Is 5 years a big difference?

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  • MzManiak
    MzManiak Posts: 1,361 Member
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    If you have to ask, then the answer for you is probably 'yes'.

    It depends on the people, maturity levels, goals, common interests, where you are in life ...

    QFT
  • ClareWantsProgress
    ClareWantsProgress Posts: 173 Member
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    I agree with those who say that once you are an adult it really doesn't matter. (My definition for that means financially independent and living on your own for a year, minimum, to have a chance to grow up and stand on your own without relying on anyone else). My wonderful husband is 6 years older than I, and we married at 28 and 34. It is "helpful" to me that because of circumstances we were in college at roughly the same time (he took a longer route via going part-time, etc.) so our life experiences/memories are very similar. I think it's only an issue if you are SO far apart in age that you have no common ground.
  • FretheMJsmokingcannibal
    FretheMJsmokingcannibal Posts: 314
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    How do you recognize between a girlish crush and attraction?
  • FretheMJsmokingcannibal
    FretheMJsmokingcannibal Posts: 314
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    No answers?
  • faceoff4
    faceoff4 Posts: 1,599 Member
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    Not at all. Age is just a number and its all about how the person acts in their mind and their heart. But then again I have eyes for someone who is 10+ years younger than me so my opinion might be skewed a bit!
  • megabyt23
    megabyt23 Posts: 580 Member
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    Definitely not. I prefer somewhat older guys. Depends on the maturity levels and goals of the two people involved I think.
  • faceoff4
    faceoff4 Posts: 1,599 Member
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    Definitely not. I prefer somewhat older guys. Depends on the maturity levels and goals of the two people involved I think.

    Does 45 fit into that "somewhat older guys" category??? :);)
  • CheekyBrahette
    CheekyBrahette Posts: 441 Member
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    Not at all. Age is just a number and its all about how the person acts in their mind and their heart. But then again I have eyes for someone who is 10+ years younger than me so my opinion might be skewed a bit!

    Aw, that's super sweet! :smile:
  • megabyt23
    megabyt23 Posts: 580 Member
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    Definitely not. I prefer somewhat older guys. Depends on the maturity levels and goals of the two people involved I think.

    Does 45 fit into that "somewhat older guys" category??? :);)

    Haha of course! only for you! :wink:
  • CheekyBrahette
    CheekyBrahette Posts: 441 Member
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    Definitely not. I prefer somewhat older guys. Depends on the maturity levels and goals of the two people involved I think.

    Mega, you said it! :drinker:
  • faceoff4
    faceoff4 Posts: 1,599 Member
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    Definitely not. I prefer somewhat older guys. Depends on the maturity levels and goals of the two people involved I think.

    Mega, you said it! :drinker:

    So you are saying there's a chance? :)
  • Cutting4life
    Cutting4life Posts: 505 Member
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    Definitely not. I prefer somewhat older guys. Depends on the maturity levels and goals of the two people involved I think.

    Does 45 fit into that "somewhat older guys" category??? :);)

    Haha of course! only for you! :wink:

    :( 24 more years to go
  • CheekyBrahette
    CheekyBrahette Posts: 441 Member
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    Definitely not. I prefer somewhat older guys. Depends on the maturity levels and goals of the two people involved I think.

    Mega, you said it! :drinker:

    So you are saying there's a chance? :)

    Absolutely! Like you need to ask. :flowerforyou:
  • megabyt23
    megabyt23 Posts: 580 Member
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    Definitely not. I prefer somewhat older guys. Depends on the maturity levels and goals of the two people involved I think.

    Mega, you said it! :drinker:

    So you are saying there's a chance? :)

    Absolutely! Like you need to ask. :flowerforyou:

    You guys are too cute! haha :bigsmile:
  • CheekyBrahette
    CheekyBrahette Posts: 441 Member
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    Definitely not. I prefer somewhat older guys. Depends on the maturity levels and goals of the two people involved I think.

    Mega, you said it! :drinker:

    So you are saying there's a chance? :)

    Absolutely! Like you need to ask. :flowerforyou:

    You guys are too cute! haha :bigsmile:

    Jump in girl, group hug!
  • megabyt23
    megabyt23 Posts: 580 Member
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    :( 24 more years to go
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    lol I didn't say always!!! :tongue:
  • StarChanger
    StarChanger Posts: 605 Member
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    Good Lord, am I the only woman who married a guy 5 years YOUNGER than her? We've been married 16+ years, so I must be doing something right, lol...then again, he might be getting ready to trade me in on 2 twenties.

    Whatever. I'll just marry for money next time.... :wink:
  • Rosalindgr
    Rosalindgr Posts: 148 Member
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    LOl! when I was younger I always dated at men at least 5yrs older; my hubster of 24yrs is 9yrs older than me. However if I was to enter that season of date again I would only date men at least 5-10yrs younger.
  • FretheMJsmokingcannibal
    FretheMJsmokingcannibal Posts: 314
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    How do you know it's love? I'm not sure because I have never and I mean never dated before.
  • Mercedespony
    Mercedespony Posts: 162 Member
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    I'm not sure age makes a big difference when you are younger, however if you do commit to a long lasting relationship, and there is a large age gap, I think there are issues.

    I met my dh when I had just turned 30, he in his late-40's. A 17 year difference between the two of us.

    Now, almost 16 fantastic years later, no amount of shared common ground can hide the fact that we are at different stages of our life cycles.

    I'm not sure I can say I regret making the choice I made, and being with him as of yet; but I can see that my perspective might change in the future, as our roles change and I become more of a caregiver.

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