All the Lies

mommarnurse

I think I just envisioned that my weight wasn't that big. (It was.)

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AddieOverhaul wrote: »

It was/is for-real asthma (diagnosed). I still have it, but the symptoms are better and exercise doesn't trigger it as much unless the air is really cold.

Well I'm for sure glad your symptoms are at least a little reduced! Keep on Keepin on!

tashatashae

i use to pretend the weight doesn't bother me pile on make up, put on a pair of heels and pretend my feet doesn't hurt. At the end of the day when i strip back all the layers i don't like it. don't like it one bit.

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tashatashae wrote: »

i use to pretend the weight doesn't bother me pile on make up, put on a pair of heels and pretend my feet doesn't hurt. At the end of the day when i strip back all the layers i don't like it. don't like it one bit.

I so get this! I can look pretty good if I wear the exact right clothes and use contouring make up on my face and (oh the shame) where my collar bone SHOULD be. But when you see yourself undressed, you know the truth. Here's for looking great naked as well as clothed!

enterdanger

I always told myself that I was fat because I made good food choices but ate too much and at night. Yeah, I know. not how it works. Plus, what part of the hoagie was a good food choice? Maybe the lettuce? I've since learned to put down the cheesesteak.

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.................................................................@enterdanger Is that picture of you and the POPE? Or am I as sleep deprived as I think I am??

pearso21123

clgaram720 wrote: »

That my husband needs viagra, and not that I need to get back to being a healthy weight (or better).

LOL- I love this! That was part of what finally triggered my weight loss. I'd ask my husband if I was fat (like it wasn't obvious) and he'd say "You're a little plump, but I love you no matter what." I finally had enough and said to him, "I know you love me, but I want you to be attracted to me." And now he is again. So we're both benefiting from my weight loss!

sweety510

My reason was that I was just too comfortable and knowing that my husband loves me regardless what size I was, It didn't matter what other people think of me (we met when I was thin btw). After having 3 kids the weight just stayed on for years and deep down inside I did hated how I looked and how terrible I felt. But I kept thinking to myself that I didn't need to impress others as long if hubs loves me thats all that should matter. One day I went to the ER my heart wasn't feeling too good, thought I was having a heart attack. Turns out that I didn't, but the doc said I may have heart palpitations so to watch for it. That was a big wake up call so I gave up on coffee then that led to giving up pop, started feeling way better enough to exercise and that led to clean eating and a well balance diet and cutting out all the process and junk food. Although I have 10 lbs to go before I reach my goal weight, now I am feeling so much better, I am way more healthier and active then I ever was before (not feeling sluggish anymore and my heart isn't beating a thousand mph anymore lol) and I love the way I look in clothes and I can even fit in some clothing I haven't wore since high school. Had I kept going down the path I was going before I would of definitely ended up having heart disease or something, because in my family genes they all have high blood pressure, high cholesterol and diabetes. I feel very lucky that I took control of my situation early enough to prevent that from happening.

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pearso21123 wrote: »

clgaram720 wrote: »

That my husband needs viagra, and not that I need to get back to being a healthy weight (or better).

LOL- I love this! That was part of what finally triggered my weight loss. I'd ask my husband if I was fat (like it wasn't obvious) and he'd say "You're a little plump, but I love you no matter what." I finally had enough and said to him, "I know you love me, but I want you to be attracted to me." And now he is again. So we're both benefiting from my weight loss!

This has been a HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGE sore spot for my ego. I could probably go the rest of my life at my current weight and be okay except for this. I'm a very physical person. I NEED him to want me. It's not a want, I absolutely require that to be the case for our relationship to work. But it was unfair of me to put that burden solely on him. If I want him to want me, I need to meet him halfway by being desirable. (I have to add my feminist caveat and say this is not the end all be all of our relationship, but it's so large a part of my self esteem that I think it could really hurt us. So it's a me thing, not a male/female thing.)

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sweety510 wrote: »

My reason was that I was just too comfortable and knowing that my husband loves me regardless what size I was, It didn't matter what other people think of me (we met when I was thin btw). After having 3 kids the weight just stayed on for years and deep down inside I did hated how I looked and how terrible I felt. But I kept thinking to myself that I didn't need to impress others as long if hubs loves me thats all that should matter. One day I went to the ER my heart wasn't feeling too good, thought I was having a heart attack. Turns out that I didn't, but the doc said I may have heart palpitations so to watch for it. That was a big wake up call so I gave up on coffee then that led to giving up pop, started feeling way better enough to exercise and that led to clean eating and a well balance diet and cutting out all the process and junk food. Although I have 10 lbs to go before I reach my goal weight, now I am feeling so much better, I am way more healthier and active then I ever was before (not feeling sluggish anymore and my heart isn't beating a thousand mph anymore lol) and I love the way I look in clothes and I can even fit in some clothing I haven't wore since high school. Had I kept going down the path I was going before I would of definitely ended up having heart disease or something, because in my family genes they all have high blood pressure, high cholesterol and diabetes. I feel very lucky that I took control of my situation early enough to prevent that from happening.

