Long distance relationships?

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  • hdatres
    hdatres Posts: 635 Member
    Nope
  • dendysill
    dendysill Posts: 90 Member
    I tried long distance relationship twice, the first one was a flop, hindsight, Thank God. The second ...we have been married for 6 years now. He is my best friend. <3
  • Shy_1114
    Shy_1114 Posts: 24 Member
    Markdjones83 wrote: »
    Shy_1114 wrote: »
    They suck.

    And not literally right :open_mouth:

    Exactly!! That's the hardest part, the lack of getting busy on a regular basis. It's nice that the relationship is built on deeper things, but sex is just as important for building and maintaining the bonds in a romantic relationship.
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  • NadiaMayl
    NadiaMayl Posts: 496 Member
    LDRs are hard! My husband and I did it -Texas to The Netherlands. It took a lot of communication to agree what we found acceptable (you know, going out with friends, clubbing, who calls when, how often you call, what's the agreement if you don't hear from each other in 'x' hours, etc. etc. etc. ), who would travel when, who would eventually move, etc. plus if you are in the early stages, this is how you'll get to know each other and then expect the shock of seeing the real each other when you move in together.
    Hard stuff but we made it!!! Been together for 16 years now and have two kiddos!!
  • perkymommy
    perkymommy Posts: 1,642 Member
    edited April 2016
    I'm happily married now (we met online but lived 10 minutes apart) but no I would not have done long distance back then.

    Most situations I've heard of there is one person that isn't willing to travel and will make promises and end up not following through. Beware of some people who just like the idea of getting attention online but have no plans of ever uprooting to move or even just to visit out of state and when you try to make plans to go see them they always have something else to do. Not catfishing but just real people who will skype, talk on the phone but not take it any farther. They are content with single life and just want to maintain a distant relationship. Just be careful and try to see the signs very early on when you do meet someone.
  • michellemybelll
    michellemybelll Posts: 2,228 Member
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    It won't work. Someone else will come along. He'll betray you or you will betray him.

    False.
  • finny11122
    finny11122 Posts: 8,436 Member
    faithan84 wrote: »
    Thanks for the responses! I think it will be a "wait and see" situation. We haven't even met in person yet. I was weighing the pros/cons to see if it'd be worth even trying.

    Slow your role darling . One date at a time . No need to be thinking about relationships if ye did not meet in person yet.
  • Kvm11628
    Kvm11628 Posts: 7,386 Member
    finny11122 wrote: »
    faithan84 wrote: »
    Thanks for the responses! I think it will be a "wait and see" situation. We haven't even met in person yet. I was weighing the pros/cons to see if it'd be worth even trying.

    Slow your role darling . One date at a time . No need to be thinking about relationships if ye did not meet in person yet.

    Yep. Putting the cart WAY in front of the horse, so to speak. Start projecting too far ahead and there will be no opportunity for a LDR.
  • faithan84
    faithan84 Posts: 717 Member
    I know, I'm well aware that I think too far in advance. I overanalyze as a protective measure. I tend to get emotionally involved before I consider it logically... so this is me trying to avoid that.
  • Sinistrous
    Sinistrous Posts: 5,589 Member
    Met my guy at the one place I was definitely not looking.. tinychat. I'd only go in there to draw pictures of people as they sat in their cameras and moved onto the next room upon surprising them with a self portrait they loved.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    The airport giveth; the airport taketh away.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    michellemybelll wrote: »
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    It won't work. Someone else will come along. He'll betray you or you will betray him.

    False.

    Often true...I'd say more often than not.
  • ssslasher23
    ssslasher23 Posts: 112 Member
    My situation was not exactly like yours, but my boyfriend (now fiancée) of 2 years was moving overseas for work. It really depends on the people involved. They should be both trusting and trustworthy, committed and good communicators. During our LDR time, we had countless fights about really stupid things which were just miscommunications. It's also harder to make up when you can't even see the other person - facetime, calls and texts just aren't the same as physically being there. Despite the hurdles, we successfully made it through 1 year long distance and now are engaged planning to get married soon :) We did, however, have a 2 year relationship to build on. I knew I could trust him and he knew he could trust me, we were committed to each other already. Meeting someone online, I'm not sure how all of that would work, but if you feel it's important to you, go for it!
  • Just_J_Now
    Just_J_Now Posts: 9,551 Member
    I'm pretty sure the OP has figured it all out since this thread is a year old. At least I hope she did.
  • EdinBeau
    EdinBeau Posts: 29 Member
    edited April 2017
    My husband is military. When we first met, he was on a boat that went out for a few months at a time. Then he went to a school for 6 months. After we got married he got land units for a few years. Now he's back on a boat. He's gone for months at a time. Communication is minimal at best. It's more than doable as long as you're willing TO do it. We've been together for over 10yrs.
  • ShrinkingViolet1982
    ShrinkingViolet1982 Posts: 919 Member
    It can be done, but not forever. I am married to my long-distance relationship, but it didn't stay long distance for more than a year.
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