Dealing with others comments

emawbey
emawbey Posts: 49 Member
edited November 13 in Goal: Maintaining Weight
How do you deal with people saying you are too thin? I am perfectly happy and have a healthy BMI but seem to be getting this quite recently especially from people I haven't seen for a while (like my Dad who ironically I hadn't seen for so long the last time I saw him he said I was too heavy) and I try just joking it off or saying I'm happy as I am but some people just press the point which I actually find upsetting and offensive - how do others deal with this?
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  • emawbey
    emawbey Posts: 49 Member
    “Just cause you got the monkey off your back doesn’t mean the circus has left town.” — George Carlin.

    Love this!
  • jaxxie
    jaxxie Posts: 576 Member
    Thin? Lean? Skinny? Strong? Athletic? Sorry. I see the titke and skip to bitchy . So long as you are confident (not to be confused with happy) with what you see.....own it.
  • jaxxie
    jaxxie Posts: 576 Member
    Sorry about the spelling.
  • TK6299
    TK6299 Posts: 502 Member
    The last time I was at my ideal weight according to the charts for height, gender and age, people thought I was sick. Someone even asked if I had cancer. :s I think they're so used to seeing me overweight.

    I love the "just right" response!

    I also had people ask if I was sick or if everything was okay. I finally had to post a before and after picture, abs included with a note for people to stop asking if I am sick. I just got fed up with with people telling me to eat a sandwich that I was too thin. I am FIT and HAPPY! Btw @coloradoartstudio GJ, CO guy here.
  • KANGOOJUMPS
    KANGOOJUMPS Posts: 6,474 Member
    do what you want. who cares what others think/
  • Mandimaders
    Mandimaders Posts: 3 Member
    edited October 2016
    Usually people who make comments about other peoples bodies whether it be "too thin" "too fat" or anything are struggling with their own body image and projecting their insecurity on you. I just feel sorry for them and shrug it off without saying anything negative towards them. Just smile and say thanks for the concern.

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  • NicoleL874
    NicoleL874 Posts: 675 Member
    Not sure where you started your journey, but I know for myself, I've lost so much at this point that I weigh less than I did in Junior High. My friends and family are used to seeing a morbidly obese version of myself. As the comments of "too thin" and "one extreme to the other" come in, I smile and politely thank them for the compliment and assure them I'm on top of things and have no intention of becoming too thin and thanks for the concern. I see myself daily and have a hard time wrapping my brain around my new self at times, so I understand where the comments are coming from. Be happy with you, and try to worry less about them.
  • Gamliela
    Gamliela Posts: 2,468 Member
    AnnPT77 wrote: »
    People are startled by change. They'll become accustomed to the new you.

    I also can't speak for you, but I also found that when I first reached goal, even I thought I had some appearance issues - for one example, a little bit of loose skin on my face (I'm old) made me look a bit drawn, and I think that contributed to worries by some. After a few months in maintenance, those things have pretty much resolved. Even a friend (and fitness instructor) whom I respect told me recently that she thought I looked very thin at first, but now (only a few months later) I look strong & fit (and I guarantee, and told her, that I'm not actually stronger & fitter in that few months).

    Beyond that sort of thing, these comments are all about issues with the other person's brain-state. That should be their problem; don't let it be your problem.

    I like @sijomial's "consider the motivation" idea a lot, in terms of how to respond in the moment.

    Not to derail the topic, but thanks Anne for mentioning the drawnness of your face. I have got that recently. Cheers to you and here's hoping things settle over here too in the next months while I begin maintaining and increasing activity.

    I've already noticed since adding back in 50 plus calories a day that my energy level is very much better so I feel confident that getting more excersize and fresh air is going to make a big difference.

    Maintenance could be... well, fun?

  • onsickmom
    onsickmom Posts: 212 Member
    Wow.....I've been at both ends..your too fat....your too skinny....Body shaming isn't funny..I'm sorry this happened to you
  • emawbey
    emawbey Posts: 49 Member
    138shades wrote: »
    I don't take anything to serious. I mean my own opinion is the only one I accept in all actuality.

    Ha I am trying to get more like this day by day, I care so much what others think but why is their opinion more valid than mine?
  • pyro_guy7
    pyro_guy7 Posts: 104 Member
    @emawbey Do you feel healthy? Does your doctor agree? Yes? Good!

    Next person that says you're too thin, ask to see their medical degree that qualifies them to make the judgement! Let see how many of them have the actual knowledge to back it up :lol:
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    It takes time for people to adjust to seeing a new you, particularly if it's been awhile. Also, being overweight is the norm in a lot of places so seeing someone lean looks odd to a lot of people.
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