WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JANUARY 2016
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Penny: I loved the video about your community. Thanks for sharing. :bigsmile:
Miriam: Cheers for trying something new!
Becca: How I envy your crab! It is available at the grocery store here, but the prices are stratospheric. Yikes. :flowerforyou:
Barbie: I am always impressed at all that you do each day. You are amazing.
Mindy: Congrats on being down a couple of sizes. THAT is an NSV to savor, enjoy, and brag about! :bigsmile:
I went to yoga today and enjoyed the class with one of my favorite teachers, but haven't done much of anything else. I seem to be a bit low on energy just now. I'm actually glad my riding lesson has been changed to Sunday this week. I'm hoping I have a bit more energy by then.
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison
January Goals :
1. Log every bite and swallow.
2. Cardio exercise at least 3 days a week. Work on flexibility and back strength.
3. Have fun every day.
4. Drink at least three glasses of water daily, preferably more!
5. Eliminate alcohol.
6. Monitor sleep. Try to average 7 or more hours of sleep nightly.
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Denise - what a touching story about the people who came to help out a neighbor in need (The Amazing Harvest). I saw that your town has a population of 2500, only slightly larger than my town. I think that's a pretty suitable size for a community of humans.
Carol - having worked in a church myself, I know exactly what you mean about wanting to write a book about what goes on behind that serene facade. I was receptionist at a church in Florida for a year and when I left I took along fond memories of some exceedingly colorful personalities. (We never got a cat on our doorstep, though.)
Last night I actually felt cold in bed. I usually have the opposite problem. But hubby's away this week. Maybe I was missing the heat he generates, or maybe it was just caused by cold wind beating on the window. Snowstorm today. Wheeeee!
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January 31st is tomorrow, unbelievable...I have some some really exciting news to share with you all. My sister is going to Italy the last two weeks in October (Florence, Siena, Assisi, and Rome), and she has asked me to go with her. Her husband passed ten years ago so she is looking for a travel buddy. She's offered to cover cost of the trip so I will just need spending money
Boy, how to break it to my DH???? He only likes to backpack so I know he would never take vaction time to join us. My two oldest dear children will be off at college and our youngest will be driving by then and able to get himself back and forth to school. Guess I'll just have to deal with his wrath. I'm definitely going if it all works out.
Now I really have to get back on a heathly food and exercise plan. I have a gym membership waiting for me, all the tools just need to start thinking right.
I just weighed myself - time to get real, and it is not pretty. Gained back all 15lbs I lost last year
Back in the W size again so I'm really not surprised just mad at myself for letting the weight gain happen again. Enough of my private little pity party (ha ha), I am strong and can get this done. Starting back with walking 2 miles 4 times a week as my goal in February. I fall off my heathly program all the time because I put others ahead of me, time to just accept this about myself and to learn to do both in a healthy way.
2:20am here. Time for bed. Love to all you beautiful ladies. You make this world a better place.
Rosie in So Cal
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Penny - As you know, I am coming to Svalbard in June. Sooooooo looking forward to it! That little train is one of the things on my calendar of the islands that is on my kitchen door.
For the newbies, I am going on a cruise to the Arctic Circle, called Svalbard and the Midnight Sun. It's a Saga cruise in a small ship of 400+ and is for the over 50s only. I was going on my own, as DH hated the whole idea, but he relented at the last minute and, because of the huge single supplement, I was able to treat ourselves to a really great cabin for not much more money to me. 
He pays for himself. 
The cruise takes in the Norway coast and then the Svalbard archipelago. 15 days. :drinker:
Rosie - so happy for you that you are determined to go on this trip to Italy. October is a very good time of year for that kind of trip. I always take my beloved "city breaks" at that time of year as it's my birthday and also DH's.
