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DeguelloTex

lyttlewon wrote: »

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DeguelloTex wrote: »

lyttlewon wrote: »

DeguelloTex wrote: »

fishshark wrote: »

i think i just take the "have self control" in a condescending way and that very could be my own perception and wrong.

I think "this is on you, you have the power to make it happen" is pretty much the opposite of condescending.

I think the way you said it sounds better than, "you just need to control yourself". One is empowering, the other one reminds me of my mom yelling at me in the bathroom at church for not sitting still in my seat.

They both say the same thing. You need to control yourself. You're the only one who can.

They don't say it in the same way. There is a reason people chose to use language in different ways. You can convey the same message multiple ways.

I could tell someone:

"I would like you to shut up right now."

OR

"Can we please talk about this later?"

They say the same thing, but one is inflammatory.

I didn't say that they say it in the same way. What I have said, multiple times, is that if you think there's a better way to say something, say it that way.

Maybe if there was less time spent policing others' tones, there'd be more time to make all of these eloquent posts everyone seems to think they can be making.

Sued0nim

MarcyKirkton wrote: »

People who are judgmental bug me, too. But, there are too many around these days in life to let them bother me too much.

It's such a part of the internet, I think.

Me too

Also people who fail to see irony

DeguelloTex

rabbitjb wrote: »

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MarcyKirkton wrote: »

People who are judgmental bug me, too. But, there are too many around these days in life to let them bother me too much.

It's such a part of the internet, I think.

Me too

Also people who fail to see irony

There's a lot of that going around, too.

MrsSylvie

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SylvieKuchma wrote: »

when i gained some weight over the last few years, i just did not really care one way or another about it! self control was just not needed in that department at the time....when i started to care about my health & extra weight, self control did indeed play a big role in me fulfilling my original goal in three months..without self control, i would of easily eaten and enjoyed ALL the NY cheesecake slices, chocolate crossaints and the yummy dark chocolate fudge that's been in my freezer since day one..

your 'know you should stop but, don't because you enjoy it', is a choice..if you really wanted to stop, you would!

I allow all foods I love in my house. I open container, weigh portion (more or less depending on caloric macro needs), put container away, and enjoy. I was only able to get to this place by realizing there is no good or bad foid, there is just food.

oh i do agree on allowing most foods 'i love' in my house too! some, like ones in my freezer, are high in calories and just don't offer enough nutritients for me to fit them into my current 1261 daily calories, so i talk myself out of eating them..when i switch to maintenance calories, i will enjoy them more often for sure.