Is divorce on the rise?

BaconBae

I'm from the "happily divorced" crowd and reposting my thoughts.

I married young at 24 - we crossed paths from the time I was 10 yo - and didn't realize the warning signs that I ignored because "love is blind" and I was naive. A kid later, I decided to tough it out like my mother (who is still married to my father at 42 years), but my patience for bull$h!t got low. 7 years of officially being married, of that a 3 year separation and many failed attempts at a reconcilation, I knew I had to make the decision to raise a daughter better than how I was raised and decided to officially get divorced. For my situation, I felt 2 happy homes were better than 1 miserable home. Coparenting is not a walk in the park though, but there are not so bad days, as well. My daughter has adjusted quite well and is constantly reminded how much she is loved by myself and her dad.

Getting a divorce was one of the best decisions I've ever made toward my own happiness and my daughter's future.

TheRoadDog

I'm on my fourth go round.

synchkat

TheRoadDog wrote: »

I'm on my fourth go round.

So third time isn't always the charm

LiftingRiot

TheRoadDog wrote: »

I'm on my fourth go round.

What a great institution... Obviously works and means something. lol

Timshel_

LiftingRiot wrote: »

TheRoadDog wrote: »

I'm on my fourth go round.

What a great institution... Obviously works and means something. lol

Wonder how the other half make it work in a single marriage.
Weird, right?

LiftingRiot

They cheat with MFP but are still married

JenAndSome

Timshel_ wrote: »

LiftingRiot wrote: »

TheRoadDog wrote: »

I'm on my fourth go round.

What a great institution... Obviously works and means something. lol

Wonder how the other half make it work in a single marriage.
Weird, right?

I imagine it's pretty much like everything else in life. Some are willing to put forth the effort and work through hard times instead of throwing their hands up and quitting every time something doesn't go their way.

rhirvo

People not willing to tough it out and work out there problems. Selfishness and people putting priorities of success and money over love and family. And also, availability and willingness of people to sleep with married men and or women!

rhirvo

Mrj183 wrote: »

its been 6 months for me and im only just starting to feel like....i should move on.

Been 6 months for me too it gets better.

TheRoadDog

LiftingRiot wrote: »

TheRoadDog wrote: »

I'm on my fourth go round.

What a great institution... Obviously works and means something. lol

After you go through your third divorce you kind of have to step back and take a look at the common denominator. Me. A little self assessment helped me realize I was a selfish, self-centered dlckhead. Once I figured that out, it still took a while to make the necessary changes, but, once I started trying a little harder, plus meet someone that inspired me to want to change, I started to become a better person. Next year, I will be celebrating my 25th anniversary with my wife.

maeld51

TheRoadDog wrote: »

LiftingRiot wrote: »

TheRoadDog wrote: »

I'm on my fourth go round.

What a great institution... Obviously works and means something. lol

After you go through your third divorce you kind of have to step back and take a look at the common denominator. Me. A little self assessment helped me realize I was a selfish, self-centered dlckhead. Once I figured that out, it still took a while to make the necessary changes, but, once I started trying a little harder, plus meet someone that inspired me to want to change, I started to become a better person. Next year, I will be celebrating my 25th anniversary with my wife.

Congradulations on your 25 years!

I spent 4 years separated, self assessing and admitting to myself my issues, too bad he didn't use that time to do the same thing.

jmule24

TheRoadDog wrote: »

LiftingRiot wrote: »

TheRoadDog wrote: »

I'm on my fourth go round.

What a great institution... Obviously works and means something. lol

After you go through your third divorce you kind of have to step back and take a look at the common denominator. Me. A little self assessment helped me realize I was a selfish, self-centered dlckhead. Once I figured that out, it still took a while to make the necessary changes, but, once I started trying a little harder, plus meet someone that inspired me to want to change, I started to become a better person. Next year, I will be celebrating my 25th anniversary with my wife.

There is a man who gets "it!" congrats, sir!