People who don't get it but think they do.
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TavistockToad wrote: »SomeShenanigans wrote: »Literally everyone here is getting super hung up on whether I off-handedly mention that I'm paying attention to my food in-take and exercise regimen to the people around me like it's some kind of crime because you all got on a high horse in the beginning and you're too proud of yourselves to get down. Chill.
You made a thread because you don't like people commenting on you 'paying attention to your food in take' and yet you're bashing everyonr for suggesting you DON'T give people something to comment on....
:huh: :noway:
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TavistockToad wrote: »SomeShenanigans wrote: »Literally everyone here is getting super hung up on whether I off-handedly mention that I'm paying attention to my food in-take and exercise regimen to the people around me like it's some kind of crime because you all got on a high horse in the beginning and you're too proud of yourselves to get down. Chill.
You made a thread because you don't like people commenting on you 'paying attention to your food in take' and yet you're bashing everyonr for suggesting you DON'T give people something to comment on....
:huh: :noway:
Never change MFP
This thread needs a good kitteh gif to really finish it off1 -
TavistockToad wrote: »SomeShenanigans wrote: »Literally everyone here is getting super hung up on whether I off-handedly mention that I'm paying attention to my food in-take and exercise regimen to the people around me like it's some kind of crime because you all got on a high horse in the beginning and you're too proud of yourselves to get down. Chill.
You made a thread because you don't like people commenting on you 'paying attention to your food in take' and yet you're bashing everyonr for suggesting you DON'T give people something to comment on....
:huh: :noway:
No it's fine if everyone continues to comment these things. I do wish they would let me ignore them instead of continuously quoting my replies to decent people who actually comprehended the original post.
I don't think this particular forum got the memo that trolling stopped being cool in 2012.0 -
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I got this a lot when I was losing weight. I didn't talk about my goals, weight loss, etc. But I lost close to 80 pounds, so people noticed. And I often got lots of comments on what I ate, didn't eat, my weight (what they thought my goal should be! ) Most people really have no clue what a healthy diet is, how many calories are in the foods they eat, nor what a healthy body weight looks like. More often any comments others make, is really just about themselves, and what they need to tell themselves to feel better. Very little actually has to do with you.
I agree with that-- that's entirely what it is. It would definitely be nice if they would step back and realize that, but self-awareness is probably too much to ask of the general population.1 -
TavistockToad wrote: »SomeShenanigans wrote: »Literally everyone here is getting super hung up on whether I off-handedly mention that I'm paying attention to my food in-take and exercise regimen to the people around me like it's some kind of crime because you all got on a high horse in the beginning and you're too proud of yourselves to get down. Chill.
You made a thread because you don't like people commenting on you 'paying attention to your food in take' and yet you're bashing everyonr for suggesting you DON'T give people something to comment on....
:huh: :noway:
Exactly.
Either keep your mouth shut about your diet or expect people to comment on it when you discuss it with them. You seem to think that discussions only go one way--you telling your friends/family about your diet or you posting something on a message board. When somebody replies to a comment you make, either in real life or here in this thread, you object to it. That's not how communication works. It's a two-way street. If you can't handle that, don't engage. Maybe start a blog. And then don't tell anybody about it or turn on commenting.10 -
Haha, I love it when a thread doesn't go as planned then butthurt happens.
Either lose weight in a healthy way, or whine and talk less to people about it, or stop giving an F about reactions when you don't. Problem solved.4 -
Again, reiterating that you all didn't get the memo that trolling stopped being cool in 2012.0
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SomeShenanigans wrote: »I got this a lot when I was losing weight. I didn't talk about my goals, weight loss, etc. But I lost close to 80 pounds, so people noticed. And I often got lots of comments on what I ate, didn't eat, my weight (what they thought my goal should be! ) Most people really have no clue what a healthy diet is, how many calories are in the foods they eat, nor what a healthy body weight looks like. More often any comments others make, is really just about themselves, and what they need to tell themselves to feel better. Very little actually has to do with you.
I agree with that-- that's entirely what it is. It would definitely be nice if they would step back and realize that, but self-awareness is probably too much to ask of the general population.
Pot and kettle.3 -
It's not trolling.
You need to just be more open minded and accept that your thought isn't the only thought.
I've never had any of my friends ask me anything about what I ate, how much I ate, etc.
Because I don't bring it up to them. I don't bring it up to anyone.
In return, no one brings it up to me.
If you would stop bringing it up, then people would stop making comments you don't want to hear.
Welcome to life, where there are other opinions.1 -
SomeShenanigans wrote: »Again, reiterating that you all didn't get the memo that trolling stopped being cool in 2012.
What's a troll?2 -
queenliz99 wrote: »SomeShenanigans wrote: »Again, reiterating that you all didn't get the memo that trolling stopped being cool in 2012.
What's a troll?Something that lives under a bridge and collects a hefty toll if you have goats.0 -
Someone that eats more than 700-1200 calories.4
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SomeShenanigans wrote: »Again, reiterating that you all didn't get the memo that trolling stopped being cool in 2012.
