All the Lies

rankinsect

That it didn't really make a difference whether I was obese or not.

kgb6days

That everyone get fat as they get older. I'll be 59 next month (that equates to 60 next year) and I live in the south where we fry everything, eat BBQ, etc. I realized that if I didn't get fit I'd die at 59 of heart disease just like my mother - or 61 like my brother. What a wake up that was. Getting fit was the goal - weight loss was the cherry on top

Adc7225

I always told myself that I was not athletic - not sure if I am now but I do feel that I am fit. I no longer think about what I can't do with my body within reason because I know that whatever I try to do, I will be giving it my best efforts.

I worked with several trainers over the years and always said I did not want to do any exercises that required I get on the floor (don't ask) now I love being able to get on the floor because I can easily get up off the floor!

patty_36_2

tltmom wrote: »

I appreciate everyone's honesty.
My lie was that I could never fight the craving to overeat sweets. That it was more powerful than I am. Turns out that was wrong.

chocolate was my addiction... Just a small bar wont make a difference i kept telling myself.... Had to go cold turkey to make the jump, but a year later 80lb lighter (with a couple of lapses). I did it.

vixtris

Plateaus are a lie. If you plateau, then its because you are maintaining, you are not burning more calories than you take in, which would mean you either need to eat less, or move more. This is why logging accurately with measuring scales and cups is an important tool for weight loss!

eskimohugger

I tried bulking up muscle and to do so, I needed more energy so that equated to more food in my system. So I gained around 7 pounds of muscle, but I was only weight training and not doing any cardio or eating in moderation, so I gained around 10 pounds of fat, too! I kept telling myself I would cut my calories and work on cardio and I would purposefully avoid the scale. Now I portion control and practice flexible dieting, a good balance between cardio and weights, and now Im doing great! Lost 13 pounds so far

CoffeeNCardio

Wow, I am so amazed by some of these responses! It really feels like I wrote them! I have always been REALLY sensitive to criticism, because I am so hard on myself and I mean no one likes to hear the bad about themselves, but lately I have found it really cathartic and therapeutic to say out loud (or type in public?) "I have been lying to myself about X, and now that I am aware I can stop doing that and start fixing it!" So thank you guys so much for your honesty and I hope you feel great about shedding these denials too!!!

allaboutthefood

I was with my sister and my sister in law the other day and they commented on how good I am looking and starting talking about how they really want to start walking, but they don't like walking alone, they don't like walking in the cold, they are to tired to walk, they don't know when is a good time to start walking, they don't know how long to walk for. Excuse excuse excuse I use to be the same way. I looked at them and said hey if your 300 lbs sister can get off her butt and walk and drop 60 lbs in 8 months than you can also do it. NO MORE EXCUSES!

jlturner386

Kullerva wrote: »

Honestly, I resisted losing weight for a long time. I knew I needed to lose (only about 30 lbs or so) in college, but the men (boys, really) ogled me enough at my current weight and I didn't want the hassle of being thinner. (I'm asexual so this was a real problem on a college campus.) It was only when I realized that I was sabotaging myself and my health because of others' reactions toward me that I started losing weight. Now I don't care if people stare--my glare of death is very practiced and effective.

This has always been my excuse too....I have been told by so many guys that I am already hot, why lose weight. I even had a guy on here one of my supports who had lost over 100lbs himself tell me if I was his gf he would tell me not to lose weight! After the man i was dating trying to sabotage me by taking me out for italian every chance he got, or showing up right before I went to the gym, and "forgetting" his tennis shoes....made me step away from that relationship. We are still friends but I dont know if I could trust him not to rry to make me comfortable....just so he doesn't feel like he has to exercise. His words exactly were "please dont lose weight you look great...you are gonna make me have to step up my game and have to lose weight too." And "i like thick girls, what if i dont find you attractive anymore" and then he laughed and said he was kidding....I was suffering from sciatica, and I was wearing holes in my jeans from my thighs rubbing together...my favorite plus size store where i bought all of my jeans went out of business...i was freaking out . I want to be a runner, i always have dreams of running , like it was easy and fun to run....i want to make that a reality.

crazygooselady

That I shouldn't try to diet because my young teen daughter would think that weight was all that mattered.

