question 4 ppl who understand what thick means

DD0pe
DD0pe Posts: 34 Member
in Motivation and Support
I'm so confused last time I lost alot of weight my bf said I look like a skinny crack head now I gained it back n he saying I need to tone up n get thick like the girls in music videos??... How am I suppose to do that ?!?
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  • julies90
    julies90 Posts: 646 Member
    dump him, that's how.
    Do it for you.
  • thesupremeforce
    thesupremeforce Posts: 1,206 Member
    It sounds like he might be a little "thick" between the ears.
  • Lalasharni
    Lalasharni Posts: 353 Member
    Anyone who told me I looked like a skinny crack-head would be thrown out.
    If he wants a movie star, tell him to go find one and get a fella that loves and supports you.
  • caegem
    caegem Posts: 79 Member
    Dump him, Hes obviously an idiot.
  • NadineSabbagh
    NadineSabbagh Posts: 142 Member
    I always thought 'thick' was a word used to mean 'fat', so I'm as confused as you.

    Personally, I would tell your boyfriend to get stuffed! Saying you look like a skinny crack head, then criticising you when you put on weight? How dare he tell you how you should look! Do what YOU want to do, look how YOU want to look, and don't change for anyone else :)
  • KANGOOJUMPS
    KANGOOJUMPS Posts: 6,474 Member
    thick,,, I love thick.
  • BarackMeLikeAHurricane
    BarackMeLikeAHurricane Posts: 3,400 Member
    Thick is a polite way of saying fat
  • Mario_Az
    Mario_Az Posts: 1,331 Member
    if you love him have a serious talk with him and don't listen to these people that say dump him. relationships take hard work if you run away every time you will never have time to make the relationship strong. just like bodybuilding if you put the weights down just cause it gets hard and hurts you will never grow :)


    Si vis pacem, para bellum
  • salladeve
    salladeve Posts: 1,053 Member
    I would really ask him what HE means. That doesn't even make sense to me. THICK? does he mean toned? In the long run you are doing this for you, so how you see yourself and feel about yourself is important. If he is not supportive of your goals, then you really need to reevaluate you relationship.
  • jinna86
    jinna86 Posts: 93
    I googled "thick women" and this site popped up: http://allthickwomen.com/

    Is that what he means? From the pictures, I'd describe them as muscular but not skinny, with exaggerated womanly proportions.
  • MelsAuntie
    MelsAuntie Posts: 2,833 Member
    I saw that site. So then, "thick" means big *kitten* and heavy, fat thighs? (No thank you. You maybe, if you want it. Not me.)
  • madrose0715
    madrose0715 Posts: 463 Member
    I saw that site. So then, "thick" means big *kitten* and heavy, fat thighs? (No thank you. You maybe, if you want it. Not me.)

    Hey, hey, hey! I have a big *kitten* and heavy, fat thighs!! Back off the hatin! :sad:
  • MelsAuntie
    MelsAuntie Posts: 2,833 Member
    I saw that site. So then, "thick" means big *kitten* and heavy, fat thighs? (No thank you. You maybe, if you want it. Not me.)

    Hey, hey, hey! I have a big *kitten* and heavy, fat thighs!! Back off the hatin! :sad:


    I SAID "you, if you want it." How is that hating? Lighten up, honey. Your profile picture doesn't look fat at all.
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    BF sounds like a jerk. You're too good for him. Fire his dumb *kitten*. :mad:
  • TheEffort
    TheEffort Posts: 1,028 Member
    :huh:

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  • WhitneySheree88
    WhitneySheree88 Posts: 222 Member
    Means juicy hips/thighs/bum something you would get from lifting.


    If that isn't the way you want to look tell him to grow a bigger stick then you will get thicker for him ... that'll shut him up :happy:
  • wswilliams67
    wswilliams67 Posts: 938 Member
    In fitness terms, 'thick' means muscular builds... not skinny, not fat, but fit, firm muscles.

    Any other meaning outside of that context should be considered an insult and responded to with a chair to the face.
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    Ok, so I went to the thick girls website. So your BF wants you to look like Kim Kardashian? That's fine if you have the body structure for it and it's something YOU want.

    I see a lot of people are suggesting that anyone can get that body type through lifting. I think that's only true if you have the genetic structure for it to begin with. I've been lifting heavy for years but I have a very lean body type. Even when I'm not running (only lifting) although I am "toned" and have a nice little rounded rear end, I don't think I could ever be "thick" no matter how much I worked. I don't have the body type for it.
  • 1longroad
    1longroad Posts: 642 Member
    Anyone who can not love you the way you are, fat, skinny, thick or not, doesn't have their priorities right! If you lost weight for you, which is healthier, he should have supported you!!

    Just because he is telling you how you should look, doesn't mean that's what you have to or should look like. If you were 'thick' when you got together and you gained weight after that, I could understand he would be worried about your health, but looks should come second, after health.
  • sweetpea129
    sweetpea129 Posts: 755 Member
    I dont think thick means fat at all. More about thick thighs, small waist and a butt. Not sure its totally possible without the genetics but lifting weights may help a bit. I would say that i was "thick" around a size 10-12 and am now losing it at an 8. Thats just me personally though.
  • Sabine_Stroehm
    Sabine_Stroehm Posts: 19,263 Member
    How do YOU want to look and feel?
  • jamaicanlady
    jamaicanlady Posts: 878 Member
    OP, forget all the people here who say to dump him. I don't know how people can think they have the right to tell you to make that big of a decision from the little that you told us about ur bf. For example, my bff in the whole wide world and I are always "dissing" each other, but in a good way. It depends on how things are said sometimes and the character of the person who said it.

