Question for the Ladies, Gents you may learn something from them

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  • Shana67
    Shana67 Posts: 680 Member
    Back in the day, when I was single (ridiculously happily married now <3 ), I was pretty direct. A direct stare across the room, and then typically just walking up and saying hello. Close.
  • melmelw03
    melmelw03 Posts: 5,332 Member
    The classiest of girls give near to zero indication. You have to find out, as a guy. They operate by intrigue and flair. It's like playing zork grand inquisitor without cheat codes. The only option is to go forward, fall into the trap or surmount it.

    You have the other kind that's all flashy, noisy, shows a lot of attitude and demands attention....... these are to be avoided. This is a painstakingly crafted persona which will unhinge in due time and the question is... do you want to witness it when it goes unhinged.

    I bet those guys get all the girls!!
    Age old stereotypes read funny on paper.

    Real life geeks who spent ample time with computer games and textbooks go on to mature into buff dudes with a good career and having a tremendous draw with the ladies. You of all persons should know that, Citoyen.

    I am very well aware of this...thank you!

    Sincerely,
    Buff Tattooed Engineer

    Pics.
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  • rummyqueen
    rummyqueen Posts: 150 Member
    When I was Single and I like a guy , I just went to him and said hi my name is Diane ,what is yours
    We start to talk then date, then after a few dates I realize he wasn't for me ,
  • Angela937
    Angela937 Posts: 514 Member
    I smile at them. If they're close enough, I'll find a way to jump into the conversation. I find ways to put my hands on their arms or shoulders while talking.
  • lisahebert186
    lisahebert186 Posts: 736 Member
    I make eye contact and see how he responds.
  • Gimsteinn
    Gimsteinn Posts: 7,678 Member
    Villae81 wrote: »
    HeyaBerg wrote: »
    I ignore him until he forces me to notice him.
    Worked in the past... I'm currently in a relationship with the last guy I ignored B)

    How's that work?

    I do t know, it just works :p
  • Skinnyjeans_Sarah
    Skinnyjeans_Sarah Posts: 52 Member
    The classiest of girls give near to zero indication. You have to find out, as a guy. They operate by intrigue and flair. It's like playing zork grand inquisitor without cheat codes. The only option is to go forward, fall into the trap or surmount it.

    You have the other kind that's all flashy, noisy, shows a lot of attitude and demands attention....... these are to be avoided. This is a painstakingly crafted persona which will unhinge in due time and the question is... do you want to witness it when it goes unhinged.

    This I gotta agree with.. Not in all cases of course, but it's definitely true for me.

    I'm very shy... And very good at hiding my emotions from people, so if I were to find a man attractive I'd probably glance at him constantly when he wasn't looking perhaps. But I'd be to nervous to make and hold eye contact.

    It's sad... I wish I had more courage. :neutral:
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  • ddoud71
    ddoud71 Posts: 2,741 Member
    synchkat wrote: »
    I'm old and it's been awhile so I have no idea anymore!

    Haha, me too
  • Just_J_Now
    Just_J_Now Posts: 9,551 Member
    Depends - How many alcoholic beverages have I had??

    Totally this.
  • IndySue13
    IndySue13 Posts: 22 Member
    Catch his eye and smile.
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    I'm shy as heck and I've never ever approached a guy that I liked so I would probably just mind my own business.
  • Lipsmahoney
    Lipsmahoney Posts: 512 Member
    I just look away or down and assume he wouldn't want to bother with me anyway.
  • Elise4270
    Elise4270 Posts: 8,375 Member
    You had me at "petend to be single"...

    Forget the guy. I'm off to do my thing *kitten*!
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    melmelw03 wrote: »
    I try my hardest to not let my RBF scare them away. :neutral:

    Dude. Your RBF game is strong.
    Guys be kinda intimidated, methinks.
  • MJFSH
    MJFSH Posts: 7,252 Member
    edited October 2016
    Holly *kitten*!!!!! I was just asked out by a personal trainer, get this 28 years younger than me!
    That's not me bringing it, that's how daring he was! :o:o:o
    now, excuse me, while I'm collecting my jaw from the floor!

    correction, 23 years younger!
  • rugratz2015
    rugratz2015 Posts: 593 Member
    edited October 2016
    IndySue13 wrote: »
    Catch his eye and smile.

    If I catch someones eye and smile they tend to think it's a come on, rather than me just being friendly, and I've upset a few people by doing this ...
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  • MJFSH
    MJFSH Posts: 7,252 Member
    MJFSH wrote: »
    Holly *kitten*!!!!! I was just asked out by a personal trainer, get this 28 years younger than me!
    That's not me bringing it, that's how daring he was! :o:o:o
    now, excuse me, while I'm collecting my jaw from the floor!

    28 years younger? So he was like 2?

    isn't that sweet of you to assume I'm 30!!!! haha now, that's another NSV!!!! haha <3
  • _dixiana_
    _dixiana_ Posts: 3,262 Member
    The classiest of girls give near to zero indication. You have to find out, as a guy. They operate by intrigue and flair. It's like playing zork grand inquisitor without cheat codes. The only option is to go forward, fall into the trap or surmount it.

    You have the other kind that's all flashy, noisy, shows a lot of attitude and demands attention....... these are to be avoided. This is a painstakingly crafted persona which will unhinge in due time and the question is... do you want to witness it when it goes unhinged.

    You're putting all women into these two categories. Way to paint a broad brush there.

    So according to you I'm not "classy" because I would give indication of interest. *eyeroll*
    My thing is, life is short. I don't like to play games and if I want something, I go for it.

    I'm also not "flashy, noisy, or demand attention". Although I do have a pretty loud laugh and I don't give a crap who it annoys.

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  • indiacaitlin
    indiacaitlin Posts: 691 Member
    I'm super shy and have never approached a guy! If i was feeling brave I'd maybe try and make eye contact and smile, but chances are I'd keep my head down.
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  • lista10
    lista10 Posts: 73 Member
    Yeah I never knew maybe cuz I was to shy or always thought they were lookin at some one else. Or I'm just missin it how do you know if a guys is?
  • anjulajj
    anjulajj Posts: 148 Member
    I never approach but definitely give repeated eye contact and a very shy like smile. You would most certainly know I was interested without question
  • DarthJader89
    DarthJader89 Posts: 213 Member
    Eye contact and a smile. Not like the pursed lip "polite smile" that people do when they accidentally make eye contact with someone but a genuine smile :)