And, that I couldn't eat the same food as everyone else in the family, because it was a diet. And if I did eat different then it was being a bad example.....

What I realized is that I need to do this for me. And to be healthy for my family. And yes, we can all eat the same food, I just need to refrain from seconds and thirds.

ImOneStepCloser

That I have hypothyroidism, and birth control.That is why I can't lose and why I keep gaining. It is bs!

TasnimEz

I told myself that it didn't matter because I'm married anyway (haha) and I never wear revealing clothes, so... Oh, and I'm very tall so "it doesn't show". Well it does, looking at photos I was always the giant in the room... Everyone else looked tiny next to me.

My health is what finally made me wake up. I was just lazy and using food as comfort. It didn't take the aches and pains away though, go figure.

Soopatt

I told myself that only crazy obsessive people count calories and that a *healthy* relationship with food meant I needed to instinctively reach for the right food. I instinctively reached for enough food to add 18kgs to my small frame in 4 years.

I told myself that I could just crash diet it away in a couple of weeks if I wanted to as crash diets had been my method of choice in my twenties. I was very unrealistic about how long it would take to lose the weight in a healthy way and I am sometimes still surprised that it has taken me six months to get just over half way to losing all my extra weight at a rate of 0.5kg (or less) a week. I still struggle to not get down on myself about that.

I told myself that I could never again be as thin as I was in my twenties and sustain it. I had sustained it with a crazy cycle of feast and famine, so I can see why I held that view. I can sustain it, but not THAT way.

I told myself that there would be no joy in my life and that I would have to live a life of deprivation if I tried to control my intake.

I told myself a lot of lies and I see many people I love telling themselves the same lies or versions of those lies. As much as I want to shake them and confront them, I know that I was not able to face reality until I was ready and that it was a long process. No one could have made me change, I had to do the work myself.

CoffeeNCardio

@Soopatt I was the sameway! They emphasize the hell out of eating disorders in high schools, and elsewhere. So you get this idea that you should just eat whatever when you're hungry. My problem is I just don't know what is hunger and what is boredom/depression/etc. I'm making it my priority to wait until I'm sure I am hungry to eat to stop this bad habit! Goodbye to excuses!

lapierrecyclist

That I was over 50 so I couldn't lose weight or gain muscle. And that the junk food I was eating every day made me feel better about myself and life. Ha! I can't believe how much better I feel after just seven weeks of being active and eating good, healthy food.

Nuke_64

I eat the same way and am just as active as most skinny people, they just have some biological advantage I don't.

rigden1992c

I was absolutely convinced that clothing sizes were shrinking and clothes weren't 'made the way they used to be'.... even went as far as telling myself that the UK size 20 shirt that didn't do up was definitely down to the sizing being wrong... funny how clothes sizes do work properly now that extra 65lbs has gone!

ZeroTX

It's slightly unfair to characterize all genetic predisposition as a lie. My dad was 6'3" and over 400lbs while coaching sports, playing tennis regularly and working out. Others do no exercise, eat whatever they want, and never get fat. It's not an excuse but it's also not fair to discount genetics.

AddieOverhaul

clgaram720 wrote: »

@ScrAgnX I feel that! I was always complaining my toddler took too much attention, but he DOES nap 1.5-2 hrs a day and I'm not working so what the heck was that excuse?!

@AddieOverhaul So glad to hear you were able to power through that! Have you found your asthma has gotten better or that it wasn't really asthma to begin with? I hear a lot of people on here say that they thought they had asthma but that it was just unfitness, or that they had asthma for real and that the symptoms got better or went away entirely when they got fit? Which was it for you?

These are great keep em comin!

It was/is for-real asthma (diagnosed). I still have it, but the symptoms are better and exercise doesn't trigger it as much unless the air is really cold.

