help please

SANDRA_F26

I am hoping someone whos gone thru the same thing I am now might have some adivse. I need a lawyer so bad. ITs over my son his dad took him for a "visit" a year ago and he wont let me have my son back. Ive tried applying for legal serivces Ive tried appealing to the courts I feel like im just getting pushed to the side. .does anyone know of any different ways I can get some help fundsing a lawyer or for applying for probonalship. Any idea what I should do at all Please.

Greenrun99

Who has full custody? If you were never married and had a kid, you do.. call the police.

(I just read you went to the courts, so I am guessing you probably don't... I know in most states unmarried couples that have kids full custody goes to the mother)

delaniecastillo

State Attorney general? Maybe if you get child support going then maybe custodial rights would also play a part as well. Other than that, not too many lawyers want to work for free nowadays. Maybe you can try and work out with a payment plan with one in your area.

delaniecastillo

Who has full custody? If you were never married and had a kid, you do.. call the police.

That too.

onetwopotato

You've waited a year to finally try and get some help.....???

delaniecastillo

You've waited a year to finally try and get some help.....???

Methinks there is more to this and not an easy case which is why a lawyer would not want to get involved.

TyTy76

So did he kidnap your son, or did he have custody??

skullshank

im sorry.....did you say a YEAR ago?

something aint right here...

Tony_Brewski

im sorry.....did you say a YEAR ago?

something aint right here...

This.^

m76b

I am sorry girl but a YEAR??? :grumble: I couldn't wait three days! call the police!

PepperWorm

im sorry.....did you say a YEAR ago?

something aint right here...

This.^

+1

SANDRA_F26

Ive been trying to do this all on my own for the last year trying to work with the courts there is a self help law library ive been working with but every time I call the courts to fund out what the status is my case is being processed no court date set nothing just its being processed.. We never were married and yes child support is established he owes 5 years of child support. and its a really long story but there is no parenting plan established which has been one of the biggest mistakes of my life becuase I just assumed I had the Custody becuase I alone raised and took care of him and he was out making babies with another women. Infact he went around telling everyone my son wasnt his I cheated on him.

skullshank

assuming the OP will come back to engage us after the cryptic statements in her post...

has he crossed international borders?
if so, from what country to what country?
who has custody?
what are the visitation rights?
what efforts have you made to get your child back?

no one but legal counsel specializing in these matters can really give you solid advice.

Contrarian

Interesting story. A legal forum would be a better place to get advice.

delaniecastillo

Ive been trying to do this all on my own for the last year trying to work with the courts there is a self help law library ive been working with but every time I call the courts to fund out what the status is my case is being processed no court date set nothing just its being processed.. We never were married and yes child support is established he owes 5 years of child support. and its a really long story but there is no parenting plan established which has been one of the biggest mistakes of my life becuase I just assumed I had the Custody becuase I alone raised and took care of him and he was out making babies with another women. Infact he went around telling everyone my son wasnt his I cheated on him.

Obviously, take him back to court for back child support. Don't stop. Is there no family or relatives that can help with a retainer for a lawyer?

Corked_Up_Cheese

WHY would you... Why... wha... yeah, I got nothin. What you are describing is kidnapping. I don't think I'd be going to a law library over that, I'd be calling the police.

thisismeraw

Ive been trying to do this all on my own for the last year trying to work with the courts there is a self help law library ive been working with but every time I call the courts to fund out what the status is my case is being processed no court date set nothing just its being processed.. We never were married and yes child support is established he owes 5 years of child support. and its a really long story but there is no parenting plan established which has been one of the biggest mistakes of my life becuase I just assumed I had the Custody becuase I alone raised and took care of him and he was out making babies with another women. Infact he went around telling everyone my son wasnt his I cheated on him.

Depending on your area, if the parents are not married full custody goes to the mother. Check into that. Some lawyers will give free advice. Also, check your laws in your area. Some areas couples become common law when they have been living together for 12 months.. common law is basically married.

Call the Police after a lawyer and see what they say. Better yet, go into a Police station and speak with someone there.

