Long distance relationships?

hdatres · April 2016

Nope

dendysill · April 2016

I tried long distance relationship twice, the first one was a flop, hindsight, Thank God. The second ...we have been married for 6 years now. He is my best friend.

Shy_1114 · April 2016

Markdjones83 wrote: »

Shy_1114 wrote: »

They suck.

And not literally right

Exactly!! That's the hardest part, the lack of getting busy on a regular basis. It's nice that the relationship is built on deeper things, but sex is just as important for building and maintaining the bonds in a romantic relationship.

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NadiaMayl · April 2016

LDRs are hard! My husband and I did it -Texas to The Netherlands. It took a lot of communication to agree what we found acceptable (you know, going out with friends, clubbing, who calls when, how often you call, what's the agreement if you don't hear from each other in 'x' hours, etc. etc. etc. ), who would travel when, who would eventually move, etc. plus if you are in the early stages, this is how you'll get to know each other and then expect the shock of seeing the real each other when you move in together.
Hard stuff but we made it!!! Been together for 16 years now and have two kiddos!!

perkymommy · April 2016

I'm happily married now (we met online but lived 10 minutes apart) but no I would not have done long distance back then.

Most situations I've heard of there is one person that isn't willing to travel and will make promises and end up not following through. Beware of some people who just like the idea of getting attention online but have no plans of ever uprooting to move or even just to visit out of state and when you try to make plans to go see them they always have something else to do. Not catfishing but just real people who will skype, talk on the phone but not take it any farther. They are content with single life and just want to maintain a distant relationship. Just be careful and try to see the signs very early on when you do meet someone.

michellemybelll · April 2016

TheRoadDog wrote: »

It won't work. Someone else will come along. He'll betray you or you will betray him.

False.

finny11122 · April 2016

faithan84 wrote: »

Thanks for the responses! I think it will be a "wait and see" situation. We haven't even met in person yet. I was weighing the pros/cons to see if it'd be worth even trying.

Slow your role darling . One date at a time . No need to be thinking about relationships if ye did not meet in person yet.

Kvm11628 · April 2016

finny11122 wrote: »

faithan84 wrote: »

Thanks for the responses! I think it will be a "wait and see" situation. We haven't even met in person yet. I was weighing the pros/cons to see if it'd be worth even trying.

Slow your role darling . One date at a time . No need to be thinking about relationships if ye did not meet in person yet.

Yep. Putting the cart WAY in front of the horse, so to speak. Start projecting too far ahead and there will be no opportunity for a LDR.

faithan84 · April 2016

I know, I'm well aware that I think too far in advance. I overanalyze as a protective measure. I tend to get emotionally involved before I consider it logically... so this is me trying to avoid that.

Sinistrous · April 2016

Met my guy at the one place I was definitely not looking.. tinychat. I'd only go in there to draw pictures of people as they sat in their cameras and moved onto the next room upon surprising them with a self portrait they loved.

TheRoadDog · April 2017

The airport giveth; the airport taketh away.

cwolfman13 · April 2017

michellemybelll wrote: »

TheRoadDog wrote: »

It won't work. Someone else will come along. He'll betray you or you will betray him.

False.

Often true...I'd say more often than not.

ssslasher23 · April 2017

My situation was not exactly like yours, but my boyfriend (now fiancée) of 2 years was moving overseas for work. It really depends on the people involved. They should be both trusting and trustworthy, committed and good communicators. During our LDR time, we had countless fights about really stupid things which were just miscommunications. It's also harder to make up when you can't even see the other person - facetime, calls and texts just aren't the same as physically being there. Despite the hurdles, we successfully made it through 1 year long distance and now are engaged planning to get married soon

We did, however, have a 2 year relationship to build on. I knew I could trust him and he knew he could trust me, we were committed to each other already. Meeting someone online, I'm not sure how all of that would work, but if you feel it's important to you, go for it!

Just_J_Now · April 2017

I'm pretty sure the OP has figured it all out since this thread is a year old. At least I hope she did.

EdinBeau · April 2017

My husband is military. When we first met, he was on a boat that went out for a few months at a time. Then he went to a school for 6 months. After we got married he got land units for a few years. Now he's back on a boat. He's gone for months at a time. Communication is minimal at best. It's more than doable as long as you're willing TO do it. We've been together for over 10yrs.