Katla - I am worried about my brother and so is my DSIL. He was a type 2 diabetic, but did not look after himself. Now he's on insulin. I think it's only once a day. He looks grey and old and has lost all his omph. He used to love his food and all this has made him tired and depressed. DSIL told me that he didn't come to Burns Night because he just couldn't face being sociable. That is so not like him. She is a bit weepy and tired and fed up. The daughter is vegetarian, the son is a newly diagnosed coeliac and DB is diabetic. She is doing the 5/2 diet. I'm glad I'm not having to cook for that lot. :ohwell:
My ear is buzzing quite a lot, but I can hear now. I hope it settles down.
Michele - I have been using Otex ear drops. Both my parents suffered with very waxy ears. When I was younger I had them syringed occasionally, but the ear drops do work, it's just messy business. :noway:
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Morning Ladies~
Rosie~ wow that sounds fun...so glad you get to go on a nice vacation...
well I slept ok,even though im not in my own bed... Faith is still snoozing and I talked to my DB last night..
both Jean and I are praying this will turn his life around, he sounds so much more clear headed and thankful..he said last night he has been there since the 17th of July and this is his 7 day sober as he was in detox for 5 days.. told him about our mutual friend Norman that just passed away.. he was so proud of his sobriety he counted the days, he was sober 17 yrs and counted them in days and I am hoping he has the gumption to stay this way for the rest of his life.. I will be up here again for 4 days Valentines weekend as Jean is flying down there for the weekend for family therapy and to visit..I am glad I can help them both out..0 -
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Great to hear about exciting travel plans, i live vicariously through all the exciting locales! I mostly enjoy the anticipation and planning for a trip.
I have accepted the winter blahs as the background to my days and will be strong in the face of my excuses to be a couch potato! Reading about successes here helps me plan to make the small choices that trigger better self care.
Busy day as dd has got a full day of rehearsing for her senior year musical. I am helping with the big dinner, so cooking and serving, hope to have a pic to post, so proud, another "last high school milestone" whizzes by.
Exercise is logged and i am going....no take backs!
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I am on this endless journey and am hoping this time it is for real! I really don't want to be that little old lady in the hospital bed that it takes four people to come and move!! I swear I will be fit before I'm dead!!! And I want to enjoy it to! So the mission is real and I am committed! I will use this group to help me keep that focus. I think I have the eating reigned in for now, next is to get moving a little bit more. 13,000 steps?? that's about triple of what I do now. I will start with a goal of 8,000 (today!) and a stretch goal of 10,000 with an ultimate goal of 13,000. How's that?
Thank you for being here!!
PS. I like the idea of monthly goals. I might start smaller with weekly - or daily - I am a procrastinator so a month might be too much for me right now.
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Heather - I'm also looking forward to you visiting Svalbard. That little train is in Ny-Ålesund, so you won't see it. New rules prohibit ships that burn heavy fuel oil from going there. Actually, I think the locomotive has been shipped away for maintenance, so you wouldn't see it even if you did go to Ny-Ålesund. But don't worry, there's plenty of junk to admire in Pyramiden.
Valburger - Nice flars! I liked that line about swearing to be fit before you're dead. Beautifully drastic.
Stick around and let's get to know each other. Where are you and what do you call yourself besides Valburger? Not "TTYL" I assume.
Allie - I'm really pleased to hear about your brother's success so far. I have a dear old friend who drank away his marriage, his kids and half his life before becoming sober. He's been sober for 8-10 years now and I admire him immensely. But through him, I know it isn't easy.
I'm plodding along, working toward being able to check more things off my to-do list. Nothing so far, but two of them are getting close to completion.