CoffeeNCardio

@ZeroTX Oh I'm with you there. ALL of my friends are exactly those kind of people who don't have any weight issues because they, and everyone they are related to are and always have been skinny. So yes, in some cases, genetics are to blame. I think it's fair to say genetics are responsible for the differences in how fast we gain weight too. But when people say "I blamed genetics" I don't think they mean to say that genetics has NOTHING at all to do with body size or shape, but that they used genetics as an excuse to support a LIFESTYLE that was unhealthy for them. So it's both, yes, but it's never okay to continue making bad choices 'because genetics' either. Genetics rule our predispositions, but choice and free will are to blame when we fall into the trap of unhealthy living and sedentary lifestyles.

mysteps2beauty

If I have to give up my wine, my Sunday home cooked dinners. That I'm a mom, this is what I was suppose to look like, chunky, wearing unattractive clothes cause I was sacrificing so much includng going out on dates, so that my daughter could go to private schools, and other social events...I'm such a good single mother, look at what I'm sacrificing for my kid. Wake up ex, look what I'm willing to do (and look like) to be a good mom. Ugh!!!!

I don't know when the light turned on....maybe when I realized daughter is moving on, and will be at college next year, that I only have myself, and gee, she is kinda fat, no energy, body aches from bedrise to good night, depressed all the time. I realized I had only myself to blame....no one else.

I now consider myself a masterpiece in the making, shedding weight, gaining strength, vitality and an eagerness to see my full transformation and share it with the world! Hehe...well maybe just a few folks.

samthepanda

That I had only gained a little weight, but I was still quite fit, I could walk miles (though rarely). Then when I had gained more, and knew I was very overweight, struggling with high BP and cholesterol, that I was the parent of a child with autism and I had too much on my plate to exercise, and I deserve a foodie treat because life was hard at times.

Nuke_64

For me, blaming genetics was a lie. This is also true for most people--you are not skinny or fat because genes, its because of how much you eat versus how much energy you need. This is the basics of CICO.

CherieQ72

oh dear lol I told myself that I actually did eat healthy and a reasonable amount and I was very active. There must be some phenomenon to explain my size? It must have been weight gained during pregnancy and now my body has adapted to and prefers that size. yes. that must be it. and now it has a "memory" of that size and reverts back to it on it's own. of course.
OR
I played a game in my head where I was only 20ish lbs overweight and I had an mental picture of what I looked like. In order to play this make belief game i had to avoid cameras and avoid mirrors. I would look at my hair in the mirror, that's about it.
I over ate. I struggle with a sugar addiction. I was addicted to pop. I ate a full meal more than I should each day....at least. I was active but not "calorie burning active". I was 70.5 pounds overweight. 80.5lbs heavier than I wanted to be.
On my way to healthy now, no more lies

serenityfrye

That food is the enemy and I have to avoid it entirely to be thin. It took me 3 relapses (after getting healthy but fat for my pregnancies) before I realized food is fuel and I could do amazing things (without gaining crazy amounts of weight) when I made a little effort to track my macros and eat a balanced diet. Also that being fit was more important than being skinny. Muscles are good and useful things

Redbeard333

Here's what I stupidly kept telling myself: "Skinny people have way more wrinkles than fat people and look older, so by having a fat face, you'll look younger". What a sham...

deluxmary2000

"You don't really LOOK 20 lbs overweight" is what I kept telling myself as an excuse not to get serious. Then I took some "before" photos, and they didn't lie. I look 20 lbs overweight.

mhollencamp102012

Mine was ...I am fat...but healthy - I have always had awesome test results from the doc. Low b/p cholesterol was great...everything except my weight was below average ...no signs of developing diabetes... (I do have COPD but I would have that even if I was 110 lbs) until right before I turned 40. Bp still really good and cholesterol good...but I was nearing prediabetes...... Wasn't there yet but I was close....and my weight was the same actually somewhat lower than yrs before....so even though I didn't gain...my weight along with age was affecting me I guess....now...27 lbs lighter...and still going...can't wait to see my blood work results next time

40mpw

That I'm not that bad, I'm close enough to a healthy weight, and I could always be worse off.

That I am healthy in spite of my weight.

That this is not a good time to start watching what I eat because I have plans this week and it would just be too hard to go to happy hour and count calories.

CoffeeNCardio

That my husband needs viagra, and not that I need to get back to being a healthy weight (or better).