my family keeps saying I'm underweight, am I?
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my mother confronted me that her and my father are afraid I've lost too much weight. I have always been very heavy, was 220, now I'm 135 and 5'2". I am 24, small frame hourglass, my thumb and middle finger wrap around my wrist with a little overlap. I can't see my ribs or anything, I do have defined collar bone that makes me look thinner than I am. How can I determine if I'm to thin, or how can I show my family they just are not used to seeing me thin and I am healthy now.
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You are not underweight!
I am the same weight but I'm 5ft 9" and I'm not underweight, nor do I look it!
I guess your parents can't get away from what you looked like when you were heavier so in comparison think you're underweight.0 -
Could try pointing at BMI, or take them to a doctor.0
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I am 5'4 and used to weigh 117. I was still at a healthy BMI. I plan to get to 115-120 again this year. Check your BMI.0
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No way. I think people just get used to seeing you at a higher weight so they feel you don't look right. It may take some time for them to get used to the "new you". Of course my husband's family always thinks I look too thin when I think I look fine. I know I am healthy.0
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Are your family overweight? They may just have skewed perceptions because of being used to seeing you overweight.0
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No, you're not.0
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I would say definitely not underweight! I am 5'2" also, and you are the weight that I want to be! I have a ways to go, but I'm on my way there! According to the "charts" with my height and frame, I should weigh like 125 #'s. I think you did an awesome job! You go girl!!!0
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my mother confronted me that her and my father are afraid I've lost too much weight. I have always been very heavy, was 220, now I'm 135 and 5'2". I am 24, small frame hourglass, my thumb and middle finger wrap around my wrist with a little overlap. I can't see my ribs or anything, I do have defined collar bone that makes me look thinner than I am. How can I determine if I'm to thin, or how can I show my family they just are not used to seeing me thin and I am healthy now.
Your mother is just concerend because she hasnt seen you at a healthy weight. I am 5'2 and 143. I can also wrap my fingers around my wrist with a little left over. I have been at a healthy weight from 110-135 in my life. My Goal is 125 a size 4 and to get the 36/24/38 measurements back I had in college.
My family however gave me a talking to that I was fat when I hit 155. You are fine.0 -
No you aren't. I am 5'1", and my goal is to be between 120 - 130.0
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First off, congrats on the huge weightloss! Secondly, you're in the correct weight for your size. Politely explain to your parents that although you've lost a lot of weight your main focus is to be healthy, and that your current weight is still within the doctor recommended weight for your height. That you appreciate their concern, but that you're paying attention to all aspects of your body.
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People get worried sometimes. It's a shock to them to see you look so different, and/or maybe they're worried that losing a lot of weight in a short(ish) amount of time is unhealthy. Your height/weight ratio doesn't suggest that you're underweight at all, and you certainly don't look it.
Good luck with your parents though.0 -
Just looking at the numbers, no you're not but the above posters could be right and your family is just used to seeing you one way. Are they overweight? Sometimes people who are overweight think that those who have lost weight or who are thinner are too thin. And your fingers overlapping doesn't say much except maybe bone structure a bit- small wrist, long fingers... any number of things. Mine overlap and I'm smack in the middle of my healthy BMI with quite a few pounds to go before I'm considered underweight at 5 ft 6in0
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I agree with what everyone is saying. You are not underweight. You look healthy and quite fabulous!0
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they are probably just not used to seeing you that size. My daughter can wrap her fingers around my wrist and touch fingers. I just have tiny wrists.0
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Could it be that they find it hard that you lost all that weight the right away and are afraid that you have an ED? I had a friend that lost over 50lbs just by eating right and her parents confronted her about this. Said it was not possible for someone to drop that much weight without having a ED. :mad:0
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be like "you jelly?"0
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my mother confronted me that her and my father are afraid I've lost too much weight. I have always been very heavy, was 220, now I'm 135 and 5'2". I am 24, small frame hourglass, my thumb and middle finger wrap around my wrist with a little overlap. I can't see my ribs or anything, I do have defined collar bone that makes me look thinner than I am. How can I determine if I'm to thin, or how can I show my family they just are not used to seeing me thin and I am healthy now.
They're used to seeing you heavy that's all. You are not too thin.
At 24 years old, I should think you are old enough to know what you are doing, why are they interferring.......0 -
You're not medically underweight. I'm 5ft 2 and 124lbs and I'm not underweight - I'm almost slap bang in the middle if the healthy BMI range, so you're not underweight.
My family were saying to me a lot "make sure you don't lose too much" and my MIL saw me one day and said "you're wasting away".
I think part of it is that they haven't seen you like this for a long time, possibly ever, and they aren't used to it. You said you weighed over 200lbs so losing so much to get down to 135 is a heck of a lot of weight. Kudos by the way!! They are just getting used to your new look and may be slightly worried that you'll take it the stage where you are underweight.
Give them some reassurance and show them a BMI chart and it should allay their fears.0 -
my mother confronted me that her and my father are afraid I've lost too much weight. I have always been very heavy, was 220, now I'm 135 and 5'2". I am 24, small frame hourglass, my thumb and middle finger wrap around my wrist with a little overlap. I can't see my ribs or anything, I do have defined collar bone that makes me look thinner than I am. How can I determine if I'm to thin, or how can I show my family they just are not used to seeing me thin and I am healthy now.
PS: i can overhead press you.0
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