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Mindy, your trip sounds great....I'm happy to hear how much you've taken charge of solving the issues that are contributing to your personal and financial woes.Rosie, your trip with your sister sounds great.....think more about yourself and less about your husband's wrath or the things you do to take care of others....you are important Katla, I have a lot of energy which is why the pain in my legs has been so frustrating....riding the exercise bike and doing a variation on my old weight training routine have been a good way to stay active without using my legs so much. Now I need to find a way to go off to the other room and do the income tax and sort and discard from old files.Alison, that is good news about your brother. I hope he finds a program and support when he gets home, because no one stays sober on gumption alone.valburger.....I am one of the people who routinely logs well over 10,000 steps a day, but I didn't start like that. I did what you are doing and started with a more manageable goal and gradually found ways to walk more. You can do it...take it one day at a time and measure your progress against yourself, and not against others. I stayed in bed late---5 AM instead of 4 AM so a lot more of the dog walking this morning will be in the daylight. This is the first reminder that there will be a new thread for February. Take a look at your January goals and see how you did and start making plans for goals for February. Mine will be some the same and one or more different. Barbie from NW Washington where the weather is always OK for walking...this morning I saw the moon when I walked the dogs before breakfast
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Sylvia, your son, like most addicts, shows signs of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. His view of the world and other people is that they exist solely to meet his needs. So he sees you as a personal servant, as well as everyone else. If you do not set limits he will run you ragged and never appreciate what you do anyway. You are not being selfish- you are protecting yourself. He also sees his kids as there for him, not vice versa. Thus he is unable to meet their needs if their needs interfere with his needs. This is totally separate from his physical illness. He probably would have been a negligent father even in perfect health. You are saving those kids by being in their lives. My mother had Narcissistic Personality Disorder and there was never anyone stepping in like you do, for me. So I grew up with real trust issues and pathological independence and as well as feeling completely and totally unloved during my childhood. You are a blessing to those children. But at the same time you have to protect yourself- your health and your mental wellbeing by setting limits. You are far from selfish.0
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I loved reading that. I have often thought that about the moon since I was in high school and friends/family were sent to Vietnam, etc. Always made me teary. Now I think that with my daughters and sisters.
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Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .
Good Morning Ladies,
Sylvia, it was so nice reading about your great day with the kids. There is nothing better than laughter!
Pip. I hope Kirby was right in that he’s not depressed. I think he has done remarkable and just feel like he will still see more improvement.
Mindy, I know you are excited about your trip. I like the planning almost as much as the trip itself. It sounds like you will have a blast. Better get planning on what you’ll wear, especially since you have shrunk. Woo Hoo
MicheleNC, I’d love your recipe for the low fat oatmeal cookies.
Katla, I hope your energy picks up for your riding lesson. I hate the days that I feel low energy.
Rosi, how exciting about getting to go to Italy! My DH wouldn’t be interested at all but would be happy for me to go if that is what I wanted to do. I hope yours feels the same way. Now get your butt in gear and get that weight back off. (((Hugs)))
Penny, I hope you stay warm. What kind of temps do you get down to? Burr, just thinking about it makes me cold!
b]Heather[/b], I feel so sorry for your DSIL trying to cook for all those special diets. It’s too bad your DB didn’t want to come to Burns Night. I sure hope things will improve for all of them.
Val, I think this is your first visit to our group of lovely ladies so let me say “Welcome”. This is a wonderful group for support and information. And yes, daily goals work great and remember to start with baby steps. This is a life journey and not a race. Feel free to tell us more about yourself to help us get to know you and please sign each post with the name you want to be called. A location is nice too, be it general or specific.
to any Newbies that I missed. Come often and join in the chat. This thing works!! Please sign your post with what you want to be called. It makes it easier for us to respond to you. Also a location is great, be it specific or general. We are happy to have you join us.
I finally decided I’ll make peach cobbler to take to the Moose tomorrow. I have the ingredients and want to get rid of some of them. The scale was actually down ½ pound this morning from my lowest weight. That sure isn’t much but the first time it’s budged in months, so I’ll take it. DH and I will run some errands later and it should be a beautiful day so I’m looking forward to being out. I wish a beautiful day for all of you, my friends.
I hope all of you have a healthy and happy day.
Words I live by:
Savor. I have to slow down and savor every bite.
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Opportunity. Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.