Try to find any legal aid services. Where I am, if you are lower income the municipality will provide a lawyer to you. If you can't, find a way to get a lawyer.

twinketta

I would imagine it depends on lots of factors. the age of the child, the country you and you ex live in, the situation surrounding the police not being involved.

I feel so sorry for you as I could not cope with my ex hubby taking my kids, when they were younger, and not returning them.

But I really do not think MFP members are going to be able to help i a `legal` sense.

All you can do is go through the proper channels according to where you live and your ex lives.

CapnGordo

Check with the local university's law school. They typically offer free help to the locals. Yeah, they're students, but they may be able to point you in the right direction.

Also, check into local community literacy programs. Improving your communication skills may help this process, and even improve your vocational possibilities.

:flowerforyou:

SANDRA_F26

Ive called the police multiple times. Look im already beating myself to death over this . No I didnt just let this go for a year. Things are just escalating out of control and I need help.

Contrarian

Sorry, but how has he been able to essentially kidnap your child and keep him for an entire year? There must be many parts of this story that you aren't telling us. Have you been to court about this at all during the past year?

TyTy76

Ive called the police multiple times. Look im already beating myself to death over this . No I didnt just let this go for a year. Things are just escalating out of control and I need help.

Did he take your child without his permission?
Who has custody?

PikaKnight

Ive called the police multiple times. Look im already beating myself to death over this . No I didnt just let this go for a year. Things are just escalating out of control and I need help.

Well, everyone above has given the best advice anyone can give. Not sure what else you were looking for.

SANDRA_F26

Thank you some of you have been helpful. Just looking for advise on different channels to try. Im tryping in a hurry I know my spelling hasnt been very great. Im also going to seek out cancelling for this. Im 7 months pregnant and This really has me questioning everything about myself Mentally physically spiritually. Was I a horrible mother but didnt realize it? I fed bathed loved my child with all my heart. I worked hard to support him I sacrificed everything with no regret becuase he deserved it and I love him. I loved his father to he was my first love. Mayb I deserve this. May I dont know what to think

SANDRA_F26

THe advise about trying a law school is money thank you !

SANDRA_F26

custody with no parenting plan is 50/50. another thing I worried about is getting my boy back with out messing his head up. He is Slightly Autistic. I worry about his mental health in all this.

skullshank

can you please answer all my questions?

Cp731

Thank you some of you have been helpful. Just looking for advise on different channels to try. Im tryping in a hurry I know my spelling hasnt been very great. Im also going to seek out cancelling for this. Im 7 months pregnant and This really has me questioning everything about myself Mentally physically spiritually. Was I a horrible mother but didnt realize it? I fed bathed loved my child with all my heart. I worked hard to support him I sacrificed everything with no regret becuase he deserved it and I love him. I loved his father to he was my first love. Mayb I deserve this. May I dont know what to think

so you were involved with another man and didn't want your son to come between your relationship? so it was ok that the father took the child. this is what it sounds like to me
is this pregnancy from a different man?
why are you speaking of your son in past tense? your saying you loved him?

skullshank

theres DEF something more to this story.

Kamikazeflutterby

I'm scared to ask (because you sound like you're lying, leaving out a lot of legal detail, or severely mentally challenged yourself), but if it was that easy for your ex to take legal custody why didn't you do the exact same thing and just pick the kid up at school one day?

SANDRA_F26

There is more to it but it take 20 mins to put it all down. I allowed my son to go with his dad for a summer visit with the understanding he was to bring him back in auguest 2012. next thing I know im getting calls demanding me to drop child support and when they started getting nasty about it I called the police the police call him they say he told them he was bringing him back. next thing I know Im getting served papers by a sherrif that he is going for fuill custody I filed a dispute filed my own parenting plan and im getting nowhere. now my child is telling me he doesnt want me and does not want to go home to me and im flippen devestated. Ive applied thru legal serivces and got turned down. I keep trying to get help from the law library theyve been the only who have helped me. I try going over there and I cant get near him.