I really really want to get married!!!
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Heartisalonelyhunter wrote: »Then I wouldn't have to keep working out and eating healthy to remain marketable for the fairer sex. If I was married, she would be mine and I would be hers for better or for worse.... <--- love that loop hole in the system!
Have you watched 90 day fiancé? A commodity spouse is only a click away!
Ha! There is a guy on there this season that has been complaining about his fiancée's weight since they finally met in person. When she can't keep up he calls her lazy. The entire show is insane.
He clearly can't stand her and she's cheated on him already. That whole show is an awesome trainwreck!0 -
RunHardBeStrong wrote: »littlemissbgiff wrote: »Not worth it. Just let yourself go and save yourself the misery now.
Agreed. Just get some cats. They won't care what you look like.
cats like it when you're squishy. mine started giving me some real stink-eye when i was biking a lot and she kept kind of slithering off my new quads.
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Still gotta stay fit for the hot sex and healthy life and fun stuff.0
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LiftingLady5 wrote: »Listen OP, in some cases if you want to feel the loneliest you have ever felt in your life...get married. Its great for the first several years. Add kids and they are wonderful....but thats the trap. You don't want to mess up their life by breaking apart their family unit and shattering their world so you just give up you. Then you become a non person. Thats what marriage is, For some people. However, then again, some people have happy happy times with their marriages for their whole lies...I mean lives....and have happy life long marriages. I read about that all the time on Facebook. So its different for everyone. Some people are in a wait and see. You just never know.
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As long as you don't go doing shish behind her back, sure, she'll be yours.0
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Wow..lots of sage advice here, and while I do like cats, crazy cat dude doesn't have the same ring to it as crazy cat lady, besides, I like to travel so pets would be difficult.
No, it needs to be a woman. I'm in the best shape I've been since 20s, so my current marketability is at its peak. Either spunky or a work in progress that we can shrink together during dating/courtship/engagement and then GROW together after we say I do and belong to one another for better or worse
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LiftingLady5 wrote: »Listen OP, in some cases if you want to feel the loneliest you have ever felt in your life...get married. Its great for the first several years. Add kids and they are wonderful....but thats the trap. You don't want to mess up their life by breaking apart their family unit and shattering their world so you just give up you. Then you become a non person. Thats what marriage is, For some people. However, then again, some people have happy happy times with their marriages for their whole lies...I mean lives....and have happy life long marriages. I read about that all the time on Facebook. So its different for everyone. Some people are in a wait and see. You just never know.
This is true. I have been in exactly this position and getting the courage to leave was the toughest thing I've ever done. Especially as I was used to putting what I wanted last. But I survived. My kids are ok. I read somewhere that self-improvement is more important than self-sacrifice. If you're married to the wrong person you have to leave.
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I expect my husband to remain marketable, thank you very much.3
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BusyRaeNOTBusty wrote: »I expect my husband to remain marketable, thank you very much.
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LiftingLady5 wrote: »Listen OP, in some cases if you want to feel the loneliest you have ever felt in your life...get married. Its great for the first several years. Add kids and they are wonderful....but thats the trap. You don't want to mess up their life by breaking apart their family unit and shattering their world so you just give up you. Then you become a non person. Thats what marriage is, For some people. However, then again, some people have happy happy times with their marriages for their whole lies...I mean lives....and have happy life long marriages. I read about that all the time on Facebook. So its different for everyone. Some people are in a wait and see. You just never know.
I swear we live the same life. And yes, those people on FB are trying to convince themselves how happy their lives are even more so than other people.1 -
LiftingLady5 wrote: »Listen OP, in some cases if you want to feel the loneliest you have ever felt in your life...get married. Its great for the first several years. Add kids and they are wonderful....but thats the trap. You don't want to mess up their life by breaking apart their family unit and shattering their world so you just give up you. Then you become a non person. Thats what marriage is, For some people. However, then again, some people have happy happy times with their marriages for their whole lies...I mean lives....and have happy life long marriages. I read about that all the time on Facebook. So its different for everyone. Some people are in a wait and see. You just never know.
What if I told you that kids are not a requirement?!2 -
So many negative advices makes me wonder how many of us is or was married to give advice. I'm divorce but would never say don't do it just because it didn't work for me. we are all different personality and like different things. Marriage can be nice if BOTH do they part. Hope you find your women and be happy6
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Heartisalonelyhunter wrote: »LiftingLady5 wrote: »Listen OP, in some cases if you want to feel the loneliest you have ever felt in your life...get married. Its great for the first several years. Add kids and they are wonderful....but thats the trap. You don't want to mess up their life by breaking apart their family unit and shattering their world so you just give up you. Then you become a non person. Thats what marriage is, For some people. However, then again, some people have happy happy times with their marriages for their whole lies...I mean lives....and have happy life long marriages. I read about that all the time on Facebook. So its different for everyone. Some people are in a wait and see. You just never know.
This is true. I have been in exactly this position and getting the courage to leave was the toughest thing I've ever done. Especially as I was used to putting what I wanted last. But I survived. My kids are ok. I read somewhere that self-improvement is more important than self-sacrifice. If you're married to the wrong person you have to leave.
No offense, but I think the person you responded to was saying it's not about the person you married being "wrong." It's about marriage itself.
I know a person who is remarried and is not liking the second any better than the first.
I think we want the happy, euphoric feeling of falling in love. That never lasts, and then you are left with a comfortable love sans the butterflies. The butterflies made life exciting and now you argue because you miss the butterflies. Some people take this as license to go find someone that causes butterflies, not realizing that that, too, will not last.
If you think finding the "right" one is the answer, you haven't known them long enough.
Marriage is hard, and its harder when we put unrealistic expectations on it. That's why those arranged marriages last longer. They are not going in there expecting butterflies in the first place.
It's not about finding the "right" one. It's about learning to be content with the one you have, somehow.
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RunHardBeStrong wrote: »LiftingLady5 wrote: »Listen OP, in some cases if you want to feel the loneliest you have ever felt in your life...get married. Its great for the first several years. Add kids and they are wonderful....but thats the trap. You don't want to mess up their life by breaking apart their family unit and shattering their world so you just give up you. Then you become a non person. Thats what marriage is, For some people. However, then again, some people have happy happy times with their marriages for their whole lies...I mean lives....and have happy life long marriages. I read about that all the time on Facebook. So its different for everyone. Some people are in a wait and see. You just never know.
I swear we live the same life. And yes, those people on FB are trying to convince themselves how happy their lives are even more so than other people.
An actress once said getting married is about giving up the attention of many men to so you can be ignored by one man.5
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