I Love you,
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC
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Good morning everyone! I have been stuck on a plateau pretty much this whole month. My body has been changing and have been losing inches however I want to lose some of the excess fat. I have decided to do what weight lifters call a cut. Instead of doing split weight lift days I am going to do full body instead and will continue to do kettle bell swings on my rest day between lifting. I will keep my calories between 1400 and 1700 because I need to fuel my body with protein. When stuck on a plateau you must rock the boat!
Stronglifts Rest Day
Goblet squats-3X7X 30
Russian kettle bell swing-22X9X 30
I determined that the pain in my ribs was caused by the increased weight of my kettle bell. So I'm fighting back! I increased the weight to the 30 pound kettle bell for all of the sets today as well as increased the reps to nine. You can call me the fat fighter!
Have a great day everyone!
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60 minutes of exercise done (30 min upper body and 30 min elliptical).
My husband's company is very much into wellness programs and placed a wellness coach in his building as a trial. Very interesting. My husband is not much of one for exercise. He will walk around the building, but not in winter. He is a thin man so doesn't have the outward need to exercise. He tried working with a personal trainer and hated it. He had a wellness coach that he made a commitment with a few years ago and didn't stick with it. But this time, the coach said to just 10 minutes on the elliptical a day. That's it. I actually saw my husband walk downstairs the other morning in his p.j. sweats and no sneakers, turn the news on and get on the elliptical for 10 minutes. Then he went and got ready for work.
I like the new easy approach. It's sustainable. I've found that with the P90x3 program also. I can do 30 minutes a day. I used to strive for an hour a day and often couldn't fit it in and opted to do nothing if I couldn't get the 60 minutes in. If I was really tired, I'd just bail out completely. If I can do extra, that's great, but if not, that's okay too.
The concepts of exercise have changed a lot over the years. I think he should wear sneakers though!
Kimses in MA
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Going to have roasted root veggies tonight with a sprinkling of feta. Guess what I'll have with it? Yes, chilli sauce! :laugh: We used to have roast veg a lot, then sort of forgot about it. I adore it.
I need to lose my pesky pound again. :sad: It was the two days of haggis that did it. I'm back in the groove now, so it shouldn't be long.
DH off watching football. He'll be back any minute. Got some good TV tonight plus stuff I've recorded.
I think it's wine night. Had no alcohol yesterday.
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Sitting in a recliner ,ate junk
fell off a step ladder hurt my leg,I will live..might take a nap...then go pick up the boys to keep over night. 0 -
Pip: Floyd is a good cuddler.
Penny: You may need extra blankets while hubby is gone. Stay warm. I love your insight about us all seeing the same moon, no matter where we live.
Rosie: Good luck on the trip. As to weight management, plan to dig in for the long haul. Without the discipline of logging food I wouldn't be able to keep the weight off, and this group is awesome at motivation. Remember that old habits yield old results. :flowerforyou:
Heather: Managing diabetes is much like our challenge with managing our weight. We have to balance calories with exercise. Your brother has the added challenge of injecting the right amount of insulin that allows the body's cells to metabolize glucose. DH has been taking insulin for 50 years now. When he was first diagnosed the doctors thought he'd be able to live another two years. His mother thought the insulin dependence was a drug addiction and she was ashamed of him. Those were the bad old days. :ohwell: There is a big learning curve that all new diabetics face. DH recommends classes. Good luck to your brother. :flowerforyou:
Barbie: I'm not walking here in the PNW when there is snow or ice on the ground without some better precautions. Broken wrists are no fun. That said, I have a set of chains for my boots that might have helped to prevent that fall. I didn't think of using them. Stupid, stupid, stupid. Amazing how hindsight gives us better vision.
DJ: Love you back. You are so kind to everyone.
No riding lesson today because it has been shifted to tomorrow. I'm fine with that. My energy has been low for a couple of days and I hope to have a full charge by tomorrow morning.
