Anxiety after wrong dye in box is really effecting me, all fitness motivation lost

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  • 737jac737
    737jac737 Posts: 54 Member
    edited May 2016
    #1 The only way to recover faster from the electric shock is to give your body healthy food and rest. #2 Ponytails and hats till you have the $$ to fix your hair.
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    You are alive. You have hair. Your condition will improve over time.
    Maybe start focusing on all the positives and things you can do instead of focusing on the negatives right now. This is advice from books I have read about dealing with anxiety. They say to practice this because it is hard to feel better when you focus your attention on the negatives.
  • zoeysasha37
    zoeysasha37 Posts: 7,088 Member
    In the grand scheme of life - its really not that big of a deal. There's war all over the middle east and people losing their lives. There's starving children and disease . so try to put things into perspective here yes a bad dye stinks and getting zapped by a freezer stinks but its certainly not a disaster. Last week a friend lost her home, it was foreclosed on. The same week she lost her husband in Afghanistan. That's a disaster , a bad hair dye not so much.
  • smittybuilt19
    smittybuilt19 Posts: 955 Member
    Electrocuted? This is some next level forum activity...gahhlee!!!
  • auddii
    auddii Posts: 15,357 Member
    luckynky wrote: »
    If you have BPD, you need additional management tools than the average person without BPD or other emotional disorders would use. So, asking the average person how to handle something that you're upset about isn't going to get you the advice and tools you need to deal with it. Actually, it isn't the events themselves that you need to deal with, it's your emotional reaction to those events. The events are more or less in the past, it seems. Yet, you seem to be stuck on them, still, which prevents you from moving forward, emotionally and practically. How do YOU get unstuck from unfortunate events so that you can begin to move on? That is the real question. Telling you how I get unstuck isn't what you want to hear.

    Agreed. And if you are in school and money is an issue, perhaps look into mental health and other resources available to students. They will have something available. And if you're already receiving treatment, you should speaking about how to cope with issues like these with them.

    It's life. Things are going to go wrong, so learning common coping mechanisms are going to be needed throughout your life.
  • singingflutelady
    singingflutelady Posts: 8,736 Member
    I have mental health issues but you have to put things in perspective. I lost a lot (very noticeable) of my hair recently from chemo(not for cancer) and severe anaemia. Yes I try to hid it but I soon got over it and continued on with my life. It's not the worse thing that could happen.
  • canadianvampyregurl
    canadianvampyregurl Posts: 231 Member
    None of us are in any position to judge this young lady. She feels justified in saying how she feels here, that's here right.

    All I am going to say is that I hope you start feeling better about things.
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    I had to look up BPD. Is evaluating the relative risk of events part of the disorder?

    Tomorrow you will have to get up, decide what to eat and go on from there. It may seem like bad events are piling up but it just seems like that....for the rest of your life.

    Regardless of the events in the past week you still have to get up tomorrow, decide what to eat and what to do from there.

    I am glad you survived the electrocution.
  • CreateTheNewYou
    CreateTheNewYou Posts: 6 Member
    WinoGelato wrote: »
    I did give my advice.

    Have perspective.
    Have empathy for others.
    Focus on what you can do.
    Get back into a routine.


    That wasn't your message though. Just reading it, your post was very "get perspective because your problems aren't important." Other peoples' struggles do not change her struggles. Motivation can be lost for whatever reason, I know I've lost my motivation on less. Ultimately, what we should do it help each other, and obviously your brant of tough love isn't working.

    OP, I know it sucks, trust me, I do. What you may need is to take some time, focus on one thing you can do and feel successful at, and then add back in your old routine. Self-care is important. If you need support, message me or just reply. I got you. <3
  • Meow112
    Meow112 Posts: 20 Member
    rebekahstrachan3 wrote: »
    Sorry I know this isn't fitness related but after an electric shock and a box dye gone wrong it's really effecting my confidence. I have lost all motivation to go to the gym or eat healthy, even eat at all for that matter. I'm really stuck in a rutt.

    How do you guys get going again after being hit by numerous disasters weeks apart?

    Thanks in advance.


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    What's wrong with your hair? What color did it turn out? Did you put a toner on it?

    Maybe I can help, I speak hair :)
  • moobaloo13
    moobaloo13 Posts: 11 Member
    Gosh, there are some REALLY judgemental and insensitive replies to the OP on here! Without her even mentioning her mental health issues in the OP, it was clear (to me at least) that there was something else going on for this young lady.

    To the OP: I think you've had some quite helpful & sympathetic replies later in the thread. You need to give your body time to recover and heal from the electrocution, which is probably best achieved with a combination of eating well, rest and some gentle exercise, such as walking - which you may find helpful for your mental health too, I know going for a walk somewhere pleasant usually helps me (I suffer with anxiety & depression & have several chronic health conditions too).

    With regards to your hair, is it a really terrible colour or just different to what you were expecting? Don't listen to those berating you for feeling crappy about your hair, they're lying if they say they'd be totally OK with a bad haircut or colour! And yes, there's always someone in a worse position/state than ourselves, but that doesn't necessarily diminish our own problems. 1 in 4 people suffer some kind of mental health issue at some point in their life, that's a LOT of people and by the 'suck it up' or 'babies are starving & people are dying' logic, NOBODY in the developed Western world should ever feel depressed or anxious because we've got nothing to complain about in comparison to these atrocities. Have some empathy people.