I know I know, everyone that doesn't tell you what you wanted or expected to hear is a troll. We're used to it here on MFP.3 -
Thank you for all the recycled garbage comments about proper communication etiquette, everyone. Remember to talk to someone using your actual face instead of just harassing strangers on an internet forum today!0
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SomeShenanigans wrote: »Thank you for all the recycled garbage comments about proper communication etiquette, everyone. Remember to talk to someone using your actual face instead of just harassing strangers on an internet forum today!
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SomeShenanigans wrote: »Thank you for all the recycled garbage comments about proper communication etiquette, everyone. Remember to talk to someone using your actual face instead of just harassing strangers on an internet forum today!
Aww, was someone harassing you? How rude! Lemme at 'em!0 -
Oh my gosh, I totally hear you. I'm dreading being around my family in a couple of weeks because they know I'm watching my intake and are bound to scrutinize and verbalize. Because I'm a well socialized human person I do actually care about what other people think, and am disproportionately affected by my family's opinions. I'm trying to think of a game plan for the event, in case it comes up.
I might go with the cutsie, "you plant your peas over there, I'll plant my corn over here," or the straightforward, "look, I've got this. My weight loss journey is personal and private and I don't really want to talk about it," or maybe just go all zen and take the emotion out of any reaction I might have and answer literally, honestly, and briefly. Are you eating enough? Yes, trust me. Is that on your diet? Yes, trust me. Should you be eating that? Yes, trust me. Do you want any pizza? No, trust me.
Let me know what works for you. Handling butt-in-skies is a challenge I'm still working on. And I'm, like, old.1 -
SomeShenanigans wrote: »Thank you for all the recycled garbage comments about proper communication etiquette, everyone. Remember to talk to someone using your actual face instead of just harassing strangers on an internet forum today!
And I love the fact you wont tell the actual people in your life to get bent when they speak up, but you put on your big girls pants for the internet ones. Nicely done.4 -
Whenever I've lost weight I've been asked how I did it, and their eyes glazed over when I said that I just ate less and moved more. CICO just isn't exciting enough, people expect it to be jazzed up with food group restrictions etc, because then it might be easier to do.
One of my friends lost a lot of weight recently and I didn't say anything because I know we have totally different attitudes to weight loss. Now she's maintaining on mfp though, so I'm happy to ask how that's going and happy to see she's chosen a logical form of maintenance that shouldn't threaten her health. I was worried when she lost weight before, but hopefully this is a long term maintenance phase, and this time I chose to shut my mouth and respect her choices.
You can't control other people but you can control your reactions and how seriously you take them. Do listen, because they may have a point sometimes, but don't let it get to you when your opinions differ.1 -
Acacia_Evers wrote: »It's not trolling.
You need to just be more open minded and accept that your thought isn't the only thought.
I've never had any of my friends ask me anything about what I ate, how much I ate, etc.
Because I don't bring it up to them. I don't bring it up to anyone.
In return, no one brings it up to me.
If you would stop bringing it up, then people would stop making comments you don't want to hear.
Welcome to life, where there are other opinions.
Some people require human contact. How very nice for you that you don't.1 -
eveandqsmom wrote: »Acacia_Evers wrote: »It's not trolling.
You need to just be more open minded and accept that your thought isn't the only thought.
I've never had any of my friends ask me anything about what I ate, how much I ate, etc.
Because I don't bring it up to them. I don't bring it up to anyone.
In return, no one brings it up to me.
If you would stop bringing it up, then people would stop making comments you don't want to hear.
Welcome to life, where there are other opinions.
Some people require human contact. How very nice for you that you don't.Then those people shouldn't complain when they get contact.
I don't have to shove my weight loss in their face to talk to them.
That comment was beyond dumb.1 -
Wow, this thread is almost as *kitten* as mine, pizza anyone?0
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You know, I find this to be the hardest part of this journey. I always want to talk to people about it and nobody really gets it. Either that or they get bored of the topic super quick while it continues to consume my whole day every day.
I think that's what this community is supposed to be for...to talk to people who get it but I suppose empathy is a skill set that isn't learned by everyone.
You can message me any time...I get it, I'll read about how horrible it was when you forgot to plan on advance and had no calories left at dinner time, or how sick of spinach you are...I can empathize. I'll tell you about having to eat some altered version of what I make for the family or how the number on the scale hasn't moved in 2 weeks even though I keep plugging away at it0 -
I think family, friends, coworkers, etc that don't have fitness goals can sometimes be toxic. I try not to explain my goals or what I am eating to people anymore because thinner people gave me awful advice of "what works for them" just because they weren't fat (yet). I was a chubby girl and teen and ended up very heavy at the end of college. I now weigh less than I did in jr. high. I had to stop listening to people and just let my actions show my effort. People suck. I was dissuaded from lifting by people, told I should do more cardio, put on slimfast by my mother (at 12 years old), given diet pills by another family member, given money to lose weight by my grandfather, etc. When I focused on me and actual science and cut out that external noise, I lost over 60 lbs. I understand your frustration. People aren't always encouraging or when they are it can be for doing unhealthy things. Do your best to block them out. If you can, find people with similar goals and methods. Best of luck!3
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