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison
January Goals :
1. Log every bite and swallow.
2. Cardio exercise at least 3 days a week. Work on flexibility and back strength.
3. Have fun every day.
4. Drink at least three glasses of water daily, preferably more!
5. Eliminate alcohol.
6. Monitor sleep. Try to average 7 or more hours of sleep nightly.
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Miriam - I am convinced that my ex has a narcissistic personality issue. It is taking a lot of hard work to try to overcome the damage he did to me. When our children are of no 'use' to him, he has no contact with them. Consequently, they pretty much have no time for him. It makes me sad. And, I blame myself.0
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60 minutes of exercise done (30 min upper body and 30 min elliptical).
I like the new easy approach. It's sustainable. I've found that with the P90x3 program also. I can do 30 minutes a day. I used to strive for an hour a day and often couldn't fit it in and opted to do nothing if I couldn't get the 60 minutes in. If I was really tired, I'd just bail out completely. If I can do extra, that's great, but if not, that's okay too.
The concepts of exercise have changed a lot over the years. I think he should wear sneakers though!
Kimses in MA
Great job! I love the 30 minute workout as well! It feels like you still have accomplished something and can be fit in rather nicely!
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Happy Saturday, sounds like this will be the last day of nice weather for a while. They are talking about a big storm coming in starting tomorrow. Hoping they are wrong, but can't complain as we have been very lucky so far this year.
Yesterday was a nice day and I enjoyed the time with family. The funeral was nice and you could tell she had lived around there her whole life. Had a nice visit with my mom, sister and brother.
Allison--Great news about your brother. Interesting about Tom and the bleeding. Does sound like something that should be checked out. Fell off the ladder, please take care of yourself.
Heather--Happy to read you got a new phone and the problems with your account worked out. Sorry to read about DB and DSIL.
Chris MA--Sending prayers and hugs!
Carol--Not sure what to say about the cat. At least it wasn't a bomb.
Sylvia--I do not think your are a self*****ch. I think even with his illness he could do better. Please take care of yourself. Also I do not think it would be wrong to express to him that you changed plans for two days for him.
I have a little vent. Insurance is making us get our meds for 3 months at a time mail order. Well yesterday in the mail we get the box from the pharmacy and they sent me a pill I have not taken in years and didn't send DH his pill. Now this is the same pill they sent me only half the dose. So I call them this morning and they are like OH well we will send his out. I say no he will take these and I will let you know when we need more. I hate not being able to just go local and pick them up as needed. Thanks for listening.
Mia--Sending hugs that you feel better soon.
Donna--Sending hugs and remember One day at a time.
Rosie--The trip with your sister sounds fantastic. Sure hope it works out that you can go.
Well ladies time to sign off for today, I am off work the next two days and have an eye appointment Monday after walking the mall with my friend. Going to try a new eye doctor and hope that goes well. Also I have joined an on line book study with a minster from our motorcycle group. Got the book a couple days ago and need to get the first two chapters read so can know what they are talking about and be a part of it.
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Donna – I know what you mean by wanting/needing (whatever) about ‘empty nesters’ not being able to do so. We have DOS & his family who live next door. DOS works for DH – so he will work until they find him the bushes when his arm moving up and down with a paintbrush in his hand. Because he works for his Dad the $$$$ which we could ‘save’ goes to his income. We’ve encouraged him to find another job but, so far, that isn’t going anywhere. DYS, who makes a lot more than we do; lives in Louisiana with his wife and daughter and won’t ever move back to this ‘neck’ of the woods. Sometimes I want to say something to my DDnL#1; but, that would only mean ‘trouble’ for my DOS so I don’t. While she has a ‘good heart’ she is a ‘divisive trouble-maker’ to this house. I don’t like the ‘drama’ so I keep to myself. It’s better that way. I want to keep seeing my granddaughters and my DOS takes her side in just about everything. GGGGrrrrrrr
Miriam – Good for you to go on a ‘dating site’ and meeting someone that you had so much you could talk about and making a ‘friend’ who I hope stays that way for a while. Getting to know him with one date isn’t going to be enough yet to know how things might work out for the two of you. But, enjoy it! Meeting new people is always ‘interesting’.
