't want to drink, stand your ground. It's their problem.

And get better friends like @tincanonastring said.

rockmama72

Don't get new friends, just stand up to them! I'll bet they come around when they start seeing you in control. Dudes respect that.

And also, drink what you want while within your calorie goal. You can easily make room for a night out by being super diligent about what you eat during the day.

Also, if I have a glass of water beside every drink, I drink half the booze. Nobody notices.

booksandchocolate12

rockmama72 wrote: »

Don't get new friends, just stand up to them! I'll bet they come around when they start seeing you in control. Dudes respect that.

Unless they're immature a-holes.

And guys pushing 30 who give a friend a hard time because he's not drinking would likely fall into that category.

VykkDraygoVPR

The way he put it was ridiculous, but if you still want to drink, then yes, straight liquor is the way to go. Just have a couple ounces, and sip on it for a while. I suggest whiskey. Tastes amazing, and it's not too high in calories.

Or anything with club soda. I only take gin that way, because I hate watery whiskey, but club soda is zero calories.

Honestly though, I wouldn't hang with people whose friendship depended on how much I drank. I've also never been one to cave to peer pressure though, so I can't really offer effective tips there. When people try to pressure me, I just become more resistive, and eventually get pissed off. I've been known to kick people out of my house for being jerks, even family members.

rockmama72

We also don't know what "the amount of hell I take" really means. It's not always easy to just get new friends. Remember what happened to Elaine when she met a new Jerry, George and Kramer?

booksandchocolate12

rockmama72 wrote: »

We also don't know what "the amount of hell I take" really means. It's not always easy to just get new friends. Remember what happened to Elaine when she met a new Jerry, George and Kramer?

Yes! It's always a good idea to model our own lives/behavior on the lives of fictional TV characters.

I remember when I was looking for a job, I took a page from another classic sitcom and got a job in a candy factory even though I had no experience. And then when it got too much for me, I just ate all the chocolate! How do you think I got to the point where I needed MFP?

vivelajackie

The next time they get you to drink start a bar fight. I'm not talking smack talk. Grab a bar stool and go Tarzan on th-- no? No? Okay. SERIOUS advice then. It's already been said, but balance your drinks with water. It'll probably do you good to balance out the peer pressure you're giving your kidneys. I've PLANNED alcohol into my daily allowances a time or two so I could enjoy guilt free even. In the end though, it's about respect for yourself and what you want to do. Make it a point to keep people around that RESPECT what you are trying to do to better yourself. If they gotta poke at you even after going "Hey guys, I want to live past 50 unlike you" (or you know, an actual conversation with them regarding your health) it probably isn't going to change.

arditarose

I was at a bar for 4 hours last night. I had one glass of wine. No one noticed or cared. Eventually everyone got drunk and REALLY didn't notice. I just smiled because I knew I had calories saved up for a lovely snack at home, and that I was going to wake up feeling awesome.

booksandchocolate12

Sometimes it's more fun/entertaining to be the sober one, and watch your friends get sloshed and make total fools of themselves.

longtimeterp

i'm drinking beer 4 of the day. football comes on later, i should hit like 20-25 total. Not even with friends lol. i say CHEERS!

kgeyser

Just a note to let everyone know this thread has been cleaned up a bit.

Lourdesong

All the talk here about peer pressure and girl drinks reminded me of this KITH'S sketch - Girl Drink Drunk

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1GW22sAElpE

VykkDraygoVPR wrote: »

Honestly though, I wouldn't hang with people whose friendship depended on how much I drank. I've also never been one to cave to peer pressure though, so I can't really offer effective tips there. When people try to pressure me, I just become more resistive, and eventually get pissed off. I've been known to kick people out of my house for being jerks, even family members.

Yup, this is me too.

tincanonastring

booksandchocolate12 wrote: »

rockmama72 wrote: »

We also don't know what "the amount of hell I take" really means. It's not always easy to just get new friends. Remember what happened to Elaine when she met a new Jerry, George and Kramer?

Yes! It's always a good idea to model our own lives/behavior on the lives of fictional TV characters.

I remember when I was looking for a job, I took a page from another classic sitcom and got a job in a candy factory even though I had no experience. And then when it got too much for me, I just ate all the chocolate! How do you think I got to the point where I needed MFP?

****. I had my money on the books, not the chocolate.

booksandchocolate12

Ha! Quick of wit as always, tincan. I expect no less of you.

caseyelizabethmfp

I add my alcohol into my daily calories. How often are you hanging out with these friends and drinking? My friends and I get together once a month so I just consider it a cheat day because we always drink too much. Doing it once and a while won't kill your diet. Doing it every week will...