    On another note, to answer your original question, I think thick means not skinny, not fat, just nice muscular build with just enough body fat to not have well defined muscles. It's a look I like too, but like someone else mentioned, we're not all genetically disposed to have that look. If you are, then you probably just need to work on lifting heavy weights to get the muscle part down. That's what I'm currently in the process of doing.

    I won't offer any advice on what to say to your bf (although a few things come to mind) because you didn't ask for that. Good luck!

    *Edited for grammar*
  • C00lCountry
    C00lCountry Posts: 282
    You can be to skinny and have a one weight but it doesn't look as healthy.
    You can be the same weight but look allot more healthy.
    You didn't mention how you lost the weight the first time.
    Just do it for you and not him.
    If he loves you for you. He will be by your side.
  • Nissi51
    Nissi51 Posts: 381 Member
    if you love him have a serious talk with him and don't listen to these people that say dump him. relationships take hard work if you run away every time you will never have time to make the relationship strong. just like bodybuilding if you put the weights down just cause it gets hard and hurts you will never grow :)


    Si vis pacem, para bellum

    Good point...

    I would still dump him!
  • kirstyfairhead
    kirstyfairhead Posts: 220 Member
    BF sounds a little insensitive.... maybe you could post a picture of him and we can all give you some suggestions on appropriate responses. Would probably be a tad immature..... but lots of fun!!:happy:
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    OP, forget all the people here who say to dump him. I don't know how people can think they have the right to tell you to make that big of a decision from the little that you told us about ur bf. For example, my bff in the whole wide world and I are always "dissing" each other, but in a good way. It depends on how things are said sometimes and the character of the person who said it.

    On another note, to answer your original question, I think thick means not skinny, not fat, just nice muscular build with just enough body fat to not have well defined muscles. It's a look I like too, but like someone else mentioned, we're not all genetically disposed to have that look. If you are, then you probably just need to work on lifting heavy weights to get the muscle part down. That's what I'm currently in the process of doing.

    I won't offer any advice on what to say to your bf (although a few things come to mind) because you didn't ask for that. Good luck!

    *Edited for grammar*

    ^this depending on the guy and the relationship it's just how you guys converse. Last time I had a fight with hubby and I said "what would you do if you were in my shoes?" and he answered "i would never be in your shoes" his usual answer meaning I have to learn to prevent problems a longstanding goal of mine and he says it to remind me, but this time he added "cause those shoes are ugly" since I'd just bought new shoes and he had kept quiet about them but i guess chose that moment to admit it, or just wanted to add a silly insult to win. IDK all I know is I found it nearly impossible to continue the argument to closure to figure out what needed to be done, due to that silly and haylarious additional "insult". we joke around here. we "play" when we fight and I cringe to think what an onlooker might think because both being from certain work backgrounds we are able to say it with such a straight face as to seem serious.

    I"m looking for a pic of "thick" as that seems like the only way to get it across. it's like slender but not "athletic" but a little bit fuller without being fat.

    this might be it

    nikewomen.jpg it even comes with instructions. squat. and just do it.
  • tresmommy86
    tresmommy86 Posts: 94 Member
    Some of those girls got "thick" from a surgeon's knife. Nicki Minaj anyone? Tell him to keep calm and then show him a pic of your favorite male celeb and tell him you want him to get ripped like he is.
  • Dragn77
    Dragn77 Posts: 810 Member
    Eh, its one thing to joke around, dish and take it playfully. Its a whole other thing when the person who is supposed to love you says hurtful things and makes you feel bad about yourself / question your body. My ex did that...he made hurtful comments that took me years to get over even after our breakup. And I still have my moments.

    Anyway, yeah thick generally means small waist, bigger butt / thighs. Not fat or flabby. I have disproportionately large butt and thighs compared to my upper body...even when I was down to a size 4 guys still described me as thick not cause I was big, I wasnt at all...but because of the way my body is shaped. A big ouch for people making derogatory remarks about that body type...cant be helped, and some of us with that body shape do like our bodies indeed.

    On that note, its not something really that you can get...just like how I will never have a ruler body shape no matter how small I get, one cant hope to change into a pear / and move on towards having the small waist / disproportionately large butt and thighs no matter how much they gain. Its not about weight, its the shape of the body.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    She doesn't seem to feel bad about his choice of words but seems motivated to find out what he means? How do we know his ideal of "thick" isn't precisely what her body is if she relaxes a little with her workout program? How do we know she doesn't use similar language with him? IDK, i just know in my real life I know a lot of thick skinned people (pun intended) and so to me her OP reads as just regular everyday talking and a girl curious what her guy is trying to tell her. So her goes another atttempt to clarify.

    Urban dictionary's explanation of "thick": http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=thick+girl

    similar to mine, and click around to see if anything else helps you get it OP. Happy Thicking! (ie squatting, stairs, lifting, and accepting your own unique and beautiful shape however it happens to be and end up)
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    35d2usm.jpg people vote on if you think this is "thick". what he might mean? and a bunch more to follow just vote so OP can see if this is what it means.

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