Weightloss and Co-Workers

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  • kommodevaran
    kommodevaran Posts: 17,890 Member
    edited November 2016
    This may actually be a bit interesting, and not at all just about you and your "willpower". Or boring, so I wasn't sure if I should mention it. But anyway, this is another take on the situation...

    Your coworker is bringing you gifts. Gifts is about acceptance. She wants to be liked. She knows that you like cookie dough and pizza. That's a no-brainer, because she can see that you take it and eat it (and even gain weight, that's how much you like it - to her). She knows that pizza and cookie dough is delicious, but she can't eat very much of it herself. She wants cookie dough and pizza to be enjoyed. She likes to make you happy. Buying cookie dough is easy. So she gives it to you. You refuse initially, but then accept, and you probably smile and look a bit sheepish? This means to her that you need her permission to eat it, and that it's her job to convince you that you are allowed to eat it.

    If you have ever fed a small child or an animal, or heck, been a hostess, you will know the feeling. You want the guests to eat. You feel proud when they eat well and praise your cooking. They accept you as they accept the food. This is also why it's so difficult to throw away an ugly gift from a close relative.

    The thing is that you have to take care of your own needs. You are ignoring your own needs and destroying your health trying to be polite, or kind, or maybe, just wanting to avoid conflict. Maybe you can ask her for other gifts instead? Would she walk with you during lunch break? Could you share a meal (normal lunch food) together?

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