Becca – When I was a lifeguard as soon as we could ‘hear’ thunder the whistle was blown to empty the pool. I hope you know that ‘lightening’ can strike 10 miles away from the clouds. You were smart to get out.
Denise – Because DH eats a big meal during the middle of the day; quite often he isn’t hungry when he comes home. We share a meal and keep the left-overs to eat the next night or the night after that or I freeze the rest in a portion that’s enough for the 2 of us. Since I am on a fairly restrictive diet ‘calorie-wise’ that suits me. Keeps my ‘cooking’ skills so that I don’t’ get overwhelmed when the kids come home and I have a bigger crowd at Thanksgiving or when I have all of them over. Thankfully, we don’t have to buy water to drink all the time. I do, however, have to buy ‘distilled water’ to go into my C-pap machine each night. We also have ‘lime’ in the water since we are over limestone over the aquafers where our water source is. But I grew up in a small town where we had ‘soap suds’ in the water from having it go through a processing plant.
Linda/IA – Don’t you know it – cancelling a credit card, especially when you KNOW it is somewhere in your house and you know that someone did not steal it or the losing it did not have to be done for the same reason in a P.I.T.A.
Sylvia – My mother knitted; but, I don’t remember her using a knitting ball; but, I do remember her taking a skein of yarn and making me hold it while she rolled it into a ball because otherwise the yarn would get all tangled up. How I hated doing that as a child. She ‘tried’ to make me learn how to knit; but, it stressed me out so much that I would drop a stitch and could not ever do it correctly. There are a lot of things that we were ‘taught’ as children; but, did not take into our adult life. Playing the piano, knitting, and all those types of ‘girly’ things. I do thank God that she did teach me grammar and good etiquette.
pipd34 – Guilt as ‘charged’ . . . but, I try not to mentioned things ‘political’ or ‘religious’; but, I do slip up sometimes. But … it was said IMHO. Keeping communications about Kirby is ‘good’; maybe he won’t get ‘depressed’ if he ‘thinks’ or 'knows' you understand and that you don’t want him to close up. I have a good relationship with my DH and it helps for him to understand and talk to me, he knows when he needs to take me to get help that neither of us can 'turn around'; if my medications get 'whacked out' then I need to actually go to someone that can treat me. He’s my rock, especially when it comes to my medications getting whacked out and knows when it is time to call the MD. MD just lowered one of my medications, so that is something he will have to watch out for, to make sure it doesn’t affect me in any way. Most men don't want to admit their 'feelings'; something to do with their 'pride'; also most men don't want to have to go to a MD or especially not to the ER.
Mindy - my BF who used to work for the IRS, does our taxes. So far, for 2014 – the tax return still has not been filed. She has gone back to work for a CPA firm; but, she’s also said she’d pay any interest and penalties we have tacked on because of not filing it ‘on time’ even after we got an extension to file it. I know that we are always going to be ‘last on her list’; but, during filing season she is as busy as a ‘man taking a knife to an alligator hunt; needed to take a gun’. We got audited a few years back about supposedly ‘not’ reporting some of our income; because the customer my husband painted for her house was reported in the wrong line of the 1099; so she wrote a letter for us to sign and send in. The IRS agreed with us and we did not have to pay additional taxes. DH thinks he did this ‘on purpose’ since he and his wife are now (and were then) ‘ex’s’; and she asked DH to do painting on the former family home and she was the one who paid us. He hasn’t asked DH to paint for him since. That’s ok, he was a D888-8888 any way. He’s had some real ‘doozies’ in the 30 years since he started this full time. Now, he only has 3 people, including himself that works for him. A whole LOT less headache from having to ‘match’ taxes taken out. He pays them on a 1099 basis.
cityjaneLondon - What is 'haggis'?Exermom – We have a choice, well not really – they come in at different time, between “Halos” and “Cuties”. One is easy to peel and the other one is like peeling an orange; keeps half the rind with it.
My BF cleaned out her closet and gave me a lot of things that I could wear (surprisingly). Two of the things had their tags on them. She did not like them because they had shoulders that hung off her’s.