That's a great piece of motivation there. I think it's important that we all remind ourselves, ladies and gentlemen, that having your spouse love you as you are is all well and good (not to mention a sign of good character on their part) but that it's unfair for us to let them love us if we're also gonna allow ourselves to die first. I know that's a little blunt, but how much could I really love MY man if I let him love me unhealthy and never tried to get healthy and left him and our son all alone? Weight loss, and getting into a healthy lifestyle is the gift that gives ALL around. And I think it's a pretty special way to love someone, by saying "I'm willing to work hard because I don't want to leave you alone, I want to be here for you"

sweety510

Oh yes definitely! Although I didn't mention it above, after getting out of the ER my kids was a big factor in what made me change. I wanted to stay with them as long as I possibly can, couldn't bear the thought of them losing their mother at such a young age.

_stumpyshark_

I have a few lies I told myself.

I'm not really "that big".
I'm not the fattest one in the family.
I'm still very cute.
Everything is made for tiny people.

I'm slowly working on stopping the lies.

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_stumpyshark_ wrote: »

I have a few lies I told myself.

I'm not really "that big".
I'm not the fattest one in the family.
I'm still very cute.
Everything is made for tiny people.

I'm slowly working on stopping the lies.

Hey, ANY progress is progress on that front. Thanks for sharing! I have told myself that same thing (I'm thinner than mom/sister so I'm the thinnest in the family!...like that matters ha ha!)

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sweety510 wrote: »

Oh yes definitely! Although I didn't mention it above, after getting out of the ER my kids was a big factor in what made me change. I wanted to stay with them as long as I possibly can, couldn't bear the thought of them losing their mother at such a young age.

That's so beautiful! I just don't think it gets mentioned often enough or loud enough how much a weight loss journey is about the people we love and NOT just about ourselves! (Although if you saw my Fashion board on Pinterest it's obviously totally about me LOL)

wildflowergypsy38

I used say, tomorrow, I'm too stressed/I've had a tough day/ people accept me/ I don't need to be thin I'm 40/my fiancé loves me anyway and I need and deserve this treat, except my treats had me eating nearly 4000 calories a day and weighing 200+ pounds at only 5ft 2 in tall!!
Crazy thing is I used to bike/hike/run and was very healthy 10years ago!
Since then I've used stress at work/social anxiety and personal trauma as an excuse to gorge for 10 years!!

Thankfully I'm in a good place now and my healthy important, a fiancé who adores me but is also supportive and truthful about my health!!

The catalyst for me was I've 2 herniated discs in my lumbar region and 1 in my upper back. Lots of pain and carrying an extra 35kg+ is not helping!!
I had no energy always moody and felt stuffed/constipated all the damn time.
11 days ago I thought I've enough.
I've cut out meat, cut dairy drastically and eat better and I move more.
Results are I've lost the bloat and I'm more energised and in a better mood/able to deal with day to day life.
It's the best decision I've made in a long time. I miss the healthy happy me trapped in rolls of fat/exhaustion and Chrinic Pain!! After all I'm only 40!! Life in the old dog yet!!!

enterdanger

enterdanger wrote: »

I always told myself that I was fat because I made good food choices but ate too much and at night. Yeah, I know. not how it works. Plus, what part of the hoagie was a good food choice? Maybe the lettuce? I've since learned to put down the cheesesteak.

Yep. Me and the pontiff. Chillin.

Ok, maybe it's me and a cardboard cutout of the Pontiff. Who can tell?

jesikalovesyou

enterdanger wrote: »

enterdanger wrote: »

I always told myself that I was fat because I made good food choices but ate too much and at night. Yeah, I know. not how it works. Plus, what part of the hoagie was a good food choice? Maybe the lettuce? I've since learned to put down the cheesesteak.

Yep. Me and the pontiff. Chillin.

Ok, maybe it's me and a cardboard cutout of the Pontiff. Who can tell?

I was thinking he had the same pose every time he took a picture! I've seen them all over Facebook! Or a cutout, that makes more sense.

Diana_GettingFit

I went from being a skinny teenager to ballooning up to 214 lbs. The weight crept on me gradually through my 20's. I wasn't happy with the way I looked, only looked in the mirror when I had to. The biggest lie I told myself was I'll do something about it one day. Then I became diabetic. It still took me a few years to get the willpower to make the necessary changes. I joined MFP and started running. Now I'm down 50 lbs from my heaviest and I'm off my diabetes medication.

farfromthetree

I'm getting older
I don't look that bad
I should be able to eat what everyone else eats

Zombella

The biggest lie that I ever told myself was a few years ago when I said (out loud) that I was happy with my body the way that it was. I wasn't and haven't been for a long time.

I have been saying recently that x (lack of sleep, feeling crappy) is the reason as to why I am off or z is the reason. No. I am letting these things effect me. I feel crappy because of my weight. I have to be stronger and say nothing will stand in my way.