RANT: WHY IS EVERYONE SO MEAN?!?!

celtbell3

I get mean when people drunkenly delete me from their FL and then beg and plea for me to add them back.

Yep!

maab_connor

Why are you so whiny and yelly?

Because I just don't get it.

If you can't say anything nice, then don't say anything at all.

while i can understand that newbies think some of us snarky/sarcastic individuals are mean - sometimes we've gotten the same question... a LOT. and sometimes - when you've answered a question 10 million times, you get short about an answer, or you give a snarky joke instead.

and sometimes, a poster just gets butthurt for no reason and loses the ability to differentiate someone disagreeing with them, and someone being mean.

and some ppl are just d!cks.

BrainyBurro

I know you are too new to know the can of worms you have opened here but this never ends well.

The reason people are mean on the internet is because they have a large audience and they have no accountability.
Also some things that are labeled as mean are actually just honest and people don't like straight shooters.

I have found this site to be very useful in helping me lose weight. There are way more good than bad. There are groups you can join where everyone is like minded which will help you avoid mean people. I would recommend joining one of those.

Or they do it cause they're trying to fit in to a specific peer group and be accepted by some people on this site... Posting pointless GIF are the "COOL" thing to do on MFP. IF you want to be "COOL" on MFP you need to snarky, sarcastic. Everyone does it, we all might as well be a bunch of followers.

CarlaMichelle

Should we give you :hugs: and rainbows and sunshine or would you prefer the truth with actual advice that will help you reach your goals?

can i have hugs, rainbows and sunshine mixed in with the truth? LOL

CADreaming09

This topic title was just an opening for everyone to be more 'mean' to you. I will say what I say to everyone else that posts these kinds of things, Who Cares. I could care less when people on the internet say something rude. It's internet, it's to be expected.

nikkim19781

I mean, I thought that this site was supposed to be about support and motivation. All I see are snarky/mean answers to everything on here.

It's disgusting..

Thought it was just me!

SpeSHul_SnoflEHk

Love this!

curvykim78

We're starving, duh.

LMAO best answer ever!:)

Timshel_

Get better friends

CADreaming09

This is seriously disturbing:sad: :frown: :huh:

BeachIron

I know you are too new to know the can of worms you have opened here but this never ends well.

The reason people are mean on the internet is because they have a large audience and they have no accountability.
Also some things that are labeled as mean are actually just honest and people don't like straight shooters.

I have found this site to be very useful in helping me lose weight. There are way more good than bad. There are groups you can join where everyone is like minded which will help you avoid mean people. I would recommend joining one of those.

Or they do it cause they're trying to fit in to a specific peer group and be accepted by some people on this site... Posting pointless GIF are the "COOL" thing to do on MFP. IF you want to be "COOL" on MFP you need to snarky, sarcastic. Everyone does it, we all might as well be a bunch of followers.

Kamikazeflutterby

Sometimes it not only gets boring typing the same response over and over ad nauseum, but the non-snark response gets less attention from the OP, and that defeats the point in replying. Either no one notices the "Sorry, the Raspberry Keytone/Coffee Enema/Juice Fast/Fat Flush cleanse is at best a waste of money, don't do that," or you get called a MEAN PERSON for not understanding how EVERYONE'S BODY IS DIFFERENT and didn't get to have the fun of being at least a tad snarky in your first response. There's no motivation to spoon feed sprinkles to everyone.

CADreaming09

We're starving, duh.

LMAO best answer ever!:)

This. HAHAHAHAHA!

SpeSHul_SnoflEHk

I mean, I thought that this site was supposed to be about support and motivation. All I see are snarky/mean answers to everything on here.

It's disgusting..

Awww. Byn. You didn't jus do that did you?

belle713

This is my first post so I'll be nice. :flowerforyou:

However, I must warn you. I'm on day 3 of my new "low carb llifestyle" (trying to remove the word "diet" from my vocabulary.)

Someone mentioned popcorn on a reply and I swear, my mouth watered. Good grief. :grumble:

Anyway, people on the internet are mean for a variety of reasons. Either they feel brave hiding behind the anonymity of their monitors. Or they're hungry. Or they're just a bit anti-social...hence: the internet.

Or they could just be b*tches. Whatever the reason, I wouldn't let it bother you. It's their problem much more than yours.

(I hope that was nice enough)

Have a great day! :laugh:

chaosbutterfly

There are alot of weight loss forums and weight loss subforums of other forums out there....if you don't like MFP's, then try one of them.
The internet is too big to be sad because the people on one forum are not nice enough for you.