    Ignore the idiots and be kind to yourself!
  • Owlie45
    Owlie45 Posts: 806 Member
    Guys its been edited. There's more that was removed. She is more upset by her hair then the fact she could have died.
    There was also a video so you could see how "bad" her hair is now. I'd kill for hair like that. She got it away from the navy and now it is blonde with lavender. Freaking beautiful!
    When you're more upset about your hair than the fact that you could have died then yes its time for some perspective.
  • zoeysasha37
    zoeysasha37 Posts: 7,088 Member
    I disagree. I think sometimes its very helpful to put things in perspective! Sometimes we feel like we have it soooo bad but when we realize that others have it much worse ( wars, disease, famine) then its easier to shrug our problems off and move on. The op had a bad dye job.in reality , that's not that big of a deal. It happens and it sucks but at least she has hair ! Some people wish their hair looked like the ops hair ! The op got zapped by a freezer, yes that sucks but she's alive ! She was able to make the video about her hair and type this thread so obviously she is on the mend and recovering. She's lucky she is alive and wasn't hurt worse. Not everyone is that lucky. So honestly , in the grand scheme of things - its not that bad ! Sometimes its extremely helpful to see that our problems are small in comparison to others. If a bad dye job And a zap from a freezer is the worst that ever happens to this girl, then she is lucky. These are everyday problems that we as humans have to learn to deal with. Coddling doesn't help in the long run but a big dose of reality does.
  • WinoGelato
    WinoGelato Posts: 13,454 Member
    Rottified wrote: »
    Guys its been edited. There's more that was removed. She is more upset by her hair then the fact she could have died.
    There was also a video so you could see how "bad" her hair is now. I'd kill for hair like that. She got it away from the navy and now it is blonde with lavender. Freaking beautiful!
    When you're more upset about your hair than the fact that you could have died then yes its time for some perspective.

    Thank you. Yes the original post and tone of early responses was far more fixated on the hair "disaster" and in fact didn't mention struggling with BPD or other anxiety related issues until much later in the thread.

    OP if you are still reading along I hope you get the help you need dealing with all of your issues and find the motivation you've lost but I stand behind my original comments that labeling your hair situation and even your situation with the freezer as "disasters" really needs some perspective.
  • ObsidianMist
    ObsidianMist Posts: 519 Member
    just wanna pop in and say that as someone with mental health issues, including BPD, one of the most effective coping methods for me personally is gratitude. I've been shocked before, not as badly as you, but it certainly doesn't feel good! you were in the hospital, clearly you were pretty seriously hurt. you were injured. so no you are not expected to just "get over" that. but perhaps take a moment to let yourself feel some gratitude that it wasn't worse than it was. you are still alive. it could have been a lot worse.

    we've all had hair dyes and/or cuts go horribly wrong. the great thing about hair, though? it ALWAYS grows back. and a bad dye job is a lot easier to fix than a bad cut! so, again, gratitude would be a helpful skill to use here. be grateful that your hair is not stuck the way it is forever.

    on a different note, are you in any sort of treatment for your disorders? there's a lot of help out there, I hope you're getting some or choose to get some. if you have access to any sort of dialectical behaviour therapy, even just a skills class, that is often immensely helpful for people with BPD. teaches you lots of excellent coping skills among other things. you can even just google it, or buy a book and try to teach yourself. :) best of luck!
  • MelodyandBarbells
    MelodyandBarbells Posts: 7,724 Member
    Rottified wrote: »
    Guys its been edited. There's more that was removed. She is more upset by her hair then the fact she could have died.
    There was also a video so you could see how "bad" her hair is now. I'd kill for hair like that. She got it away from the navy and now it is blonde with lavender. Freaking beautiful!
    When you're more upset about your hair than the fact that you could have died then yes its time for some perspective.

    Whew! Thank you. I thought I was going crazy for a minute, there :laugh:

    But to be honest, I've been discouraged by the smallest of things that really should have just rolled off my back. Recognizing the possible impact, OP, is a huge chunk of the challenge. Just hang in there!
  • LKArgh
    LKArgh Posts: 5,178 Member
    rebekahstrachan3 wrote: »
    wow!! I bet your magical suck it up wand can wipe away my social anxiety and BPD. Seriously, when people come online looking for support it is rather self riotous of you to think I only suffer from "first world" problems as you put it. I'm looking for advice on how others cope with these things not a slating.

    I was about to ask if you have bipolar after the first posts in this thread. Please talk to your therapist. You sound extremely stressed, and need professional help, not opinions from strangers. Good luck.
  • ldowdesw
    ldowdesw Posts: 222 Member
    Oh how I can sympathise with the dye thing!! Thought I'd dye my roots and left it on whilst I got jiggy with cleaning the shower cubicle, yey smart me, two jobs at once.. Got a bit carried away with the limescale remover, 20 minutes later and my roots are almost black.. Whoopsie. But no grey roots! My attitude has always been regarding my weight, my hair, my style ( or lack of it) if you don't like it, DONT LOOK!!!!!
  • MissusMoon
    MissusMoon Posts: 1,900 Member
    My bad experiences have left me diagnosed with PTSD. Even with that, I do what has been suggested here. PIck up and move forward. Fake it until I make it.

    I don't understand why BPD would be relevant, except it does explain your original post and your response to things. Are you seeing a therapist who uses CBT? If not, finding one might change your life.
  • dmmfox
    dmmfox Posts: 45 Member
    Girl, I've been there with the hair! Throw on a hat and know that no one at the gym thinks anything different about you based on your hair. Actually just cuz you don't like doesn't mean other people won't. You might be emotionally drained/apathetic for a few weeks after your accident. Brains can get a little funky after electrocution. If you don't start to feel better follow up with your Drs.

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