How does everyone else deal with negative people?

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  • SweetPeasMom55
    SweetPeasMom55 Posts: 3,468 Member
    Oh I would do the cookie swap and then I would hand the cookies to the friend and hope it all went to her hips. But I'm evil that way LOL >:)
  • sdcamp3020
    sdcamp3020 Posts: 19 Member
    beachhouse758 wrote: »
    This post reminds me of one of my favorite quotes:

    “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”

    I love that quote. Thanks everyone!
  • Adc7225
    Adc7225 Posts: 1,318 Member
    Since I don't know your level of willpower, participating in the cookie swap could be a good personal challenge. Like others noted - resign yourself to just one or two cookies. But enjoy the festivities. It happens when we make changes in our lifestyle that starts separating us from others they tend to turn a little ugly towards us at times. It will pass for most part.

    We have our annual holiday lunch coming up and I heard that some of 'those people' were commenting that I wouldn't be able to keep my weight off, so I decided to wear the same dress from last year to this years lunch (hopefully it will have some extra room in it)! Just so they can see that indeed I have kept it off!

    There will always be people around that won't have anything nice to say . . . all I can hope for is that one day they know exactly how it feels. Keep up the good work.
  • neohdiver
    neohdiver Posts: 738 Member
    sdcamp3020 wrote: »
    My "friend" called me on Friday because I hadn't signed up for our annual Christmas cookie swap. I reminded her that I was dedicated to my diet and keeping my sugars down. Her response was "You know you are going to gain all that weight and more back within a year; so why punish yourself and everyone else. I am just going to put you down for your grandmother's oatmeal cookies." I refused again; but it planted that seed of doubt and I have spent all weekend struggling with the urge to give up and binge. How do you deal with negative people?

    Her negative comment was completely rude and inappropriate.

    But food is an important piece of our cultural glue. It is at the heart of pretty much any social event I go to - especially this time of year. If I can't make peace with it, both loss and maintaining are much more challenging in the long run.

    I'm baking 35 pumpkin pies over the next week and a half - some will be served at events I will attend, about half I'll hand over and not see eaten. I love baking, and I love providing food that people enjoy. I eat what I need in advance, figure out what I can safely eat at the event, or take some staples with me. That way I can enjoy the communion with loved ones without feeling the need to eat things my body can't handle.

    If you enjoy baking, and whatever festivities that go along with the cookie exchange, take part in it - and drop the cookies you receive off at a local soup kitchen on the way home. They will really appreciate it - that's where about 20 of my pies will go.
  • debrakgoogins
    debrakgoogins Posts: 2,033 Member
    Sometimes the best thing you can do is just ignore the negativity and prove them wrong. I have a few friends like that. I would go to the cookie exchange and bring a healthier version of a favorite recipe. I would eat one or two cookies and socialize. Show them you CAN eat a few cookies but still maintain your overall healthy diet. Then, I would take my share of the cookies to a local shelter.

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