_chiaroscuro

Or they do it cause they're trying to fit in to a specific peer group and be accepted by some people on this site... Posting pointless GIF are the "COOL" thing to do on MFP. IF you want to be "COOL" on MFP you need to snarky, sarcastic. Everyone does it, we all might as well be a bunch of followers.

Dude! We're on a calorie counting website, how cool could anyone here be?

CarlaMichelle

Love This

ldrosophila

actually I just read a study on this and it appears boredom is the number one culprit.

Hellbent_Heidi

Someone pass the popcorn...

<passing popcorn>

Anybody got the Raisinets?

Raisinets are bad for you...they turn straight to fat and go to the spot you can't reduce by exercising (even with a shake weight)...didn't you know this? :laugh:

SpeSHul_SnoflEHk

Or they do it cause they're trying to fit in to a specific peer group and be accepted by some people on this site... Posting pointless GIF are the "COOL" thing to do on MFP. IF you want to be "COOL" on MFP you need to snarky, sarcastic. Everyone does it, we all might as well be a bunch of followers.

Awww.. Did the cool kids do something mean to you?

They did me too. Like water off a duck's back. Just let it go. It's better for you that way.

BrainyBurro

Or they do it cause they're trying to fit in to a specific peer group and be accepted by some people on this site... Posting pointless GIF are the "COOL" thing to do on MFP. IF you want to be "COOL" on MFP you need to snarky, sarcastic. Everyone does it, we all might as well be a bunch of followers.

Awww.. Did the cool kids do something mean to you?

They did me too. Like water off a duck's back. Just let it go. It's better for you that way.

the cool kids locked me in my locker. i had to wait until the janitor arrived this morning to get out.

SpeSHul_SnoflEHk

I think its because when someone posts a legitimate opinion about health, 5 other people feel the need to explain that because of their extensive google research, they certainly know more than anyone else on the internet.

And by extensive, you mean they spent about 5 minutes googling something and read the parts of a blog that support their own ideas and neglected the parts that don't.

soldier4242

I know you are too new to know the can of worms you have opened here but this never ends well.

The reason people are mean on the internet is because they have a large audience and they have no accountability.
Also some things that are labeled as mean are actually just honest and people don't like straight shooters.

I have found this site to be very useful in helping me lose weight. There are way more good than bad. There are groups you can join where everyone is like minded which will help you avoid mean people. I would recommend joining one of those.

I agree with all but the lack of accountability part. I mean, you can ping their IP, and find out all kinds of information about them. It's not that anonymous. Some are that mean IRL as well.

Finding out the originator of an internet post is a skill that belongs to an esoteric group of people and of those that know what to do only some of them actually care to do it. So for the most part it is anonymous and even through it really isn't the fact that they think it is will be enough to make them act like jerks.

Yes some people are just that mean IRL as well. There is nothing anyone can do about that lot. They will be jerks no matter what.

harphy

Seriously...you don't know the meaning of "mean"! People here are some of the nicest and most supportive I've met in a looong time. Each of us has a meaner lot at home and among "friends" who attempt to crush our plans for healthier life.

BinaryPulsar

When I first joined and I saw the "why are people mean" threads, I thought people were talking about the few people that do say mean things (calling people fat and unattractive as an example, and other such things). Those things would get deleted. I just figured there must be a lot of that. I thought people were oversensitive because all these nice people that give helpful advice would respond as if the OP was talking about them.

I just find it funny about perceptions.

Someone posts "why are people mean". Nice, helpful people think it's about them. So, I thought they were the ones being oversensitive. :laugh:

It seemed to me the helpful people were not mean at all. The clueless people that (upon seeing me asking about how to set calorie goals) suddenly accused me of being anorexic and that I was going to die (simply because my weight is low because I am petite and small framed and I'm active as a dancer and dedicated to fitness) were not so much mean, but annoying for sure. It was the helpful people that made joining here more pleasant, for calling those others out on their nonsense and then giving me helpful advice: Find out my TDEE, use Scooby's, eat at maintenance, lift heavy weights, gave me resources.

deksgrl

In for gifs!

belle713

the cool kids locked me in my locker. i had to wait until the janitor arrived this morning to get out.

:laugh: :drinker: :sad: :laugh:

celtbell3

There is a tremendous amount of satire on MFP - sarcasm and extreme criticism are the norm on many boards. Don't let it get you down. To balance the bad, there are also the supportive and caring responses.

__stacyb

I like snarky people, what's wrong with that?