I would not say or even claim that my Mother had a ‘Narcissistic Personality Disorder’; but, I’m not a MD or a PhD who would know these things. She just seemed cold and sometimes unyielding at times. She made remarks at times that made me ‘feel unwanted’; but, I knew I was actually ‘unplanned’. I also knew that I was 'loved'; never doubted that; mainly because it taught me to be independent and not a needy person. Parents had been told after my older sister was born, not to have any more children; because her BP went so high during her pregnancy with her. I’m just not so sure she realized what she was saying when she made that comment. She would also make the remark that she had wanted 6 sons; but, stopped with 3 girls; because ‘they were twice as nice’. I was a “Daddy’s Baby” because I almost died twice before I was a year-and-a-half years old. I had a seizure disorder, which I grew out of; until, I was an adult and I have one now which requires medication to control. Daddy would spend a lot of time with me – trying to make up for the lack of affection I got from her. All through my HS years (8th – 12th grades) she was involved in Woman’s Club on a State Level from Parliamentarian, to Treasurer, Secretary, VP, and then President. She left me to take care of my Daddy; and, he drank pretty heavily during that time. I always worried about him when he did not come home until 10:00 – 11:00PM. Back then, a drunk driver got a slap on the hand, so to speak, if they were not in a wreck or something. My Daddy (being a highly respected attorney) was occasionally brought home by the Sheriff who was a very close friend of theirs. I got left home a lot to fiend for myself. Therefore, when I went off to ‘art’ school – I did not come home that often. I can remember once going to the Headquarters where my Mother was (for the day); and, got ‘run off’ by the President at that time; and, she called me a ‘dirty hippie’. I had my clothes on that I had worn all day. Did not get a chance to tell my Mother that I was coming home. When I got home, she (Mother) called me in to introduce me to her ‘friends’ … and when she got around to introducing me to her; I told Mother we had already met and I turned on my heels and walked out. After they left, my Mother asked me about my remark and I told her what had occurred earlier in the day. It made her ‘laugh’ because she really did not like her either. Of course, watching “The Help” after reading the book, I realized that I knew a lot of families, with maids, who would probably be the same types of families. One thing I can remember about my Mother is that ‘she never backed down’. But, she also knew that ‘one could kill with kindness’. She used this remark instead of 'honey attracted bees'. Sometimes I ‘think’ I have part of that in me; but, I really am more like … "I don’t get mad; I get even." I’ve learned doing things her way is better. If I did not take her attitude on … I’d just be ‘eaten from the inside out’ and I don’t want for another to have the upper hand either. I once had a ‘friend’ who apparently our friendship died because I would NOT take her advice that she thought I needed to quit my job for a man I had worked for, for nearly 20 years. Our friendship fizzled for that very reason; but, I am happy that I thought she had ‘lost her mind’ and did not quit. because, a year later my boss was appointed as a Federal Judge. I became disabled and had to give up my job; but, at least I did it on my terms and not on hers. I know I can be quite selfish myself; but, that is a part of my disorder and I know it. I certainly don’t think I have a Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I think I would know that by now. I have a really good MD now and I know that some of the things I went through to get here, I could not have done without my DH and MD. But, I also don’t try to self-medicate myself, nor do I try to self-diagnose something without my MD’s knowledge, that’s what he went to school to do.
I apologize for making some of the remarks I have made here (and been called out for); it isn’t my intention of inflicting upon anyone else my ‘opinions’; and I am aware that this is a thread to encourage, not to make comments that might not be agreed with by others. I’ll try to keep them to myself or with others that don’t mind talking about them (not on this site) or in a private message. I can do this with one sister; but, not the other. The other sister can tolerate my being diagnosed with something that tends to 'run in families'; but, not the other. Both of them take anti-depressants; but the one I can talk to about certain things and not the other; is one on an anti-depressant. Actually, both of them take medication to help prevent depression. Sometimes it is just better to PM someone about certain things.
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